[candycane_girl]

I think I wasn't too concerned because I knew for a long time that I would be moving to Toronto so I had figured, what's the point of starting a relationship when I'll just have to move anyway? (I don't think I could ever do long distance)

Anyway, I actually responded to a craigslist post that a guy made and we've traded a couple of emails. Okay, so like, two emails. But still! He seems to be interested in good movies and music so that's a plus. Of course now I'm wondering if he's still interested cause I sent him an email this morning and haven't received a response. But I have a bad tendency to freak out quickly when people don't respond to my emails immediately.

Oh, it also doesn't help that I'm on day 9 of my period! My hormones must be going insane!

[kittenb]

I met this really nice guy today. He seems smart, liberal, has a great voice and nice hands and he also works in anti-violence. So what's the catch? He lives in Washington, D.C. Dammit!

Although it is nice to remember that I actually can be attracted to someone. God it has been awhile. At this point, I would almost kill for a really nice crush-worthy person in my life.

[snow white]

candy and ej, i definatly feel the same way. all summer i just tuned out and thought, oh don't worry, it will come to me! but now i look at this long and lonely winter ahead and i can't stand to do it alone. plus i'm freaking out like my biological clock is ticking and i'm missing out on my "golden years" or whatever. and i keep thinking about my shitty ex, i mean, thinking about him a little too much.

i'm probably too picky.

hopefully there will be something that's been worth waiting for in the (near) future

[erinjane]

Yeah, totally. I think it also has to do with the way I feel in the fall. I kind of get rejuvenated mentally just from being back in class, the weather, etc. Things like that. It makes me re-evaluate where I want to be right now.

[candycane_girl]

crap, double post!

[candycane_girl]

erinjane, I've felt that way many times before. Sometimes I'll feel like I'm lonely just because I haven't gone out and done anything but then I can be in the same situation as you, out somewhere enjoying a band or whatever and the feeling still hits me! I think a lot of the time it happens when I look around and see a bunch of couples. I know that's kind of pathetic but I look at them and just feel like I want what they have!

[erinjane]

Last night something sort of weird happened. I was out with a friend, listening to one of my favourite local bands and having a great time, but then I just started feeling so lonely and truly felt like a frustrated single for the first time in a long time. Even though I barely have enough time to relax by myself, I all of a sudden feel like I want to start actively looking for someone again (as opposed to just sitting back, relaxing, and waiting to see what would happen). I hate being at this stage.

[snow white]

after a brief stunt on yahoo i've alrady taken down my own profile, but a guy from yahoo did send me a message on myspace, so, yay, one point for me i wouldn't recommend yahoo, it sux (in my area anyway, too many lonely rednecks!)

I suppose, I just don't know how far I want to go with it. It's funny, I've always felt weird and nervous flirting with someone who's potentially available.

(BTW Snow White I'm a guy. )

well then excuse my same sex daydream blathering, i just automatically assume everyone here is a femme. they should put those little male/female symbols by our names, so much easier.

anyway, why not throw caution to the wind and flirt up a storm? either it will turn into playful ribbing or actually turn into a date...chemistry is chemistry.

happy friday everyone, i'm ready for a 12 hour streak of unconsciouness, i can't believe how much work learning is!

[stargazer]

xexyz, you're a guy? i thought you were a girl. ok. just have to refrain my mind. but, uh, what's the turn off for you flirting with an available woman? is it because she's a coworker? is it the possibility of your fantasy of her not meeting the reality of her? what gives, dude....

kittenb, now i have to look at that site cause i love the name...

me, frustrated single, but not interested in investing time with dating right now

[kittenb]

Why would you feel weird about flirting w/someone who is available? Wouldn't it be weirder to flirt w/somone who is unavaible?

It just feels like the only guys I've met who actually find me attractive live in a whole other country! I don't know what the deal is.

I understand this. Judging by my friends where I keep my blog, Australia loves me.

Well, I have done it again. I just set up a personals page at www.sweetongeeks.com. Goddess help me!

[xexyz]

xexyz, if it seems like she's enjoying the flirting than I'd say take it a little further. I mean, it can't hurt right?

I suppose, I just don't know how far I want to go with it. It's funny, I've always felt weird and nervous flirting with someone who's potentially available.

(BTW Snow White I'm a guy. )

[candycane_girl]

xexyz, if it seems like she's enjoying the flirting than I'd say take it a little further. I mean, it can't hurt right?

[snow white]

haha, oooh my god, my personals profile sucks. i hope i meet someone, a bunch of guys just checked it out but i have only 1 message. god, maybe i shouldn't write anything in it.

I started kind of flirting with a woman at work, but I'm naturally hesitant to pursue it any farther than that. I'm just getting to the point where it seems that there aren't any single women out there at all!

i've never dated or been w/ a girl, of even talked about it outside of my own head but i have had a couple crushes on girls. i know it's normal for girls to check out other girls so i don't consider it to be anything really... there's a girl in my class who i kinda like right now, she has a weird mechanical looking tattoo on her inner forearm and she's so pretty and feminine but there seems something a little masculin about her too (including the tattoo). anyway, good luck!

[candycane_girl]

snow white, it's just a bit different. I'm not into the whole profile thing, it's just that I started a livejournal account and ended up meeting a lot of guys through it. There was really only one guy that I met off of it and I ended up meeting up with him in New York and from that I met a few of his friends. I get along with all of them, had great experiences with them and it just sucks because they're so far from me!

It just feels like the only guys I've met who actually find me attractive live in a whole other country! I don't know what the deal is.

[xexyz]

I started kind of flirting with a woman at work, but I'm naturally hesitant to pursue it any farther than that. I'm just getting to the point where it seems that there aren't any single women out there at all!

[snow white]

i've tried on-line dating. maybe tried isn't the right word really... i like to make profiles and check other profiles out, i have a few internet friendships made from personal sites which at times include phone calls but i find the concept so bizarre i have a hard time actually meeting internet ppl in real life (does that make any sense?). i have gone on a date w/ someone from myspace. it was a total impulse thing, we sent a few messages back and forth and next thing i know we've made plans to meet up. obviously it didn't work out romantically. but candy, if it's easier to meet guys on-line why not keep a profile up and see what happens (along w/ meeting guys IRL too). that's my plan of attack now. i have an on-line personal on yahoo (non-searchable) and there seems to be a few cute guys on there, i guess i'll send them a message and see how it goes.

sam, congrats on a good date at first i thought you ment you had been with one of his 4 women! wow, lol. but i'm glad to hear you had a good time.

[candycane_girl]

Gah, I feel so frustrated! Duh, that's why I'm here. But really, yes I've been meeting people in the program but the thing is that I'm 22 and I'm in first year. So basically almost all the guys I'm meeting are 17 or 18.

I just don't know where to meet guys that are my age (almost 23). Some people seem to just meet people on their own when they go out but that just doesn't happen to me. I don't understand it, I hate that I've met guys online (and later met them in real life) who are attracted to me and would date me and yet I can't seem to meet guys in real life.

sam, good for you for telling that guy how you were feeling. Oh, and very good for telling him that you have guy friends who know the situation!
How did you meet the other guy? Oh, and there's nothing wrong with a little corruption.

[samiam]

Update -- "Greg" called the other night three times and i finally answered. I was civil. Explained how I was a little freaked out, dropped a few hints about being afraid to find him in my driveway when I get home and that a few of my male friends know about him,a nd let him know that I needed a few days to think. He has not called since. It's less scary this way, and I feel better having spoken to him rather than just blowing him off. Still, creepy.

In other news, there is activity on the dating front - yay! Went out for dinner last night with a guy i met over the weekend who is, shall we say, less experienced than I? Without getting graphic, he has only been with 4 women, me being one of them (it was a crazy, drunken move -- fully protected, but drunken -- on friday) and I was the first non-virgin. He's 28! I feel like I have corrupted him! Oh well\. Maybe it's about time!

[snow white]

greenbean, one of my friends can be pretty nasty about my single-ness too. which is probably the reason why i haven't talked to her in about a week... i just get sick of the attitude, but that's for another thread.

sam, i am so glad you're not going to meet up w/ that guy. i can understand the initial interest/attraction, everyone loves a good adventure, but yeah, that got creepy pretty quick which is a good thing. at least you didn't sucked into a weird situation.

anyway, i just started school, since i'm going for my LPN the girl to guy ratio in the class room, is well, there's 3 whole guys in the class-lol, which is awesome to see guys in nursing, but no one i'm interested in. i'm glad to hear you're putting yourself out there, candy, b/c i need to do that too. being with the same people for 6 hrs a day for the next 10 months freaks me out a little bit! but, i'll get through it.

so the weekend begins & i'm ready for a glass of wine, cheers busties!

[greenbean]

Wow, I haven't been here for awhile..thats truly strange Samiam. I can understand the initial intrigue, but it sounds pretty shady. Any new developments?

Ok, so I'm at that point in my life where I'm getting pity for being single. What gives? Last year everyone was telling me how it was a good thing. "You can focus on your career!" and "You get to travel alone, free as a bird!" and "How fun, you get to go on dates!" they all said. Yet in the past few weeks I've heard this: "You aren't seeing anyone? Jeeze, I couldn't do it. I hate being single." (one of my guy friends who is married) and "Well, you still have time" (my mom, after learning 3 of my friends are getting married this year. And no, that statement was not a response to any type of expressed jealousy on my part) and my personal favorite, "Oh, well thats ok. (unconvincingly) Its better to be ALONE then with someone who isnt special..I mean..not that you're alone..you have friends, right?" (older friend of my parents whose daughters are my age and married).

UGH!!!

Side-note, is it pathetic that I'm listening to Gordon Brown on NPR right now and its making me all tingly?