[freckleface7]

not to derail anymore, but um.....
i love busties.
you should see the big ol' smirk on my face right now...

I so agree.
I heart me some big (or not) boobied busties.

has anyone else tried the hanes her way bra's?
I have a cotton one that my mom gave me and it's wonderful. not the uber best quality for lasting, but is good for wearing around the house for comfort on my 'fluffy' days.

[auralpoison]

See, I usually sleep on my stomach (I know, I know, I shouldn't sleep that way, but I always have.) but when I've got my date with Captain Bloodsnatch, I have to lay on my side & use my body pillow.

[tankgirl]

I actually have a bra that I only wear during my period that's a REALLY old, threadbare tshirt bra because it's murder otherwise. I use this Lush stuff to keep them moist & that seems to help, too. But that dull, throbbing ache remains.

Yah, I can't not wear a bra when I have my period, unless I am laying down sleeping, so ouchie.

[girltrouble]

not to derail anymore, but um.....


i love busties.


you should see the big ol' smirk on my face right now...

[auralpoison]

I actually have a bra that I only wear during my period that's a REALLY old, threadbare tshirt bra because it's murder otherwise. I use this Lush stuff to keep them moist & that seems to help, too. But that dull, throbbing ache remains.

[anna k]

Yeah, I'd rather talk about how much we love/hate our boobies than have some noob come in to give his "enlightened" opinion on what we're thinking.

My boobies are annoying me because of PMS. I hate that feeling when my boobs feel fuller and my nips are popping out.

[auralpoison]

He dropped some valuable science in the Committed thread, too.

Eh, he ain't the first, he won't be the last. I remember the assclown that suggested that if I was annoyed by people not being able to understand my passport, perhaps I should use my DL instead. Cos y'know, I never thought about using something I *didn't* have.

Oh, and I forgot: GOOOOO TEEEEEAM TITTIE! BOOBIES RULE!

[kittenb]

ok. we've offically entered bizarro world when i'm the one NOT attacking someone. lol

I was thinking that. I try to often stay out of the fray, I think, but I just felt like I needed to speak up.

It looks like he is making friends in the "Frustrated Singles" thread too. Maybe his heart is in the right place but his tendancy to speak as though he has all the answers really muddles whatever point he is trying to make.

[girltrouble]

*purrs*

[auralpoison]

Awwwww! Poor fwuffy!

The mens *always* find their way in here one way or another, natch. Most of them just lurk & jerk, though.

[girltrouble]

bitch? that's fluffy to you...lol





that said, why was he in here in the first place? funk has posted in about 3 threads and he was reading this one? why for? i'm not judging....ok i am....heh...

[auralpoison]

Heh, I'm picking up your slack, bitch.

I don't think his intentions were bad, just misguided/misinformed. I mean, how much of the thread did he actually READ? I know the lil' gals thread has some bitching to the effect that they don't dig their mates interest in big boobs because it makes them feel insecure, but um, not us. I just find it galling that he obviously didn't take the time to read & he seems to think this thread is about our lack of mates/dates, whatever. 'There are lots of guys out there will love you for you!' Well, no shit Sherlock. That ain't the fuckin' point. What goes on in here isn't about finding/keeping a man. It's purely NOT. It's more about, "Where can I find a sexy EEE bra?" or "Some creep on the street made me feel really marginalized today" or "I caught sight of my tits in the gym today & realized how awesome they are!" or "Has anybody tried this sports bra?" It has very little to do with love or relationships or MEN & their opinions on breast size.

[girltrouble]

ok.......we've offically entered bizarro world when i'm NOT the one attacking someone. lol

look, honestly i think funk means well, he's like a lot of n00bs who bust on into bust, and mistake it for your run of the mill forum.

we all know it's not.

funk i wasn't misinterpreting anything you said. i just think you are falling into a trap that lots of people do when they start posting here. they think, ok, i got this, and they post away. the lounge isn't like that. there are some threads you can just jump in and no one will mind. lots of ones in the media whores section are like that. there are other threads where, you'd be best to take your time, not post broadsides and just post a couple of lines at first to get the tone of the place correctly. otherwise you'll get swarmed.

i'm not interested in coming down on you, but rather suggesting that you stick to the wading end of the pool until you are a bit more used to the way things work round these parts, k?

[auralpoison]

Look, Funk, it's obvious that *you're* the one that isn't grokking here. The main point is: It's tiresome when some guy comes in & thinks he can solve all of our issues by telling us "that what women don't get is . . . " It's arrogant & condescending to play armchair psychologist/Dr. Phil/Mr. Fixit unless you've walked a mile in a gal's dd cups. You have no idea what you're talking about/what you've walked into.

I've looked over what you wrote carefully & while a few good points were made, you didn't tell us anything we haven't already heard/didn't know before. There was no revelation, nothing new to chew on. Thirties responded to your thoughts pretty specifically & thoughtfully, so I don't know where you're coming up with "misinterpretation".

You came off as an asshat by basically telling us that our boobs aren't our problem, it's all in our minds. You even suggested that Thirties talk to a psychologist to back yourself up! Lemme tell you, my MIND isn't what makes my fucking back ache, bucko. It doesn't cause permanent grooves in my shoulders, it doesn't make it hard for me to buy a shirt that fits properly. Strange men don't shout, "Look at the big fuckin' tits on that bitch!" from across the street because of my mind. No, it's my tits that are responsible for that. If a psychologist can fix all that, then by all means get me to a shrink.

Although, I must admit, sometimes my mind makes it hard to buy a hat. Gotta have a big skull to hold all them brainsis.

Anyway, GT tried to give you a bit o' help/the 411 & you pouted like an infant. Way to get yourself taken seriously, dude. If you gotta take your ball & go home, feel free.

And for the record, you did come across as having all the answers.

[deschatsrouge]

Funk, may I suggest you take your asshat off and go sit in the corner for a while?

[kittenb]

It is so arrogant to just step into a conversation and start telling people what should make them happy or that they even are unhappy. That's some male privilege right there. And I want to point out that girltrouble's efforts to help you were a lot nicer than I think she has any need to be. And the best response you have is, "Fine, whatever you want." What are you, 12?

It seems to me, funk, that you either have misunderstod what has been talked about here or just don't want to know. I doubt that the men who freak out hellotampon by leering at her breasts really give a damn that she feels pleasure when someone that she cares about touches them. They are leering because in the male gaze all breasts belong to the men who see them.

So don't even try to pathologize thirtiesgirl. She's fine. You, however, seem to have some issues with women.

And why is it whenever a woman seems to be looking for someone withwhom she can share her life and her love it is always described as, "looking for a husband"? It is not the same thing in any way.

You are on a feminist board. Figure out what that means before you try and tell us what is wrong with the world.

[funk0039]

You've completely misinterpreted. I never once said nor implied that I have all the answers.

Fine, whatever you want.

[girltrouble]

funk, you might try reading more, talking less. i don't mean to come down on you, but, it's been my experience that sometimes people aren't looking to be handed a solution, so much as be heard. many of the threads here on bust are people talking about their shared experience. if you don't have that shared experience, it's probably best just to listen. i'm not saying that you can't post in those threads, but rather, come from a place of humbleness, as one who is here to learn, to understand things, rather than somebody who's got all the answers.


just a thought.

[funk0039]

Fine.

[thirtiesgirl]

Funk, you write as if I don't know these things already. I *know* men like fat girls. I wouldn't have gotten half the play I've had if they didn't. As far as my weight goes, I trust only one person: me. *I* know how I feel about my body; my doctor does not. I'll trust my general practitioner to prescribe antibiotics when I have the flu, or offer remedies for the common cold, but I don't discuss how I feel about how my body looks with my doctor, and I've specifically chosen a doctor who will not preach to me about weight loss and 'healthy eating habits.' That's not what I see her for.

Nor do I need someone to tell me to 'figure out what's making me unhappy.' I figured that one out on my own long ago. I have a strong relationship with my personal therapist. Again, it's offensive to me when a guy feels he 'knows what's best' for me and speaks/writes as if I don't have the critical thinking skills to reflect on my own life and make the changes I need to make for myself. Don't assume we're unintelligent creatures who can't reflect on our lives simply because we choose to kvetch about something or make an issue of it. We don't need you to fix it. ...Or, at least *I* don't, at any rate.