[missladyj]

could you post a link? I couldn't find it. thanks!

[hellotampon]

Has anyone seen the comment war going on under that article about STFU Parents on the main Bust site?

[snow white]

I mean, I don't even comprehend why married women have children so it's clearly just not a part of life I am qualified to judge.

totes (totally)

[sybarite]

'Then I spend a weekend doing whatever I want, and all week working my butt of for the career I want, and I know it's everyone else that's crazy.' YES. This sentence not only exactly mirrors how I feel but also reminds me why I love the lounge. Cheers angie!

[angie_21]

Every once in a while I wonder if I'm a freak for having never thought about my "dream" wedding, never picked a baby name, never written Mrs. in front of my name to see what it looks like, and never asked to hold a baby. Then I spend a weekend doing whatever I want, and all week working my butt of for the career I want, and I know it's everyone else that's crazy. They can give in to lowest common denominator biological urges if they want, I'm not putting myself through that sh*t just to feel like I'm somehow a better, more "productive" member of society. I work, and my taxes pay for their kids' education anyways! (I don't mind that, education should be the #1 government priority, before health care even)

I would never judge a single woman who got "knocked up" because I will never know what reason. I mean, I don't even comprehend why married women have children so it's clearly just not a part of life I am qualified to judge. And accidents DO happen, and a lot of girls never get the education they need, or access to health care, to stop accidents from happening. How can you judge her when it's probably some dumbass guy convincing her that not using protection won't hurt, just this once? I might be prejudiced because I know girls who have been in that situation, and kept the baby, and they were none of the things you say.

[snow white]

parenthood really does seem like a trap to me. i know if i had a kid i'd love it and protect it, but i get a kick out of ppl who act like they've "caught the pregnancy". maby i should stop watching "16 and pregnant". while i'm at it i should stop going to wal-mart.

and i still feel like a freak for not having that list of baby names ready and waiting.

[missladyj]

pregnant woman" I can't stop blowing my nose or going to the bathroom. So when are you going to enjoy the thrills of pregnancy?"
me " Never"

the end.

[missladyj]

bitch away faerie!

[faerietails]

hey everyone,

i just felt like coming in here because i'm kinda bummed. one of my close relatives is currently pregnant, and i'm happy for her. i am. i just hate the romanticization (is that a word?) of pregnancy. i'm sure there will be fucking badass moments? but it's also something that will have plenty of moments of obnoxious, boring, frustrating bullshit. and it's something that women have done since the beginning of time.

i'm just...ahhhhhhhhhh! it's bitchy of me to go there, but christ.

[auralpoison]

Oh. My. God. WTF? "Ditch the diaper / do the dance!" I particularly loved the fat middle aged dad in the back.

[pollystyrene]

This is just horrific. The things you hear when you forget to mute the commercials.

[pollystyrene]

Oh, we don't see him for a couple weeks, so we'll see.

Have you seen the Dudeist Wedding Ceremony? It's in red, about halfway down. Love it!

[sassygrrl]

How did it go polly?

We're still trying to figure out officiants as well.
I'm considering Dudeist (I wonder if anyone would do that in my wedding party?)or Buddhist. We have a meeting with a guy next week. I don't what the ceremony consists of though.

[pollystyrene]

None of her business and none of the church's business, especially since we don't even belong to a church and LeBoy's not really a practicing Catholic. He still considers himself one, but sees no need to go to church more than Christmas and Easter.

Well, we're meeting with the priest on the 25th, so let's hope my worries are a moot point.

[culturehandy]

Polly, I'm angry for you and the MIL comments. It's your life and even if you did decide to have kids, it's none of her business. If she wants to raise more catholic children, she best be getting started on having kids of her own.

[sassy]

So I lost a childfree-by-choicer to pregnancy A friend from high school posted that she was pregnant on facebook. She had been one of the few friends in my childfree by choice corner. I don't know if this was planned, but I would have to guess that it wasn't. I had talked to her fairly recently and she was still not wanting babies. *sigh*

[pollystyrene]

Read this part again, polly. Think about it. A man who left the priesthood so he could shack up with a nun, may not be so high and mighty about your reproductive system. He wasn't able to follow such a rigid order himself and neither was his wife. Keep an open mind with this meeting. I think he may just want to get to know Pete and you as a couple so he can feel connected and prepare a wedding ceremony which reflects your relationship. My friend had her wedding officiated by a minister and just meet briefly with the man to talk about their relationship. I think *that* discussion with LeMom was more about her agenda for Pete and you to have kids. Don't let her crack you!

((((((((((((((polly & leboy))))))))))))))))))

Oh, I don't disagree- LeBoy made the same point and said he'd even call him on it because they didn't have kids after they got married, either. All these months since we decided to use him as our officiant, I've been looking forward to it because I felt like it would please all involved and now I hope we're not scrambling to find an officiant at the last minute and have a not-pleased LeMom, who is wondering why we split with her friend over "irreconcilable differences ". I've given LeBoy until the end of this week to call him and set up our first little chat.

If this doesn't work, I wonder if I can get a Satanic priest or something. Hey, prophecy_guy is an ordained Dudeist priest!

[stargazer]

We're getting married in May by a laicized priest- a former Catholic priest, a friend of LeBoy's family, who quit the priesthood to marry a nun. He still retains his authority to perform marriages, but cannot do them in a church. I've met the man, he's very nice, a good liberal Catholic.

Read this part again, polly. Think about it. A man who left the priesthood so he could shack up with a nun, may not be so high and mighty about your reproductive system. He wasn't able to follow such a rigid order himself and neither was his wife. Keep an open mind with this meeting. I think he may just want to get to know Pete and you as a couple so he can feel connected and prepare a wedding ceremony which reflects your relationship. My friend had her wedding officiated by a minister and just meet briefly with the man to talk about their relationship. I think *that* discussion with LeMom was more about her agenda for Pete and you to have kids. Don't let her crack you!

((((((((((((((polly & leboy))))))))))))))))))

[pollystyrene]

The CBC issue is rearing its ugly head again in my relationship, or in people surrounding us, anyway. We're getting married in May by a laicized priest- a former Catholic priest, a friend of LeBoy's family, who quit the priesthood to marry a nun. He still retains his authority to perform marriages, but cannot do them in a church. I've met the man, he's very nice, a good liberal Catholic. I knew there would probably be some religiousness in the ceremony he will do, but I hope he'll dial it back a bit since I'm not Catholic and have no intention of becoming so.

Because we're not getting married in the church, we don't have to do the Pre-Cana (the premarital counseling that the Catholic church requires), but our "priest" still wants to sit down and talk to us about stuff...it's a little silly; we'll have been together 9 years by the time we get married, living together for 5 years- we've handled most of the issues they cover in those classes, but if it makes him feel better, whatever. I've given LeBoy the responsibility of scheduling our time together with him, which of course means it hasn't been done yet

Yesterday, at a family party, LeMom mentioned that she and LeDad went out to dinner with our "priest" and his wife this week and he mentioned that we haven't called yet. She also said, in her most passive-aggressive voice possible, "I know you two don't plan on having kids, but since there is always the possibility that you could change your minds, you know he is going to ask about that, and if you are going to raise them as Catholics." I told her that he can ask us, but it's going to be a moot point. She said, "well, you never know, people change their minds, and he is still marrying you as a priest, so he has to make sure of these things. I mean, you never know, you could change your mind- it is physically possible that you have kids...it is physically possible, right?" LeBoy and I just sort of hemmed and hawed.

After we left, we talked about it in the car and I said that I'll be happy to discuss the issue with the "priest" before the wedding (and if the standard confidentiality still applies, I'll even tell him how certain I am we're not having kids- the vasectomy saw to that!) but under no circumstances do I want the "yes, we promise to raise the kids Catholic" as part of the ceremony itself- even if I was having kids, my wedding ceremony has nothing to do with them and I wouldn't want it mentioned. LeBoy said that was fine with him, but he even wonders if our "priest" will even ask us about that- just because his mom says he will doesn't mean he will.

Ugh, I just looked up what a normal Catholic ceremony entails....crap, what have I gotten myself into? The "priest" knows that I'm not Catholic and has still agreed to do our wedding, but now I'm worried about his expectations and if we don't follow the Catholic ceremony to whatever degree he wants us to, if he won't marry us.

[pollystyrene]

Oh, the video is just a little puppy who's scared to go down the stairs and is wimpering pitifully, in a cute way- not an ASPCA commercial with Sarah McGlauchlin or anything.