[lightchested]

That is awesome news about boobs still being able to grow at any time! I always felt that in my heart. I just know my boobs are going to come back to me one day. I had a semi-okay pair, but they ran away from home when I lost weight a while back. Even they, though, nice as they were, were not at my "full boob potential", which is something that's been hazily defined in my mind's eye since I was 8 or 9 years old.

I almost bought two Energizing Crystals (this is a link to click on) today at Whole Foods.

The packaging said they will bring "unexpected miracles". I asked my husband if he thought they might bring me boobs. He said he didn't know, but he thought it was worth a shot to buy them, hang one from each nipple, and see what happens.

[neurotic.nelly]

This post is going to be all over the place.

1. I have never felt that feeling like a woman comes from the size of my breasts. For me, it comes from my back, butt, and hips, swagger, and attitude.


2. Myth: your breasts will never change or grow.

Reality: your breasts may grow. i read a blog by a long time bustie and she said at 30 or so years old, her breasts grew (prolly from a b cup) to a full c cup and she wrote about how uncomfortable it felt and strange and how she hated all the new found attention. I was talking to a 72 year old woman, and she said as a full grown woman she once was a b cup and now she is a D cup. And some women after breast feeding shrink. I swear mines are still changing and growing slightly and I am in my late 20's. I never thought my left one would fill out and surpass the right one in prettiness, but it has. It was the ugly duckling of the two for sooo long and it has continued slowly to blossom. It is as full and the nipple is perfect and it is so damn perky. Just gorgeous I tells ya!

[karategrrl]

HELLOOOOOO LADIES!!!

I missed you all! Egads, I was away for awhile and I missed so much!!!! Thank you ladies for lighting up my morning. I'm home sick and was literally crying with laughter reading the last three pages or so of posts. Auralpoison, lightchested and lala, you are my freaking heroes.

Strongirl, that was about the nicest description of breastfeeding I've ever read. As someone who hasn't had kids (and won't), I can only learn about this vicariously, so it was really great of you to share it. I just spent several days with my brother's family. My sis-in-law is breastfeeding my new nephew, like, every couple of hours, and all I could think of was how that would drive me insane. Your view helped me see the other side of it. Thanks!

I apologize for chiming in late on this topic, but strongirl, I very much enjoyed your skydiving story, and starship, yep, go for the workouts! I definetely DO receommend working out, especially the chest. You can't "spot-reduce" and therefore won't lose fat/size in the chest area alone from working it out. What you WILL do, however, is build a nice layer of muscle, which will make the bony areas look less so, and you'll define and shape the chest and torso. (Re-read my post about the guy in the gym commenting on my pecs if you need inspiration!!) Not to mention it feels empowering to be strong and able to lift heavy things!

I'm going to go shave my p---y and do my Kegels now. Then I will eat chocolate and masturbate while fantasizing about Smoove-B.

[loonydaray]

have to agree with you lightchested
stupid boobs

[anarch]

some men have not done it even after I begged them to.

What assholes. WTF. If you're not making sure your partner gets as much pleasure out of sex as you do, you're doing it wrong.

[pollystyrene]

Last night I made the mistake of falling asleep with Spike TV on then waking up to Manswers. That show makes me wanna barf. Of course, i wake up just in time to hear ,"There's nothing we love more than big jugs" then proceed to show a woman with huge, inflated implants. They looked all hard it wasn't even a good boob job.

And this is why I have Spike TV deprogrammed from my TV's channel lineup. Along with the Golf Channel and Lifetime. Yuck.

[Vendetta]

I'm sick and tired of feeling pre-pubescent.

[lightchested]

Agreed.

I feel like if I had some sizable knockers, I'd feel like a woman, and consequently be able to enjoy sex. As it is, I just worry about how my boobs are looking or feeling. I spend the whole time while doing ANYTHING with a guy just worrying about keeping them as breastly as possible. I worry about becoming a big rib display- like some kid's science fair project.

It seems to me that if a woman had not-small breasts, she could just enjoy the moment and get into whatever was going on without constantly monitoring the goings-on in her chest area.

And she wouldn't feel compelled to do more than she really wanted to either. I hate that I do that!!!!!!!!

And guys would want to feel her boobs, so she could enjoy it when they did. I'd like to enjoy that! I'd like to believe that any guy would actually like to feel or in any way come in contact with my boobs.

I'd like a guy to spend a good deal of time in that area because he WANTED to, and not because he felt compelled to, in order to convince me that he doesn't mind my being small...but I guess I should feel lucky if a guy even cares enough to spend some time in that region for any reason, since some men have not done it even after I begged them to.

And I'd like it to be where the guy would be spending time in that area and I could enjoy it instead of feeling that horrible prickly fear or whatever it is that I get...like 'how bad is this for him?" and "I know he's going to stop any second now because he can't possibly be enjoying this, so I'd better not get used to it" and "I'd better not let myself feel good right now because then I'll miss it when he never does it again: now that he's felt them he surely won't bother again" and "this may be the last time any guy touches them in my entire life so I'd better enjoy it while I can."

So how can I enjoy sex type stuff when I'm feeling like THAT???

Blah

stupid boobs

[Vendetta]

Yes, we also like them because they're sexy. We'd all like to be able to wear those gorgeous bras that create amazing cleavage. Why? So we can blow a man's mind? No!!! Because, again, it's a symbol of womanhood and that is sexy. We like feeling sexy for ourselves. When you are a woman, and you look in the mirror and feel sexy for YOURSELF, it's like this warm excited feeling running within you. We just like feeling sexy in our own skin. We like to look at a gorgeous bra or top and think "Hey, I'd look HOT in that". And then you wear it and you look hot in it, and you feel good with yourself. You can have 1000 men leering at you, but if you don't feel sexy with yourself, if you don't feel womanly enough, those men are nothing, they don't even exist. Because it's not about men, our lives don't function around pleasing men. It's all about self confidence. It's like wanting to make love to yourself, in some way.

mynameislala HAVE SAID IT ALL.

[honeybunch]

Lightchested, there are benefits of breastfeeding to moms as well. For instance, reduced risk of certain cancers, breastfeeding is good for bone health, and amenorrhea and decreased fertility esp. if mom nurses on cue.

7 benefits to moms

Stongirl, I also hate thinking of breasts as just being "funbags." Last night I made the mistake of falling asleep with Spike TV on then waking up to Manswers. That show makes me wanna barf. Of course, i wake up just in time to hear ,"There's nothing we love more than big jugs" then proceed to show a woman with huge, inflated implants. They looked all hard it wasn't even a good boob job.

I used to be a 38A, and OMG it was just impossible to find bras.

[auralpoison]

Just for the record, I refused breast feeding. I was born two months premature, my mom pumped & I took it from a bottle, but when she tried to feed me at home? I spat that nipple out. I would drink it from the bottle, but refused the teat. To this very day I will not drink milk of any kind.

Formula is CRAZY expensive. My cousin works at the Kroger & has to deal with women trying to "return" stolen formula. They are required to make a hashmark with a marker on formula that was bought with WIC. Some shady sorts try to bring it back because it costs so much. $30 a can. That's a couple bindles of crack right there.

[bottleblack]

Well lightchested, I am not a mother nor an expert. But I work in childcare with infants and toddlers and have seen both sides of the spectrum. Formula can be easier, in some regards. But I think a lot of women choose to breastfeed because of the strong research indicating the extreme health benefits of breast milk compared to formula. Emotionally, physically, intelectually, it is a far better choice. It is nutritionally exactly what a newborn needs, without the preserving chemicals and other things that are added to powder milk. To some, this is worth all the hurdles of breastfeeding. But also I think breastfeeding is often actually more convenient. If you are travelling, for example, no need to lug around big containers of formula, sterilize bottles in boiling water, measure out scoops of powder, heat up bottles. Just whip out a boob instead.
One more plus for breastfeeding is also the cost factor. I'm not sure about the U.S but here in Canada containers of formula do not come cheap! The large ones are often almost $30 and last only a few weeks. It's more than a lot of families can afford.
Hormonally, breastfeeding can also help the body heal more quickly after childbirth, helping cue the uterus to resume its normal size, and even helping the body use up preganancy weight because of all the calories it burns. It has also been shown to reduce chances of breast cancer if women have breast fed.
But those are just a few reasons!

[lightchested]

Strongirl (or anyone who has breast fed, or knows that they want to),

Please don't be offended by this question: it's something I've wondered for a long time and hope I can ask it here.

I am very curious about this breastfeeding thing. Did you feel like it would be a great experience before you did it, or did you only find out it was great after you did it?

I ask because all my life it's seemed like it would be nothing but a nuisance. Am I missing some critical female DNA or something? What's wrong with me? All I can think of is, if they sell it in cans, already whipped up & ready to go, wouldn't that be easier? Am I the ultimate lazy-ass? Why do I feel this way?

Is my inability to understand the joy of this altruistic behavior linked with the fact that I've spent the last 20 years of my life playing video games? Have I become so reliant on pressing a button for instant problem resolution (e.g. to jump on an enemy octopus's leg, rendering it useless, to assure my survival) that I cannot see the merits of putting real life time and effort into nourishing the life of an infant?

I am a feminist, but I just don't get the whole breast-feeding thing, given there is an "opt out" method sold in most grocery stores. Also, I am not much into camping, given that there are plenty of hotels available almost anywhere one wants to travel. Maybe I just always take the easy way out.

God I'm lazy.

[strongirl]

Nice perspectives re. breasts being so much more than "funbags" (geez, I hate that term! The visual it calls up for me is truly disgusting.)

I have gotten much sexual pleasure out of my little breasts over the years but certainly their high point as far as I'm concerned was in providing sustenance for my son. Breastfeeding was a truly mind-blowing, wonderful experience for me. When I looked at my six-month-old baby, round and fat and healthy as could be and fed with nothing but my own breastmilk, I felt a very deep satisfaction and pride and gratitude to my breasts. And don't ever think that small-breasted women produce less milk. I could have fed half of Denver.

We've rarely touched on it in here but I think one of the greatest harms of our culture's emphasis on breasts as sexual objects for men is that women are afraid to nurse their own babies for fear it will hurt their appearance and lessen their sexual appeal. That is so wrong and sad.

Here's to breasts: life-giving, sexy, and powerful, at any size.

[mynameislala]

Oh my God, lightchested!

Every word you wrote is so true. Having breasts is so much more than just filling out tops, or looking hot in bed.

Your post was beautiful. I wish every man and women (because so many women ignore the fact that breasts are more than sexy "funbags"), would consider everything that comes along with having breasts (of any size). You could even say that aesthetics is the least important concern!

Breasts are just like any other organ. They have to be taken care of. They need the proper fit. They are definitely not FUN bags sometimes. I wish more people would realize that.

Again, great post.

[P Lover Ray]

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[treehugger]

Yep...once you get to 38, the smallest cup size is a C.... Sport bras work well for me, but it'd be nice to have options. I can sort of wear a 36 C if it's one of those kind of "formed" ones so it doesn't wrinkle over my breasts. but it digs into my ribs and doesn't fit me right...blah. And a 38 C is WAYYYY out of my league. heh.

AP, I love your last post...I want to have your internet babies.

[bottleblack]

Treehugger I'm totally a 38B as well, and bra sizes always stop at 36 B!!

[lightchested]

This is to P Lover Ray, or Kegel Boy, or whatever your name is...

Today my small breasts are affecting me thusly:

1) While taking a shower this morning, I had to ignore all the lumps that are so palpable in my breasts due to the largeness of lump size relative to my small breast size. I had to try to push the fear of cancer out of my mind and remind myself that since having lost 40 pounds (and consequently a substantial amount of breast fat) my fibrocystic lumps are going to be more palpable, and are not necessarily an indication of cancer. I have to also push out of my mind my Bi-RADS rating from an MRI I had done 2 years ago, and convince myself that it only indicated such a high probability of a cancerous lump in my right breast because I have such small, dense breasts, and that MRIs are typically not indicated for reliable screenings of small breasts.

2) I put on my Calvin Klein bralette, size small/petite (to fit my breasts) but am dealing with the pain of the straps digging into my shoulders, since Calvin Klein apparently believes that those with small breasts have small bodies. I am a tall adult woman, and my small breasts do not reside 3 inches below my shoulders. This bralette's non-adjustable shoulder straps are killing me. I suppose if I could have bought the medium or large sized bralette, the straps would probably be longer, for the designer would have assumed a larger (adult) body to go with the medium or large sized boobs. But I can't buy the medium or large sized bralette because I have very small breasts on my tall adult body. And so my shoulders are getting new ridges in them that will serve as canals should I decide to turn my head to either side and start crying about my small breasted plight.

3) My pretty pink sweater with rhinestone zipper (size small) is wrinkling all over my boobs, since its designer clearly expected that whoever wore this garment would have more significantly sized flesh mounds in that area than do I. I look like a child wearing her mother's "fancy grownup clothes". But they are my clothes. And they don't come any smaller, so I just have to walk around looking like I am playing dress-up.

Now, my question to you, P Lover Ray, is this:
How will Kegel exercises improve my small breasted plight in any of the above-mentioned scenarios?
1) Will developing my Kegel muscles make my breast lumps go away? Will tightening them make me forget my fears of breast cancer?
2) Will better Kegel muscles lengthen the straps of the Calvin Klein small/petite bralette?
3) Can I Kegel my way to a wrinkle-free New Year's Eve sweater?

These are not the only challenges I have with my small breasts, by any means! But they are the ones that are most affecting me today. And as far as I know, no amount of tightening my p**** is going to assist in overcoming any of these challenges.

What you posted on this board is very insulting to us. It is closed-minded and egotistical. It assumes that we view our breasts as sex toys, and they are so much more than that to us. Your posts were degrading.

[kittenb]

I think Pollystyrene brought MWET to Bust. It means: Men Who Explain Things.