[maddy29]

Yay for tubals! Yay for iud's!!! I'm LOVING my mirena IUD. IT's sooo cool. I keep wanting to tell everyone about it, like at the bus stop and stuff. I keep wanting to tell people I am not fertile-I can't have kids!!! It's the best feeling, really. I've spent so much time worrying about accidentally getting pregnant or somehow just ending up with a kid. Now I'm freeeeeeeeee!!!!!

I babysat all day on sunday, for 2 different families. It was so fun, this fat little baby took a nap in a pouch on me, and he was just so sweet. But still no "oooh, i want this." It was more like oh,I wish I could see this cute baby everyday for like, an hour maybe. I really really LOVE kids and think they are so funny and weird. I just don't want my own.

It's strange, I didn't realize what a life-changing event this would be. I feel so different and more confident in my choices. I don't feel like I have to explain why I'm not having kids or anything.

[ginger_kitty]

Only a few more days, treehugger, I bet your giddy with excitement!

I am green w/ jealousy, luzicoe. But yay!!

[lucizoe]

woot, treehugger!

and woot mr.luci! he just called me from his doctor's appointment...apparently come next Thursday his vas deferens shall be clipped and he shall be permanently childfree!

(and I shall walk bow-legged for weeks after we get the all clear)

[treehugger]

Pollystyrene, I am told that it will be just a small incision in or near the belly button. Like a half inch or so. And sometimes an instrument is inserted into the vagina to maniupulate the uterus around. THAT part sounds invasive to me, LOL.

The word used in some of the literature they gave me was "laparoscopy" if that means anything.

I had a previous abdominal surgery as a child (hernia) so there's a chance there will be too much scar tissue in the way and he will have to make a bigger incision or a second one. But if everything goes normally it'll be just really tiny.

deschatsrouge, you are funny! I'd pay money to go see you if you were a stand-up comic!

[pollystyrene]

Is a tubal just an arthroscopic surgery, treehugger? Just wondering how invasive it is. Everyone I know has had it done after they've had a c-section, so they're all opened up.

[turbojenn]

Tree - This thursday - wowza! Time flies!! I hope you can hang out in some comfy loose yoga pants with a drawstring all weekend, and just get pampered by your friends and celebrate your freedom from procreation!

Turboman's getting a little nervous that I keep bringing up wanting to get a tubal. Ah, well, I'll make a firm decision sometime in the next couple years, and honestly, its not up to him. If I don't want kids, I'm not going to have them, and I won't be convinced.

[ginger_kitty]

Saving CPS a trip, hahahaha!

[deschatsrouge]

When people ask me why I'm not having kids I tell them I want to save child protective services a trip to my house. Why have kids when I know they'll be taken away?

Kids are loud, smelly, and dirty and besides I have three other sibilings to procreate, I am delegating baby making responsibility to them. My brother will probably have enough kids for all of us. I think I will be the distant crazy aunt who sends them fetal pigs and dissection guides for Christmas

I think that having your tubes tied is not a bad idea, I don't have to worry about it, I'm not married to a man.

[treehugger]

So.

My surgery is scheduled for this Thursday. And friends will be over that night (I'm supposed to have a babysitter the first night) and, so, several friends will be over. With pizza. So I had to go shopping today for "post tubal" clothes.

It's hard to find something that looks like it won't hurt...that isn't all frumpy. Heh.

I think I found something though. Egads, I've gained weight though.

Way too much beer lately I guess.

[treehugger]

LOL...ginger kitty..I have to say I am BAD...

When you were talking about what to say when somebody shows you a picture of an ugly baby, the first thing that popped into my head was "Oh, my goodness, she DOES have your eyes, doesn't she?"

Heh.

I'm so evil.

[ginger_kitty]

lucizoe, I am the same way. But then when I come out of my little cocoon, the world seems so strange.

Today, a girl a work showed me a pic of her son sleeping of the couch and it was kinda cute, so I commented, 'Awe how cute'. But then we jsut stood there staring at the pic and I had nothing else to say. I was thinking 'What do you want from me!?!?

And I hate it when people show me pics of ugly babies. I don't want to me rude but I don't want to lie about the baby being adorable. It sends me into a panic searching for something nice to say like 'oh look at those cute shoes'...

[lucizoe]

Oh, ginger_kitty, I feel your pain. Mr.Luci and I went to the zoo today. Saturday, yes, I know, bad judgement, but we can't do it during the week. oh.my.cod.

I wish I had elbow-checked the heads of the little boys who grabbed my ass in an attempt to squeeze in front of a bat exhibit. Their male handler just giggled, shook his head and said "Kids!" all comrade-like, like I'm supposed to agree with him Um, no, sir. You're lucky I didn't crack your kids in the eye.

And the yelling and the pushing and the general ill-behaved natures of both kids and parents. Yuck. That is why I avoid the world most times.

[ginger_kitty]

Why oh why don't some parents control thier effing kids in public? Mr. G. Kitty and I went out for a quiet breafast this morning, first we got held up at the door because there was family w/5 kids blocking the entance. Apparently one of the kids was running up to the door and managed to smash his had into it. Then the mom felt like the whole world had to stop so she could console him. She literally crouched down holding him right in front of the door so no one could pass. And he was way to old to be babying the she was. She kept glancing up at me like I could relate to her or something, I could honestly care less about her momma drama.

So we finally make it in and get seated then the rotten little boy behind my hubby was crawling all over the booth and constantly elbowing him in the back. Sorry about the rant.....

[obelix]

Gah! Pollystyrene- it amazes me that kids survive past age ten. I couldn't handle the stress. My 5-year-old brother has a grey and dead front tooth because last year he just fell down a flight of stairs and landed on his face! Kids are always one step away from chopping of a limb or puncturing an organ.

I'm okay with accidentally maiming myself, but how the hell does a parent deal with the knowledge that there's a decent chance that she'll do that to another person?

[pollystyrene]

I had this very realistic dream last night that I had a baby (I didn't give birth in the dream, it was when the kid was a couple of months old) and while the kid had a good disposition, my boyfriend was a pain in the ass to deal with- he kept nearly dropping the kid, putting him on the edge of tables, chairs, etc., putting him near things he could get into. Yeah, somehow I don't think that's too far off from what it would really be like!

P.S. May I recommend an earplug? These are the best! I know the pink thing's pretty cheesy, and it sounds like a gimmick, but I really do have small ear canals and it was really hard to get ear plugs in sometimes. Also, these are made out of a smoother, softer foam, so they don't feel as rough!

[turbojenn]

a small white noise machine can be very helpful as well, or play some soft meditation music. I have to have white noise on in order to sleep, it can get noisy around here, particularly in summer - our condo is right above the public patio, dumpsters, and hose for car washing - lucky us! So there's always lots going on.

I also have just shifted my thoughts on noice as well, to enjoy the sounds of kids having fun....its really helped me enjoy my home more....now if I hear kids fighting, I will go outside and kindly ask them to either work it out or take their angry asses elsewhere.

And I also keep a set of earplugs next to my bed - invaluable little buggers. ;)

[pollystyrene]

Earplugs, cloverbee, earplugs. Naps taken with earplugs and eyemasks are the BEST! I call them sensory deprivation naps....too bad I misplaced my eyemask in the course of moving. I've got to make another one! (Yes, I make my own because the ones you buy are always made with synthetic "satin" or something, and it makes my skin break out. And they're too small. I make them oversized, out of a towel and natural cotton batting.)

[cloverbee]

I hear you obelix. It's like what will it take to convince these people??
the neighbor kids are irritating the #$&% out of me!! I'm trying to take a nap and every time I get good and dreamy one of them screams, for no reason whatsoever. just cuz they can. AAARRRRGGGGHHHH!!! I thought I was childfree and didn't have to deal with this bull but I guess nobody is truly childfree b/c we all have to put up w/ everyone elses kids.
Every single day my conviction gets stronger and stronger that I do not ever want children. not only that but I don't want to have to depend on a man, ever.

[obelix]

I'm starting to get the "you need to have a baby" talk at work. I told a few coworkers about the relationship ending because of my non-breeder status, and I've now had FIVE different women tell me that I'll change my mind.

I go through my standard responses:
"I've never wanted kids, ever. For my whole life. Ever. Really."
"I spent three and a half years trying to convince myself that I wanted kids while I was dating the greatest guy on earth. That's why we're not together now."
"I don't LIKE children."

Yet the officemates chuckle, and tell me I'll change my mind. I smile and keep my mouth shut, and inwardly gloat that if I wanted to I could go out to a bar tonight and bring home some hairy goat-looking undergrad, because I have no children. Or take a two-hour bath in complete silence. Whichever.

[katiebelle2882]

SO agree about the strollers. people think that since they have a child they are allowed to be rude and take up more space than in necessary. its disgusting. they think they should always get to go first and given the right of way bc they have procreated. most of the time the kids are little brats anyway.