[discowombat]

Hey Guy,

I'm glad to hear the bras sound like a quality product. I realize part of the cost is due to the small demographic that require those sizes, but they better hold up for that price! The petite band size won't be an issue. I can't even find my proper size in any brick and mortar stores so even finding a site that carries them it exciting to me.

[just_a_guy]

Does anyone in here have experience with items from the Little Bra Company ( http://www.thelittlebracompany.com/ ) ? They are a bit on the expensive side but I'm considering it anyways since I want something that will look nice with my wedding dress and can double as honeymoon lingerie. At this point it's either buy something expensive, use a plain ill fitting bra I already own, or frankenstein something together out of a cheap bra & foam bra fillers. If anyone has tried the Lucia style in particular please let me know if you have any sizing tips that would be useful (cups run big/small, etc). Thank you all in advance!

Hey,

I actually have some experience dealing with the little bra company as a vendor from a few years ago (2008 or so). The idea behind it, if I recall correctly was to build attractive bras based on cuts the owner found coming out of Asia, which fit well but weren't terribly attractive design-wise. The cups are closer together and the padding is positioned a little not further to the side, which is intended to address a lot of the issues smaller women have with mainstream bras that come in smaller cup sizes, but aren't cut differently.

The handful of female friends and family that I had give them a shot found them to be a better fit than what they were used to. They are on the pricey side since they are a small boutique manufacturer, and if you have a large rib cage I'm not sure how that would affect the fit, but otherwise I feel pretty confident recommending.

Hope that helps

[discowombat]

Does anyone in here have experience with items from the Little Bra Company ( http://www.thelittlebracompany.com/ ) ? They are a bit on the expensive side but I'm considering it anyways since I want something that will look nice with my wedding dress and can double as honeymoon lingerie. At this point it's either buy something expensive, use a plain ill fitting bra I already own, or frankenstein something together out of a cheap bra & foam bra fillers. If anyone has tried the Lucia style in particular please let me know if you have any sizing tips that would be useful (cups run big/small, etc). Thank you all in advance!

[buttercups]

Hey dancingqueen, I know exactly how you feel and so do so many of the other great ladies in here. It is a total roller coaster and just when you start to feel ok with yourself it seems like someone is there to make a rude comment about your body. I'll tell you I've heard every flat-chested comment imaginable from assholes all over and haven't quite figured out the best way to handle that yet. It does send you right back down and I have no idea why some people feel its ok to comment about another person's body like that! I would never go up to some girl and be like "wow your ass is big!" so why do others come up to me and say "wow you have no boobs!" The problem is too that we remember the negative comments over all of the positive ones. I'm sure so many people in your life (your boy included of course) have told you how absolutely beautiful you are, but all it takes is one asshole pointing out your small chest to make you forget that. I'm not the best one to give advice on here, because as you may have noticed I'm still struggling myself, but I am here for commiseration and I can tell you that after talking to the ladies in here you will start to feel better about yourself. Of course you are going to have moments where you feel so down, and I wish that there was some way to take that away, but you will definitely have days where you feel really good and don't care what the world thinks- and that is what we can help each other feel like.

Keep us posted about your engagement, you're going to make a beautiful bride!! Tyra Banks even did a show recently about wedding dresses for smaller chested ladies, so I'll try to find out if there is a link to that somewhere. Hope you're feeling better today!

<3 buttercups

[dancingqueen]

Hi! I'm new, and yes I did introduce myself in the newbies thread

I'm 22 and have A cups. Same since I have been 12....yay. I see teenagers who are bigger than me and hate it. A cup bras do not work well and look awkward and leave a huge gap to the point where I cannot bend over in a low cut shirt. I've considered breast implants since I was 14 just to get over this shit.

Any advice/support out there? I'm about to be engaged (keep them crossed ladies!!!) and he loves me for EXACTLY who I am. Great right? Kinda sucks when I don't love myself. It has been a roller coaster of love/hate for these little ones. And every time I start to feel secure about it, some asshole makes a comment and there I go, back to ground zero. Oh, and btw, since when did people get the right to say comments/remarks about my body????

I'm really excited for this group. I think it will be really supportive. THANKS!!

[just_a_guy]

Sorry if I disrespected etiquette by not introducing myself in the newbies thread, or if anyone took offense to my post.

I was being sincere, and don't believe I posted anything troll-like.

Yes, that is my real picture

I posted because I thought I could add something positive to the discussion. If any individuals feel like I failed to do so, then I apologize for wasting their time. On the other hand, if anyone has a gripe strictly because I happen to be male and still wanted to offer my support on this issue, then I suppose all I can say is that we must subscribe to different brands of feminism.

[karategrrl]

Well said, Persiflager. just_a_guy, I can speak for myself in that I did find your comments more valuable than, well, just about any other male's comments have been in here. And I especially liked your visual of your penis flagging about for all to see, and to judge its size. But yeah, I've learned (through, I admit, some awkward online moments of my own) that it's always best to say hi first and figuratively dip a toe in the water before jumping in.

And the fact that you used what looks like a real picture of yourself also scores a few points, at least with me. But if that's not really you, then I take that back.

[Persiflager]

*delurks*

Dude...

Let's start fresh. Please pop into the newbies thread and introduce yourself. I'd suggest something like:

"Hi! I'm just a guy [insert generic greeting, personal information etc]. I found this forum because a friend forwarded the NY Times article to me, and knows how much I appreciate small-boobed ladies. Would it be creepy or inappropriate if I posted in the small breast support thread? I understand this may be a girls-only safe space and that you might feel uncomfortable if I burst in randomly talking about your breasts. If so, cool, whatevs - I'll just say "Yay for small boobies!" and be on my merry way."

I say this out of love, and a belief that your post below was non-trolly and well-intentioned.

Peace out.

*relurks*

[buttercups]

Wow don't know how I feel about that article, I kinda like this group being our own special place to vent and share experiences with other women who understand. Hope other people who visit this place because of the article can respect that...

[just_a_guy]

Speaking as a man in his late 20s, I much prefer small to large breasts. Always have.

I've been trying to talk female acquaintances out of getting implants since I was 14 (I've only failed once) and, while I used to joke that I ran "a non-profit organization dedicated to preventing the extinction of the small-breasted American female" (and that we pursued our mission through offerings of small breast appreciation seminars and one-on-one hands on workshops) the truth is that I honestly care.

Running a small lingerie etailer a few years back, I was constantly trying to find attractive products that would fit the women I dated. It was certainly not easy.

I think that nearly everyone has body image issues but the fact of the matter is that we live in a culture surrounded by messages that the only value we (and especially women) have is as a sexual object while simultaneously being told that nudity is pornographic, and that sex is dirty. That said, I think women have a really hard time given the prominence (pardon the pun) of your secondary sexual characteristics.

I can only imagine what it would be like to walk around with my penis ostensibly on display in a world surrounded by advertisements that would have you believe anything under ten inches is inadequate. I saw my sister go through it in adolescence, opting to joke about being a member of the IBTC rather than display her feelings of inadequacy, and I've watched those feelings follow her into adulthood. Even during her first pregnancy I cannot enumerate the times she talked about how she looked forward to filling out a bra.

All of this said, I think that it's important to know that there are potential partners out there who will VALUE our assets, not settle for them, as we try to do the same.

If I hear about any support groups in the Los Angeles area, you can bet I'll be there. Partly because I'm currently single, but mostly because I care

FYI - I found this forum because a friend forwarded the NY Times article to me. She knows me too well

[lux]

They mentioned, and quote, this thread in NY Times yesterday. I didn't know my tits are actually newsworthy

"For the A-Cup Crowd, Minimal Assets Are a Plus"

[koffeewitch]

Ladies, show your tatas some love...here's a great tutorial for making your own bras. I think these look great; the pattern is slightly padded for comfort and made for the small-medium sized gal. Because of the material, the bra could even be worn like a summer top for the more daring amoung you.
http://www.craftster.org/forum/index.php?topic=355718.0

[strongirl]

nbdx, you have my respect and admiration for having a really healthy and strong perspective in spite of getting some pretty f'd up parenting along the way. Living well is the best revenge.

Maybe you should share this article with your dad. I read this total eye-roller of a "news" bit today about Heidi Montag, who is now regretting her size G implants, which are "crushing" her and caused the end of her marriage. When she says it's "heartbreaking" I have to think "No, rape in the Congo is heartbreaking. Childhood leukemia is heartbreaking. Your size G implants ending your marriage to a total jerk are sad, yes, pathetic, yes, a serious error in judgment, yes. Heartbreaking, uh no."

http://www.allvoices.com/s/event-6602631/a...jkzNjcxLmh0bWw=

[karategrrl]

Yeah, nbdx, that was a fucked-up thing for your dad of all people to say to you.

And this is not NOT an excuse for men, but I seriously think most men have never even come close to understanding what it's like to be a woman. My own Dad in many ways is very feminist (always instilled in me getting an education, being independant, learning to change a fucking car tire for god's sake) yet he made some seriously idiotic fucktwat comments when I was younger. Example: I came home from school one day (freshman year of college--I commuted and lived at home) all frazzled b/c some dipshit stopped at a stop sign said to me as I walked by, "Why don't you give me head while I wait?" To this, my dad said, "Oh, that's not so bad!" Uuuuuhhh, YEAH buddy, YOU try walking in my fucking shoes for a mile.

Sorry, didn't mean to get on a rant, but people are just amazingly clueless sometimes. MANY men think all problems can be solved with implants. Do your best to educate them, but don't hold your breath either.

nbdx, let me say that despite your "messed up" family, you sound like you turned out amazingly well. Good for you! <<hugs>>

[nbdx0645]

Maybe your sister's lack of confidence has something to do with all the crap he's probably been putting in her head for years attributing her lack of certain features to any problems she's come across in life.

No, you're not offending me at all. My family is messed up. Sometimes, when they say things, I can't believe that it's real. My dad has told me that if I'm unhappy I should get implants. I'm convinced it's not going to help at all; after all, it didn't help my mother. What's the difference between saying "I'm really small, is that okay?" to your lover or "I've got fake boobs, is that okay?"

I think then men I want to attract would be more likely to RUN AWAY at the second statement.

[buttercups]

Aww thanks ladies, hope it helps in some way cause I really do mean it.

nbdx I don't want to offend you or anything but I think it's really strange that your father would talk about you and your sister like that. And does he seriously believe that success is measured by the shape and size of your body?! Wow my family has said some pretty messed up things too, but this one really pisses me off. If this were true than all the happy, successful women in the world would be supermodels. I think there are plenty of other women doing fantastic in life with plenty of physical "flaws" and it has nothing to do with luck! Ugh it seems so sexist too, basically saying once again that women are only worth what they look like. So sorry you are subjected to this bullshit. Do you have any brothers? Wonder what he would think their reason would be if they were having any problems, bet it wouldn't be their bodies...Maybe your sister's lack of confidence has something to do with all the crap he's probably been putting in her head for years attributing her lack of certain features to any problems she's come across in life.

[nbdx0645]

Hi all,
I had a big run-in with my family this weekend, and I want to talk about it. I was talking to my father about my sister, who is having all sorts of financial and emotional issues, and he said "Well she doesn't have the slim body with the huge boobs, so no wonder she doesn't have any confidence." He was naming off her friends from the past who had great bodies and are doing fantastic in life.

I got really pissed. I said, "I don't have that type of body and I'm doing great." and then he told me "That I was really lucky." Seriously?

I'm tired of being so pear-shaped; I hate having a hip measurement that's significantly larger than my bust, but I'm more tired of the idiocy that runs in my family. No wonder my mom got a boob job. >: (

[anarch]

What a beautiful reply you wrote to Spot-on, Buttercups. We should all strive to be and have the kind of friend you are, to offer support with the perfect balance that you just demonstrated.

Wow, yeah. Seconded (to Spot-on and Buttercups both)!

In future when I need to combine support and balance, I'll refer to that piece of writing as inspiration and guide.

[spot-on]

I just wanted to say THANK YOU to Buttercups before I head out to work, then disappear for a few days due busy weekend ahead. Will update soon

[strongirl]

What a beautiful reply you wrote to Spot-on, Buttercups. We should all strive to be and have the kind of friend you are, to offer support with the perfect balance that you just demonstrated.