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karategrrl
post Feb 28 2008, 07:35 AM
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Hey there ladies, got to keep it brief--I'm at work--but wanted to give you all an update.

I and the man talked again. He's known since the weekend I've been in a funk--not just over the magazine but his apparent inability to talk about how I felt about it. We had a big powoww last night and it's all straightened out. And you know what? He commented that he thinks a lot of of the girls and poses in that biker mag looked stupid--the exaggerated arched back of the girl laying on the bike, for example.

What's even cooler is he confessed he declined going to a work friend's 50th BD party last weekend (he alone was invited) because there were going to be belly dancers there, and he knew that would bother me! I guess he'snot sucha blockhead after all...

"good ole milla jovovich"

Sheet yeah, knorl. She's one of my faves. I especially like how the material over her breasts is wrinkly--not taut--and she just doesn't care!

Oh, and Starship, about those boys on the tube--there's the possibility the one who said the breasts were small may have said that to try and seem "manly" or cool to his friend. Not that it makes what he said okay, of course. wink.gif

Have a great busty day, ladies!
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post Feb 28 2008, 01:58 AM
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sad t'aint it starship? terribly misinformed. sad.gif

so i dont have any hollywood heroines but if i did, she would be one of them:

good ole milla jovovich



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starship
post Feb 26 2008, 06:12 PM
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On the tube today alongside two teenage boys oggling over page 3 (not sure if youre familiar with the british phenomena that is page 3- way for naive pumped up barbies to get into a cheap tabloid paper). They were discussing the girl and when i heard one say "I dont like her, her tits are too small" naturally my nosey side got the better of me. I did a subtle lean to read the wall map manouver only to be confronted with what must have been at least large C-cups! Blimey. If they think that's small Id dread to think what theyd make of me (not that the little perves would would ever have the honour of seeing me naked but still). It kind of worries me that young boys are getting an increasingly distorted impression of what women look like. How the hell are those two going to react when they finally get their grubby little hands on a real woman. I feel even more sorry for the girls who have been left with the job of educating them on reality. The media is cultivating a generation of morons

anyway...

Im up for the tropical conference too!! would be refreshing to be able to wear a bikini with pride and not feel like a complete goose in a much dreaded beach scenario smile.gif

And men definately do NOT get it. I usually use the ole' penis simile to bring it home a bit. Not that my guy has any problem in that department wink.gif but Ive tried asking him to imagine if he had a 1 inch willy and the world was full of calvin klein posters, a sweeping fashion trend of men wearing spandex pants, changing rooms with porn-star-esque companions, other 1inchers getting plastic stuffed up there through sheer shame etc etc. I think it makes it easier for men to understand because (no bitter sexism intended) theyre usually far better at sympathising with themselves than anyone else...

(((Vendetta)))- It probably made it more of an issue for you because you had bigger breasts for a while and then they were taken away. I guess the grass musta been greener for once. Sounds like youre making lots of changes in your life though which can only be a good thing smile.gif. Perhaps if you're happier in other areas you wont be so fixated with your boobs anymore. I tend to find that if Im having a bad time in other parts of my life then my breast issue will seem 10x worse. I have no idea why :/. It's like I gather up all the negative things for one big outburst of self pity. ok im rambling now. the moral of the story is..youre still the intelligent, strong and wonderful person that you was before and there's so much more to life than how you look (which im sure is completely gorgeous anyway). Also, the pills probably arent helping much. Mood swings from those pesky things have driven me to cosmetic surgery websites more times than Im willing to admit. keep positive and stay strong x
Im always envious of women with naturally ample breasts but theres lots of other things i look at on other women and admire too. When looking at other people I usually tend to look at the positive things and it was only recently I realised that plenty of others probably do the same to me too. Okay, so im not likely to get a passer by admire my wonderful breasts but I bet Ive had a few envious looks shot towards my booty before...

I only popped in to mention the misinformed adolescents :/...
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Vendetta
post Feb 26 2008, 05:15 AM
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Hei star, I haven't been so good lately, no... I kinda came out from myself and took a deep look... and what the fuck? I'm 24 years old, i've never had real problems about my breasts before, what's going on? It has affected my whole life, you wouldn't believe how. I understood it started seriously after my breasts had shrunk again, that new-bc-pill thing. I just couldn't deal with it. The padded bras didn't work anymore on a "cleavage", the bikini didn't look so good anymore, I had to give away all the fancy stuff I bought, people stopped telling me I was more womanly and I didn't get any of the attention my bf gave them then. I had the most amazing self-esteem season in my life, I was feeling outstanding and my sex drive was furious. They were pretty small but it did all the difference. It's awesome to actually have some breasts. I just couldn't deal with it. So I started being obsessed. I've switched pills 3 or 4 times and you can imagine what a hormone cocktail i've been throught. I'm so ashamed of that. I've done everything a person can't do, knowing I was becoming totally obsessed and knowing perfectly where it would end up. I almost threw away a relationship. I'm suffering from low self-esteem, not because I have small breast but because I'm so unhappy with them. I can't believe I can actually put up so much importance on that. I hate dressing up, I hate taking a bath, I hate looking in the mirror and sex is not so good anymore. And if guys have preferences, I have preferences too and I do respond to breasts on other women. I can't respond to mine.
I've been putting my life together lately, I quit my 1 year job because I spent 9hrs per day completely alone with a computer, and we all know what happens when we spend too much time alone with ourselves. So changes will be good. I know I'm going to be fine. I'm just so ashame of myself. "I stay up and clean the house, at least i'm not drinking, run around just so I don't think about thinking" - Amy Winehouse
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knorl05
post Feb 26 2008, 04:31 AM
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i believe the porn debate to be never-ending. i used to frequent the porn thread and share my thoughts on the matter but i'll spare everyone in here my perspective. especially because it seems to be in limbo due to the fact i respect, or rather i can appreciate, both sides of the coin.

either way. karategrrl so sorry about the upsetting situation with your man, but i think it's awesome he showed you respect in the end and gave up the mags. i really do think men just sometimes dont think about that stuff. pretty women are saturated over everything that men buy, because advertising companies know that's what men respond to. i truly believe like dj biz said that since he's with you that indicates the quality of his character, and i dont think he got the mags to oogle over the naked chics in it. i do understand how upsetting it is though because it can feel like a slap in the face, as though he should just know better than to bring something like that into the house. especially if the pics were so offensive to you that they made you physically ill.

i'm beginning to feel sorry for men who need or enjoy overt sexuality shoved down their throats, it's rather pathetic to me. this is by no means a reference to your man karategrrl.. just thoughts i'm having on the big breasts vs small breasts = sexual vs nonsexual. i love the point that edie made about most of the women with fake breasts are probably small chested women naturally. it is *typically* not normal or natural to have huge mammaries if the woman herself is not also on the larger side. and the fact that any of us with smaller boobs think that we are somehow not the norm, shows how trends do not tend to reflect real life. breasts have become objects, material gains for those who want to look more flashysexyostentatious (for the most part). yes it's awful to feel like we pale in comparison to anyone, regardless of breast size, but that is unfortunately on us whether or not we allow it to affect how we see ourselves. that feels rather cold as i type it but i dont mean it to be. i've just come to realize there are always going to be sexier women than me out there, smarter women, wittier women, more talented women... shit, i've come across many of them in the bust lounge.. and that's just how it is. i want to see women genuinely feel good about themselves and whether or not i agree with their choices, that's not for me to decide. sure i may sometimes feel inadequate or uncomfortable with my breasts, and sure it annoys the hell out of me that there are so many shallow people in the world who play into the objectification of the female form... but as long as i got me busties i'm good. meaning. you ladies really do rock. oh no. six am. yawn.


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post Feb 26 2008, 03:02 AM
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A tropical conference would be a blast! I wonder if people around would notice what we all had in common! (Probably.)

Regarding porn: I once asked my boyfriend if he looked at it (since we'd been apart and all) and he said no. I was like "phu-leeze!" so he admitted that of course he had watched it before, but he didn't really like it. I don't know whether to believe him or not, but in any case he's certainly not a porn fiend so it's not a problem. I sort of believe him because he truly is a feminist and he seems to have a strong preference for very natural or even unusual/unconventional looking women. But even knowing all that if I found a magazine or video in his possession that featured women with big breasts it would probably sting. A lot.

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post Feb 25 2008, 10:01 PM
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You girls seriously rock my socks off.
I really need to start being more selfish when it comes to how I look at myself and stop the comparisons, because you guys are making me realize that you really can't change the world/society/men, and all you can control is yourself. Well, sometimes. But why focus on things that are out of your control? Anyway, I know what I'm capable of and that some of my favorite qualities I see in myself are outstanding compared to others and I'm pretty proud of that.

My guy gets really defensive when I bring up porn. Like if we're going to be apart for a while and he's talking about how it'll be tough to go without sex for that long and I make the joke of "you'll be alright, you've got your computer", he comes back with "I don't even look at porn anymore." (almost angrily) So when I was looking up movie times all those websites must have magically appeared in the drop-down menu, huh? The lying gets to me more than anything -- just tell me you prefer brunettes with tits! lol I guess I just don't like the fact that I'm so easy to replace.

karategrrl I'm so up for a tropical conference! My spring break is at the end of March. Just tell me where!
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karategrrl
post Feb 25 2008, 06:00 PM
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Thank you, thank you to all you truly AMAZING women!!!!! Sometimes I feel this classroom of ife is just too much to deal with, and I want to play hookey. Thank you all for the pics, and for all your comments, everyone. It sounds corny maybe, but I draw strength from you all. If not for meditation and dancing and good music and this board--all things in which I find comfort against the storm of life--I swear I would lose my mind.

DJ, I'm not as strong as you--if my guy had heaps of porn, I wouldn't be able to deal.

"all higher level cognitive function ceases as the blood in the brain moves down into the penis." laugh.gif You hit the nail on the head, girl!

You know, not to make this into a man-bashing session (men have pressures and expectations too*), but sometimes I really think they just--for some godforaken reason--don't "get it," and yeah, DJ, you could just shake them. I mean, to us ladies it's plain as day, and they're like, "huh?" I actually had a physical reaction when I saw Easy Riders--literally sick to my stomach, lightheaded, muscles wobbly. Here we are, trying like hell to try and be understood, to make them somehow empathize and understand. But they usually don't. And we must then put up with them the way they are--with stacks of porn or whatever. To be fair, maybe they feel they must put up with us, too--our sensitivity, insecurities, always wanting to talk, etc.

"I usually remind myself that most of those women are probably small-breasted women like us with big bags inserted under their skin." Edie, so right. So right.

Anyway, an update: We talked. It helped a little. I would feel better if he didn't act like the simple act of talking out a problem was like having root canal surgery. I said what I wanted to say, but I don't know if he really understands. <sigh....>

Love you all! I wish I were rich--I'd fly you all to some tropical location and we'd have the first-ever Small Bust Conference! laugh.gif


*A very good look into the lives of men is "Self-Made Man" by Norah Vincent. This woman spent a year and a half living undercover as a man and wrote a book about the experience. Fascinating.
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starship
post Feb 25 2008, 05:41 PM
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You ok Vendetta?? Seem a little down and pissed off...Obviously we all have/have had issues with breasts but its good to come on here and keep grounded on the issue and remind ourselves how stupid it is to let our lives be ruled by two lumps of fat on our chest. Hope you're alrigh' x
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post Feb 25 2008, 05:36 PM
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ok, i'm back.....

and to respond to what Vendetta posted most recently. men are SUCH babies when it comes to criticism. women are critiqued and admonished for their bodies and the way they look from pre-pubesence on, while men (and this is changing) don't have to deal with these kind of things. as a result, i think women generally have thicker skin. this also might be a contributing factor in men's insensitivity towards our body image issues.

nelly is right. sexy women are sexy, and not because of one specific body part. and men aren't just sex-crazed morons who have no self control. but they sure can be irritating.

i'm with you edie, i think fake breasts are gross looking, but i can't help but admire and envy large, natural breasts.

i am very thankful for this forum and for all you ladies. it's refreshing to have a safe place to vent and express ourselves. *high-fives all around*


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post Feb 25 2008, 05:34 PM
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Yeah, I don't really need this thread. I only care about what I think is sexy, not what some dumb guys drool over or the dumbass media. But, good luck to all the ladies that are here working this shit out. It's a bitch. wink.gif


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Vendetta
post Feb 25 2008, 05:26 PM
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Because big breasts are more appealing, it sells. Otherwise we wouldn't be all at this thread. Sexier or not, it's a matter of personal taste, but even a guy that prefers small-breasted women droolls over a big-breasted babe. That's reality.
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post Feb 25 2008, 04:53 PM
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In no way, shape, or form are women with big breasts sexier than women with smaller breasts.

You cannot win in this world...some guys on the radio were talking about L. Lohan's breasts. She's got D's, and of course they were all drooling, but then they started talking shit about them because they sag. Well, DUH? Of course, they sag, she doesn't have implants, and she is a thin woman with large breasts. Those bags are gonna sag. They were laughing about it. It was so dumb. Those are the kinds of guys that are used to seeing weird looking fake breasts. I cannot stand your typical breast man. I have always liked ass and leg men b/c I find them more interesting, and they like me! wink.gif

I hate the way fake breasts look and I heard they feel weird too.

But, it's not just guys, some lesbian associates of mine oogle over large breasts too. I guess it is just a preference, but again, they are not fundamental to sexiness.

I have a friend who is AA cup, and she never wears bras, and she turns heads everywhere she goes b/c her nipples are always at attention saluting everybody that walks by. She's hott!


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edie52
post Feb 25 2008, 03:20 PM
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You're all awesome! Love the pictures.

(((karategirl))) Sucks that you had to find that in your house and in your husband's possession. To echo what others have said, from his actions it sounds like he's a good egg, and he married you, so I'm sure he finds you attractive. But I know very well how hard it is to feel as though you're competing with women with such huge, exaggerated symbols of femininity, women who are so different from yourself. I usually remind myself that most of those women are probably small-breasted women like us with big bags inserted under their skin. How sexy is that??? Er, not so much. Most men I know (especially ones who are intelligent, interesting, respectful) don't think so either. (What does make me really jealous, though, is seeing someone with natural, beautiful breasts.)

My boy has been pretty good about making me feel sexy... he says things like "you're a total babe" or "I love your body." Even though I know I'm more of the big-blue-eyes cute type, or the pretty, lanky schoolteacher type- to MOST people. See that's the thing- we shouldn't feel stuck in these archetypes. Despite how I look and how most people perceive me, I (like everyone) have a sexual side and the person who I share that side with sees me as sexy, so that should be all I need, right? And that's just one side of me, too. Unfortunately, we associate being perceived as sexy by the majority of people as a way of getting power, affection, and ultimately, love.

I've never even talked to my bf about my insecurities about my body because he (and this board, and myself) has been helping me feel more secure about it. So I don't want to dwell on it with him. He may not even know that I've had such insecurities about it. I know when I see a cute small-chested chick I say to myself "Wow! She's totally hot, and she seems really secure and confident!" (I perceive this by her attitude or body language or what she's wearing). But for all I know she's gone through the same things we all have trying to accept her body. And for all I know people think the same thing about me...

Yeah. It's a lot about perception. But then there's the undeniable reality that the media and some people in our lives send us messages that we're inadequate, less womanly, what-have-you. Sigh. Le complicated.

And can I just say again that I really value you all and this thread!
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post Feb 25 2008, 02:39 PM
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(((((karategrrl)))), you are SO tough sistah, i know you can get through this. you've been a solid poster and solid supporter in this thread for a long time, i know you can work through this. men can be totally, insensitive jerks. you get upset over something that to you, is painfully and obviously offensive and his reaction is, 'huh? whut?' you just wanna shake the shit outta them! grrrrrr. i think maybe your man reacted angrily when you first confronted him because in his heart he knew that this magazine was offensive. he must be an evolved, intelligent and thoughtful man if he's with a woman like you (wink), so deep in the recesses of his man-brain he knew that you would find it upsetting. he was defensive because he got caught in the wrong and rather than immediately own up to what he did, he felt he could lash out at you and blame you for being too sensitive. it shows that he has character and integrity that he was able to come to later and be reasonable. after he was able to process everything and wasn't standing with his hand in the metaphorical cookie jar, he was able to apologize.

i know the feeling of 'you too, really?' about your man. my bf loves his porn, tons and tons of it and i try really hard not to be intimidated by it. i think starship is right when she says that men just love naked women, and lots of them. the more the better. all higher level cognitive function ceases as the blood in the brain moves down into the penis.

i was watching this terrible show, the millionaire matchmaker on bravo. now the woman on this show and the majority of the people kinda make me want to puke, but it's one of the only things on tv when i typically go work out. it's funny though, because these men will go on and on about how they want a mature, intelligent woman who knows who she is etc etc. they will specifically request women who aren't models or actresses, but young professionals. then when it comes time to make a choice, who do they go for? big-tittied bimbos who are hot hot hot. say one thing and do another, sheesh.

more later....gotta run to class!


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Vendetta
post Feb 25 2008, 12:11 PM
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Try to comment guys around you, like his friends, your friends, actors, singers, etc.. Mine gets pissed off. It hurts doesn't it? Hell yeah.
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post Feb 25 2008, 11:30 AM
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((((((Karategrrl))))))
Its hard and i often feel im being oversensitive when it comes to my boyfriend and my body. I dont really like him looking at porn or 'those' type of magazines because it leaves me feeling so insecure. I know he loves me and im intelligent enough to know that decent men dont get into serious relationships based on purely looks. Yesterday he said to me that he thinks im 'pretty but not sexy' but apparently he finds my prettiness sexy and because he is in love with who I am that makes me even more sexy to him. Or something like that:/. I know he was trying to be nice and reassure me that he doesnt want anyone else but I just ended up getting upset with him. The poor guy cant win sometimes. I knew i was taking it wrong and being a bit irrational but i still felt inadequate i guess, as though theres something other girls have to offer him that i dont. Its kind of stupid because I think most men have the natural desire to see as many naked women as possible; I could have the so-called 'perfect' body and Im pretty sure he'd still be tempted by a magazine full of naked women. It's just easy to link anything which suggests that Im not sexually adequate back to my insecurities or, rather, because of my insecurities feel as though the tiniest thing indicates that im not adequate.
Maybe your husband was a little dumb karategrrl but at least once he'd realised your feelings he tried to make it right. Im sure there are plenty of jerks out there that would jeapodise their real relationship rather than ditch the smutty mags. Perhaps his initial angry reaction was because he genuinely wasnt bothered about these women and felt you was upset for something he hadnt even done in his mind. Many times Ive almost given in to surgery but there's no way I ever could- Id just be becoming part of the problem that has made my life a misery at times. Its just like taking the easy option and passing the problem onto another generation rather than dealing with it ourselves. Boobs do not maketh the woman

Ah, I ramble too much nonsense in this topic...
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post Feb 25 2008, 09:00 AM
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(((((Karategrrl)))))
That's hard, girl. Men are stupid when it comes to obviously offensive, derogatory material. My boy could not for the life of him understand why I found the porn he wanted to watch ("Teen Fuck-Holes") unbearably offensive. The title is bad enough, but the film featured very young women with grotesque implants being degraded (IMO) by ugly men.
It saddens me that there are so many young women out there who are caught in the web, and who inject silicone and god knows what else into their bodies to be "pretty" and "feminine".



Here is a picture of a gorgeous young woman who has small breasts. Now, you can't tell me that she isn't beautiful or feminine. In no way is she "less than" because of the size of her breasts.


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karategrrl
post Feb 25 2008, 08:04 AM
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Hi guys,

Please send healing vibes my way--it's been a(nother) challenging weekend. Read on...

Hy husband, who once was a biker (once a biker, always a biker?) bought a copy of Easy Riders magazine Saturday, and a bodybuilding magazine. I'd never seen Easy Riders. there was a pretty "out there" pic of a busty bimbo straddling a bike like she was humping it on the cover. Hmm..., I thought. I flipped through it. (I typically like to look at the hubby's men's mags, and he's fine with it--I find them kind of amusing and sometimes interesting...not my cup of tea, usually, but I like to read different stuff than Oprah some of the time.) Well..I expected t o see a couple more cheesy girls in bikinis posing with the bikes, but I was totally unprepared for what was inside. Basically, Easy Riders is half a bike mag, half Playboy. ALL the women inside (except for a couple of ads) were naked, except for shoes and bikini bottoms. There were a couple pages of jokes, and all of them except one were degrading/derogatory against women. Granted, these were not tasteful, artistic-type photos of women. I found it offensive. It's bad enough to be bombarded with these depictons of women in my daily life (not to mention having to drive by two strip clubs and a sex shop--with manikins in the window who have grossly oversized breasts--on my way to work every day), I do not need that kind of sh*t in my house! (Let me say, I have no problem with the bodybuilding mags or the men's mags...yes, they have some of the half-naked women pictures, but it's at least done in a more tasteful, almost tongue-in-cheek way.)

Well, I told the hubby I felt very uncomfortable with that kind of magazine in the house. At first, he had the angry "You're insecure...I bought it for the bikes, not for the pictures of the women...So now you're going to censor me??" reaction. Later he gave me the magazine and said I could burn it or shred it or whatever, and he'd never buy it again. He said it was just a magazine and not worth causing stress in our marriage.

I'm happy he didn't have a "deal with it" attitude, or honestly, I'd be heading for a divorce lawyer, but still, it rocked my world--it was a reminder, once again, of how freaking hard it is to be taken seriously, and how difficult women who pose for stuff like that make it for the rest of us. One of the girls had an obvious boob job. Another page of photos was of candids of people at the Sturgis bike rally--a bunch of them were pulling up their shirts (most implanted, of course), another was wearing leather chaps and a thong bending over. I find it so deeply disturbing that women actually find this "empowering." And, of course, the implanted-ness of so many of them only helps foster the image that "large is normal," as we have discussed before.

The hubby said he doesn't think the near-naked women is a big deal, and I truly don't believe he really does--to him, as to many men, this is "normal." I guess that is part of what disturbs me. He lived in Europe for awhile, and I know over there, there is nudity in TV ads and no one thinks it's a big deal. Well, I'm American and my family was pretty conservative, and being a woman who has struggled all her life to be taken seriously and to be viewed as "attractive, despite my small breasts," it just rocked my world. I mean, boyfriends and now my husband, when they are backed against the wall, will say that what they want, deep down, is the girl whose got it all ON THE INSIDE. But when it's you standing next to the slutty-looking girl with the big breasts--fake or not--they're all drooling over her, not you, and we're all supposed to be okay with that because, after all, WE are who they "really" want. Is there a straight man in the world who looks at something like Easy Riders and thinks it's as offensive as I do? Maybe they really are just a different species.

This weekend was one of those weekends I almost was saying to myself, "The hell with it! I'll just sell out and get fricking implants like everyone else and be done with it!" But I have to thank you ladies, because just to log on and read your posts makes me feel so much better. (That and listening to "Stupid Girls" by P!nk, "Just a Girl" by No Doubt and "Beautiful" by Christina Aguilera.)

Please send hugs my way. I need them. sad.gif

PS: I burned the magazine. That was great.
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post Feb 23 2008, 08:43 PM
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psst...hey starship, it took me a really long time before my feelings changed about my breasts, i was in agony over them from the age of ten until prolly my early twenties. that is all for now. wink.gif


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