[DeeRayy]

Went on a date with a new guy this weekend and had sex without apologizing for my boobies for the first time ever! i was even able to take off my bra (well i mean, i was able to let him take it off haha). progress progress progress!

if there are any young girls reading this, it gets better with time, it really does! just half a year ago i was contemplating never being naked with a guy, ever. and now i've been able to take it all off with two guys, and both of them reacted positively

[DeeRayy]

I have had quite a few negative experiences. A guy friend said I have "the figure of a 12 year old boy", a lady friend once compared my boobs to grapes, another lady friend (when we were trying on tops) said "You'll only be able to fit into that if you stuff." Random other strangers on the internet have said things like "Why is there a huge gap where your boobs should be", "implants are better than NOTHING", said that I'm completely unattractive, partially because I have "no boobs" and "am flat", etc.

oh wow. i am very sorry that you've had to go through that. i've had a few negative comments but nothing quite as bitter as what you have heard. just know that those comments were probably more about making you feel bad than about your appearance. some people just like to bring others down. my last two sexual partners have repeated the "boobs are boobs, it doesn't matter" phrase multiple times to me. heck, my most recent boyfriend practically tried to hardwire it into my head! it suprises me that you've recieved such comments. and if that is indeed you in your profile picture, let me just say that you are GORGEOUS. if anything the other women were probably just jealous of how thin you are. trust me when i say you have nothing to worry about in the looks department

and if any of the old busties are around, i have a new dilemma! me and my last boyfriend (the one who practically worshipped my body) just recently broke up. i know, it's a shame but i'm just not in a place where i can be in a healthy relationship with someone right now. first i must work on having a healthy relationship with myself, or else i'm just gonna keep driving my future boyfriends crazy with my insecurity and refusal to be completely intimate. plus it was long distance and those hardly ever work in college.

anywho, it's been a month since we've been broken up and i just got invited to over to a new guy's apartment on monday night. and i'm pretty sure he's expecting to hook up. the thing is, i got kinda used to my ex's super positive reaction to my body, and i'm really afraid this new guy is going to react lukewarm at best. idk what to do. i haven't had sex in a month so i'm not dying or anything but it would be nice (especially since i find him really attractive). but i'm not sure if i'll be able to handle the anxiety, and i'm afraid i'm gonna go back to leaving my bra on during sex again, which would make me really sad since i made so much progress with my last boyfriend.

[Outlaw]

I haven't really tried anything in terms of trying to embrace them because I don't even know how to do that. I don't know where to start. I tried to find cute tops that flatter my bust, but while all XS tops fit in the bust area, they are too tight in the rib area, so I can't wear those. And size small tops are too big in the bust area. So all of my tops are unflattering. I've tried just wearing v-neck t-shirts, but someone told me they aren't flattering because they aren't feminine enough on me or something. :/

I have had quite a few negative experiences. A guy friend said I have "the figure of a 12 year old boy", a lady friend once compared my boobs to grapes, another lady friend (when we were trying on tops) said "You'll only be able to fit into that if you stuff." Random other strangers on the internet have said things like "Why is there a huge gap where your boobs should be", "implants are better than NOTHING", said that I'm completely unattractive, partially because I have "no boobs" and "am flat", etc.

I'm so sorry to hear you had those negative comments. I know how hard it is to simply dismiss them. While I am much older than most or all on this forum(45), I can remember EVERY negative comment I ever got about my breasts when I was young. I will say that things get better as you get older. I found that once I got well into my 20s, no one cared at all what my breasts looked like and all negative comments stopped. I definitely cared more than anyone else. But we live in a breast obsessed society and it's really hard to be a woman who does not have what society says makes us "sexy" and "womanly." That point cannot be minimized. I have enjoyed reading the kind words and and support on this forum. It has helped me. But I do admit that while I am much more accepting of my breasts now, I still wish I had more and it has been an issue for me my entire life. I wonder if it is harder for young women today as there are so many getting fake ones. Oh and keep looking for flattering clothes. They are out there. It's a lot of work but trust me it's possible. I have struggled with that too.

[earlgreytea]

ah, i still feel like that on my bad days. i'm not sure where to start...have you tried anything thus far in terms of trying to embrace them? have you had negative experiences? i know my negative experiences when i was youger were what brought me here in the first place.

I haven't really tried anything in terms of trying to embrace them because I don't even know how to do that. I don't know where to start. I tried to find cute tops that flatter my bust, but while all XS tops fit in the bust area, they are too tight in the rib area, so I can't wear those. And size small tops are too big in the bust area. So all of my tops are unflattering. I've tried just wearing v-neck t-shirts, but someone told me they aren't flattering because they aren't feminine enough on me or something. :/

I have had quite a few negative experiences. A guy friend said I have "the figure of a 12 year old boy", a lady friend once compared my boobs to grapes, another lady friend (when we were trying on tops) said "You'll only be able to fit into that if you stuff." Random other strangers on the internet have said things like "Why is there a huge gap where your boobs should be", "implants are better than NOTHING", said that I'm completely unattractive, partially because I have "no boobs" and "am flat", etc.

[DeeRayy]

Well yeah, in a way I am seeking to actually at least like my boobs (I HATE them), so I could use a 12-step program right about now...

ah, i still feel like that on my bad days. i'm not sure where to start...have you tried anything thus far in terms of trying to embrace them? have you had negative experiences? i know my negative experiences when i was youger were what brought me here in the first place.

[Gen♥]

And Geneviève here, 19 years old, smallish A cups, learning to live happilly with them in this world

[skindeep1991]

Gisele here 20years old, Less than A's and I love them =]

welcome ladies I really hope you benefit from this blog I did. Love those boobies they're sexy

xXx

[earlgreytea]

ahaha. those sounded like they came from sort of twelve step meeting. so i'll continue. hello ladies, my name is Deerayy, and i have small A cups,
*hello Deerayy*

welcome to you both! if you guys have any topics or questions you'd like to talk about in particular, please tell

Well yeah, in a way I am seeking to actually at least like my boobs (I HATE them), so I could use a 12-step program right about now...

[DeeRayy]

Hey everyone! I'm new here. I decided to join after reading this thread.

I'm 22 and have less than A cups.

I have been reading for a month or so. Just registered. I am 45 and less than A cups too.

ahaha. those sounded like they came from sort of twelve step meeting. so i'll continue. hello ladies, my name is Deerayy, and i have small A cups,
*hello Deerayy*

welcome to you both! if you guys have any topics or questions you'd like to talk about in particular, please tell

[Outlaw]

I have been reading for a month or so. Just registered. I am 45 and less than A cups too.

[earlgreytea]

Hey everyone! I'm new here. I decided to join after reading this thread.

I'm 22 and have less than A cups.

[DeeRayy]

awww, it's been so dead around here
(sadface )

[skindeep1991]

Also Gem I thought these pages might be of help to you when you're having a bad day =]

http://theittybittytittycommittee.tumblr.com/

http://hoorayforsmallboobies.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahsmallboobs.tumblr.com/

[skindeep1991]

I'm 19 years old and my breast grew slowly until I was like 14 years old. When looking at the past, I feel a bit stupid because no one ever laughed of me or directly said anything mean about my small breast. I've always been around good and respectful person and I've been lucky for that... I've been the one starting jokes and negatives remarks about my breast but my friends never got to much into it. Still, as being teenage girls, we talked about breast and I was definitely the smallest one. No one ever said something negative but I've always feel like I was being taken in pity, like "having small breast is not the end of the world but... Yeah it sucks for you". I've been thinking about breast implants a long time but I realize it's truly against my values. Now, everything reminds me of my breasts, I'm probably thinking about them 50% of the time, it's an obsession. I need to be careful with the movies I watch because if there's a remark about small breast it makes me incredibly sad, I need to be careful with the music I listen, pop especially. Because of one song where they talk about big breast each pop songs makes me think about my breast, I'm very careful on the internet because of those ads where the breasts implants of some "sexy russian girl" who is "really attracted to eastern men " wants to meet me. Anyway, I feel like it's everywhere and it's very hard but I'm also conscious that it's mostly in my head, that I perceive everything negatively...

Gen I know exactly how you feel, apart from one 'friend' I've not really had negative comments but even my mother used to take pity in me because of my breasts. I've gotten past it though and I hope one day you do as well. Your obsession with breasts is upsetting to hear because you shouldn't compare yourself to others. Maybe instead of concentrating on the big breasts concentrate on all the small ones out there. That's what I do, Instead of looking at to 100+ women in the movies with large breasts I notice the 2 with there small breasts and look at how gorgeous they are and how they carry themselves. Instead of making your breasts something you're ashamed about you should make them something to be proud of. Covering them up with a lot of padding is not going to help your confidence with them, Maybe make them something unusual, show them off. Trust me the men will look and they will not be displeased. The only negative comments breasts get are comments made by other insecure females.
My confidence has improved so much with them since I got them pierced (I'm not suggesting that this should be what you do if you don't want to) but perhaps by gorgeous lacy underwear that makes you feel sexy or wear tight fitting tops with no bra or very little padding. Start of just doing it around the house (this is how I did it) and look at them in the mirror from the side under your tight fitting top. I'll tell you now you're not going to be disappointed.

Think about it this way, How often do you see big breasts (not that they're not gorgeous also) and how often do you see false breasts. And because they're around all the time they become the norm right almost a little bit boring?...well small breasts I find are a lot more intriguing and I think most men think that as well. Sort of like a taboo, something that isn't seen often. Did you know that some beaches in Australia do not permit small breasted women in bikinis because its found to be too sexy?

Honestly, you need to learn to love them because they're part of you and they're going to be around forever, You will love them as you and your friends get a lot older and yours stay perky and small. They may even make you look younger. You need to stop worrying about other people and how you may be perceived, It's all about how you perceive yourself. If you love them, everyone else will. Wear those babies with pride =]

Also you mentioned songs about big breasts so I thought I'd drop this here too
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F2IB_1GuC7k

[Gen♥]

Hi everyone! I've been reading this forum for a while and I just really felt the need to thank all of you, this forum helped me so much... Each time I feel down because of my breast I come here and it's the only thing that truly helps me feel better. It’s incredible how I can relate to all of your posts, it makes me feel less lonely and stronger to know that I'm not the only one who thinks the way I do and also that you can live happy with your small booblets

I'm 19 years old and my breast grew slowly until I was like 14 years old. When looking at the past, I feel a bit stupid because no one ever laughed of me or directly said anything mean about my small breast. I've always been around good and respectful person and I've been lucky for that... I've been the one starting jokes and negatives remarks about my breast but my friends never got to much into it. Still, as being teenage girls, we talked about breast and I was definitely the smallest one. No one ever said something negative but I've always feel like I was being taken in pity, like "having small breast is not the end of the world but... Yeah it sucks for you". I've been thinking about breast implants a long time but I realize it's truly against my values. Now, everything reminds me of my breasts, I'm probably thinking about them 50% of the time, it's an obsession. I need to be careful with the movies I watch because if there's a remark about small breast it makes me incredibly sad, I need to be careful with the music I listen, pop especially. Because of one song where they talk about big breast each pop songs makes me think about my breast, I'm very careful on the internet because of those ads where the breasts implants of some "sexy russian girl" who is "really attracted to eastern men " wants to meet me. Anyway, I feel like it's everywhere and it's very hard but I'm also conscious that it's mostly in my head, that I perceive everything negatively...

Oh well... that was long, sorry if some sentences are incoherent, english isn't my first language... and thanks again, I know it sounds cheesy but because of this threads I see a brighter future ahead of me

[DeeRayy]

Hey all!
So I'm taking a class on skepticism/the human belief sytstem (shout out to my psych majors out there!) and I just recently read a fascinating article on why humans are so good at maintaining irrational beliefs. and the jist of this article was that as humans we are pretty much hardwired to do so. And, as I was reading this article I automatically connected the concepts in it to my beliefs about my own body. I'd like to think of myself as an intelligent young lady, and I try to be as rational as I can, yet I still can't truly discard the fears I have in my head about my boyfriend not really liking my boobs/body as much as he says he does (i made the guy i talked about iin my last story my boyfriend, pretty smart decision if i do say so myself ^.^) even though he does nothing but show affection and enthusiasm for my body when we have sex. and i still can't explain why i still cringe and cover up when i have to take off my bra in front of him even though he has always reacted positively to seeing them. it just puzzles the crap out of me! he's always teling me how attractive he finds me, and i know at he's already seen my boobs and reacted positively to them before. so why the heck can't i just believe him when he tells me that he likes them and be comfortable with him seeing me naked? it's just so frustrating! but reading this article really gave me some insight as to why it's so hard to get rid of my negative beliefs about my body.

the article starts off by explaining that we are programmed to learn and make connections to things that co-occur rather than things that do not because the human brain naturally looks for patterns. (e.g., we think of our friend sally and she calls. we are now more likely to associate the events despite the countless thimes that sally has called us without us thinking of her beforehand because events that occur in unison have more impact on us). So , at age 18 when my first serious boyfriend broke up with me just two weeks after he had criticized my breasts, i made a connection in my brain to the two events and since i was looking for some sort of closure in the relationship i blamed everything on my breasts, which is what initially started this terrible cycle of hatred towards my body. and as we all know, it is very hard to simply un-learn a connection once it is made, especially if there i s a lot of emotion involved in the event. and here i am at 20 years old still fighting this association that exists only in my own head.

the article then talked about how human perception is largely a reality that we construct ourselves, and that our own biases and beliefs play a large part in constructing that reality. so, since i made a strong connection to my boobs and male disappointment long ago i am predisposed to inrepreting events in such a way as to support that association. so, whenever a new guy came along, he was already dissapointed by my boobs as far as i was concerned. and there was simply no way that the guy could win, because even if he had done nothing to make me think that he didn't like my body, the belief was already there in my head.

the article also states that the same rules apply to memory. our memories are also largely influenced by our belief and emotions, so we also tend to recall experiences in such a way that aligns in our beliefs. and i do this as well. when i was having casual sex with my neighbor, i would sleep over at his house and wake up the next morning, but in the morning would remember the sex in such a way that confirms my own beliefs about my body. for example, i'll think to myself "oh, he didn't even protest when i said i wanted to keep my bra on. he must not even have wanted to see them since they're so small/gross/dissapointing, etc." even though the reality was that i had never let him take off my bra before so he just probably didn't feel like trying anymore.

i know that my issues are a little more complicated than just a few connections that i made in my brain a couple of years ago, there's also the media and societal expectations and my own personal beliefs about womanhood. but this has really helped me take a look at my own faulty belief system and i think it's a starting point to figuring out how i can make an effort to look at situations (especially sexual situations with guys) logically instead of through my own personal biases. and hopefully this can help some of you too!

[DeeRayy]

Now, as for me, I have a question about breast envy I feel like such a fool because of this! I have a friend who is a 36C or 34D depending on the bra, and she loves her breasts... she loves wearing tight fitting or low cut tops, and when I'm around her and around men, I feel so invisible. I know, it's stupid... but I also get a bit jealous when guys seem to pay more attention to her or call her beautiful and hot, or when they "like" or comment her pictures on Facebook (coincidentially only the ones in which her breasts are noticeable by either cleavage or tight clothes).

It's such a stupid situation... because for one these guys can't help finding her attractive and it's ok, and also because I know I'm pretty, smart, fun and talented, too, and yet I let some stupid guys' opinion make me feel down, I take it personally, and I know receiving that kind of attention is also creepy and not important, and yet sometimes I honestly find myself wanting it... has anyone gone through something like this? And how can I "de-stupidify" myself? I mean, I'm not even looking for a boyfriend, and yet I care about male attention... ugh... I make myself so angry sometimes...

hmmm, well what kind of attention are you talking about when you say "that kind" of attention? are you talking specifically about attention to your breasts, or are you talking about sexual attention in general? because if you are referring simply to sexual attention, anytime you catch a guy checking you out, or even any time you get asked out on a date, you're getting "that" kind of attention. sure, guys don't constantly stare down my blouse, but i think that anytime a guy shows any interest in dating/getting to know you , it's basically a given that he's attracted to you and would jump at the chance to have sex with you. yes big breasts catch a lot of stares, but that's because they're BIG. they're just more in your face than smallies, but smallies can be just as appreciated in a sexual situation. i mean, there's more than one way to garner sexual attention. and if you really feel like you want guys to stare at your chest, just try out wearing a push up bra for a day. it might be aided cleavage, but it's still your cleavage.

[karategrrl]

DeeRayy, your story totally made my day, and I will probably be thinking about that for years! thank you for sharing--whether he knows it or not, that sweet guy has not only boosted (boob-sted??) you up but all of us as well. It's nice just knowing that there are people out there who can appreciate what we have.

Secretsight, I can relate to the breast envy thing. This is tough, especially when it's someone you come into contact with a lot in person, on FB, whatever. One of the things we've touched on in this forum is the fact that, for whatever reason, people (okay, mostly men) seem to make a big deal out of breasts, especially big ones--at least publicly. I dont' see anything significantly changing that in my lifetime. Don't feel stupid for feeling the way you do--they're your feelings and you are entitled to them! (Ha, enTITled.)

Men--and people in general--can and do appreciate all kinds of boobs and bodies and asses and everything. Proof of this is DeeRayy's new guy! Woot! But the big boob thing seems to be something that is much more popular or acceptable among people with big mouths and strong opinions that they make known.

For your own sanity and happiness, remember your own awesomeness and hotness especially when you are around her and, not to be catty--but this may really help you-- is there some physicial characteristic you possess that she does not? Keeping in mind your great hair, smile, eyes, legs, skin, pretty hands, even something fun you are wearing, can help build your confidence when you are around her. That said, if you have to limit certain situations with this person, do so. You're worth it.

I won't lie--this IS tough, but remember that it's something that many, many people must go through in some fashion. Some short guys are envious of tall guys, and think the girls only like them for that. Some people think they're too pale and envy those with mocha skin. Some people think blue eyes are best and envy those with blue eyes. Some people are missing a leg and may envy those with two, who can run easily. It goes on and on. I could guarantee that at some point in your life, someone envied YOU and/or attention YOU got.

[skindeep1991]

Now, as for me, I have a question about breast envy I feel like such a fool because of this! I have a friend who is a 36C or 34D depending on the bra, and she loves her breasts... she loves wearing tight fitting or low cut tops, and when I'm around her and around men, I feel so invisible. I know, it's stupid... but I also get a bit jealous when guys seem to pay more attention to her or call her beautiful and hot, or when they "like" or comment her pictures on Facebook (coincidentially only the ones in which her breasts are noticeable by either cleavage or tight clothes).

It's such a stupid situation... because for one these guys can't help finding her attractive and it's ok, and also because I know I'm pretty, smart, fun and talented, too, and yet I let some stupid guys' opinion make me feel down, I take it personally, and I know receiving that kind of attention is also creepy and not important, and yet sometimes I honestly find myself wanting it... has anyone gone through something like this? And how can I "de-stupidify" myself? I mean, I'm not even looking for a boyfriend, and yet I care about male attention... ugh... I make myself so angry sometimes...

I know exactly how you feel. I act exactly the same, I'm in a relationship but male attention is nice, It makes you feel desirable. And I used to have a friend DD that used to wear next to nothing whenever we went out and especially around my partner. It used to really put me off introducing her to anyone. But my envy is ridiculous to the point I don't want my boyfriend meeting half the girls I know in case he'd find them attractive. I think I'm still a little hurt about previous issues with him though.

Sadly enough I don't really know how you can 'de-stupidify' yourself because I haven't been able to, It's just there in my brain. I fixed that issue by not being friends with her anymore because she wasn't a very good friend but I suppose maybe you could talk to your friend about it? These situations clearly put a wedge between the friendship. I know this so called friend and I used to compete constantly. Well I'd feel like we were competing all the time because she enjoyed the attention and I like attention sometimes too. It wasn't a healthy friendship. I don't know much about your friendship or what this girl is like but if you guys are close maybe you could mention how you feel about it. She'll probably reassure you and talk about her insecurities as well which will make you feel better to know you're not alone. I think what we forget sometimes is that EVERYONE has insecurities regardless of what they are. so even though you're envying her breasts she might envy something about you that she's insecure about.

Sorry if I'm not much help I just replied to let you know you're not alone and I go through these crazy envying moments all the time.
we're only human. "grass is always greener" and what not
x

[secretsights88]

I'm so happy for you, Dee!!! I know this was a huge step for you, but I'm so glad that your guy was so appreciative. I'm sure it feels like a small boobie victory for you... I hope it keeps going well for you, because honestly, the pleasure that comes from boobie loving is tremendous... I've even had orgasms just by that, when the right guy has done the right things... I didn't know it was possible, and it was... I don't always have orgasms by breast stimulation, but I've had, and it was awesome! And still, even when there are no orgasms, breast stimulation is still awesome.

Now, as for me, I have a question about breast envy I feel like such a fool because of this! I have a friend who is a 36C or 34D depending on the bra, and she loves her breasts... she loves wearing tight fitting or low cut tops, and when I'm around her and around men, I feel so invisible. I know, it's stupid... but I also get a bit jealous when guys seem to pay more attention to her or call her beautiful and hot, or when they "like" or comment her pictures on Facebook (coincidentially only the ones in which her breasts are noticeable by either cleavage or tight clothes).

It's such a stupid situation... because for one these guys can't help finding her attractive and it's ok, and also because I know I'm pretty, smart, fun and talented, too, and yet I let some stupid guys' opinion make me feel down, I take it personally, and I know receiving that kind of attention is also creepy and not important, and yet sometimes I honestly find myself wanting it... has anyone gone through something like this? And how can I "de-stupidify" myself? I mean, I'm not even looking for a boyfriend, and yet I care about male attention... ugh... I make myself so angry sometimes...