[karategrrl]

if you work out your pectoral muscles it'll do wonders for those kinds of shirts. it won't give you Jayne Mansfield cleavage, but it will make your chest look super-sexy and defined.

Yes, I have found this works for me! I try and emphasize my pecs and shoulders, and I luuuv halter tops for this reason!

Kitty 06, hang in there! Gad, I remember those dreadful teen days as an A-cup, wondering what the f*ck was going on with my chest when everyone else in school could actually fill out a bra! Not to mention the tasteless and insensitive comments from the teen boys during that time! The irony was, I got my period in 6th grade and was moving along with puberty faster than my friends, but you'd really never know it by looking at my chest!! Ha. Come to think of it, my smaller boobies were a good thing in the sense that they didn't attract that sexual attention that I wasn't emotionally ready to handle. I wanted to be a tomboy forever.

Sorry for the tangent, it just brought a flood of memories (rhymes with mammaries, ha).

Kitty 06, it does get better, really, as you move along through life--out of high school, on to college/work, etc. Glad to see you here, we're all here for you, little sistah!

[booskie]

Ok, two things, here we go.

lux- sorry if i sounded insensitive, sometimes i'm just heteronormative without meaning to be, it's just so programmed in, but i should know better. it's a damn shame that the women in your life haven't been more supportive and so critical of your body. no one deserves to be treated like that. still, i've had the same experience with women as karate grrl, they've always been particularly attracted to my small chest. for men, it seems they just skip over the tits and go straight to my ass, which is fine by me, because it's enormous and beautiful. anywho, that's just been my experience, and yours has been so different from that.

kitty- welcome sistah! i struggled in high school with my chest. my mom always had big breasts and i kept thinking, 'when are mine going to grow?' then i was sitting across the dinner table from my dad's two sisters, and they're both tiny chested, 'shit!' was my first thought. i think it's especially hard when your at that time in your life. just want you to know that i was there too, i lived through it and so will you. i think you can wear whatever you damn well please! i still wear low cut and tight fitting tops. there's some stuff we can get away with BECAUSE we're smaller and a larger breasted woman would be falling out of. this is going to sound kind of like an infomercial, but if you work out your pectoral muscles it'll do wonders for those kinds of shirts. it won't give you Jayne Mansfield cleavage, but it will make your chest look super-sexy and defined.

[maddy29]

yeah, my sister has to wear two sports bras while exercising-i can't even imagine!

[tatiana]

Um, you might want to suggest to your friend who wears bras at night that it is generally accepted that it is bad for your health to do so. It interferes with flow of lymph fluid and (from what I remember) increases your chances of cancer.

[Anita18]

I'm only 17 so most support places just say rubbish like "everyone develops at different times" - but that doesn't change the fact that I'm small-chested now (I'm a thin person all over) whereas most of my friends are wearing low cut tops to nighclubs and bikinis on the beach (both of which I'm terrified of).

It's also so hard to find fashionable tops that aren't centered around breasts..

I really want to be confident and accept that everybody has a different body shape, but pressure of peers/media is *so* hard to ignore when you're in your teens.

Yeah, I suppose it does get easier when you're older and you realize that other people's opinions (and especially those of the media) don't matter as how you feel about yourself.

Yeah, the shirt thing is annoying, isn't it? It keeps me from buying unnecessarily, LOL, think of it that way! I still like the low-cut stuff, since I love my collarbone and I want to show it off. I think ballet neck and scoop neck shirts look great on me, and I also like the way halter tops emphasize my shoulders. I do steer clear of the REALLY low "world, say hi to my sternum!" shirts since they just emphasize how thin I am. I think that being trendy is overrated - whatever looks good on you will always look good on you no matter what. Focusing on what your breasts look like isn't fair to the rest of your body, since I'm sure they're all hankering for some positive attention.

All of my friends have larger chests than me, but it comes with cons as well as pros. I was shocked to learn that one of my good friends has to wear a bra to sleep, and is forced to wear TWO sports bras when she exercises! I can't even imagine! I'm pretty glad that I don't have to think about my boobies most of the time, LOL. Cleavage is still kind of fascinating in its own way - curiosity, I guess. (I find penises fascinating too, but it doesn't mean I want one! )

[ginger_kitty]

Welcome Kitty!

Although I agree it can be difficult to find tops that aren't centered on the chest....Tons of clothes that good w/ big boobs look even sexier w/ tiny boobs. (especially low cut blouses) Just try stuff on, to make sure there aren't wierd puffs or lines. And small chested ladies look great in bikinis. I always wear bikini tops when swimwear is required. Just give it some time sweetie, as you get older you'll probably grow more and more comfortable with your body.

[lux]

Kitty- who says you can't wear sexy bikinis when you've small boobs?! there's a lot of sexy models (the really tiny ones) that i can wear but none of my friends can, because their boobs would be bursting out of them.

and to the tops: ok when you're small there's not much cleavage going on, but i still like to think that i look good in low cut tops that are slightly loose. the kind of skinny, model type of look, well kind of:)

that's it for fashion, sorry about that.

i really hated the wait a while and they'll grow advice. i just knew that they're not going to get that much bigger, being the skinny type with no big breasted women in the family. i guess weight has a lot to do with it and if you go on the pill they might grow or other hormonal changes can affect the size too. but since there's no point waiting for those things to happen, just try to love them as they are. sounds lame, but your breast size has very little to do with your happiness. good luck

[maddy29]

hi kitty06-welcome! come over to the newbie thread and post a hello message

annoyingly enough- those people are semi-correct. i had NO BOOBS until college, and then they were tiny. but, in my mid 20's they grew. partly because of weight gain, but partly-i dunno. i'm a b cup now, before i didn't even really need a bra. now i can wear all those fun shirts!

but, my roommate is 24 and still completely flat. she runs a TON and is very thin and fit, but she'll probably never have boobs, that's just the way her body is built. she keeps buying halter tops and tanks and stuff and then she gets so mad cause they look funny.

i would stay away from shirts that focus on the breasts. what are your other awesome features? maybe you have great legs that you can draw attention to, and just wear a more modest tank top.

you could probably wear a tankini top and those cute "boy" shorts-since you are skinny-so jealous!

it is hard though, i got a bit of teasing about being "flat as a board," and stuff, and it sucks.

[Kitty06]

Hi,

I only just signed up and this is my first post.

I'm only 17 so most support places just say rubbish like "everyone develops at different times" - but that doesn't change the fact that I'm small-chested now (I'm a thin person all over) whereas most of my friends are wearing low cut tops to nighclubs and bikinis on the beach (both of which I'm terrified of).

It's also so hard to find fashionable tops that aren't centered around breasts..

I really want to be confident and accept that everybody has a different body shape, but pressure of peers/media is *so* hard to ignore when you're in your teens.

Anyway, that was a roundabout way of saying hi.

~S

[goldtech]

I truly think that small/average size breasts will be the "in thing" pretty soon here with the plastic surgery-balloon boob craze, I think natural breasts will become more appreciated.

You know how highly tweezed eyebrows were in and now natural is, I think it will be the same.

My grandpa used to tell me grandma more than a handful is waste =)

Gigi, I think you're right! I'm a male poster on this sight, I hope I'm not intruding on you girls.

For me, there's nothing sexier than a woman not wearing a bra, and the more the nipples stick out, the better. Small breasts also give that fresh sense of sexy, especially with a girl willing to flaunt it..

Brett

[Anita18]

Seriously, just get to being comfortable in your own skin. Get to know your own body AND LOVE IT. Every day, go naked to the mirror and tell yourself SOMETHING that you love about yourself.

This really works. Well, I suppose I always had it in me to begin with, so it wasn't quite such a battle, but after taking an intense figure drawing class, I've come to appreciate everyone's body no matter the shape or size. They're all beautiful, because they're built to do all of these amazing things.

I've going out more and more sans bra nowadays, but I still haven't gotten up the courage to do it at work, LOL! I work in a lab so it isn't like I have to be in a business suit, but the lab is also COLD COLD COLD.

Just yesterday I went to the mall braless and I wasn't sure if the stares I was getting was because people noticed I was braless or because my shirt said, "I'm out of bed, what more do you want?" complete with a picture of an angry turtle. Actually the fitting room lady commented on the funny message, so I guess people were reading my shirt instead of noticing my nips...I think I may actually walk more confidently since I don't have to mess around with my bra if I'm not wearing one!

[shorrty]

hi, has any 1 experimented wiv natural breast enhancement pill/creams?

[GiGi21]

I truly think that small/average size breasts will be the "in thing" pretty soon here with the plastic surgery-balloon boob craze, I think natural breasts will become more appreciated.

You know how highly tweezed eyebrows were in and now natural is, I think it will be the same.

My grandpa used to tell me grandma more than a handful is waste =)

[anna k]

And they all seem like they have more perfect bodies than we do. Boobs are larger, waists are thinner, hips are curvier. Anyway, if you don't fit in the "norm" it's easier to be insecure.

I hate that too. I have the big boobs, but they're a 36D and I don't have a minuscule waist that fits the perfect pin-up girl hourglass look (size 10, not size 4). I always wanted that pin-up girl look, but my breasts are too big for some dresses and it can look ridiculous how big they are in comparison with the rest of my body.

I like the serpentine look of girls with small breasts and narrow frames, having a laid-back sexuality and not having to wear a bra all of the time. Looking at Marie-Claire, they had a page on female indie stars, and most of them had small breasts and a small skinny figure. Chloë Sevigny, Zooey Deschanel, Maggie Gyllenhaal, and Sofia Coppola.

[lux]

well yeah lesbians... i just have to say that though you're not straight it doesn't mean that you live outside the general gender stereotypes and expectation. we do grow up in the same society as the rest of the people do! this seems to really hard for people to remember. i can only speak from my own experience but women have made me more conscious about my own body that men. and special thanks to my current gf who's made me hate my breasts, since they in their small size are just not good enough for her.

[treehugger]

Hi Chimera. It's great to see you here. One thing I've found out in oh, lots of years of having small breasts...(I'm 38 years old)...that self confidence is one of the things that attract people. If there's a large breasted woman with low self confidence, and a small breasted woman with lots of self confidence, men (or women!) will tend to gravitate to the small breasted woman.

It's harder FOR a small breasted woman, in general, to have lots of self confidence, because of conditioning. We all see the pictures of the pin up girls and the playboy magazines...and the television shows. And they all seem like they have more perfect bodies than we do. Boobs are larger, waists are thinner, hips are curvier. Anyway, if you don't fit in the "norm" it's easier to be insecure.

Don't be!!! (I know, easier said than done, right?)

Seriously, just get to being comfortable in your own skin. Get to know your own body AND LOVE IT. Every day, go naked to the mirror and tell yourself SOMETHING that you love about yourself.

Really.

Some of the most gorgeous, most sought-after women I know, have maybe 34AA boobs. It's not the boobs, it's the WOMAN behind them. And if she exudes self confidence and self pride, people will be attracted.

Kath

*edited because I just realized how heterocentric my original post was!*

[karategrrl]

Booskie, I enjoyed your mention of lesbians, heh heh. I am bi (way more experienced with guys than girls, though, and now married to a man) and I have to say that by far my boobs were waaaay more appreciated by the ladies! I was seeing a lesbian woman once who described my breasts as "perfect." I had never heard that in my life!!!!

[karategrrl]

Hey grrls,

After a bit of an absence, I'm back to read posts by all you lovely gals.

Bella coola, I love your reference to "Bantam Boobies!!!" HA!

Anita, I do understand what you mean about going braless and getting some possibly unwanted attention. I don't mind being noticed but I do mind being leered at and men who make sexual comments. But still, I have to say I admire all of your braless bravery and just a minute ago I removed my slightly-padded bra!! Let's see how the day goes!

Chimera, I'm so sorry you've had some blows to your ego! Yeah, I could see how your mom getting implants during the crucial adolescent period could mess with your head. I'm so glad you mentioned this because I used to work for a man whose very small-breasted wife had gotten implants. He was so proud of this. At the time they had a young daughter, and I said to him, "Well, how do you think your daughter is going to feel when she hits her teens and sees her mom with big implants and herself small?" And this prick said that, well, implants would just be an option for his daughter as well! What an asshole! Small breasts are not a "flaw" to be "fixed!" (And in a weird ironic moment, this guy later admitted that sometimes he preferred his wife's "pre-implant" body because with the new boobs, they couldn't hug as close!)

Chimera, I'm surprised that the photographer told you to get implants. I mean, all the serious fashion models have itty-bitty chests. And on this thought, I am not a big fan of Paris Hilton or Nicole Richie, but I do admire the fact that with all their BILLIONS of dollars and ability to buy the best surgeons and implants, they are still natural! Rock it, grrls!

Thanks for reading, everyone! I'm kind of chatty today!

[bella coola]

Go halcyon! Did you browse the refridgerated dairy aisle before going to the till?

Hey chimera, your interruptions and/or rants are more than welcome. Anything you want to get off your chest.. heh. Body image sooo is tough, but you're in the right place! Is your gyno male? Either way that's just ignorant! You're built just the way you were meant to be, and that should be celebrated rather than criticized. Different boys like different bodies - and regardless of who likes what, you should like you! If you had boobs, you would be a an awesome person with bigger boobs. Rather than an awesome person with chimera-sized boobs. Do surgically modified people seem any more happy than the rest of us? I don't think so!


I got a sunburn right under my boobs the other weekend, so I got a training bra for shirts that I can't go braless to work with. I was talking to a feller last night that I connected with online, and he was teasing me about my age because I'm 11 years younger than he is. He said 'well it's not like you wear a training bra anymore, right'. I said 'Funny you should ask..' and explained. Ha, 22 and still in a training bra

[chimera00]

hey ladies. i'm new to this thread, but have been lurking a bit.

i'm like a 34 barely an A. my gynocologist told me that i have tiny, lumpy breasts" after performing a breast exam. i have been wearing padded bras since high school. my mother had a breast job when i was 16, so that did wonders for my body confidence. i grew up feeling flawed, like i needed to be surgically modified.
when i have short hair, i feel like a boy.
when i gain weight it goes to my ass, not my chest
when i was 16 years old, a photographer (i did modeling) told me to get a boob job.
i hate it a lot of the time. but i find ways to prove to myself that small breasts are attractive. like, i search for actresses with small chests. or i read this thread. but sometimes, i feel like if only i had boobs.
sorry to interrupt/rant.