[neurotic.nelly]

I love that kick ass post/poem, looneydaray!
That's truth, right there. WORD!

eta: don't mind my avatar and signature. no disrespect to skinny girls, i just like her sassy stance.

[Melanielouise]

Haha! I am so proud to be able to pull of the pixie/rocker look!

[Aithinne]

loonydaray, very feisty.. love it!

[karategrrl]

Small breast poetry. Love it, loonydaray!

[strongirl]

looneydaray - That was really cool and beautiful. I love what you wrote. Thanks for lifting my 'tude this morning.

[loonydaray]

haha, i didn't realize how long that was
i just was reading way far back and you guys just make me smile and feel so confident
it's awesome

[loonydaray]

my favorite thing about small breasts is that we can totally pull of this pixie/rocker look
in my mind the bigger the boobs, the less rocker you look
i mean look at people like hayley of paramore
she doesnt draw any attention to her boobs
but she is totally hot and sexy
she's a rocker chick. and i love her look
and then there's this pixie fairy kinda thing we got goin on
small breasts are just so much more...artsy i guess
and i love that because that's the kind of person i am
and the kind of people i am attracted to
artsy
people who don't care about this so-called perfect woman
they just love art..
and that's what the female form is
pure art
i mean come on ladies
we're stunning!
and when it comes down to it the female form does not have this requirement of big boobs
because if you needed big boobs to be feminine
then we'd all have big boobs, because we ARE feminine
if you're a chick then you have to be feminine..
because that's what being a woman is
you can't be a woman and not be feminine really
femininity is the female form, everything about the female form
it doesn't take hips and boobs to be feminine
we don't have boyish forms because when it comes down to it
a guy has a different bone structure than girls
i hate that, boyish form
because no.
i'm not a boy
i'm a woman, dammit
and my form is innately feminine
this post maybe sounds confusing lol
but i hope you guys get what i mean
i just appreciate all of you so much
sometimes i forget that i actually like my boobs
because we tend to focus on what the media presents and what guys are proclaimed to like
but that shouldn't matter, because we are what we are
and we are all naturally perfect in our own ways
there's no universal definition of perfect
everyone looks different and everyone is attracted to different features
perfection, when it comes to looks, is relative to each person
we should all love how we look!
and stop thinking whenever a guy wants a feel "does he wish they were bigger? what is he thinking?"
those aren't the questions
it's a statement "well if he doesn't like my boobs, then that's tough because these are my boobs and i say that they are fabulous"
don't let men or the media get you down
you are all perfect and beautiful in your own ways!
there is no standard of beauty there is just beauty!

rock on, loves

[Vendetta]

I did a Pin Up-inspired shot today with a professional model. She wasn't that great naturally but looked really good after the whole production thing. She had breast implants although I was the only one who could tell (I've seen too many augmentation photos unfortunately). Both girls from my group were just impressed with her chest and I didn't say anything. Large perfect B-cups. All my clothes looked SO good on her. SO much better and she didn't wore any bra. She looked ridiculously confident. Damn.

[karategrrl]

Sure, when theres a guy you like and hes looking at you lustfully its great; but when its just random people everywhere you go its kind of creepy and not too pleasant in my opinion. Guess the grass isn't always greener.

I totally hear ya. I don't mind attention if it's respectful, but so often it's not.

[starship]

Total topic change:
I dressed up a couple of my very-flattering-but-awfully-plain bras this weekend by sewing small, sparkly buttons I'd bought at the craft store to the bras, right between the cups. It really looked cute!! I am looking online for some stretchy lace to embellish them further. In the craft store, they only had non-stretch and I don't think that will work with my stretchy bras.

I had this idea just yesterday! I wanted something comfy but pretty and the only unpadded/unwired bras i could find in my size were plain white cotton ones. im gonna buy some ribbons, buttons, bows, lace- whatever i can get my hands on! and see what i can come up with.

if you want attention in a bar type place clevage isnt the only way. wear a cute dress or some classy shorts and show off your legs- works for me. even if its abit cold and you have to wear some tights too- still just as sexy as boobage. Oh and I also find wearing a strapless top (that a lot of my busty friends could wear simply for practical reasons) works just as well. kind of like what karategrrl was saying about emphasising your best features instead of dwelling on the ones you arent so fond of. if you do it other people will too.

Last week i finally realised what you ladies are talking about with the sexy nippleness! i wore a lycra-type top with no bra and it was rather cold- i had no idea my nipples could be so noticeable! One guy kept glancing at my chest and then glancing away again, only to come back for another look- like he couldnt keep his eyes off. i felt as though i had a pair of double-Dees down there or something. I have to admit though- after all this fuss ive made-I didnt even like the attention! I guess it was a kind of taste of what bigger boobed ladies have to put up with every single day and it wasnt that fun. Sure, when theres a guy you like and hes looking at you lustfully its great; but when its just random people everywhere you go its kind of creepy and not too pleasant in my opinion. Guess the grass isn't always greener.

[karategrrl]

The Wine Rack IS funny!~

discowombat, thanks for sharing about the bras--I'll check them out!

Aithinne, I understand your dilemma but also agree with some other comments here. Though not everyone who goes to a club or bar is shallow, but if you are really looking for quality, the odds are against you in that setting. (One of my best friends met her future husband in a bar, but it's not typical.) I once had a friend who drew attention wherever she went--she loved to be the center of attention and knew how to work it. She was a platinum blonde who'd chat up anyone and everyone, strip off half her clothes and dance on tables, things like that. I got IGNORED when I was with her and I found it really quite funny!! I asked my bf about it and he said, "yeah, of course she gets hit on--she comes across as easy, and you don't." It really opened up my eyes.

Now, it sounds like your friend is a quality person who doesn't go out of her way to "steal" attention from you. Can you go to a less meat-market-type club or bar, or some sort of more authentic group outing or activity, like a hike or book club, writing class, latin dance class, etc.? If you do go out together, do you dress to show off one of more of your 1,000 amazing features? Also, maybe if you went out in a larger group, you could break away from time to time by yourself or with other friends, which might make you more approachable to a guy. And don't forget to approach someone YOU find attractive! Guys have to approach girls most of the time--and risk rejection--so they LUUUV when someone does the hard part for a change! I bet a quality guy who's into the way YOU look might not be as bold as some of the others. You never know--your dream man could be shrinking back, totally into your look and wanting to talk to you, but afraid to approach, saying, "should I?" for so long the opportunity passes. Make it easy for him! Men find assertivess very attractive.

Yes, it's unfair, but though guys do love all kinds of women, in that club setting, I think often it does come down to comparisons between women who are in friend-couples or groups, as that scene DOES (as someone else commented) focus more on the most obvious outer physical features.

And just a tip: I know you want to meet a guy, but if you are looking, one night, to just have fun with your friend, I do recommend going to a lesbian club--you'll find all the good elements of a typical club--music, drinks, fun, people-watching--but a serous shortage of drooling blockhead-type males! And I bet you'd get some serious attention!!! *

Total topic change:
I dressed up a couple of my very-flattering-but-awfully-plain bras this weekend by sewing small, sparkly buttons I'd bought at the craft store to the bras, right between the cups. It really looked cute!! I am looking online for some stretchy lace to embellish them further. In the craft store, they only had non-stretch and I don't think that will work with my stretchy bras.


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*One of my fondest memories is of being at a gay bar and getting totally hit on by this large African-American woman, who was SO cool but just not my type. She made me slow dance with her to Marvin Gaye's "Let's Get It On." I know she could have totally rocked my world if I let her take me home. Every time I hear that song now, I can't NOT smile. I swear, she was salivating. And trying to get my # from my friend!

[Vendetta]

lol WineRack is amazing

[xena]

I haven't posted on this site in ages but I lurk sometimes.

I am happy with my A cups. My husband loves them. Most men I have been with have loved my little tits and have never made me feel less than. I think this thread is great and I commend you all for not caving in and getting surgery. There is nothing wrong we small breasts.

The reason I felt the need to post was cause I came across something funny and thought I would share. I have never thought about wearing an enhancing bra but this one made contemplate it.

http://www.firebox.com/product/2061/The-WineRack

[strongirl]

Aithinne, I think I understand what you are saying and you are explaining yourself quite well. I don't know if my perspective will be helpful to you but here goes. When I go out to bars with busty friends, I am always baffled because I am the one who gets hit on all night, not them. By many conventional western standards, I do not measure up - I am short, dark, small-breasted. But for reasons I've never understood, men find me attractive and I get a lot of male attention, even when I'm with tall busty blond chicks. Go figure.

That being said, bar pickups are rarely if ever going to result in satisfactory relationships. It's just no way to get to know a person - no one is at their best in that meat-market situation. If you enjoy the experience of it - getting dolled up, looking and being looked at, maybe hooking up for a one-nighter, by all means, enjoy it for what it is. But if you want to get into a relationship: take a class, talk to the guy next to you on the plane, go to parties at friends' and meet guys they know, etc.

As far as your being the "laid-back, steady" type who doesn't immediately attract attention, let me say that while I seem to be the opposite, I myself am attracted to people like you! I have always enjoyed watching and then slowing earning the trust of people who don't stand out but when you dig deeper, they look better and better. The rock-solid, quiet, heart-of-gold, and "goddam I had no idea you were gonna look that good naked" types. The rewards are so much greater. My current bf is one of those. It took me 3 weeks of working with him to realize he was attractive. After that, though, it was all over but the shouting. I had to have him. Period.

[discowombat]

I just thought you all might want to know that Vassarette has a line of bras called body curves that seem to run smaller than average and might be a good fit for some of you. I saw them in Walmart today and they were only $10 or so. I normally wear a 32A (and sometimes find they are too big depending on the brand) but the 32A in the Vassarette brand was actually too small. I think fit more like a 32AA. I was excited too because they didn't go overboard with the padding. It was just enough to prevent nipplage. They had a racerback style and he typical style as well. I hope this info helps! I'm always open to hearing about small and cheap brands too!

edit: I found the exact info online.

Style 75-606

BodyCurves®
Cotton Full Coverage Contour Underwire

Sizes: 32A-34A, 34B-38B, 34C-38C

Colors: Stone Grey, Black Sable, White Ice, Mink, Mocha Heather, Dreamy Pink

[Vendetta]

I don't go out for almost 2 years, let's say. If I did went out, it was either kinda boring with my bf or making it wrongly.
I've always felt like a sex kitten with a good outfit/make-up and a couple of drinks. Even if I had forgotten how to, I believe that next time I go out I'll still feel like that sex kitten. I'll think about breasts obviously, but I'll end up my night okay

[starship]

I understood exactly what you were saying aithinne
I hate bars. I dont feel confident about my looks and personality-wise i'm super shy so always make a terrible first impression. not a good combination! Guys try to come onto me sometimes but it never really goes further than that. all my relationships tend to start as friendships first. guess im just a slow burner. It's not so bad but sometimes it'd be nice to just go out and meet someone randomly and hit it off straight away.
I agree with Vendetta on loving your Bcups:)
..I'm suddenly feeling the urge to re-join the gym....
I never really feel inadequate or anything with my bustier friends. although i sometimes get abit jealous when they can wear a gorgeous low-cut top and it instantly guarantees them sexiness/attention- whereas i have to put in abit more effort. and feel awkward when they start talking about anything boob related. eek. i dont like to talk about my boobs much (other than with you guys!); i think if you point out your supposed 'flaws' then it only draws people's attention to them

[Aithinne]

Bars are not the best places to go anyway, because then you have to compete with all the women in outfits that barely cover all the bits. If you actually wear clothes in public, then something else must be eyecatching. At least at the bar scene, it seems like you have to either be naturally stunning or dress slutty to make up for it. Since I don't feel comfortable being so uncovered in public, I try to avoid going to bars. I'm just saying you can't be an ordinary person in a bar. That is, you can't be a normal plain person in a bar if you're trying to attract male attention. At bars, the dynamic works that the man is first attracted, then wants to get to know you better. Some people just have to rely on the slower reverse method of the man getting to know you first so his attraction can grow from that, which does not happen in bars. Breasts are probably not the be all end all to getting hit on at a bar, it's definitely about the package: the face, legs, butt, hair, clothing, attitude, etc as well as breasts. I've got the butt, so that's good. I've heard you can attract someone with attitude, but I'm not an exciting person. I don't mean that in a bad way, it's just to say that I'm more of a laid-back, steady personality that tends to be overshined by other more energetic personality types. I like myself just fine, it just sucks that my looks and personality tend not to be the kind that attract attention in a strong or immediate way. It's hard to explain, I feel like I'm doing a poor job of describing how I feel... I like me, but it's just frustrating to be invisible all the time so I come here to vent. And I like hearing about all you ladies' successes and stories.

And it's not all about breasts. I liked looking at all the pictures posted here of beautiful women with smallies. But they are beautiful no matter what size they have. They are simply beautiful women- if they were in a bar, they'd be one of the naturally stunning women I mentioned above. They have that extra something that takes them out of the realm of ordinary.

Ugh, I'm doing a bad job of putting words to what I'm trying to say. I apologize if my post is confusing.

[Vendetta]

Aithinne, I've said this once and will say it again: men are not the monsters big-boob-lovers you seem to think they are. You shouldn't base your "hotness" and less likely your self-esteem on what men think of your boobs. Men love women, period. Are you saying you only feel bad about your B-cups because you think men don't like them? Where's your self-appreciation? Besides, many women would kill to have your B-cups, myself included. I don't think breasts have anything to do with being hit on a bar and if they do, I don't think those are the kind of men you'd want to be involved with.

I've only had one person telling me he prefered big breasts and that killed me, I assume, but the rest of them were okay with it. I'm not part of this support group because of men, I'm part of it because when I look at myself in the mirror i'd rather have SOME breasts, for myself. Me, myself and I. Enjoy your B-cups.

Mine deflated for good. It was nice to have nearly A-cups for a couple of months

[Aithinne]

Karategrrl- GREAT story! Sometimes I go through the pages of this forum and just read the stories of small booby appreciation by men.. How fabulous- makes me want to kiss that guy! Small breast appreciators of the male variety should be more vocal.

Since today is Thanksgiving, I wanted to tell all you ladies that I'm thankful for you all and your support and wit and intelligence. You all rock!

I've been cruising some small boobie support groups on facebook & myspace, but something bothers me... Have you noticed that the majority of small boobie loving men are all older than 40 years old? Where are the younger men who like smallies? Are they just a rare breed or do they just not exist? It would make me sad to think I had to wait another 20 years for my young looks and small boobs to come into style for men my age. BOOOOOOO. I don't think I can wait another few decades for a man to see me- I'm afraid I'd turn ultra-cynical and hateful.

I was talking to my busty friend about going out and she said we needed to find me a guy, but I don't know.. I didn't know what to say. It was uncomfortable, because there is no way some guy is going to approach me if I go out with her to a bar or club. No offense to her, really, I adore her and she's gorgeous. But I didn't know how to explain to her that her going out with me with the purpose of finding me someone is just futile and not very realistic. I felt awkward because I didn't know how to explain this to her. I just see an entire night of her getting hit on and me being a fly on the wall. Does anyone else sometimes feel out of place and silently rejected when they go out with their busty and beautiful friends?