[Vendetta]

Geez.. never ending obsession. I'm not done yet with obsessing about the lack of breasts. I know I'll get there. It just affects me so much now.. i don't understand why. And they're everywhere, it's so hard to stop thinking about them since I see breasts all the time everywhere. And I have to deal with it getting dressed, taking a bath, being with boyfriend... i'm getting so sick of being this unhappy. Geez, i'm really tired. I wanna stop thinking about it. Better days will come.

[dj-bizmonkey]

but baby bunnies are so delictable, knorl! mmmmmmmm.

ETA:delectable? no, delictable looks better, right?

[knorl05]

wouldnt want my favorite busties to have to "look away" from my avatar. sadness.

[karategrrl]

Knorl and newo, thanks for the links!!!!! I had totally givenup on finding a workout bra with some "shape" (in other words, one that does not just flatten me the hell out). Looks like they actually have some of these at a store near me, so I am going to check it out!

Knorl, great story you told. Thank you for sharing, really. What a great mindset. I need to be in that place of total confidence more often. It's sexy. Unfortunatly, more often than not, I'm just not in that place. (On my "Top 5" list of things to work on...)

Knorl, your avatar also creeps me out, but I wasn't going to say anything. I thought it was just me. I can be a tad sensitive. I just try not to look at it, ha.

Actually, I've been trying to put one of my own up, but can't seem to master it. I will.

[knorl05]

newo: there is def a difference btwn cocky and confident. one is contrived, the other is natural. i feel cockiness is the result of many things including immaturity, lack of self awareness, modesty, and respect for self and others. but when a woman or man is genuinely confident in the person that they are within, regardless of appearance, that is such an amazing quality to have imo. the truth of the matter is that every person deserves to feel good about her or his self, deserves to feel confident in who they are, believe in their contribution to the world, know their value, live true to whom they are and have the freedom to express all these things. i believe this to be an intrisic right.. although i do realize it is something we may need to learn to cultivate over time. and i think it's a tragedy that some people never get the chance to experience these things.. either due to internal or external conflicts.

also, the avatar, yeah. i dig creepy.

on a side note, that aalingerie website really made me feel stoked about my small titties. the website is very well done and the bras are super pretty. i put on one of my older less padded bras the other day but then quickly put it back in the drawer. my chicken wings, due to my poor posture, tend to stick out further than my boobs sometimes. e-ghad. that's no fun. put trusty waterbra back on. home boy had no idea what i meant when i said i was going to stop wearing water bras.. he's like, you mean there's liquid in your bra? so that's reassuring that he wasnt thinking there was something fishy going on with my bras.

[newo_ikkin]

karategrrl, here is a sports bra with some shape to it. There are a few more on the site but most start at a B cup.
edit: another from a different website

knorl, right on. I've heard so much about how confidence is sexy, and I believe it 100%. I also believe there is a fine line between confident and cocky. But people can tell when you feel good about yourself and I like noticing it in other people. It's like a "good for you!" kind of thing. Also, your avatar creeps me out. =)

[knorl05]

f'in a, i sometimes feel like i derail this shit. but whatevs. here's the latest with me:
breakthru. my home boy and i were laying in bed last night and i was talking about feelings and whatnot. and he was like, does this have to do with us not having sex tonight? and i was like, no i'm speaking specifically of the dynamic between you and i. i'm to the age that i could really care less if you find me attractive or not.
and i really meant it. i think i'm attractive and i know there's at least one other person in the world who thinks i am as well.. so that's almost enough for me anymore. i feel, people are like works of art with this amazing energy within us. how we are attracted to one another has much more to do with overall chemistry than it does mere aesthetic value.
i think for me larger breasts have always symbolized confidence. if only i had larger breasts i could be more confident in myself. but large breasts do not guarantee confidence, power, or a higher level of attractiveness... it is on the individual to embody and evoke those qualities. if i continue thinking "if only" then i will never truly feel like i'm enough and that will transcend into other areas of my life as well, and will continue to make me feel unworthy. life is the way it is right now, how i am, who i am, if i cant extract confidence from within being this person i am now, then i may never really be able to. i dont want to live in the if only land, in a dream state, because that's not real living.
i'm attractive, i'm not. whatever. true confidence and ability cant be denied. that is what matters most to me.
that is all. thanks for reading my lovelies.

[knorl05]

Have you tried this site? http://www.aalingerie.com/

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[dj-bizmonkey]

i don't know about padded ones, but i've found alot of tank tops with built in bras that are stiffer, so they give you some shape without padding. i would think that padding might be kind of hot to work out in. i have a form-fitted tank that i got from express about 6 years ago. it's basically disentigrating, but i still wear to to work out or underneath t-shirts that ride up. i bet you could find something at american eagle, express, whatever. hell you could probably get some at target, but i don't know the name of site offhand. i really love the aronsales.com website because it is affordable and they have a wide selection. i actually like underwire for the lift and shape they give me, so i don't get that 'coney-boob' that one of my small busted bff's calls it.

didn't mean to leave you out, starship, it is a weird correlation, huh?! and YES, our small boobs are something worth holding on to, both figuratively and literally! i oscillate between being a 34 and a 36 band size and between being an A and AA. it's kind of annoying, but if i'm buying a new band i try on one of each.

ETA: ASC, i did see alot of maternity/nursing bras on the aronsales.com site, so you might want to check it out as well.

[karategrrl]

Speaking of bra shopping, anyone seen any slighty padded workout tops? I'd love to find some of those.

[karategrrl]

DJ, thanks for the links!! I suddenly feel the need to use my credit card! I am a 36A, gogosgirl, so I do feel your pain. I used to be 34A but started working out like crazy and actually went up a band size.

On a funny note, I was in a clothing store a couple weeks ago and they were having a "bra fitting event"--free bra fittings. Ugghhh, no thanks! I know what size I am and knew they would have nothing in mysize once they fitted me--provided they even did it correctly at all! Harumph. I also did not want to deal with the possible look of shock on the saleswoman's face when I disrobed. I've seen that look before!

[starship]

lol yeah me too. Im not sure if thats a good thing or a bad:/.
Knorl- Ive been wearing regular bras quite a bit recently. well underwired ones where the cups are kind of stiff(?) to give a nice shape. I dont think its even made that much difference. except maybe when im wearin a low neckline, then the more heavy duty stuff beckons...
I get slight pms boobs. Except i never usually notice until post-period where im like whered my boobs go. Not drastic enough for other people to notice but makes me happy nonetheless
newo-ikkin- they usually do have my size left but thats only if the range isnt one that starts at a B or something. I love buying pretty bras but a lot of the time the ones i want havent even considered my size let alone got it in stock
I went shopping yesterday and realised my boobs can pull off pretty much any top. Except those ones with the built in gaping boob gaps. Who needs cleavage

[edie52]

Dj, starship as well! She's also in an LDR! I noticed that strange correlation as well. I guess our small boobs are worth holding onto?

[knorl05]

i found lulalu.com to be a good site for ladies with small tatas. it's probably been mentioned in here before though..

i think i'm finally going to start going back to regular bras (sans liquid). i've just had a hell of a time with my boobage coverage through the years, going from lace underwire to extreme enhancement with the different phases in my life. these mounds of flesh have taught me much about myself and people and human nature and whatever else, so for that they are extremely valuable.

...oh more to say but running late for work.... bah.

[dj-bizmonkey]

here are some of my favorite websites, though admittedly some are expensive. i checked each of them for you, gogosgirl and they all carry multiple styles in a 38A. i've actually found that ordering online, even from hanes, or victoria's secret, it's alot easier to find the right size (if you've been fitted and you know what you are). i guess that's because they have a whole warehouse and not just a storeroom. vendetta, you might like some of these sites too:

http://www.knowknockers.co.uk/

http://www.aronsales.com/storefrontprofile...aspx?sfid=48267 this website has tons to choose from and they are very reasonably priced ($9.99 and up)

http://www.lulalu.com/

i hope that helps! there is also barenecessities.com, but they are sometimes hit or miss. good luck, hope you post in here again!

[gogosgirl]

sorry if this is a redundant question, but I did a cursory scan and didn't see it posted...my problem is that I'm athletic, and so, while my breasts are small, my back is broad. I cannot for the life of me find size 38a bras anywhere -- though I admit that when I type that combo, it looks like it must be a joke...any help?

[dj-bizmonkey]

Welcome ASC! i hope you will stick around in our little community and continue to post. just so you know, there is NO correlation between the size of the breast and the ability to nurse. anyone who says that has their head way up there ass and should consult a physician.

anywho, i've never had pms boobs, but then again, i don't think i've ovulated in a looooooong time (been on the pill since 16) and i haven't had my period in over two years (on the 365 pill now). vendetta, have you ever tried going to a specialty petite store? i know you said you are pretty small of frame and alot of times they will have nice lingerie. i would just do a google search or something for one in your area. i'm too big for any of their clothes, but take advantage of their bra's when i get the chance.

newo ikkin, i love your avatar! talk about a small-breasted hottie, i heart lena headey! some one else brought up the fact that the women in 300 were all smokin' and small-busted. and is there some cosmic connection between having small breasts and being in an LDR, i mean it's atleas the three of us (edie, newo ikkin) sorry if i'm forgetting anyone. i should be back in there one day. okay, never mind the derailment.

[Vendetta]

I wish I had pms boobs. Mine just stay the same all the time. Damn, i've been asking all lingerie stores for A cups. No, sorry, we only have B cups and above. Why?

[edie52]

Yes! I'm having a good boob day too! They're my pms boobs. I've been wearing my a cup bras, which don't really fit any other time. Don't go away, pms boobs!

[newo_ikkin]

I've been in the mood for bra shopping lately and tomorrow morning I finally have time! I got this one from Target a while ago that fits me really well so I want a couple more of that brand... if I can remember the name of it.

I always look forward to bra shopping because they always have my size!! With pants, shirts, and shoes, it's like 50/50 because I usually want items that happen to be picked over, and only XS and XXL are left. But my 36As are always hanging there waiting for me. I must say it is a definite perk of being this size.

I think I had a good boob day today. They just looked... happy. =)