[LoveMyPugs]

Wakinguptous –

WOW! I don’t even know where to start with your post honey.

You sound like you have some self-esteem issues sweetie!

First thing first, I’m can tell you that NO ONE is “worthless as a sexual being”. NO ONE! That is just an awful thing to say about yourself.

Second, I don’t consider people to be “bad in bed” just inhibited and/or inexperienced.

Third, you might want to look at why you feel “insecure” with him. Is it his past, your past, your view of your body, his view of your body. All of these can make it difficult for you to loose yourself in the moment. If you can with “random hook-ups” but not with your man then I think there is an underlying issue there. Communication with him and looking at yourself, him and the two of you together would be my suggestion of a starting point.

As far as “how you compare” to his previous lovers, it doesn’t matter. You can make a lasting impression by just educating yourself on new and different styles of lovemaking. That’s the easy part. Just go to a bookstore and start reading. You can have fun just trying things out on him. Surprise him with something new. You might think he’s seen it all but I doubt it.

I personally believe that for guys, sex is like pizza. Even when it’s bad it’s still pretty good. I understand that you want him to enjoy sex with you. It’s good that you want to please him. Does he want to please you as well? Ask him to tell you what he likes. What he’s experienced and what really got him off. Of course you don’t want to know the females names. You just want to know what he likes. I learned more in one session watching Mr. Pug masturbate in front of me then I ever did just trying to do what I thought he liked. Communication is the best path to erotic nights.

Anyone else?

[wakinguptous]

I need help, advice, tips, anything.

I've been with my boyfriend for about seven months and we are incredibly in love with one another.

The problem is our sex life.

I'm beginning to worry that we aren't sexually compatible. We finally had a long conversation about it last night and basically I've come to the conclusion that I'm bad in bed when it comes to him.

For some reason, I'm just really insecure with him and I can't fully lose myself in the moment. I've done it with guys before , but I can't seem to do so with him. I also get really klutzy.

Part of it is that he is a LOT more experienced than I am. And I do mean a lot more. It kind of makes me uncomfortable because I can't help but worry about how I compare.

We have an open relationship and I've noticed that I don't seem to have this issue with my random hook-ups. Presumably, this is because I don't care necessarily what those people think about me the next day.

Performance in the sack always seems to place the onus on the man. But what about me? What if it's the woman who is bad in bed? Has anyone else suffered this problem? I'd really like for him to be able to enjoy sex with me, and vice versa. It's making me feel incredibly humiliated and kind of worthless as a sexual being.

[tesao]

boblink: as always, thank you for the thoughtful and informational posts. anticipation is great. i like holding off on things for just that reason.

[boblink]

Yeah um...

Yanks.com is not work or school safe. Just to inform anyone who is going to check that site out. I'm going to look at it when I get home.

Bob,

I agree with the building of anticipation. When Mr. Pug and I haven't done it in a while and we are both teasing each other about it constantly, when we finally do it's like 10 minutes max, including foreplay. Kinda sucks. It's like Thanksgiving. You take three days cooking, half and hour eating it and needing eight hours of sleep afterwards to recover. LOL

Quick note for Pugs and all concerned

You've generated some thinking here, and on a long drive yesterday some long dormant thoughts came back to me. This is a tiny scratch on the surface of the subject. Books have been written on it.

Hypno-therapy can solve the problem and assure orgasm generated by penetration. If the idea grabs you, your first step should be to the library – either in a college or a substantial city. It's not likely to be covered in a county seat public library.

Check on the history of Hypnosis and assure yourself that it's used by reputable and learned practitioners who have letters following their names. You'll find that it's taught in university Psychology departments, and has no direct relation to stages and magicians.

You can find endless info sources by Googling Hypnosis. The practitioners you find there may or may not be licensed or ethical. To be safe, stay with licensed and lettered . The former furniture salesman, with high school education, who sets up practice in a state where no license is required, may be great and have a wonderful talent for helping. And his ethics may or may not be admirable.

In Tennessee and many other states there is no license or any kind of regulation. Some references to former clients is desirable and I suggest at least three, preferably five.

Beware of of one-session wonders. One session may do the job for you, but chances are it'll fade away over time. Some reinforcement is usually necessary for lifetime results. Reinforcement by phone easily is possible, if not always desirable in the circumstances.

The cost, as for other types of therapists, usually is based on one-hour sessions and varies widely. New York and California rates are, of course higher than Mississippi and Arkansas.

If I can help with further info, lemme know.

[LoveMyPugs]

Yeah um...

Yanks.com is not work or school safe. Just to inform anyone who is going to check that site out. I'm going to look at it when I get home.

Bob,

I agree with the building of anticipation. When Mr. Pug and I haven't done it in a while and we are both teasing each other about it constantly, when we finally do it's like 10 minutes max, including foreplay. Kinda sucks. It's like Thanksgiving. You take three days cooking, half and hour eating it and needing eight hours of sleep afterwards to recover. LOL

[boblink]

Oboypie,

I hope you know that you received some excellent advice here.

Crinoline said

“The only two ways that I have been able to achieve orgasm during penetration were with a vibrating cock ring and plain old fingers. Also- does he wear a condom? Can you achieve orgasm by yourself? That's really half the battle. If you know how to do it, you can show your boy, or just do it yourself while he's inside you. Modified missionary- during missionary, have him raise up on his knees- so he is perpendicular to you, you can both gain easy access, because hands are free and the area is clear.”

For me personally I can only achieve orgasm from my plain old fingers as well (and also when Mr. Pug goes down on me). We have tried for a g-spot orgasm “squirting or female ejaculation” but it’s a mental block for me. When Mr. Pug and I were younger he couldn’t hold out very long either. Now he can pace himself with me. Condoms can really help desensitize him. Achieving orgasm alone is half the battle. Having him in me while I manually stimulate my clit with my fingers and when he goes down on me and fingers my g-spot are the only ways for me that Mr. Pug was able to be a part of my orgasm. He was able to make me cum by manually stimulating my clit with his fingers just once and that was it. For me, I just have to do it with my hand because my speed, pressure and contact change throughout. I think it would sound military if I had to keep directing him. “HARDER, FASTER, LIGHTER, UP, DOWN, SLOWER, STOOOOOP!”

Bob said too many great things to quote so I’ll just agree with and reiterate everything said.

“I understand his strong desire to thrust. Fast and furious. But discourage him from that. Thrusting does it for him in spades. But as far as orgasm is concerned, you've learned that it doesn't work for you. It's not bad for you, but it's not much help in getting there.”

Mr. Pug and I started with thrust, thrust, thrust and it didn’t work for me either. It made him cum faster and the friction (plus lack of lube cause were young and inexperienced) just made me miserable and frustrated. Once he started slowing down everything changed. I think guys’ idea of “fast and furious” comes from watching porn. True, Mr. Pug and I now doing things fast and furious but that’s only because we know each other and what we like. Even now after eleven years I have to tell him to slow down sometimes so I can get myself to the edge then I tell him “HARDER! FASTER!” and he reacts to my requests.

“After you've enjoyed kissing, breast play and vulva play and you're ready ready ready, it'll improve your situation if you'll do a hand job on him.”

This is an excellent suggestion as well. When Mr. Pug would know he was going to see me he would masturbate before I even got there so that he wouldn’t let go too soon. He didn’t tell me this till years later of course but it’s nice to know that me being able to take my time was important to him.

Dear God just enjoy yourself and try to have a good time and not focus so much on WHEN WILL IT HAPPEN? I bet it will happen when you least expect it. The first time I orgasmed I was not ready for it. When I realized what happened I wanted to run down the street and announce it to the world. THEN I orgasmed with Mr. Pug inside me and that was a million times better. Just wait and when it happens you better come back here and tell us all about it.

Hey, Pugs,
I don't have time for this kind of carrying on this afternoon, but MUST -- absolutely have to -- thank you for the kind words, confirming what some of us -- man and woman -- have learned the hard, slow trial and error way.

And while I'm here, I feel a need to add a comment or two. First, boys learn the fast and furious technique because that's what we're driven to do. You can confirm that -- if you wish -- at Yanks.Com/General Sex Talk, a post under title of Your Age at First Time To Masturbate to Orgasm. Yankeeboy paints an accurate picture of the way it is. Sorry I don't know how to include the link.

As for Crinoline's suggestion, I endorse it 100%.

Another suggestion for helpful activity I learned by pure accident is a long, long period of arousal. And I don't mean 15 minutes instead of 5 minutes of foreplay. I re-learned it when, starting a two-hour drive to spend a weekend at the beach, we were delayed two hours after fifteen minutes on the way. This after spending two weeks on the phone every day building anticipation, desire and pressure. We had specific plans to be in the sack by 2:00 o'clock. We made it at 6:00.

After finally getting to the action, we both exploded after about 30 seconds.

That tended to verify my learning from an incident in Chicago, where we were killing time waiting on a suddenly rearranged travel schedule. Following lunch in the Loop, we took a leisurely walk back to the hotel on the near north side, where we walked slowly past a gaudy burlesque theater. As we passed the last poster we stopped, looked at each other, and said simultaneously "let's see that."

We spent about an hour and a half watching six strip acts designed to arouse the libido of a corpse, augmented by a chorous of 12 girls wearing only G strings and pasties. My wife was more aroused by it than I was. To be specific, on a scale of 1 to 10 I rated 10. She topped out at 12.5.

We walked on to the hotel, faster than before, and in the room we wasted no time undressing. She had never reached orgasm during penetration. This time she made it twice before I took mine. The proof is in that pudding. I recommend to anyone that a long, long arousal time will make a difference that nothing else can. This would seem to indicate GOOD DVDs and tapes.

For some, the GOOD means crude language and cruder activity. For others it means a more realistic show of skin and actions. Whatever, some time and thought in selection of something that does it for you is worth it when the payoff is her orgasms during penetration as opposed to a handmade finish -- which is, of course, far better than to leave her hanging.

Another proof of the power of a long, long arousal time is this: I'd been out of town for three weeks and returned in the middle of her period. That ran smack into her long established no-no. But she surprised me by taking a douche while in the bathroom and coming to bed ready for action. For anyone who's never done it I include this note: If I hadn't been looking for it I would never have seen that tiny red thread when I was washing up later.

All of which reminds me of a standing joke in the overseas Army some years ago. "The second thing I'm gonna do when I get home . . . is take off my pack.

Time's up. Gotta go gotta go gotta go.

Good luck and good loving

[LoveMyPugs]

Oboypie,

I hope you know that you received some excellent advice here.

Crinoline said

“The only two ways that I have been able to achieve orgasm during penetration were with a vibrating cock ring and plain old fingers. Also- does he wear a condom? Can you achieve orgasm by yourself? That's really half the battle. If you know how to do it, you can show your boy, or just do it yourself while he's inside you. Modified missionary- during missionary, have him raise up on his knees- so he is perpendicular to you, you can both gain easy access, because hands are free and the area is clear.”

For me personally I can only achieve orgasm from my plain old fingers as well (and also when Mr. Pug goes down on me). We have tried for a g-spot orgasm “squirting or female ejaculation” but it’s a mental block for me. When Mr. Pug and I were younger he couldn’t hold out very long either. Now he can pace himself with me. Condoms can really help desensitize him. Achieving orgasm alone is half the battle. Having him in me while I manually stimulate my clit with my fingers and when he goes down on me and fingers my g-spot are the only ways for me that Mr. Pug was able to be a part of my orgasm. He was able to make me cum by manually stimulating my clit with his fingers just once and that was it. For me, I just have to do it with my hand because my speed, pressure and contact change throughout. I think it would sound military if I had to keep directing him. “HARDER, FASTER, LIGHTER, UP, DOWN, SLOWER, STOOOOOP!”

Bob said too many great things to quote so I’ll just agree with and reiterate everything said.

“I understand his strong desire to thrust. Fast and furious. But discourage him from that. Thrusting does it for him in spades. But as far as orgasm is concerned, you've learned that it doesn't work for you. It's not bad for you, but it's not much help in getting there.”

Mr. Pug and I started with thrust, thrust, thrust and it didn’t work for me either. It made him cum faster and the friction (plus lack of lube cause were young and inexperienced) just made me miserable and frustrated. Once he started slowing down everything changed. I think guys’ idea of “fast and furious” comes from watching porn. True, Mr. Pug and I now doing things fast and furious but that’s only because we know each other and what we like. Even now after eleven years I have to tell him to slow down sometimes so I can get myself to the edge then I tell him “HARDER! FASTER!” and he reacts to my requests.

“After you've enjoyed kissing, breast play and vulva play and you're ready ready ready, it'll improve your situation if you'll do a hand job on him.”

This is an excellent suggestion as well. When Mr. Pug would know he was going to see me he would masturbate before I even got there so that he wouldn’t let go too soon. He didn’t tell me this till years later of course but it’s nice to know that me being able to take my time was important to him.

Dear God just enjoy yourself and try to have a good time and not focus so much on WHEN WILL IT HAPPEN? I bet it will happen when you least expect it. The first time I orgasmed I was not ready for it. When I realized what happened I wanted to run down the street and announce it to the world. THEN I orgasmed with Mr. Pug inside me and that was a million times better. Just wait and when it happens you better come back here and tell us all about it.

[boblink]

Bob, while it's easy to believe you haven't had a vaginal orgasm, it's a little harder to believe you've been precisely "there" ...

Hi, Maimy,

It's always good to see your posts. When you write, you (like I mean you know) say something.

I came in last night weak and weary, checked for e-mail and new posts, and went to bed thinking I'll find that dangling participle in the morning when my mind is fresh. Come morning and fresh mind, I found no dangle and concluded that "there" is a broad pronoun that means whatever the writer or reader wants it to mean.

For me, in that sentence, it meant my first wife, who lasted two years and got her first penetrative orgasm after fifteen months of serious trying. The trying was always hugely enjoyable for both of us, so enjoyable that we usually tried three times a night.

She always had the joy of getting up to the very edge seven or eight times before we took another route. My failure to push her over the edge into that free fall to glory was always a disappointment to both of us. But, of course the immediate disappointment was always mitigated by the glow of coming down.

[maimy]

Bob, while it's easy to believe you haven't had a vaginal orgasm, it's a little harder to believe you've been precisely "there" ...

[boblink]

The newbie has a little question for everyone out there in Bust-land...
I've been dating my boyfriend for about 15 months now and we have a very active sex life. I know I sound like a nerd when I say that I've done a lot of reading about the female orgasm, but I'm getting rather impatient with my lack of excitement down there. The only means of giving me that "uumph" is from oral stimulation. Not that I dislike oral...it's just that, well, after 15 months of dating and love-making, I'd like to come when he's actually inside me.

Anyway, so everything i've read online is so quick to say that the "vaginal orgasm" doesn't exist and is just a myth set in motion by Freudian psychoanalysis, but no one can offer any suggestions for stimulating the clitoris while your man's inside you.

We've tried vibrating cock-rings. They get my guy too excited too quick and he can't last long enough for me to really enjoy things. We've tried using the vibrator when he's inside me, but that usually ends up the same way the cock-ring idea does.

This impatient and almost disappointed (in herself, that is) chick needs some help and advice QUICK, friends! I'll take anything!

OBoyPie:

We've all been there. None of us was born knowing how to tie our shoe laces. You raise interesting and familiar questions. I'd like to write three chapters in a book for you, but like Maimy and the woman in the Detrol commercial, "gotta go, gotta go, gotta go."

Here's a start, maybe 98 percent guaranteed.

1. Make sure that he has a good understanding of the clit. Don't assume. Show it to him under a good light, and demonstrate it's working. Actually seeing what he's dealing with gives him understanding he'll never have, otherwise.

2. Explain with demo the best way for him to handle it -- pressure, movement and pace. Give him some practice purely for the sake of practice. He'll have opportunity to make errors and correct them without the pressure of performing well. He can experiment, with your help, without the disappointment and, perhaps, embarrassment, of missing the goal. You'll enjoy the lessons and his practice more than he will. What else had you rather be doing.

3. POSITION: On your back, raise both legs. On his side he slides under, facing you. You reach down and plug him in. He reaches over to the site of action and stimulates your clit just as you've taught him. If my memory is still playing in the same ballpark, he can reach your breast on the near side and twiddle the nipple as he strokes your clit. Multiple sensations tend to multiply the effect geometrically.

Please note that this was old stuff when Kama Sutra was a pup.

NOTE: Having been a boy for a bunch of years I understand his strong desire to thrust. Fast and furious. But discourage him from that. Thrusting does it for him in spades. But as far as orgasm is concerned, you've learned that it doesn't work for you. It's not bad for you, but it's not much help in getting there.
Keep him on target. He's going to get his, come hell or high water. You both need to concentrate on getting yours.

ANOTHER POINT. When you get there, screaming with the joy of orgasm, he'll feel it if he's holding still. It'll feel like a tiny hand grabbing and squeezing about six or eight times. If his orgasm doesn't fire then, he'll remain ready to do it for you again when you're ready in maybe two minutes or less. In the meantime, just lie there and enjoy the glow. He'll probably want to fondle your breast or otherwise enjoy touching.

REMEMBER that practice makes perfect. But, also remember that practicing the same old mistakes only makes you perfect at performing the same old mistakes. If you'll teach him to do it right, it'll pay off, maybe for the rest of your life. For both of you.

AFTERTHOUGHT. You noted that "they get him too excited too quick and he can't last long enough." That's a common problem among the young and relatively inexperienced singles who don't have the opportunity to stay in practice. If you were living together and going three rounds a night five or six nights a week, that problem very likely would disappear without further thought.

ONE SOLUTION. Foreplay is not only for you. It works for him, too. Take your time. After you've enjoyed kissing, breast play and vulva play and you're ready ready ready, it'll improve your situation if you'll do a hand job on him. That will relieve the pressure and give him a better chance of lasting long enough. It'll increase your own pressure for orgasm, and give him a better opportunity to do right for you. A hand job is another art. If you'd like to pursue that avenue I can PM you some material I've written for another purpose, too long for posting here.


If you want it, lemme know. Good luck and good loving.

[crinoline]

Oboypie- The only two ways that I have been able to achieve orgasm during penetration were with a vibrating cock ring and plain old fingers.
When you use the ring, have you tried starting with the vibration off? The ring should then help sustain your boy's erection while providing some clitoral stimulation for you. You can then turn the vibration on when you feel closer to orgasm. Also- does he wear a condom? I remember when we first started Crinoboy was nervous about not lasting long enough, so he bought "climax control" condoms. They have some sort of mild numbing solution in the head so your boy doesn't get too stimulated. I was skeptical of the numbing stuff, but Crinoboy really liked them.

Can you achieve orgasm by yourself? That's really half the battle. If you know how to do it, you can show your boy, or just do it yourself while he's inside you. Some good positions for simultaneous penetration and manual stimulation are:
From-Behind- not exactly doggie style, you lay on your stomach and raise your hips enough for your or his hand to touch you.
Modified missionary- during missionary, have him raise up on his knees- so he is perpendicular to you, you can both gain easy access, because hands are free and the area is clear.
Spooning- this is what we end up doing, mostly because we're lazy and looking for quick orgasm. You just lay on your side with him behind you (spooning) and he can enter you and touch you simultaneously, or you can do it. easy and works every time for us

Good luck!

[maimy]

Nothing nerdy about that, OBoyPie (and love that screen name! hee). I would answer more extensively, but the pup is asking for a walk and she does deserve one. But thought I'd say welcome - and you'll get most excellent help here. Enjoy BUSTing, and don't forget to check out the intro/newbies/community threads!

(Sorry so brief; someone better than I will be along shortly to clean up after me ...)

[oboypie]

The newbie has a little question for everyone out there in Bust-land...


I've been dating my boyfriend for about 15 months now and we have a very active sex life. I know I sound like a nerd when I say that I've done a lot of reading about the female orgasm, but I'm getting rather impatient with my lack of excitement down there. The only means of giving me that "uumph" is from oral stimulation. Not that I dislike oral...it's just that, well, after 15 months of dating and love-making, I'd like to come when he's actually inside me.

Anyway, so everything i've read online is so quick to say that the "vaginal orgasm" doesn't exist and is just a myth set in motion by Freudian psychoanalysis, but no one can offer any suggestions for stimulating the clitoris while your man's inside you.

We've tried vibrating cock-rings. They get my guy too excited too quick and he can't last long enough for me to really enjoy things. We've tried using the vibrator when he's inside me, but that usually ends up the same way the cock-ring idea does.

This impatient and almost disappointed (in herself, that is) chick needs some help and advice QUICK, friends! I'll take anything!

[dayglowpink]

Absolutely. In my primary FWB relationship, we do not use condoms, but we have an agreement that we will use condoms with anyone else we hook up with. Good communication (and trust of course) are the essential elements.

[Polymorphism]

Yep, I would agree. My point about safety (and dayglowpink's most likely) were putting unprotected sex in contrast between a committed relationship and a new relationship/sex with your friends and acquantances.

In other words, I think the point everyone seems to be making is that it's a good idea to wait on unprotected sex until you're in a committed relationship.

[OreosMom]

I totally agree, and I think this is an interesting issue. In my case, I saw for myself that when the dude put the condom on, he started to lose his hard-on. He was perfectly fine with not having intercourse at all; I'm the one who brought it up. Anyway, for me sex is way better without condoms, too, so I feel like I have some understanding of the guy's perspective.

I'm in a commited relationship with a wonderful man that used to wear condoms in the beginning of the relationship but now he doesn't. He had problems with wearing them as well and throughout our relationship I've stayed on the pill. I take my pill and we have unprotected sex. I know of all of the risks involved and he knows and accepts them as well and to be honest it does feel much better without a condom. As long as we both know and accept the risks involved I think that is all that matters.

[dayglowpink]

I totally agree, and I think this is an interesting issue. In my case, I saw for myself that when the dude put the condom on, he started to lose his hard-on. He was perfectly fine with not having intercourse at all; I'm the one who brought it up. Anyway, for me sex is way better without condoms, too, so I feel like I have some understanding of the guy's perspective.

crinoline- MyMonthlyCycles is a free website where you can enter your information each day (I think), and it helps keep track of your cycle. I believe they send you email updates. I started to use it for a while, but I was too lazy to put all the info in. Now I have an IUD, so I don't really worry about it anymore. The book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Weschler is an excellent resource if you want to start learning about how to do the fertility awareness method.

[Polymorphism]

Polymorphism: Yes, in a committed relationship people should respect each other's wishes and requests, but the difference is that when a man requests to go without a condom he is putting that woman's future and possibly life at risk. It is not a matter of disrespecting him or disregarding his wishes, she just needs to put safety first. This is not meant as an attack, your input is valuable.

Oh yes, of course. Allow me to clarify. All I'm saying is that the guy should be able to express his preferences, desires, needs and whatever else without having to worry about repercussions from his significant other. I would also say that the guy has a future to worry about, and is life is possibly in danger too from doing such a thing. Granted the guy won't be the one with the baby inside, but he's risking STDs and financial hardship, to name just a couple of issues. His life would get turned upside down too if he gets the woman pregnant. Most young men in my experience do not think about these things, but rather discover them after the fact. They also do not (in general -- not always the case) seem to remember safety and I think you have a valuable point there.

How come God gave women 2 helpings of brain and us guys only get one?

In my previous post, I was specifically talking about the scenario where the man and woman are in a committed relationship.

[crinoline]

Crinoboy is always trying to think of ways to avoid wearing a condom, it's like a child not wanting to do a chore. If my BC pills are in any way messed up (if I miss one or whatever) there is nothing he can say to get out of it. He pulls the "Can't I just go in without it and then put on on later?" alot. We use Durex ultra-thin, which he likes better than anything else we've tried.
However, since we've been together for over two years and we know each other is (are?) "clean" (I was a virgin, and he'd had sex once, no diseases) I feel fairly comfortable going without, as long as he pulls out in time. I'm really just worried about pregnancy at this point.

Polymorphism: Yes, in a committed relationship people should respect each other's wishes and requests, but the difference is that when a man requests to go without a condom he is putting that woman's future and possibly life at risk. It is not a matter of disrespecting him or disregarding his wishes, she just needs to put safety first. This is not meant as an attack, your input is valuable.

OT, but LoveMyPugs, what is Mymonthlycycles? Is it free? What exactly does it help you do? (I ask because I'm interested in monitering my fertility each month)

[Polymorphism]

I hope I'm not jumping the gun here given that I'm new. However, I thought you might welcome the guy perspective. If you don't care, ignore this post. Otherwise, I hope it's a valuable addition to the conversation.

Yep, most guys don't like condoms as far as I can tell. I personally do not like them for the reasons others have mentioned (tightness, ect.). However, it is my opinion that the guy will wear a condom if requested to do so by his significant other, if he respects her. That, of course, works both ways in a committed relationship and the guy can request sex without a condom and the girl should respect that too.

As a man, I would not consider having sex with a woman without a condom unless I was in a committed relationship with her. I don't want an STD. I don't want to get her pregnant.

I discovered female condoms back in my dating years. I've used them several times. I prefered them to male condoms as they gave me better sensual feeling. The downside is that sometimes the part that sticks out can get shoved in her vagina during sex, which raises the risk of pregnancy and transmission of STDs due to the exposed area. However, if used right, that scenario didn't happen often in my experience. Only during particularily fast-paced sex.

Overall, female condoms are alright. They're a bit noisy and hard to use, but are none the less a viable option.

My two cents, for what it's worth.