[auralpoison]

I have such a girl crush on Vendetta.

Thanks. For about a half a second, I was worried that my ire was misplaced. I mean, that was the WORST apology ever. It was basically, "I'm sorry I talked to you like a real person, y'know, one with a penis." Candy-ass fuckstick. Looks like he's gone finally.

[karategrrl]

To this day, when I hear a baby cry that particular "feed me!" cry - in stores or restaurants or wherever - it makes my breasts ache like I need to nurse! My boyfriend finds this very funny and thinks it's sweet.

I had to laugh. I saw my family over the holidays. My sis-in-law is breastfeeding my nephew and said her breasts actually tingle when he cries for them!!! So anyway, she and I went out shopping (without him) and at one point she said, "Wow, my boobs feel funny!" and I said, "Maybe's John's crying for them!" Hahaha, psychic boobies.

Funny how our male poster returned to post 2 more times after saying he was outta here. No, it's obvious he did not READ any of our posts to get a feel for the board before totally putting his foot (or both?!) into his mouth.

Leave, already, PL Ray. I for one will ignore you if you come back. <crickets chirping in the background>

[ailurophile]

....And yes Mindy82, I have had a hard time breaking off relationships due my small size. I stayed with the same idiot for 9 years and one of the reasons was b/c of how he viewed my breasts. He grew up with small breasted sisters and didn't even flinch at the sight of tits unless they were mine. God knows what he did while with his friends or while I wasn't around but in my presence, he looked at no others, he loved mine and got mad at me when I dissed them. My new guy now is sooo different. He is a much better man in so many ways (ie: character, honor, hard worker, etc.) except he likes big tits. He said he loves mine and pays alot of attention to them but his head turns at any significant bumps he may see popping through clothing whether on TV or at the mall --and he does not check out chicks like Gwen Stefani ...or chicks like me. Please don't think you will not a get a new man just b/c your boobs are small. And like I said-- If you think you would find someone sooner if you had bigger boobs, why would you even want that guy??? And what I meant by "good for you" is that at least you know a man likes you for you and not b/c you have big boobs.

[Vendetta]

Don't you think it's wrong to believe it's hard to find a boyfriend due to small breasts? Do you chose your men based on some physical preference? I don't know, maybe it can be the truth after all but it's sad.

[ailurophile]

Mindy82: Sweetie...so you are in the right place. If it takes you sooo long to find a new bf because your breasts are too small, then good for you. You are going to be with someone who likes you for who you are, not because you may have large breasts. If you think you would find someone sooner if you had bigger boobs, why would you even want that guy???

Auralpoison...and Ray: Ray did not get a thank you for the apology from me b/c he is still totally missing the point. It's not about sex and kegels and p*ssy or his swearing or vulgarity. It's about the problems that come with small boobs like buying bras that fit, clothes that look good, feeling feminine, etc. Was he really not paying attention to anything anyone said??? Maybe he meant well at the beginning but he still doesn't get it after all the explanations and yet he won't go away.

[lightchested]

auralpoison,

You are dead on. And it does suck that he erased his first couple of messages so that anyone who didn't read them won't necessarily know what you and I are on about.

My head kind of spun around on my neck when I read something he wrote in his most recent post, in defense of his viewing/ not viewing women as sex objects, that he'd "previously mentioned" how he values the time couples spend together, like in a grocery store.

No, that was not what he wrote the first two times he referenced a grocery store! He had basically written that we should be assuaged by the fact that if we look around a grocery store, we will see physically deficient women (presumably like us, though maybe with different "deformities" than ours) who nonetheless have found some sucker who nonetheless spends times with and appears to love these women so sadly lacking in aesthetic prowess. I had wondered if we were also supposed to be impressed that a guy would be willing to be seen in public with a less-than-Playboyesque partner, or if we were just supposed to take solace in the fact some that men have displayed willingness to treat such a Quasimodo as he would any decent looking woman with whom he might (otherwise) have had a relationship.

No, you are not overreacting...his apology was not one. I too was waiting for a "thanks for the enlightenment" message, and was disappointed at the lack of one. But even without that, I'd like to think we may have altered, if only a little bit, his view that women measure their breast satisfaction level on their perceived ability to pleasure men. But that would refute any belief he might have about women as sex objects, so maybe I'm just being optimistic, as I have a tendency to be.

[strongirl]

Karategrrl - "I'm going to go shave my p---y and do my Kegels now. Then I will eat chocolate and masturbate while fantasizing about Smoove-B."

I laughed my ass off over that! LOL

[strongirl]

Wow, so much going on in here it's impossible to comment on all of it. But since I sort of started the breastfeeding thing...

To address Lightchested's questions, yes, all the reasons Bottleblack listed were why I opted to breastfeed. To be honest, I was reluctant because my identity was more "hottie" than "mommie" and I didn't want that to change too much, so it started as a bit of a sacrifice I made for the health of my son. But once we got going, I loved it for the joy of the experience itself. Breastfeeding a baby provides much of the pleasant physical sensations of having one's breasts stimulated by a lover but with a completely different set of emotions. Looking down at my baby nursing evoked feelings of tenderness, protectiveness, and serenity, while looking down at a man at my breast evokes feelings of excitement, arousal, and desire. Some of the happiest moments of my life were breastfeeding while sitting in a big comfy chair, my dog snoring at my feet and my cat purring on the arm of the chair and my baby making contented little nursing sounds. I felt so powerful and complete.

On the laziness thing, I got WAY more sleep and rest than other new moms I knew who used formula. We did family bed, so all I had to do for night feedings was roll over - sometimes I didn't even really wake up. And I loved not having to pack anything extra for outings or trips (boobs travel much easier than bottles/formula). Definitely easier to breastfeed.

To this day, when I hear a baby cry that particular "feed me!" cry - in stores or restaurants or wherever - it makes my breasts ache like I need to nurse! My boyfriend finds this very funny and thinks it's sweet.

Another funny story - the first time I was away from my son overnight was partly for a sexual tryst with said bf. I thought we had weaned enough that I would not get engorged, but sure enough, they got too full and started leaking! I was so embarrassed...but bf was totally turned on by it and more than happy to give me some relief! We still fantasize about that once in a while and it was over 10 years ago.

[Vendetta]

Are you serious?

[mindy82]

I had chosen this forum because my small breasts are the likely reason that it takes months to find a new boyfriend after a breakup.

[auralpoison]

Mindy, I see that you are new here. There is a forum called the Mating Game that is better suited to answering your question here Moving On. Do stop by the newbies thread & introduce yourself, chica.

And if I may say so, time alone is good. You don't always need to have a partner to feel good about you.

[mindy82]

Does anyone else here have problems breaking off a relationship?

I don't see a real future with my current boyfriend, but after a breakup it usually takes months before I find someone new.

[auralpoison]

Lightchested, thanx.

On with beating the dead horse.

You deleted all your posts except for the one that disparages me. Weenie. Chickenshit. Weakass. Lily-livered COWARD. AND you didn't even spell my name right. Der.

Um, I just have to ask. Was I being evil on the PLR? He *briefly* mentioned personality being important (Albeit in a heinous way with ugly chicks & normal guys at the market.) in his first post, the rest was about pussy & pleasing men. His other posts were equally obnoxious in that pious MWET way, in that *we* didn't understand what he was trying to say. I think we did. He was talking out his ass & we called him on it. Yeah, yeah, he started eventually expressing that communication/personality was important but only after he got the business. But when he apologized, it felt condescending. It wasn't, 'Hey you gave me new perspective' it was, 'I was just in a men's forum & they talk raw & one should talk to the ladies different'. I have no delicate sensibilities unless you treat me like I'm gonna break because I have a vajajay. I just found him overall to be a MWET. So was I wrong? Was I reading too much into it?

ETA, I noticed nobody said thanks for the apology. I figger it's because it sounded the same to me as to others.

[lightchested]

PL Ray,

If you don't think of women as sex objects, why did you assume that what bothers women about having small breasts is men's reaction to small breasts and our ability to give men sexual pleasure??? Why did you tell us that we can make up for our two perky "shortcomings" if only we increase the grip of our inner girly muscles?

To assume that our main (or sole) source of angst is our ability to please men is very odd, given that our breasts are on our bodies 24/7, and sex comprises only a small fraction of our time spent on this planet. And some women don't have sex with men anyway. (Oh, to be one of them! )

[auralpoison]

A thousand pardons, PLR. I got this thing, see? It's that I don't suffer fools. And even your apology was obnoxious. MWET.

Don't worry about deleting your profile. Just leave & never come back.

[P Lover Ray]

Ah, Aurelpoison. While surfing trying to figure out how to remove my membership, I saw your post.

I do not think you communicate as well as you complain.

My message, clearly repeated several times, was that one of the most essential components of a good relationship is that of people simply liking to be with each other. Things like going shopping at the grocery store together. My message was that this is even more important than physical features.

Yet, you claim that I think of a woman as nothing but a sex object. Not only is it not true, I do not know how to make it any more clear that I do not view it that way. On the other hand, I do appreciate good sex with a woman and do not apologize for that. Perhaps I do not communicate as well as I might, but you do not listen very well either.

Ray

[auralpoison]

Dingdingding! Round three people.

Y'know, I find it hysterical PLR that you seem to think it was the *language* that you used & not the content that was offensive. You seem to think you were too "explicit" with the "ladies". We aren't blushing virgins, y'know. Our delicate ears didn't burn. It was the actual CONTENT of your post that was offensive, not your verbiage. You chose to view women merely as objects for male pleasure, not human beings. Boxes without feelings, needs, or wants. Just moist, preferably hairless places for you to put your peestick. That's WAY more offensive than your over-usage of the word pussy. Explicit language wasn't the problem, but your attitude towards women was.

By & large, I communicate well with both women & men. A lot of that has to do with the fact that I have respect for them & don't just view them as things I could possibly fuck.

[P Lover Ray]

Although I meant well, apparently my previous posts were inappropriate. I have voluntarily pulled them off the site. If I can figure out how to do it, I will remove my membership.

I suppose the entire dialogue was a testimony of how difficult it is for men and women to communicate with each other. In real life, I have more difficulties even than this, yet when face to face I have found it possible to work through the difficulties and in the long run have found it worth the effort.

Ray

[honeybunch]

I hope mine change and just stay bigger. I was a D cup for a bit...That was a bit too much for me. I'd be happy a full B or C. That's not too big.

[karategrrl]

"The packaging said they will bring "unexpected miracles". I asked my husband if he thought they might bring me boobs. He said he didn't know, but he thought it was worth a shot to buy them, hang one from each nipple, and see what happens."


At the very least they'd make great tittie tassles.