[skindeep1991]

happy story time!

i've been going on dates with a new, really sweet guy (the one mentioned earlier, he managed to make his way out of the friend zone) and after a few more dates i felt comfortable enough with him to bring him back to my apartment. we didn't have sex or anything, we just canoodled on my couch for a bit. but while he was kissing my neck he started you know, moving downwards and he pulled my blouse down until one of my boobies was exposed and started kissing it, but i got embarrassed and tried to pull it back. but instead of letting me he cupped them both with his hands and said, "babe, please don't be embarrassed, these are perfect". then he proceeded to take off my entire shirt and bra and continued to kiss and fondle them.

sooo, this was important because it was the first time i've ever let a guy see my breasts! i'm so happy that I was finally able to do it, because just last month i thought i would never be able to be completely naked with a guy because of my boobie issues. we've seen each other multiple times since this incident and i still blush and cover them a little when he first takes my bra off, but he just says something sweet like, "i don't get why you cover them up, all it does is block my tongue.". or if it comes off in the heat of the moment and i get self conscious after i've processed that i'm topless and ask to put my bra back on, he simply says, "no! i'm not finished with them yet!". and to top it off, the first time he saw them all he said was, "don't mind if i do!" with the biggest smile on his face. he really is a gem and i'm soo thankful to have met him. i know that finding a partner who adores your body is only half the battle. i still struggle with my BDD and it's still hard to really believe a lot of the things he says, but this experience has really showed me that it is possible for me to show my boobs to a guy without the world coming to an end, and it showed me what true intimacy is really like

This makes me happier than you can imagine! I'm so glad you've found that and I'm glad he's so supportive. It will get easier and being nervous about it at first is normal. I remember when I first started sleeping with my boyfriend I used to cover up straight away and freak out like that. But the support from him is fantastic! I'm so happy for you Dee I hope this is the beginning of changing the way you see them.
I know you shouldn't need men to make you feel good about yourself but it really helps when someone finds them attractive!

[DeeRayy]

happy story time!

i've been going on dates with a new, really sweet guy (the one mentioned earlier, he managed to make his way out of the friend zone) and after a few more dates i felt comfortable enough with him to bring him back to my apartment. we didn't have sex or anything, we just canoodled on my couch for a bit. but while he was kissing my neck he started you know, moving downwards and he pulled my blouse down until one of my boobies was exposed and started kissing it, but i got embarrassed and tried to pull it back. but instead of letting me he cupped them both with his hands and said, "babe, please don't be embarrassed, these are perfect". then he proceeded to take off my entire shirt and bra and continued to kiss and fondle them.

sooo, this was important because it was the first time i've ever let a guy see my breasts! i'm so happy that I was finally able to do it, because just last month i thought i would never be able to be completely naked with a guy because of my boobie issues. we've seen each other multiple times since this incident and i still blush and cover them a little when he first takes my bra off, but he just says something sweet like, "i don't get why you cover them up, all it does is block my tongue.". or if it comes off in the heat of the moment and i get self conscious after i've processed that i'm topless and ask to put my bra back on, he simply says, "no! i'm not finished with them yet!". and to top it off, the first time he saw them all he said was, "don't mind if i do!" with the biggest smile on his face. he really is a gem and i'm soo thankful to have met him. i know that finding a partner who adores your body is only half the battle. i still struggle with my BDD and it's still hard to really believe a lot of the things he says, but this experience has really showed me that it is possible for me to show my boobs to a guy without the world coming to an end, and it showed me what true intimacy is really like

[discowombat]

not at all! you're one of the younger ones so know one here expects you to know everything. please continue to think of this place as somewhere where you can ask questions without feeling naive. i know i've posted plenty of things on my bad boobie days that i later shake my head at. but that's what this place is for ^.^

I second DeeRayy on this!

[DeeRayy]

Hey!

Just wanted to apologize to you all if I came off as really biased. I wanted to come on here and expand my knowledge on it a bit ^^; Now I know a bit more. I think I'll be scurrying off the boards now, haha.

Sorry if I have wasted any of your time and such.

not at all! you're one of the younger ones so know one here expects you to know everything. please continue to think of this place as somewhere where you can ask questions without feeling naive. i know i've posted plenty of things on my bad boobie days that i later shake my head at. but that's what this place is for ^.^

[wondermist]

wondermist, have you missed the entire recent susan b. komen drama

like how that little pink ribbon is a symbol of their bs

and utter hypocrisy

their logo represents NOTHING except wasted monies

i <3 boobies page

you seem to be very biased though you admit to knowing nothing about the wristbands

except that you think they are sold in "adult stores" and that only "boys" wear them

i can assure you that they are available in many reputable places

to many kinds of people

not just pervy "boys"

and there is nothing wrong with "adult stores"

they exist so that adults can get their freak on without offending the childrens

or the uptights

Hey!

Just wanted to apologize to you all if I came off as really biased. I wanted to come on here and expand my knowledge on it a bit ^^; Now I know a bit more. I think I'll be scurrying off the boards now, haha.

Sorry if I have wasted any of your time and such.

[skindeep1991]

hey all. so i recently got an interesting proposition from a friend of mine. he's a guy i was once dating but had to friendzone (first time i've ever done THAT to someone). anyway, we've gotten pretty close and he now knows about my boobie issues. and on tuesday night he heard me cry over it for the first time on the phone while he was asking me about it (i still cry over it at least a couple times a month sadly). i even admitted to him that i can't take off my bra during sex and that i've never let anyone see them because i don't feel like a normal woman and he kept reassuring me that i was worrying over nothing. and so i, being the stuborn person i am, replied "well you've never seen them", to which he replied, "then let me see". i took it as him hitting on me and scolded him. and he explained, "look, you've already turned me down so i'm not gonna try to get into your pants. i just want to give you my honest opinion so you can see that you're worrying over nothing.". i said that if he was gonna be honest then i wasn't sure if i really wanted to hear what he has to say about them, to which he simply replied, "i can assure you you'll feel much better if we do this. you can't hide them forever. maybe it'll help you feel more comfortable in the future. and i promise you lots of guys will share my opinion because to us, boobs are boobs [[damn that stupid line!!!]]". he even went as far to tell me that he's been with a girl smaller than me and he simply looked at them as breasts, not as anything "inferior". i'm seriously considering doing this, but what do you guys think?

I think it's a good idea to boost your confidence, but seeing as he's your friend will it make things awkward? because you'd have to see him face to face eventually and would you be alright with the idea of knowing he's seen them? I think although its a fantastic idea you need to really think about the situation you'll be putting yourself in. Also if you are to take one and send it to him just take it of your breasts (no face or anything) so no one can say it's you just to be on the safe side. I'm a little over paranoid about these things I guess haha. Tell you what though I've sent mine to kerabear and vice versa and it does make you feel better even if its just to know you're really not alone. So if you ever feel like you'd want to I'd trade pictures of you or I'm sure one of the other girlies would.
If you feel like he'd be honest then my dear I say go for it, what have you got to lose?

[KeraBear]

hey all. so i recently got an interesting proposition from a friend of mine. he's a guy i was once dating but had to friendzone (first time i've ever done THAT to someone). anyway, we've gotten pretty close and he now knows about my boobie issues. and on tuesday night he heard me cry over it for the first time on the phone while he was asking me about it (i still cry over it at least a couple times a month sadly). i even admitted to him that i can't take off my bra during sex and that i've never let anyone see them because i don't feel like a normal woman and he kept reassuring me that i was worrying over nothing. and so i, being the stuborn person i am, replied "well you've never seen them", to which he replied, "then let me see". i took it as him hitting on me and scolded him. and he explained, "look, you've already turned me down so i'm not gonna try to get into your pants. i just want to give you my honest opinion so you can see that you're worrying over nothing.". i said that if he was gonna be honest then i wasn't sure if i really wanted to hear what he has to say about them, to which he simply replied, "i can assure you you'll feel much better if we do this. you can't hide them forever. maybe it'll help you feel more comfortable in the future. and i promise you lots of guys will share my opinion because to us, boobs are boobs [[damn that stupid line!!!]]". he even went as far to tell me that he's been with a girl smaller than me and he simply looked at them as breasts, not as anything "inferior". i'm seriously considering doing this, but what do you guys think?

Wellll... hmmm.... tricky. well i normally would counsel not letting anyone pressure you into doing anything you are not comfortable doing. Buuuuut I also believe that in some cases stepping out if your comfort can be a good thing. I think this just might be one of those times. I mean, i obviously don't know this guy, but from how yo've described him so far, he doesn't sound like (as Karategrrl would eloquently put it) an asshat. He sounds "safe". Certainly far from your first boyfriend when it comes to boob perspective, that is for sure. I say go for it.

[DeeRayy]

hey all. so i recently got an interesting proposition from a friend of mine. he's a guy i was once dating but had to friendzone (first time i've ever done THAT to someone). anyway, we've gotten pretty close and he now knows about my boobie issues. and on tuesday night he heard me cry over it for the first time on the phone while he was asking me about it (i still cry over it at least a couple times a month sadly). i even admitted to him that i can't take off my bra during sex and that i've never let anyone see them because i don't feel like a normal woman and he kept reassuring me that i was worrying over nothing. and so i, being the stuborn person i am, replied "well you've never seen them", to which he replied, "then let me see". i took it as him hitting on me and scolded him. and he explained, "look, you've already turned me down so i'm not gonna try to get into your pants. i just want to give you my honest opinion so you can see that you're worrying over nothing.". i said that if he was gonna be honest then i wasn't sure if i really wanted to hear what he has to say about them, to which he simply replied, "i can assure you you'll feel much better if we do this. you can't hide them forever. maybe it'll help you feel more comfortable in the future. and i promise you lots of guys will share my opinion because to us, boobs are boobs [[damn that stupid line!!!]]". he even went as far to tell me that he's been with a girl smaller than me and he simply looked at them as breasts, not as anything "inferior". i'm seriously considering doing this, but what do you guys think?

[KeraBear]

awww anne, lay off a bit eh? Wondermist is only 15! (or 16, i forget which). I don't recall seeing anyplace in there where she was railing against adult stores. But I can certainly see where the confusion might lie with the meaning of the bracelets. And i detinitely have no problems imagining many a teenage boy wearing one! Lol

[Anne_Ecdote]

wondermist, have you missed the entire recent susan b. komen drama

like how that little pink ribbon is a symbol of their bs

and utter hypocrisy

their logo represents NOTHING except wasted monies

i <3 boobies page

you seem to be very biased though you admit to knowing nothing about the wristbands

except that you think they are sold in "adult stores" and that only "boys" wear them

i can assure you that they are available in many reputable places

to many kinds of people

not just pervy "boys"

and there is nothing wrong with "adult stores"

they exist so that adults can get their freak on without offending the childrens

or the uptights

[wondermist]

Hey everybody!

Recently, I learned that those "I <heart> BOOBIES!" wristbands that everybody's been wearing around school is apparently for breast cancer awareness. Your thoughts? ((Though this may be old news...))

I personally feel that the bands do not... help breast cancer awareness at all. They're mostly sold in adult stores or something from what I've heard. They do not have the logo on them either so how is this suppose to help? I'm very curious. Mostly boys wear them to no surprise.

[karategrrl]

just wanted to let you guys know that i'm currently going on dates with four different guys right now, which means i'm living proof that you can still be a playa playa without even the slightest hint of cleavage

I like this. You go, girl.

[DeeRayy]

just wanted to let you guys know that i'm currently going on dates with four different guys right now, which means i'm living proof that you can still be a playa playa without even the slightest hint of cleavage

[KeraBear]

betty dodson and carlin ross discussed my question on their web show!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wHzfYwSfOJg...mp;feature=plcp

Wowy, you are becoming quite the web sensation, aren't you? . i do agree with pretty much all that they said though. Especially that bit about how when he is... umm... into you... he is most likely not being critical of anything about you. He's just haopy to be there! Plus he DID orgasm after getting hus hands on those hot lil booblets of yours, no? Just sayin'... oh yea and btw major props to those two for doing what they do. i mean i can't see myself putting myself out there on youtube telling the world about how my nipples are hardwired to my clitoris (even though its sorta true lol). Now that takes some serious balls!

Skindeep - any new updates on you and your bf?? That reminds me soooooo much of my senior year in HS when i came onto this board in tears after discovering porn on my exes computer. I went on to check my email and instead found these tall, busty, curvy NEKKID blondes staring back at me. I was devastated!! Not just because they were other women, but mostly cuz they were the opposite of my short, smallie non blonde self. I cried myself to sleep that night. But if anything good came out of it,it forced us to talk about stuff like that and got it out in the open. i was foolish to think that he wouldn't look at porn. i mean most teen boys do. But still it broke my heart. PM me if you wanna pick my brain about it.

[DeeRayy]

betty dodson and carlin ross discussed my question on their web show!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wHzfYwSfOJg...mp;feature=plcp

[discowombat]

:-) I'm so happy for you. I understand where you are coming from and any progress is great!

[DeeRayy]

hey guys!
just popped in to share some nice news. i was able to semi-remove my bra in front of my fwb last night! We were going about things as usual, and while i was on top of him he started feeling me up through my bra. and i was caught up in the moment, so i unhooked my bra and placed his hands underneath the cups of my bra so he could feel my actual boobs. i have no idea what his expression was like during all this (the lights were off), but he ended up pulling me towards him so our bodies were pressed together, and it was a really nice feeling (my bra was essentiall hanging from my torso at this point). i still had to put it back on right away when we switched positions, but i'm really glad i was able to make a little progress! and to make things even better, he was able to orgasm for the first time in like, a month despite his ed problems he's been having! so overall it was a really nice experience. i still would never let him actually SEE them, but i feel like i made a breakthrough last night

[discowombat]

Not to change the subject, but I got my bras from The Little Bra Company and gave them a test run. I ordered Lucia, which is considered to be their standard sized bra, in 3 different sizes to see what worked best since I'm not used to having options. For reference I am 5'3" 110 lbs (26" underbust, 30.5" overbust) and suspected that I should be wearing a 28B in non-petite sizes based on how my previous bras fit. I generally ignore the old "add 4-5 inches" rule because it has never worked for me.

Verdict: Little Bra Company runs small in the band & a little small in the cup because they are sized for petite and/or small framed people. I ended up going with the 30B and I have to wear it on the loosest hook. The band still felt a little tight on my first wear, but it might just be because I'm just used to my bras being too big. I expect that it will stretch a bit after a few wears as all bras are apt to do. The cups are very close together and contain some angled padding which did nice things for my boobs despite Lucia not being a pushup bra. There's more padding in there than I'm used to but it doesn't look or feel ridiculous. It's actually really comfortable and my boobs more or less stay where I put them even when I move around. Time will tell, but they seem pretty well made and the lace actually lays really smoothly so it doesn't show under shirts. Considering that I usually have to spend $30 just to find something that's close to my proper size, it's worth the extra cost for these. Assuming this first one holds up well, I will definitely be buying more the next time I find a coupon code/sale.

If anyone has any questions feel free to ask.

[secretsights88]

Oh skindeep, you poor thing! I can only imagine how you feel... I mean, I once had an ex comment on women with big breasts and I felt so self conscious, I really never got over it when I was with him... but I was younger. Good thing is, the self consciousness was only with him, if any other guy shows interest in me or makes good comments about my breasts, I don't doubt their sexiness.

What your boyfriend did was douchey. But, as much as I hate this expression, "boys will be boys". It's no excuse, though. It was disrespectful, and he will have to understand that. But please remember it has NOTHING to do with you... please, please, PLEASE remember that you're a BEAUTIFUL, SEXY woman. Don't let his comments interfere with how you see yourself, I've been there and it's the worst form of self-sabotage one can get trapped into when it comes to body image. I know it's really hard, but remember that who you are is not defined by anyone else's comments or opinions but your own.

I find it so pathetic that society has encouraged this "boys will be boys" mentality in men (and some women, too). The idea that men are supposed to objectify women because it's the "manly" thing to do, which I find so stupid. And many guys do follow that just to "belong". I find it so sad, because in many cases, guys truly don't mean what they say or post and they just do it in order to seem "manly", which is really sad because they allow peer pressure to get the best of them. Whenever I come across a respectful guy who doesn't follow this "pack mentality", I'm just overjoyed. Sadly, they're hard to find.

I think men do get a clue, but much later in life. Hang in there skindeep. You have to decide how you handle this, and your boyfriend better gives you the time and understanding you need for this. But like I said, please remember that his behavior is no reflection of you. You rock, you're sexy and beautiful. Own it!

[skindeep1991]

Now, I say the following not as an excuse for his behavior, but hopefully to help you out of your funk a little. Remember that "online" is a very safe, anonymous place where people often do and say things they otherwise would not and; guys in particular are prone to the male "pack" syndrome, where he may say things to go along with the crowd (even an online one) and feel like one of the guys (asshole guys, yes...but he wants to belong). So keep in mind that his asinine comments are no reflection of YOU, your worth, or sexiness.

Right now I would like to slap him but you say he has redeeming qualities so I trust that. Just lookin' out for my fellow busties and feeling protective!!

Thank you karate it's funny you say that because that's what my mother said and when I asked him why he even said 'I don't know I was just showing off for comments, I didn't mean them' ...but he must have meant them to some extent because the thought wouldn't have crossed his mind to say it anyway. He spent hours crying to me last night about how he's 'sorry' and about how he doesn't want to lose me. I told him that I need time to calm down and think about things because at the moment I feel like everything he's ever told me about my body being gorgeous, about loving me the way I am and about how there's no one else for him is a massive lie.
And you know the breast comments he made, those are the ones that hurt me the worst. I cant believe he did it, I honestly would have bet my life that he wouldn't have done this. I was always telling people how amazing he is to me and about how comfortable I am with him . I know it's a cliche the whole ' I never expected it from him ' but I really didn't he's the crying type usually really shy and I had to kiss him first. I just feel so betrayed right now.

To be honest I just keep thinking about what is wrong with me for these things to happen, there must be something wrong with me if a nice guy that claims he loves me and talks about wanting to move in with me will do these things.

I dunno, It's not been a very good few days.

Thank you so much for your kind words though