[karategrrl]

Big magazines like that just pander to different groups of their readership by publishing an article here or there to make them happy, but their bottom line is money so they'll never be sending a clear message. It's just business, but I find it insulting how gullible they think we are. I actually wish that small breasts would stop being pointed out in the media whether for good or bad - even "good" or "nice" articles are really just pandering to the rule that bigger is better.

YEP!! that's why I looooove Milla Jovovich movies. She's hot as hell (just saw clips of one of the Resident Evil movies where she's wearing this little white tank top with nip erections...aww yeah!). But anyway, no one ever says in her movies, "Yeah, <character's name> is hot, even with her small breasts." She's just HOT. Period.

I felt better about my own mental health being able to say that out loud with so many people around - never done that before!

Good for you!!

[insideout]

nbdx I agree with you. Big magazines like that just pander to different groups of their readership by publishing an article here or there to make them happy, but their bottom line is money so they'll never be sending a clear message. It's just business, but I find it insulting how gullible they think we are. I actually wish that small breasts would stop being pointed out in the media whether for good or bad - even "good" or "nice" articles are really just pandering to the rule that bigger is better. If you ask me, we shouldn't even be acknowledging this rule, so what is there to write about? If a guy were to say to me "your breasts are small," (or an insult, etc.) I wouldn't reply with "uh, well, they don't cause back pain and they will look more youthful in 20 years . . ." no! I'd say fuck you! My philosophy: there is no case to be made to anyone but ourselves in our own heads and forums.
And something positive: another story. There's a girl who works in the building where I live and she's insulted me about different things over the past few months. I've usually let it slide because people have suggested it's a culture thing :/ Anyways, a friend of mine related a conversation he had with her. It went something like this:
Girl: Do you like insideout?
Boy: No.
G: Is it because she has small breasts?
B: It's because we're good friends . . .
So he tells me about this and I'm livid. Then the other night we're walking back from dinner and I make a comment about how she and I are the same height, but I was speaking a different language so I guess I accidentally said we have the same body (because height is literally just "body length" in this language, and I left out the length part). And then she said "yeah we both have small breasts" in a sad voice. So I said "I love my small breasts!" The look on her face said she was really surprised yet glad to hear such blasphemy (note sarcasm). Anyway it's a positive because I found out why she said such a thing to my friend (her own insecurities, isn't that always the culprit), I made her feel better about her body, and I felt better about my own mental health being able to say that out loud with so many people around - never done that before!

[nbdx0645]

I picked up the latest Cosmopolitan at Boarders and thumbed through it. There's a small write-up about A-cups and how more women want less padding. It pointed out the obvious "no back pain" "looks younger" "less likely to get headaches" and it did talk about the sensitivity. A sexologist claimed that stimulation was more intense because there's less fat tissue covering up the nerve endings. If anybody has the Cosmo with Mila Kunis on the cover, could you provide a quote? I didn't buy the magazine...I usually pick it up to read the women's issues articles. I saw the article and was taken aback; then I skimmed the remainder of the magazine to see many images of women with big breasts for their frames. Some consistency from article-to-article would make the article's message stronger. Maybe I'm being overly critical since I'm a graphic designer for large publications.

[KeraBear]

I almost wonder if this is a factor of size itself - with a finite number of nerve endings, would they be more sensitive if they are all bunched up together in a small area rather than spread out over large area? I dunno.

I have wondered this myself. If there is a study being conducted, I would be willing to participate!


By the way, have you noticed my post count has dropped lately? School has started again.



Boooooo

[karategrrl]

Wow, karategrrl, that sure was a bizarre little experience checking out those photos! Tres creepy, in my opinion! I think it is thoughtfully done and artful - I appreciate the work, both photographic and surgical. But whew. Disturbing and chilly. It is one thing to try to enhance nature but these photos look like people who are almost completely disassociating from it.

I hear ya. Ironically, I think most of these folks ended up looking similar to one another--like some creepy new race. Of course, not everyone who's had surgery looks like this. I think these were carefully chosen.

[strongirl]

Wow, karategrrl, that sure was a bizarre little experience checking out those photos! Tres creepy, in my opinion! I think it is thoughtfully done and artful - I appreciate the work, both photographic and surgical. But whew. Disturbing and chilly. It is one thing to try to enhance nature but these photos look like people who are almost completely disassociating from it.

[spot-on]

I'd heard stories of women losing sensation in the nipples etc, but mine... um hell yeah I have feeling there! I can only speak for myself obviously but my nips are WAY more sensitive now post surgery

Again just my experience!


And yes I hope we get more action soon too! Though most nights I am finishing work at 8pm ,dinner, walk dogs, then falling asleep! Crazy time of year for my industry but I love it

Hey Spot-on, thanks for the reply! Keep those updates coming. (and I hope you guys have more time to "get busy" soon!)

insideout, re. the sensitivity thing: HELL YES! We've talked about this in here before but I'm not sure if you were around then. A number of us smallies reported that we can actually climax on nip stim alone. It happens to me every now and again and I still find it amazing. It's one of the reasons my bf is so strongly opposed to implants - sometimes they reduce sensitivity and he says there's no way size could compare to the turn-on he gets from my responsiveness.

I almost wonder if this is a factor of size itself - with a finite number of nerve endings, would they be more sensitive if they are all bunched up together in a small area rather than spread out over large area? I dunno.

[karategrrl]

Since we've discussed plastic surgery and body image a lot here, I thought I'd post this--link to images from a new book by the photogprhaer Toledano. Click the right-hand buttons to see the pics.
Ick.
http://www.mrtoledano.com/A-new-kind-of-be...-kind-of-beauty

[strongirl]

Hey Spot-on, thanks for the reply! Keep those updates coming. (and I hope you guys have more time to "get busy" soon!)

insideout, re. the sensitivity thing: HELL YES! We've talked about this in here before but I'm not sure if you were around then. A number of us smallies reported that we can actually climax on nip stim alone. It happens to me every now and again and I still find it amazing. It's one of the reasons my bf is so strongly opposed to implants - sometimes they reduce sensitivity and he says there's no way size could compare to the turn-on he gets from my responsiveness.

I almost wonder if this is a factor of size itself - with a finite number of nerve endings, would they be more sensitive if they are all bunched up together in a small area rather than spread out over large area? I dunno.

[insideout]

Anyone else here an astrology nut? I don't take it for fact, but it is one of my favorite "slacker" activities. I'd recommend the book Sextrology, it's very fun to read and takes a very comprehensive approach to addressing sun signs and their sex lives. Anyways, I'm a cancer, and according to this book most cancers suffer from "breast envy" whether they're large or small because the sign rules the breasts and ovaries. This is sort of true for me, but upon closer examination of my own thoughts I've found that I don't envy other breasts, just what it means to have them. I realize that's sort of a roundabout statement; what I mean is this: I don't want my friend's large breasts. Most of the time I don't want larger breasts myself. What I want is to be sexy. It's been said on here before, but I want my small breasts to be sexy to other people just the way they are.

So I suppose if I were to write to the authors of Sextrology, I'd say that what I have is more of a fixation on breasts, not necessarily "breast envy."

I think I will make it a habit to end on a positive note: boys love how sensitive my nipples are, and I'm sure the look on a guy's face when he's met with a pair of knockers would pale in comparison to the look on a guy's face when I respond to his touch I always tell myself, gratitude is the sexiest thing ever, and that's the gift that keeps on giving (but yelling "thank you" over and over again while having an orgasm, although perhaps a genuine sentiment, will make for amusing afterdinner entertainment for the neighbors . . .)

[spot-on]

Hi Strongirl
Nope sex life was not a big motivator for me, sure it was part of it but not a huge part.

When I initially broached the subject of surgery to my husband he said straight out that he didn't care how small/large my boobs were, and if I was doing it for him not to bother. He wasn't/isn't a boob man always been an ass man. He quizzed me making sure I was doing this for ME and not our sex life or for him. He loved my boobs before and he loves them now. He loves them because they are part of me.That said he does look at my boobs more, and fondles them more, but usually that's because I'm asking him how soft they feel compared to week 1, and he is obviously my photographer for my progress pics He was also the 'judge' of clothing when I was deciding what looked good now. So his input is important, his opinion hasn't changed. He loved me regardless.

So far our sex life is pretty much the same, BUT we haven't had much chance to get busy with it For 3 weeks I couldn't elevate my heart rate (which is honestly no fun for sex), and this week I've been back at work teaching classes and clients (after a 3 1/2 week break) which has pretty much seen me asleep on the sofa every night at around 10.30, and if I am honest a napped a couple of afternoons too. Once I get back into the swing of things, that may improve Next week will be a full week again and hopefully I'll be more in shape again.

I will say that they are more of a turn on for me personally. I like having them held/stroked etc, and I like touching them myself. I like unleashing them from their clothing and seeing my husbands reaction. Generally I just like them a lot. Especially now they are getting softer/smushier. I honestly think they are a bigger turn on for me than my husband... but like I said... early days. I'll ask his honest opinion from before/after and let you know

[strongirl]

Hey Spot-on, thanks so much for your honest and thorough updates and willingness to share! It is so nice of you to do that for all of us. I'm really glad (and frankly, relieved) that everything went well and that you are so pleased. Whew! Congratulations! Yay!

I'm curious though about how or whether it has affected your sex life...and also find it interesting that you didn't even mention that in your 1 month update. So was that not really much of a motivator for you? And how has it been? How has your spouse reacted to them?

When I've thought about implants for myself (which hasn't been often) pretty much my only motivation would be if it would add some extra fun to sex. The oft-mentioned motivators of improved self-confidence, fitting better in clothes, feeling more "normal", don't really resonate with me much. But I love sex and go to some effort to keep my sex life lively and exciting and if implants would promote that, then that would be a plus. However, both my ex-husband and my current bf strongly prefer small natural breasts, so I've known with those relationships at least, it would backfire. The bf has made it quite clear that he is strongly opposed to implants and dearly loves my 34A's. And while it is my body and my decision, I like to keep him happy...and horny.

[spot-on]

Hey Girls!
Well I am one month out of surgery this week and I am also back at work as a fitness instructor/personal trainer. THoughts 1 month post-op:

No-one says anything, they just look! I mean it''s pretty obvious for those that knew me before that I have implants, cos I went from an A to a D cup! Not only that even though I was wearing a padded bra in my workplace the shape is totally different, they are rounder and fuller. But NOT ONE PERSON has come out and said anything. No co-workers no members or clients. I am almost waiting for the first person to say something to get it out the way

I am less boob obsessed. Prior to surgery I used to be checking my bra all the time in mirrors, when I went to the bathroom I'd adjust my boobs in my bra, be conscious of them under clothes etc. Now that has gone. They feel so much a part of me now. I'll be honest and say they've increased my self confidence no end! Just the peace of mind knowing there is no padding hanging out, etc. My boobs never fit well into a bra before, I was very much a sports bra all the time person (good thing considering my job) and now I find my world opened up to bra's that FIT! I've only been bra shopping once so far but it was a much more pleasurable experience

Work has been interesting. I've been pretty sore muscle wise from having 3 1/2 weeks off then getting back into routine. All exercises have been fine aside from push ups and chaturanga in yoga. THe pecs flex and the implants move, which is a weird feeling, not uncomfortable or painful it just feels well... weird. I'm modifying as needed for the time being. Everything else has been fine though. Even running and jumping jacks feel fine now, initially they felt weird cos of the weight but used to it now I guess?

I had a clear out of my wardrobe last week. Tried EVERYTHING on and ditched a few items, some too big and a few too small. Too small were button up shirts. So I sacrificed three button up shirts (1 I hadn't worn) for bigger boobs. However some other tops have had to wave goodbye as the boobs are too big for them, like halter tops with fitted bust section or band under the boobs, they are too small in that area, without showing too much upper boob. THings you don't realize when you have small boobs! Trying things on though both my husband and I were amazed how they can look HUGE in one outfit and small in another. Black tends to be smaller, and lighter colors tend to look bigger. Figure hugging obviously shows them off. 90% of my wardrobe IMO looks better, the other 10% looks the same. I bought some things prior to surgery in anticipation of wearing them post-op, one of which was a boob tube type top, no straps, not tight fitting and it looks great and feels good! When I wore that kind of top previously (strapless or halter style) I was always pulling at it trying to get it to look "right" even with a padded push-up on underneath. That constant checking and tugging has gone, just for that peace of mind it was SO worth it!

Right now I feel how I should have looked naturally. Not too big, not too small, perfectly proportioned to my body. So far 1 month later: I love them. Would I do it all over again? Yes definitely. My only regret so far: that I waited till I was 38!

I should have new pics soon and will email those gals that contacted me

[karategrrl]

One of my best friends has very small breasts, and I actually have her to thank for my improved self-confidence over the past two years because I fell in love with her body, which is similar enough to mine that felt like a hypocrite getting down on myself! She's absolutely unselfconscious and has the cutest androgynous style ever. She wears little t-shirts with no bra and cargo pants, no makeup EVER, doesn't shave her pits, and usually cuts her own hair pretty short and choppy. And she's sooooo sexy because she owns her look.

Sheer awesomeness.

And nbdx, rock the short hair. I used to have that look and I still got stopped in the street with compliments on it--from both men and women, young and old. It is daring and confident.

And I thought you all would love this--hubby bought me a form-fitting thermal shirt for xmas. I ripped off my pajama top at the tree xmas morning and tried it on right htere, and he loved the high-beams I was sporting. Wearing it for real the first time today and he said, "It looks great, except for one thing...you have a bra on." Love it! <3

[insideout]

Thanks for the advice nbdx! I didn't think about small breast education, but I think that'll be my new outlook on situations like these. It's much harder to be hurt by someone if you think they're stupid, ahem, I mean uninformed ;D

Yeah it is Keri Russell, and I love her character too in LoG.

Androgyny is my specialty Most of the time I'm sort of frumpy, but when I feel like dressing up I'm a huge fan of the pixie-punk look (but old school, none of this hot topic emo stuff that people love - I find it all too girly actually). So yeah, jeans and a tank top + some converses and a faux-hawk are my usual fare. Although, whenever I cut my hair super-short (which is quite often) I do have a few days of "oh my god I look like a boy" before I get over it and start feeling normal again.

This is the reason I find a lot of the fashion talk around small breasts useless and oftentimes offensive. It's always about hiding them, enhancing them, etc etc. Why not flaunt them just like everyone else? One of my best friends has very small breasts, and I actually have her to thank for my improved self-confidence over the past two years because I fell in love with her body, which is similar enough to mine that felt like a hypocrite getting down on myself! She's absolutely unselfconscious and has the cutest androgynous style ever. She wears little t-shirts with no bra and cargo pants, no makeup EVER, doesn't shave her pits, and usually cuts her own hair pretty short and choppy. And she's sooooo sexy because she owns her look.

[nbdx0645]

Happy New Year everybody (and every boobie)

Insideout: I'm so sorry that you're being teased. Women should be supporting each other instead of cannibalizing each other, especially when it comes to appearance. If you can, try to speak the truth about your body when she disses it publically. Like with the "no bra" thing, you could say exactly what you wrote to us. "I don't really have to wear a bra for support, but I like to hide the high-beams since they are such a distraction" That way, you're kind of educating her (and possibly others around her) that one type of breast isn't better than the other. Tiny boobs are kind of a novelty, some people simply aren't in the know about their awesomeness. I personally wear a bra because my nipples have their party-hats on 24/7!

I think Keri Russel is in LoG. She's such a pretty lady. I never watched the show Felicity, but I always loved her hair when I saw commercials for it. And speaking of hair, I ended up cutting my own bangs (they're a little below eyebrow level and I sweep them to the side.) When I pulled my hair back for the first time, I was looking at my bangs and going "I kind of look like I have a Peter Pan haircut..." and I got a little worried about the slightly androgynous appearance.

But then I decided to take it even further for a NYE party by wearing some relaxed jeans and a black sweater with my hair pulled back. It looked AMAZINGLY HOT! I might end up taking them shorter to be even more pixie-esque when my hair is pulled back. And if I want a softer look, I let down my wavy collarbone-length hair and brush the bangs back. I used to really hate my androgynous features (especially my jawline, build, and small boobs) but now, I like dabbling lightly in what is deemed "boyish" fashion. Maybe I'll wear a tie someday! Or suspenders!

[insideout]

I watched Leaves of Grass last night, an awesome but strange movie, and there's a small breasted heroine!!! Not only that, but she's juxtaposed against a large breasted woman who the hero is NOT interested in at all
I'd recommend it for a happy-boost.
Have an Awesome New Years!

[KeraBear]

Wondermist, I just wanted to let you know that I am glad that you are here... not just because of your unique perspective, but because now I am no longer the youngest person posting here! YAY!

[insideout]

Yeah, like I said, the other girls are worse in ways that matter more to me. It's sort of a no win situation, I guess.

So the Australian guy didn't even know about it! But he told me that Australia has a very conservative government that, in his opinion, doesn't represent liberal city dwellers very well. He said that in rural Australia there are a lot of VERY conservative people who support those kinds of absurd laws. And I've read this elsewhere as well.

In any case, he was appalled when I told him. It's good to know we aren't the only ones taking offense!!!!

[KeraBear]

"the girl I get along with the best has a nasty habit of putting me down." The girl that you get a long with BEST? Geeeeez, get out of there! LOL Seriously, though. I guess I agree with my fellow busties that you should try to talk to her about it. I mean if you get along with her the best than she has to care about you on SOME level, shouldn't she? But yeah, it sounds like she has some major self esteem issues. At my school, there are girls who give me a lot of crap about my small boobs, but i think there are some jealously issues with them because i am short and petite and pretty thin. Do you think maybe she might be jealous? Sooo yeah, i more side with Stronggirl in that I wouldn't want to stoop to her level, but at the same time, maybe she should get a taste of her own medicine if she doesn't get the message? I dunno. But do let us know what happens when you finally "grow a pair," ha ha

A bit off subject, but what did the Australian guy say when you asked his opinion on the ban of small boobies?!? I am really curious.