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post Jun 6 2011, 02:08 PM
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I still haven't been able to watch the documetary, but I highly recommend reading the comments!
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post Jun 6 2011, 08:39 AM
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DeeRayy, I haven't looked at the documentary but just reading what you wrote - oh my gosh, girl, that is SO profound and beautiful! I teared up reading it. I really think you are onto something incredibly powerful. It's one thing to say "I wish I felt better about my body" and another thing to take the power of you mind and use it to comfort, be kind to, appreciate, and come to terms with your own body. Your boobs must be feeling very grateful and loved right now! This is epic, DeeRayy.
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post Jun 6 2011, 07:09 AM
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PS: thanks for the link--I can't watch it at work right now, but I will later. I LOOOVE documentaries, so thank you for turning me on to this site!

I have to admit that there was a time I thought I was "unusual"looking for this very reason, and checked out labiaplasty. I was so sickened by watching the process (in another documentary) I knew I could never do that to myself (how I also feel about breast implants). I mentioned labiaplasty to my (male) gyno last visit (I honestly forget how it came up, but it was not b/c I wanted to do it myself) and I was really impressed with his reaction. Basically, he thought it was nuts, and he mentioned a Dr. he knew of who was removed from his legitimate gyno practice for doing that on the side. My Dr. couldn't fathom why any woman would do that and I told him it was mostly b/c woman are comparing themselves to photoshopped porn pictures. He had no idea.

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post Jun 6 2011, 06:55 AM
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QUOTE(DeeRayy @ Jun 6 2011, 03:54 AM) *
and when she was saying this, all i could think about were my boobs. and i kind of thought to myself , hmmm, well if my boobs could talk, what would they say? (sorry if this is sounding silly to anyone, but i works for me). and i know that my boobs would definitely NOT say "cut us open! fill us with silicone! hide us with your clothes! suffocate us with push-up bras!". if anything, my boobs would probably have a lot of pent up anger towards me. they'd feel un-loved and personally attacked. and it really made me feel like i kinda owe my boobs an apology. the poor dears, they've never done anything to deserve the way i treat them and feel about them! and after the documentary was finished, all i could do was look down at my boobs and think "i'm so sorry! i'm sorry for being so critical of you guys, for comparing you to others, for saying negative things about you when i look in the mirror instead of calling you beautiful, for not loving you guys the way you are, and most of all, for never treating you guys with the kindness that every part of my body deserves ". me talking to my own boobs probably looked really ridiculous, but i really felt like they deserved an apology from me at that moment. anyways, that is my newfound method of being kind to my body. i really recommend you try it, with your boobs or any other part of your body.

DeeRayy, this is NOT weird--actually, it's so fucking awesome I don't even know where to start. I can't believe I never thought of it!

QUOTE(strongirl @ Jun 6 2011, 03:54 AM) *
One of the best things about the classes I took is the way women supported each other in accepting their bodies and expressing their sexuality. It really dismantles the whole "looks competition" thing between women. Rather than comparing and competing, we all hooted and hollered and cheered each other on. It felt good to appreciate and enjoy other womens' bodies and to let them know and make them feel good about themselves. And it felt good to be on the receiving end of it, too. I would highly recommend doing these classes as a way to work on one's body issues and have a lot of fun while doing it.

Girl, thank you for pointing this out. That, to me, would be so totally worth it. I am motivated to do this now. Seriously.
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DeeRayy
post Jun 5 2011, 10:54 PM
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hey all!
i've found a new mental exercise that's really helpful for me and i thought i should share it on here. i got the idea for it while watching a documentary on women's self image concerning their vaginas, and talks about the sudden increase in vaginal cosmetic surgery. yes, it's not directly related to boobies but i think it connects pretty well to my issues. i personally think it's a must see! if anyone is curious here's the link

http://documentaryheaven.com/the-perfect-vagina/

anyway, towards the end of the video they film a class that teaches women how to love their lady bits. and the instructor gave a mini speech that really resonated with me, she said:
"I get my ladies to take on the voice of their vaginas. What does their vagina want? What does their vagina not like? And what their vagina DOESN'T say is 'chop me up! cut me up! sew me up! make me tighter under a surgeon's knife'."

and when she was saying this, all i could think about were my boobs. and i kind of thought to myself , hmmm, well if my boobs could talk, what would they say? (sorry if this is sounding silly to anyone, but i works for me). and i know that my boobs would definitely NOT say "cut us open! fill us with silicone! hide us with your clothes! suffocate us with push-up bras!". if anything, my boobs would probably have a lot of pent up anger towards me. they'd feel un-loved and personally attacked. and it really made me feel like i kinda owe my boobs an apology. the poor dears, they've never done anything to deserve the way i treat them and feel about them! and after the documentary was finished, all i could do was look down at my boobs and think "i'm so sorry! i'm sorry for being so critical of you guys, for comparing you to others, for saying negative things about you when i look in the mirror instead of calling you beautiful, for not loving you guys the way you are, and most of all, for never treating you guys with the kindness that every part of my body deserves ". me talking to my own boobs probably looked really ridiculous, but i really felt like they deserved an apology from me at that moment. anyways, that is my newfound method of being kind to my body. i really recommend you try it, with your boobs or any other part of your body.

so i'm curious, if your boobs could talk what do you think they would say? and what would you say back to them? i'm betting that a lot of us here owe our boobs some type of apology.
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DeeRayy
post Jun 4 2011, 08:12 PM
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Congratulations KeraBear!
I give to you a virtual bear hug smile.gif
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post Jun 4 2011, 07:36 PM
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QUOTE(KeraBear @ Jun 4 2011, 06:48 PM) *
Good news, everyone! As of today, I am no longer a small-breasted highschooler! smile.gif


Congrats on your graduation!
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post Jun 4 2011, 05:48 PM
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Good news, everyone! As of today, I am no longer a small-breasted highschooler! smile.gif
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post Jun 3 2011, 10:55 PM
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I've taken a few of those classes and I found them totally enjoyable. I understand your ambivalence about the "stripper chic" thing, Karategrrl. But the classes are really about just having some sexy fun while getting a good workout and getting in touch with your body. I've done a couple pole classes, a cardio strip-tease class, a lap dance class, and last summer I took a 6 week burlesque class. All of them were a total blast. So far I have failed to really take this as far as I've wanted to in terms of actually performing with the burlesque troop or giving my bf a real lapdance. Not because I'm intimidated as much as just too freakin' busy and stressed out and for the past few months not very healthy. And to be honest, I sort of forgot about giving him a lapdance - I should probably revisit that one, LOL.

One of the best things about the classes I took is the way women supported each other in accepting their bodies and expressing their sexuality. It really dismantles the whole "looks competition" thing between women. Rather than comparing and competing, we all hooted and hollered and cheered each other on. It felt good to appreciate and enjoy other womens' bodies and to let them know and make them feel good about themselves. And it felt good to be on the receiving end of it, too. I would highly recommend doing these classes as a way to work on one's body issues and have a lot of fun while doing it.
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DeeRayy
post Jun 3 2011, 04:57 PM
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QUOTE(karategrrl @ Jun 3 2011, 05:44 AM) *
Part of me wants to do it b/c well, I like to feel sexy and use my body in wonderful ways and just be fabulous. The other part of me is not wanting to buy into that stripper/sex worker glorification mindset. Plus, I'm sure hubby will want a demo and honestly I'd feel like I could never live up to a "professional" performance and would feel totally un-confident about doing so. With just the other women in the class watching me, though, I'd be fine.


I can relate to a few of your opinions. I'm actually really open to trying out those types of classes. In fact, i plan on it eventually. I think it could be an empowering experience because it would probably help me become more comfortable with my sexuality , which i am not in touch with at ALL right now (of course, I have to work more on becoming comfortable with my body overall first). and i think it'd be kinda fun to give a future partner a lap dance. the thing is, if i were to do it, it would be more about me feeling sexy than pleasing my partner. i figure being able to strip or dance for someone without freaking out would be a big step for me in terms of body acceptance.

and btw karategrrl, i'm no expert on guys, but i don't think you have to worry about measuring up to a professional stripper. your husband will probably be too busy enjoying the show to critique your performance! haha.

pole dancing competitions?? my my. you have a point there karategrrl, i don't think pole dancing will ever be considered a respectable sport, ahaha. we're pretty conditioned to think "stripper" when we see a pole, and i don't think that's going to change anytime soon.
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post Jun 3 2011, 07:44 AM
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QUOTE(KeraBear @ Jun 2 2011, 06:00 PM) *
Wow... this is just... scary. I am a bit disappointed that the "nipple tassle Tshirt for girls" link didn't work. I was really wondering what that was all about. *shuddering*

I wonder if that nipple tassle thing was a joke?

Yeah, there seems to be a whole kind of weird "stripper chic" thing that has kinda popped up in recent years. Like, pole kits you an install in your house, stripper "bump and grind" workout videos, lap-dancing and "how to strip for your man" classes popping up through lingerie shops but also mainstream adult education venues. Personally, I'm kind of torn--I keep flirting with the idea of taking these "pole workout" and burlesque classes that are given nearby. Part of me wants to do it b/c well, I like to feel sexy and use my body in wonderful ways and just be fabulous. The other part of me is not wanting to buy into that stripper/sex worker glorification mindset. Plus, I'm sure hubby will want a demo and honestly I'd feel like I could never live up to a "professional" performance and would feel totally un-confident about doing so. With just the other women in the class watching me, though, I'd be fine.

Then again, "pole" stuff has evolved into something of a sport--there are championships and shit, it IS really athletically challenging, and that totally intrigues me. But then, it originated with the strippers, and b/c of that there will always be a stigma. For sure, men don't watch it and admire the athletic ability, they're just getting hot and horny.
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post Jun 2 2011, 01:00 PM
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QUOTE(karategrrl @ Jun 2 2011, 09:14 AM) *
I had to share this. No wonder the young girls are confused!
Pole Dancer toy for girls


Wow... this is just... scary. I am a bit disappointed that the "nipple tassle Tshirt for girls" link didn't work. I was really wondering what that was all about. *shuddering*
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post Jun 2 2011, 08:14 AM
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I had to share this. No wonder the young girls are confused!
Pole Dancer toy for girls
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post Jun 1 2011, 07:41 AM
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Karategrrl, I'm glad you said what you did about the "stripper club", it made me feel better. When I first read DeeRayy's post telling about it, I wanted to puke. But you're right - it helps to put it in context. Not that it's OK but it's not as catastrophic as one might think at first glance. Still - I wish they all had big sisters like DeeRayy to help buffer them against the tidal wave of crappy expectations that are going to be put on them in this culture.

DeeRayy - re. Audrey Hepburn, forgive me if I've told this already but my teenage son has a female friend who is obsessed with her as well. She's seen all her movies, has posters, screensaver, etc - she really idolizes Audrey Hepburn in a huge way! And interestingly, this girl is "curvy" and very large-breasted. So some of us slender, small-breasted girls envy being "womanly" like Kim Kardashian and Beyonce and then we have busty girls like my son's friend wishing they could look like Audrey Hepburn. Personally, I think it's healthiest to do it the way you are doing it, DeeRayy - to celebrate some of your own qualities in an idol.
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post Jun 1 2011, 06:42 AM
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QUOTE(DeeRayy @ Jun 1 2011, 01:58 AM) *
my little sister said there's a group of girls that call themselves the stripper club at her school. the fucking stripper club, and they're in elementary school! and they practice pole dancing during recess on the tether-ball courts. what is wrong with the world today???

What. The. Fuck.
You know, I have to say that I think a lot of it is being young, inexperienced and just not fully realizing what they're saying/doing. When I look back on some of the stuff I said and did (like in the pre-sexually active phase of my life) it makes me cringe. I truly didn't realize the fullness of what I was doing, and a lot of it was like "trying it out," if that makes any sense. I think young'uns emulate whatever popular culture throws at them. In the '50s it was Elvis and <gasp> swinging your hips around, in the '70s, maybe it was rollerskating in silky, shiny short-shorts that left nothing to the imagination. Today it's the stripper poles. So yeah, it makes us cringe, and not that it's okay, but I think a lot of it is just that they're unaware.

QUOTE(DeeRayy @ Jun 1 2011, 01:58 AM) *
you've got a point there kera. and it's not like guys stand around at a party and check out girls' noses. "oh man, look at the nostrils on that one!".

LOL!!! OMG, that's great.
No, they don't. I have to say, though, you never know. Some men have a thing about feet. I personally have a fetish about men's hands. Maybe it's that peer pressure thing--just like many guys don't necessarily prefer large breasts, they'll hoot and holler in a crowd of monkey-men like they do, when maybe there are more subtle or unusual things they appreciate.

QUOTE(DeeRayy @ Jun 1 2011, 01:58 AM) *
"There is more to sex appeal than just measurements. I don't need a bedroom to prove my womanliness. I can convey just as much sex appeal, picking apples off a tree or standing in the rain."

Lord, that was hot!!!!! And beautiful!! Made my day!!!
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post May 31 2011, 08:58 PM
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QUOTE(KeraBear @ May 31 2011, 05:40 PM) *
awwwwww it makes me sad thinking about girls at such a young age already feeling self conscious about their bodies. They are supposed to be busy being children, you know?!? I agree with karategrrl - she is lucky to have a big sis like you!

yes, it upsets me to no end! i wasn't even thinking about what my body looked like at her age! i hate how kids are trying to grow up so fast nowadays, especially girls. my little sister said there's a group of girls that call themselves the stripper club at her school. the fucking stripper club, and they're in elementary school! and they practice pole dancing during recess on the tether-ball courts. what is wrong with the world today???


QUOTE(KeraBear @ May 31 2011, 05:40 PM) *
You pose an interesting question, DeeRayy... what makes it so much easier to accept a nose and not a pair of boobs? I think maybe it is because boobs are commonly equated with femininity?

you've got a point there kera. and it's not like guys stand around at a party and check out girls' noses. "oh man, look at the nostrils on that one!".

everytime i think of how many people equate breasts with femininity i think of audrey hepburn (i'm in love with her you guys, it's unhealthy lol). she's the most feminine creature i've ever seen and she is in nooooo way the stereotypical busty blonde that is idealized nowadays. i'm going to leave you guys with one of her my favorite quotes from her-

"There is more to sex appeal than just measurements. I don't need a bedroom to prove my womanliness. I can convey just as much sex appeal, picking apples off a tree or standing in the rain."

gahh she's amazing biggrin.gif
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post May 31 2011, 07:40 PM
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QUOTE(DeeRayy @ May 31 2011, 03:15 AM) *
yes, it would be unfair of me to resent her and damage our relationship because of my own insecurities. and pretty selfish! as long as she remains sweet and respectful to me i'm fine by her. the thing is, i'm the oldest of nearly twenty grandchildren. a lot of them are girls and i want to set a good example for all of them. i may be a mess in private sometimes, but when i'm around my little cousins i try not to let it show.

but i mostly try to stay strong for my little sis. i love her to death and she's already starting to show signs of insecurity, and she's only eight! she's already self conscious about the hair on her legs, and you guys all know how cruel kids can be sometimes. she's so much younger than me that i feel no sense of competition with her. if anything i'm like a second mother to her. so i really want to set an example that shows her that physical appearance is not what defines you. it's not always easy to set the perfect example though!


awwwwww it makes me sad thinking about girls at such a young age already feeling self conscious about their bodies. sad.gif They are supposed to be busy being children, you know?!? I agree with karategrrl - she is lucky to have a big sis like you!


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one of the things i don't understand is why i can't have the same attitude about my breasts as i do my nose. i was probably teased more often for my hooked nose than my breasts (mainly in middle school and early high school). and i hated it for a good while but now i see it as kind of my trademark. it makes my face look unique and i wouldn't change it anymore-without it i wouldn't look like me. so it kinda puzzles me why i can't bring myself to look at my breasts the same way.


You pose an interesting question, DeeRayy... what makes it so much easier to accept a nose and not a pair of boobs? I think maybe it is because boobs are commonly equated with femininity?
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post May 31 2011, 07:11 AM
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ôlife isn't a contest to see who can nab the biggest cup size. honestly, if i let myself constantly compare my body to the rest of the world i'd go insane! i'm just going to let her be her and let me be me. besides, how am i ever going to become the best version of myself if i'm too busy worrying about everyone else?"

OMG, thus was wonderful to read.


DeeRayy, great link. I LOOOVE this woman's attitude! Seriosly, all it takes is for one brave person to stand up and others will follow and recognize the greatness.

DeeRayy, all I can say is how lucky your little sister is to have you around!! I know there's an age difference but maybe that can be a good thing. You say you've been more like a mother to her. Sheet, we can never have too many people who care about us, truly, whether they're like mothers or auntie figures or big sisters or whatever.
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post May 31 2011, 02:15 AM
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QUOTE(Allison-Shine @ May 30 2011, 12:35 PM) *
That says a lot about you for not feeling entirely self-conscious around her and valuing your relationship and quality time with her over any body issues that you may have. Yeah you can't resent her for what she physically is, its obviously unintentional and just physical nature on her part.


yes, it would be unfair of me to resent her and damage our relationship because of my own insecurities. and pretty selfish! as long as she remains sweet and respectful to me i'm fine by her. the thing is, i'm the oldest of nearly twenty grandchildren. a lot of them are girls and i want to set a good example for all of them. i may be a mess in private sometimes, but when i'm around my little cousins i try not to let it show.

but i mostly try to stay strong for my little sis. i love her to death and she's already starting to show signs of insecurity, and she's only eight! she's already self conscious about the hair on her legs, and you guys all know how cruel kids can be sometimes. she's so much younger than me that i feel no sense of competition with her. if anything i'm like a second mother to her. so i really want to set an example that shows her that physical appearance is not what defines you. it's not always easy to set the perfect example though!


QUOTE(KeraBear @ May 30 2011, 07:51 PM) *
Ha! This is great! smile.gif The strategically placed thumbs up over her booblets is so uniquely sexy! And she has such good things to say. I like her style. Good find, Dee...


haha, i'm glad you like it kerabear. i'm just sooo in love with this site right now. it's so touching. if you have time you can go to the navigation link, scroll down to the bottom part labeled "specific parts" and there's a link for breasts. surprisingly the breast section was just as big as the "size" or "fat" section. even more surprising was that the biggest section was on "noses". but i can understand why that is (i should remind you guys that i have a lot of facial features in common with lea michele haha).

one of the things i don't understand is why i can't have the same attitude about my breasts as i do my nose. i was probably teased more often for my hooked nose than my breasts (mainly in middle school and early high school). and i hated it for a good while but now i see it as kind of my trademark. it makes my face look unique and i wouldn't change it anymore-without it i wouldn't look like me. so it kinda puzzles me why i can't bring myself to look at my breasts the same way.
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post May 30 2011, 09:51 PM
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QUOTE(DeeRayy @ May 30 2011, 03:04 PM) *
hey girls! i just read the most adorable blog posts i've ever seen and i just have to share it with you guys!

http://stophatingyourbody.tumblr.com/post/...t-me-tell-you-a

her post made my day! this is definitely going on my favorites list. her thumbs up pose is adorable and she seems so happy with her itty bitties. it'll probably make a lot of you smile too smile.gif

i explored the entire site and it's one of the best body image movements i've seen. no bias, no "real women have curves" type slogans. just random people from all around the world posting pictures of their bodies and talking honestly about their struggles. it's fabulous smile.gif


Ha! This is great! smile.gif The strategically placed thumbs up over her booblets is so uniquely sexy! And she has such good things to say. I like her style. Good find, Dee...
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