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post Apr 28 2009, 09:48 PM
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DM - I was on the pill for over 10 years, and the best thing I ever did was get off of it. I felt crazy - really bad mood swings, my libido was really low, I felt like crap. I just decided to stop taking it and see what happened, and about 3 -4 weeks after I'd stopped, it was like the clouds just parted one day. after being off of it for about 2 -3 months, my libido came way back. I didn't feel nearly as crazy.

I was off the pill for just under 6 years when I got an IUD this year (copper T, no hormones, see the IUD thread in OBOH for my story) being completely hormone free is the best thing I ever did. I highly recommend trying it. I feel like I own my body now.
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post Apr 28 2009, 04:10 PM
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Hi medusa - hope things work out. 3 weeks sounds like a good amount of time to think about it. I quit the pill 2.5 months ago. After considering it for months, I just made the decision at the last moment, after a really bad day, even though I had just paid for 2 more packs. I think I hit the breaking point. My take on it, is that you can always go back on the pill if you don't see any difference, and it's can't hurt just to find out. Just remember, things (including possibly headaches) may get worse for a while as your hormones readjust, before they get better.

As for me, I can give another update. The dizzy spells and zits went away after my second cycle. My libido has evened out, it's still not what it used to be, but the pain I was experiencing during sex is slowly disappearing. It is taking a lot longer than I had hoped, though. I am really very happy that I got off the pill right before going through the really stressful situation of being out of work for the last few months - I don't think I would have been able to handle this the way I was before! I am pretty biased because of my past experiences, and my general distaste for the pharmaceutical industry, but I think most of my reasons were pretty soundly backed up by research, even if it is research that tends to be ignored by doctors & the public because of how amazingly convenient the pill is.

I don't know if anyone else saw this on the news recently:
BCP inhibits growth of lean muscle mass during weight training
This has actually been known for a long time, based on the effect of the pill on women's testosterone levels. It's even known to affect tendons/ligaments, though I have no idea where I read that and will have to check back with references if anyone is interested.
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post Apr 27 2009, 05:07 PM
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Thanks for bumping the thread, turns out I was looking in the wrong forum (I was looking in the health forum). Reading through this thread makes me feel better about quitting the pill. This June would be 10 years of continuous use, and I'm feeling like I need to quit the pill. I've had anxiety for a long time, and I think it could be related to the pill. I honestly can't remember if I suffered from anxiety before that, and I also have suffered migraines that my doctor says are linked to the bc pill use. I have to take migraine medicine every month, and I think going off the pill will help. I guess the thing is I won't know if any of these issues are caused by the bc pill until I quit, and give my body time to adjust.

I never really thought about loss of a sex drive because I just assumed it was normal. After reading this thread though, I wonder if I have a low sex drive due to the bc, and again I won't know until I go off of it.

I'll be sure to update once I quit the pill, I have another three weeks until the end of this pack. At that point I need to make a decision.
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post Apr 26 2009, 08:07 PM
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angie_21
post Feb 24 2009, 10:34 AM
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Well it's been 3 weeks now since going off the pill for the second time (yay!) and I am very happy to report that things have steadily been getting back to normal. The number 1 difference is that most of my anxiety and OCD-like symptoms are going away. My head feels a lot clearer, my muscles feel stronger, my interest in sex is returning. The pain during sex has completely disappeared! Unfortunately I also have a mild case of zit-face, but what can you do? My boyfriend is still thrilled to have the real me "back." Anf my boobs are inexplicably a bit bigger.

No headaches, but I have had a few dizzy spells that last about 30 seconds or so. No weight loss, but I wasn't expecting any. My weight gain and loss has always been pretty unrelated to the pill, though.

Boy is my doctor going to hear it at my next visit.


QUOTE(sassy @ Feb 17 2009, 12:37 PM) *
Thanks for sharing this. I'm planning on quitting the pill in the next couple of months. I have been on it for the past six years -- since I was 18 -- and I have been using it to skip my periods entirely. However, over the past year, my sex drive has been basically non-existent. My gyno swears the pill wouldn't suddenly do this, but I don't know what else it could be. Plus, I am just ready to get rid of the artificial hormones in my body. The only thing I am really dreading is having a regular period again...that was my favorite part about the pill. My husband is getting a vasectomy soon so I will no longer have to worry about birth control which has been a major factor in my decision to quit.


Sassy - I found that the loss of libido was gradual, but because of that it takes a long time to notice, until one day a year or two later you actually realise what's going on. That's why it's so hard for women to actually trace it to the pill. For me, the libido also really started to slow down after a trigger like stress or relationship problems, but never rebounded afterwards like it normally would.

There are a number of studies about the lowered testosterone caused by taking the pill and what it does to women, especially sex drive. I can't believe they aren't better publicised! I will look up some references and post them soon.


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post Feb 24 2009, 05:45 AM
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Since quitting the pill less than a week ago after being on it for six years (and using it to skip most of my periods), I have noticed:

*I have lost about 4 pounds. I contribute this to water weight but I have also noticed I don't have the urge to snack as often.

*I lost my boobies! My boobs went from super firm to kinda squishy. Boo.

*I am already bleeding but my periods are way out of whack from skipping them so often so I expected this.

*I am getting some headaches which I contribute to my body getting adjusted to the lack of artificial hormones in my body.

*I am getting some sex drive back, but I hope it gets stronger over time. (This was the main reason I quit the pill. I had seriously no desire at all to do anything sexual anymore. My husband was going crazy.)

I feel like I feel better overall without the pill. Hopefully my body will get adjusted over the next month.
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post Feb 23 2009, 08:53 PM
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Juls, I quit the pill almost a year ago and have not noticed a difference in my weight.

I totally hear ya though on getting to know my body better! I bought the books by Katie Singer and she offers charts on her website to help you chart your cycle every month. It took me about 5 months to actually ovulate after quitting the pill, so just give your body time. You never know, your body could adjust quickly and you could start ovulating in a month. I was on the pill for about 12 years myself and it's so crazy to think what the pill might have been doing to me.

I found out that I had hypothyroidism just by quitting the pill and charting. I had some health problems and saw my ob who recommended a doctor to me. Went in, got some tests and nothing. I decided on my own to quit the pill and started charting immediately. Come to find out my temperatures were below a normal range and that was why I was so tired all of the time. I got on a iodine supplement to boost my iodine levels and I've been normal since. You will be amazed by the things you can learn by charting!

Also I see that a lot of you are talking about loss of libido. This is the one thing that I hate about birth control and I do believe that it fully causes loss! I kept hoping my would return after 12 years of being on birth control but I've read that birth control can kill it completely and that is so scary to me. I've been trying to just eat healthy and I exercise and not much else you can do....
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post Feb 19 2009, 07:28 AM
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I quit the pill about 3 weeks ago, and it feels great not to worry about forgetting to take it anymore! I had been on it for about 12 years nonstop... pretty scary when you think about that... I mean, can I even GET pregnant? We want to have a baby, but only want to start trying in about a year...

Alot of my friends are having difficulties getting pregnant, and that got me paranoid, so I did my due diligence, and a few months ago I bought this book called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Weschler... it basically explains how you can chart your cycles, and how you can use the information to either get pregnant, or not get pregnant.

We're using condoms for now, because I'm assuming it's gonna take a few months before my cycles get back to normal, but I'm really looking forward to understanding my body a bit more. I think all women should read this book. It really pisses me off that I never knew some of the most basic things about the female body.

Also, I hear that alot of people lose a few pounds when they get off the pill... for those of you who have, was this immediate, or gradual? Just wondering because so far there's been no change in my weight...
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post Feb 17 2009, 02:37 PM
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QUOTE(angie_21 @ Jan 30 2009, 09:53 PM) *
Wow.. new here, but a lot of experiences to share on this topic. It sometimes becomes life-consuming, doesn't it? I am planning to quit the pill this week, and I had forgotten how hard the decision was the first time I did this. It is so much easier the second time - all I can think about, now that I've made the decision, is that I just can't wait to feel like a "whole" person again!

Since everyone's asking about their periods when you quit... my experience was completely different. Four years ago, I was having emotional/sexual problems and agreed with my doctor to try going off the pill for a while. I had been on it for 3 years. I was waiting out the end of the pack, but my peroid appeared at full strength in the middle of the cycle so I just stopped outright. I guess my body knew exactly what was going on. It lasted over a week, and I got my peroid every 3 weeks for the next few cycles, then back to my normal 30-day cycles. This is what happens, I guess, when you abuse the pill to skip your period at odd times.

Less than a week after stopping, my libido came raging back to life! It was awesome! For those of you waiting for it to come back, the #1 best thing to kickstart it is lots of excercise and fresh air, it definitely helped me. I also got my handle on reality back.

I tried a copper IUD for 6 weeks and it was the most awful experience of my life. I bled for the whole 6 weeks, I could feel it the whole time, and had cramps that I hadn't had since junior high. I personally wouldn't recommend it, it felt sooooo invasive. I never tried the hormonal IUD, because I wanted to avoid the hormones. Spermicide is hell on the vag, I also wouldn't recommend it. Yeast infection city!

Now I have been back on the pill for 2 years, and the last year has been one long ordeal. Yeast, UTI's, pain during sex, and finally the recent complete disappearance of my libido. I had never EVER had pain before, despite an adventurous sex life, and thought it was something physically wrong with me. A year of tests and hypochondria found nothing... so it is starting to look like the pill is the culprit. Nice when the doc tells you you are "imagining" it, without even considering the many side effects of the pill. Also nice that she prescribed a pill famous for causing mood swings (Marvelon) to a girl with a family history of mental illness! Needless to say, I also can't wait for the mood swings and strange crying fits to stop.

I'll chekc back with an update soon. So many girls have no idea what the pill is doing to them.. even I forgot for a year, and let this drag on for way too long.


Thanks for sharing this. I'm planning on quitting the pill in the next couple of months. I have been on it for the past six years -- since I was 18 -- and I have been using it to skip my periods entirely. However, over the past year, my sex drive has been basically non-existent. My gyno swears the pill wouldn't suddenly do this, but I don't know what else it could be. Plus, I am just ready to get rid of the artificial hormones in my body. The only thing I am really dreading is having a regular period again...that was my favorite part about the pill. My husband is getting a vasectomy soon so I will no longer have to worry about birth control which has been a major factor in my decision to quit.
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post Jan 30 2009, 04:53 PM
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Wow.. new here, but a lot of experiences to share on this topic. It sometimes becomes life-consuming, doesn't it? I am planning to quit the pill this week, and I had forgotten how hard the decision was the first time I did this. It is so much easier the second time - all I can think about, now that I've made the decision, is that I just can't wait to feel like a "whole" person again!

Since everyone's asking about their periods when you quit... my experience was completely different. Four years ago, I was having emotional/sexual problems and agreed with my doctor to try going off the pill for a while. I had been on it for 3 years. I was waiting out the end of the pack, but my peroid appeared at full strength in the middle of the cycle so I just stopped outright. I guess my body knew exactly what was going on. It lasted over a week, and I got my peroid every 3 weeks for the next few cycles, then back to my normal 30-day cycles. This is what happens, I guess, when you abuse the pill to skip your period at odd times.

Less than a week after stopping, my libido came raging back to life! It was awesome! For those of you waiting for it to come back, the #1 best thing to kickstart it is lots of excercise and fresh air, it definitely helped me. I also got my handle on reality back.

I tried a copper IUD for 6 weeks and it was the most awful experience of my life. I bled for the whole 6 weeks, I could feel it the whole time, and had cramps that I hadn't had since junior high. I personally wouldn't recommend it, it felt sooooo invasive. I never tried the hormonal IUD, because I wanted to avoid the hormones. Spermicide is hell on the vag, I also wouldn't recommend it. Yeast infection city!

Now I have been back on the pill for 2 years, and the last year has been one long ordeal. Yeast, UTI's, pain during sex, and finally the recent complete disappearance of my libido. I had never EVER had pain before, despite an adventurous sex life, and thought it was something physically wrong with me. A year of tests and hypochondria found nothing... so it is starting to look like the pill is the culprit. Nice when the doc tells you you are "imagining" it, without even considering the many side effects of the pill. Also nice that she prescribed a pill famous for causing mood swings (Marvelon) to a girl with a family history of mental illness! Needless to say, I also can't wait for the mood swings and strange crying fits to stop.

I'll chekc back with an update soon. So many girls have no idea what the pill is doing to them.. even I forgot for a year, and let this drag on for way too long.
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post Nov 13 2008, 08:32 AM
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post Oct 22 2008, 07:47 PM
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I think that as long as you are taking your pill correctly, and following the directions of whatever type of spermicide you're using then you've got the Fort Knox of birth control. Doubling up is always a good idea. If you are concerned about the long term effects of hormonal birth control, have you considered getting fitted for a diaphragm, or a leah's shield? Both can be used in conjunction with spermicide and that's pretty effective. I'd reccomend using the Fertility Awareness Method along with all that, though, and at the very least having your boy wear condoms when you're at your most fertile. But really, if this boy isn't willing to use condoms, if for no other reason than it would make you feel better, then he isn't worth it. But of course, that is ONLY my opinion. You know your situation much better than I ever could.


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post Oct 22 2008, 02:48 PM
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You are totally right. I am not planning on getting off the pill per se right now, but I am concerned about it's long term effects on my body. I have been using the pill with spermicide (BTW the right about the STD info too) but just feel a bit insecure about that. Any additional thougths?


QUOTE(LustfullyPink @ Oct 14 2008, 05:02 PM) *
I'm assuming you posted your post in this thread because you want to go off of the pill but your boy is bitching about condoms, so I'll reply as such.

Don't jeopardize what YOU believe in and what has worked for YOU just for some boy, BettyBombShell. I think he's only losing his erection because he's thinking too hard about not using a condom, not because he 'can't feel anything'. If he's not willing to use condoms, he's not not worth it, in my books. There are many more men out there who will be more than happy to use condoms. That being said, if you really feel like you don't want to leave this guy, make sure he knows that once you go off the pill, you will be at a much higher risk of getting pregnant if you use only spermicide, rather than spermicide in conjunction with condoms.

On a completely different note, you said that you are 'pretty sure you're both clean'. Please, for the love of all that is hallowed, don't have unprotected sex without BOTH of you going and getting tested for ALL STD's, then using a condom for 6 months, then getting tested again. PLEASE. I'm not really sure if you did this or not, but you saying that you're 'pretty sure' you're both clean has me worried.

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post Oct 21 2008, 12:56 PM
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Hey Lauren, I bumped up a thread here for you. You might find what you are looking for in that thread.


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post Oct 21 2008, 02:26 AM
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Hi everyone!
I stopped taking the pill not too long ago as I would like to learn the fertility awareness method, keep my body all good n' that.
I'm on day 40 of my cycle and wondering if I should take a pregnancy test or just wait it out a little longer? What problems have any of you had with getting your periods back to normal? Any tips on dealing with the frustration would be great!
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post Oct 14 2008, 04:02 PM
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I'm assuming you posted your post in this thread because you want to go off of the pill but your boy is bitching about condoms, so I'll reply as such.

Don't jeopardize what YOU believe in and what has worked for YOU just for some boy, BettyBombShell. I think he's only losing his erection because he's thinking too hard about not using a condom, not because he 'can't feel anything'. If he's not willing to use condoms, he's not not worth it, in my books. There are many more men out there who will be more than happy to use condoms. That being said, if you really feel like you don't want to leave this guy, make sure he knows that once you go off the pill, you will be at a much higher risk of getting pregnant if you use only spermicide, rather than spermicide in conjunction with condoms.

On a completely different note, you said that you are 'pretty sure you're both clean'. Please, for the love of all that is hallowed, don't have unprotected sex without BOTH of you going and getting tested for ALL STD's, then using a condom for 6 months, then getting tested again. PLEASE. I'm not really sure if you did this or not, but you saying that you're 'pretty sure' you're both clean has me worried.



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post Oct 10 2008, 06:27 PM
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Oh my God, you have no idea how much I relate to the issues you are having. I am 26 and have seriously considered jepordizing my (new) relationship over sex. Here's the background info...
I had a 7 year relationship with NO ANXIETY what-so-ever about sex but I didn't really enjoy sex, especially towards the end of the relationship as much as I should have. I am on the pill and was throughout that relationship, but we also used condoms or spermicide as well (because I am PARANOID about getting pregnant). I left that relationship and am now in a new one. With my new relationship, my partner has a issue with condoms. He has had very few partners and has used condoms in the past (but has also had a couple of partner/relationships where he has just used the pill). When we first started dating we used literally a dozen different condoms but he could not "feel it" enough and would lose the erection. This happened numerous times with a variety of condoms. He also hadn't had sex in a good year before we were together. FRUSTRATION to say the least.
So since I felt like I had no other choice, I have taken a leap of faith and am using the pill and spermicide. I KNOW that the pill is 99.9% effective but frankly that just isn't enough reassurance. Not to mention I am utterly freaked about HPV/STD's (we both are clean as far as we know but there isn't a test for the carrier of HPV) but due to the circumstances I feel like I have no choice. If that were not enough, I have also gotten sick lately and am now on antibiotics which will interefere with the pill, thus we have to use condoms for the month. This should be an adventure.
I just get so incredibly frustrated that women seem to be the ones with ALL of the anxiety over it. I just want to scream. I don't think I should be this aggrevated with sex and I feel like I am the only woman who is freaking this much, thankfully I found this board.



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Just reading all of the posts here reminds me of my own birth-control anxieties...I've never been able to feel completely at ease with any method I have tried. I have never been pregnant, but I had a very bad scare earlier this year that caused me a LOT of worry. (The scare was caused by one act of drunken, totally unprotected sex with a friend. Thank goodness I did NOT get pregnant, and we both got tested for HIV and syphilis after the incident.)
I am currently taking the Pill...been on it for 2 months now. I have only had sex 3 times since going on it (just got a new boyfriend a few months ago), and I am uneasy. We have used a condom twice (so there were 2 methods used) and once without. I realize I am not comfortable without the condom (I need that extra insurance). I still have a paralyzing fear of pregnancy...I do not want to be a mother at any point in my life (I am 26) and I am seriously considering saying no to sex altogether. Yes, it's drastic, and when I told my boyfriend about this he was concerned and a bit unhappy, not to mention kinda confused. Not sure what to do...wish I could enjoy sex with the boy, but I also feel like I am not ready to risk an unplanned pregnancy, no matter how low the chances. sad.gif My libido has NOT diminished from the Pill, by the way...kinda wish it WOULD, so I wouldn't be tempted...the silly thing is, in my last relationship (of 5 years) we only used condoms and nothing else...and I never really worried about it. This fear is relatively new for me. Thanks to everyone for sharing their stories.

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post Sep 28 2008, 10:22 AM
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does anyone know any good websites for using the charting method to track your periods?


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Ok I have to say it took about a month to get my libido back and that was after being on the pill for 12 years or so? I haven't had one in years and within the first month it came back.

Everyone is different. For me I decided that I wanted to come off the pill because I was tired of taking something so unnatural and I bought books on how to chart my cycle (Katie Singer) so I know what my body is doing every day. It's been quite the learning experience but it has helped. She has a website too that offers charts to print off and also has information on there as well. The books really help because they explain what you need to do, chart your temperature, cervical fluid and as an option you can check your cervix too. I still haven't ovulated since being off the pill but it's only been 3 months. If you aren't trying to get pregnant you may find out that you aren't even ovulating yet.

You've only been off the pill for 2 days.... give your body some time to adjust back to something normal. You might try charting if you don't mind taking a few minutes out of your day every day.

I've officially been off the pill for 3 months and I can say it's been an experience. My mood swings are not nearly what they used to be when I was on the pill, my libido has come back which is super great! The only thing that sucks is trying to figure out when I'm actually going to start my period. Knowing every 28 days that you are going to start is kind of nice to plan for but my first month I was off I got my period on the 28th day, this past month I went 41 days! Yeah it's really great not having a period for that long of time but I had no idea when it was coming?????? We'll see what happens this month.
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(I posted most of these details a few weeks ago, but I'm going to update the situation and reply to Amanda)

It's weird- I was on Seasonale, the one that's packaged to be taken for 3 months, then a week off to bleed. Back in May or April, when my previous pack ended, I didn't start a new one until a week after the off week due to mail-order pharmacy issues. That extra week really reminded me of what I'd been missing, libido-wise.

During the next pack, I decided it was time to go off the pill. I've been on them nearly 10 years, I'm in a stable relationship with someone who's willing to get a vasectomy. In the last of the three months, I forgot a few pills in a row on a few occasions, something I hadn't really had a problem with before, so I decided my body and mind were trying to tell me something- it just started to feel like I was forcing my body to do something it didn't want to anymore. And I missed how I felt during that extra week off wink.gif

Anyway, now I've been off them for three weeks, going through the adjustment period with my hormones and the sad and disturbing thing is that I haven't gotten my libido back yet. dry.gif I'm not sure what was different a few months ago. I should be getting my period soon- we'll see what happens during/after that.


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