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post Jun 13 2008, 07:07 AM
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QUOTE(dj-bizmonkey @ Jun 11 2008, 04:16 PM) *
here is an uplifting story. i was in the gym locker room the other day and there was a huge swarm of young girls who had just gotten out of the pool. i literally had to wade through them to get to my locker after my shower. i was changing, and trying to modest in front of the little girls, but they were all around me. this cute little mixed girl who was right at my feet looked up at me and said, 'your boobies are pretty!' i was slightly mortified, but blushing was out of embarassment and joy. just thought i'd share.


OMG, that totally makes my day!!!!!! (If it personally happened to me it would make not just my day, but my LIFE!) Thanks SO MUCH for sharing! (and I hope that totaly makes up for your other not-so-fun experience in the locker room with those bitchy girls! wink.gif
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post Jun 12 2008, 10:16 PM
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thanks for replying. OK dumb question but what is a bralette??
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post Jun 12 2008, 10:11 PM
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Pherber, it's funny that you see the pencil test as an ugly euphemism for large-breasted women... as crino said we've discussed it before, and I think most of us small ladies thought that we "failed" if the pencil fell... and of course that failing was a bad thing. I for one never tried it, because, duh, I knew the pencil would fall, but it used to make me feel bad just hearing about it.

I just watched "I'm Not There." Didn't love the movie, but I loved the little glimpses of Charlotte Gainsbourg's boobies. I think Carla Bruni is beautiful too, though I don't know much about her personal politics, at all. So no comment there.
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post Jun 12 2008, 08:34 PM
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Oops, sorry about that! sad.gif

I understand what she means now.
Thing is the pencil test is usually used as a very ugly euphemism for large breasted women.
My misunderstanding came from reading "AND none" instead of "BUT none"


I'll fuck off now and promise to leave you girls alone! wink.gif
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post Jun 12 2008, 08:17 PM
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uhmmm, Pherber... I think that perhaps you misunderstood the pencil comment. You see, in this thread there has long been a discussion of the legendary "pencil test" and those who "fail" it. I think that strongirl was excited to see images of small "failed" breasts in the media, no matter how offensive that particular media is.
I don't really understand how that particular statement was offensive or disrespectful, she merely pointed out that these sexy women could not keep a pencil up with their breasts, just like we who use this thread have observed about ourselves.

It can be painful to possess a body type ("flat-chested" if you will) that does not exist in mainstream imagery of sexy women. This is a space where we celebrate the small (perceived) victories that make us feel "normal" and "sexy".

I agree wholeheartedly with the sentiment that we (ALL women) should celebrate and enjoy what breasts we have on our real live bodies. We are beautiful.

oceangirl- there are all kinds of cute lacy "bralette"s available, I know there are some at urbanoutfitters.com, and elsewhere as well.


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post Jun 12 2008, 07:37 PM
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QUOTE(strongirl @ Jun 12 2008, 06:21 PM) *
Back to boob talk - did any of you see the June issue of Playboy? There are some awesome small-titted hotties in there. Two pages of pics of the new French first lady, Carla Bruni, former supermodel and now successful singer (her music is waaay cool too). She's gorgeous, probably an A or AA cup, and has an impressive resume of ex-lovers from Mick Jagger to Eric Clapton.

And a spread on the dancers in Crazy Horse, a French review that is now playing in Vegas. Hot little titties, from AA to maybe a B cup, but none that could keep the pencil off the floor.

If Playboy can celebrate small tits, surely we can love and enjoy the ones on our own bodies?

It didn't look too bad, but it's not something I would go to at least not with my bf. I have to remind him just to pay attention to mine. rolleyes.gif
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post Jun 12 2008, 07:31 PM
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Oh the other thing I was going to say is I am totally fine with having small breasts. I used to feel insecure about it and less female because of my small breasts but I am totally over that now except I cannot find any bras!

There is nothing wrong with small breasts. The only problem is no one wants to make nice bras for 'em!
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oceangirl
post Jun 12 2008, 07:26 PM
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I haven't been following this thread for quite a while but I was wondering if anyone can help me out.

I lost a lot of weight and none of my bras fit me (I was up to a full A and now I am down to well less than an A).

The only thing that I have found that I like is a seamless "bra" (more like a microfiber crop top) made by Bestform (comes in small, medium, and large). I used to buy them at Walmart but they don't sell them anymore. All they sell are "petite" bras (aka bras that don't fit at all, are massively uncomfortable and padded).

SOOO my question is anyone know where I can order the microfiber Bestform crop tops? It is not like a bra in the sense that there is no clasp. It is not the sexiest thing by far but it is comfortable and for a girl who doesn't really "need" a bra it works for me (if you know what I mean).

I will re-pay you all by designing a line of lingerie (comfortable AND sexy) one day - I swear. I'm not kidding.

Until that day I am looking to find some place to order seamless microfiber bestform bras online. any help is appreciated.

thank you!
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post Jun 12 2008, 07:17 PM
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QUOTE(strongirl @ Jun 12 2008, 11:21 PM) *
Back to boob talk - did any of you see the June issue of Playboy? There are some awesome small-titted hotties in there. Two pages of pics of the new French first lady, Carla Bruni, former supermodel and now successful singer (her music is waaay cool too). She's gorgeous, probably an A or AA cup, and has an impressive resume of ex-lovers from Mick Jagger to Eric Clapton.

And a spread on the dancers in Crazy Horse, a French review that is now playing in Vegas. Hot little titties, from AA to maybe a B cup, but none that could keep the pencil off the floor.

If Playboy can celebrate small tits, surely we can love and enjoy the ones on our own bodies?

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Oh, I can see how reading playboy works wonders for developing a feminist attitude.

Seriously, I don't know a single guy, who has the audacity to describe women in such a disrespectful and chauvinistic way, and if one did so in my presence, I'd bitchslap him into oblivion.

...and this, AFTER we've taken it outside and agreed, that freedom of speech should maybe include a minimum of respect for other women.


PS:
Oh, and seriously- Carla fucking Bruni????
The one who chased a much older married man, because in her own words, she "wants a man with nuclear power"?
The one who compared her fate of being of public interest to the "denounced jews" in the second world war?
pfffff
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post Jun 12 2008, 05:04 PM
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Back to boob talk - did any of you see the June issue of Playboy? There are some awesome small-titted hotties in there. Two pages of pics of the new French first lady, Carla Bruni, former supermodel and now successful singer (her music is waaay cool too). She's gorgeous, probably an A or AA cup, and has an impressive resume of ex-lovers from Mick Jagger to Eric Clapton.

And a spread on the dancers in Crazy Horse, a French review that is now playing in Vegas. Hot little titties, from AA to maybe a B cup, but none that could keep the pencil off the floor.

If Playboy can celebrate small tits, surely we can love and enjoy the ones on our own bodies?

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post Jun 12 2008, 04:55 PM
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I hope no one interpreted my comments as urging self-censorship. I love the open dialogue of this forum and think that is a big part of the benefit - you can say what you think and get equally honest feedback in return. Part of what I get out of this is a way to fine-tune and develop my own thoughts - by viewing my own opinions through the lens of other people's perspectives.

I am reminded of the words of a wonderful therapist I went to years ago. He encouraged me to express myself "freely and fully...with harm to none". It can be a tricky dance but I do think it's an important thing to factor into not just our comments but our own inner thoughts and ideas. I want to be kind, tolerant, and generous to others...and to my own self! And I want to question my own assumptions and not get locked in and calcified in rigid ways of thinking.

So deep appreciation and thanks to everyone who posts in all the Bust forums! You are an amazing, intelligent, and fascinating bunch of women!
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post Jun 12 2008, 12:07 PM
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this cute little mixed girl who was right at my feet looked up at me and said, 'your boobies are pretty!' i was slightly mortified, but blushing was out of embarassment and joy. just thought i'd share.


That's so cute. That's much better from when I was about 11 and an obnoxious little girl teased me for having bigger breasts than her.
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dj-bizmonkey
post Jun 11 2008, 09:59 AM
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wow. i don't even really know where to begin. i feel like the words have been taken out of my mouth by some and twisted by others.

pherber, thanks for posting and the reality check. you obviously have a very well-balanced perspective and i certainly appreciate hearing it.

suffice to say, to all the regulars in this thread, i'm sorry i wasn't paying attention as this back and forth was happening. i'm hurt, more than anything, that we were all painted with a glib and insulting brush.

people are going to read into posts how they see fit. i see this happening on bust all of the time. one post, one comment, becomes a federal case and spins out of control. it's really a shame. i for one am sorry for ever participating in a situation like that. i am also sorry if anything i ever wrote was misunderstood or was hurtful to other busties for whatever reason. i refuse to censor myself, but i can certainly learn to express myself in a more sensitive and thoughtful manner.

can we move on? i think we have all acknowledged where we were insensitive, bigoted or just plain mean. we are human beings, bound to say and do ugly things. if we can't vent here, in a semi-anonymous online forum, then where CAN we vent?

ANYWAY

here is an uplifting story. i was in the gym locker room the other day and there was a huge swarm of young girls who had just gotten out of the pool. i literally had to wade through them to get to my locker after my shower. i was changing, and trying to modest in front of the little girls, but they were all around me. this cute little mixed girl who was right at my feet looked up at me and said, 'your boobies are pretty!' i was slightly mortified, but blushing was out of embarassment and joy. just thought i'd share.


((((busties)))) thanks for all the love and encouragement!


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post Jun 10 2008, 06:06 PM
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i'm gonna have to agree with karategrrl on this one........"I love the discussions going on here, and especially all the new and old friends chiming in, but ladies, I feel like I spend an awful lot of time re-stating what I meant and correcting people who misinterpret my posts." i mean seriously. i know for myself, i do not intend to hurt or disrespect anyone... so i think we should try to check our emotional response before we post. just because some one doesnt agree with what i have to say doesnt mean i should censor myself, especially considering my character is not one that is insensitive or thoughtless, as with most other busties.

and good point pherber... regarding lowbrow rock culture vs clueless bad taste. i guess my thing has always been...time and place. most people will agree that being loud and outspoken about (the war, abortion, animal rights, great music, etc) isnt exactly appropriate in say a buddhist temple. i have no problem with women who do what they do, when they do, with whomever they do it.... i am just annoyed by the general public and the hypocritical morality that seems to ooze from the mind of the masses. specifically women and men whose only angle is that of which they see in the media or learn within the dynamic of their sheltered lives. again, IRL i am beyond tolerant, but when discussing my ideas with others who understand and share my views, i'm a bit more inclined to express my discernment.


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post Jun 10 2008, 02:15 PM
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Thanks NN! That was very kind. smile.gif

I wasn't so much offended at anything that's been said here, btw, I just thought, that there were maybe some misunderstandings.
Glad noone took offence.



QUOTE(karategrrl @ Jun 10 2008, 12:34 PM) *
I wasn't saying anyone should cover up completely--turtlenecks and burkas and such...I said, "a shirt with more coverage" than what the other person who posted described. Yes, we should all wear stuff that is flattering, makes us look and feel good, and that highlights our best features. I am one of those with awesome legs. I could wear skirts up to my buttcheek crease but I prefer to be a little more modest with anyone besides my husband because the shorter the skirt, the less tasteful the attention is that I seem to get, and I prefer to not be treated like an object. That's just me.

I totally dig your point.
Of course HOW far I go depends on the situation, i.e. date or work, and how extroverted I feel.
The difference between legs and boobs is, just like HT said, you can't hide big boobs, they're always obvious no matter how modest I dress.
So on days where I feel introverted it really sucks.

The thing that you were discussing might actually be more of a CoF subject:
That huge difference between cool rock'n roll bad taste and just plain bad taste, or glamour vs. 'Lil Kim, or Marilyn vs. Porno star so-and-so...
In other words, the trashy aspect might not come from the cleavage, or how low it is, but from the general styling.
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post Jun 10 2008, 10:31 AM
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wow, alot of action in here! i am going to read, but i am a slow reader.......i have been buried under a mountain of work, tons of time in front of the computer, no time for BUST!


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post Jun 10 2008, 09:36 AM
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"You don't like being pointed out because you have boobs and we don't like being pointed out because we don't have them. The grass is always greener."

Ha, good point!!!!

"I'm shy and sensitive and I dislike any male attention if it's not from my boyfriend. It makes me intensely uncomfortable, but I still don't want to go around looking like total crap all the time either."

I feel ya, girl. I don't mind attention if it's tasteful--a smile, a hello, a look IN THE EYE. But, as probably most of us do, I hate the leering, whistling, inappropriate comments about how I should have surgery, etc.

"By the way, I'm one of those who shamelessly flaunts her boobs in low cut tops. Why the hell should I hide them in turtle neck jumpers? They look horrible on me! A woman with lovely legs might wear a mini skirt. I can't! I don't care, that my legs are too heavy for short skirts, but I have an ugly varicose vein."

I wasn't saying anyone should cover up completely--turtlenecks and burkas and such...I said, "a shirt with more coverage" than what the other person who posted described. Yes, we should all wear stuff that is flattering, makes us look and feel good, and that highlights our best features. I am one of those with awesome legs. I could wear skirts up to my buttcheek crease but I prefer to be a little more modest with anyone besides my husband because the shorter the skirt, the less tasteful the attention is that I seem to get, and I prefer to not be treated like an object, which is the way I feel with that kind of attention. That's just me. Also, I work in a corporate environment, so I surely can't do that during the week.

I love the discussions going on here, and especially all the new and old friends chiming in, but ladies, I feel like I spend an awful lot of time re-stating what I meant and correcting people who misinterpret my posts. Makes me not want to post. Or at least not as much.
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post Jun 10 2008, 06:17 AM
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"You don't like being pointed out because you have boobs and we don't like being pointed out because we don't have them. The grass is always greener."

Ha, good point!!!!

"I'm shy and sensitive and I dislike any male attention if it's not from my boyfriend. It makes me intensely uncomfortable, but I still don't want to go around looking like total crap all the time either."

I feel ya, girl. I don't mind attention if it's tasteful--a smile, a hello, a look IN THE EYE. But, as probably most of us do, I hate the leering, whistling, inappropriate comments about how I should have surgery, etc.

"By the way, I'm one of those who shamelessly flaunts her boobs in low cut tops. Why the hell should I hide them in turtle neck jumpers? They look horrible on me! A woman with lovely legs might wear a mini skirt. I can't! I don't care, that my legs are too heavy for short skirts, but I have an ugly varicose vein."

I wasn't saying anyone should cover up completely--turtlenecks and burkas and such...I said, "a shirt with more coverage" than what the other person who posted described. Yes, we should all wear stuff that is flattering, makes us look and feel good, and that highlights our best features. I am one of those with awesome legs. I could wear skirts up to my buttcheek crease but I prefer to be a little more modest with anyone besides my husband because the shorter the skirt, the less tasteful the attention is that I seem to get, and I prefer to not be treated like an object. That's just me.

I love the discussions going on here, and especially all the new and old friends chiming in, but ladies, I feel like I spend an awful lot of time re-stating what I meant and correcting people who misinterpret my posts. Makes me not want to post. Or at least not as much.
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post Jun 10 2008, 03:04 AM
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You don't like being pointed out because you have boobs and we don't like being pointed out because we don't have them. The grass is always greener.

And we shouldn't go that wrong way of making assumptions about other women. You're welcome in here.
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post Jun 9 2008, 10:08 PM
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"See, I'm not about body fascism, but a general aesthetic, that women of the most different shapes can look nice in clothes that suit them."

The clothes that happen to suit me personally are low-cut. As I said in the large thread before, I actually think I look more proportional that way. You see cleavage, but my chest itself doesn't look all huge and slopey. I'm sure a lot of people see that as in invitation to stare or think that's I'm showing them off, but what the hell, they're going to stare anyway, if they're rude. And I have nothing else to show off. I pretty much hate the rest of my body.

"IA. I've never known a big breasted girl who disliked the breasts themselves although they may have disliked having back problems or difficulty finding the right size bra."
Well, back problems suck tongue.gif And so does not being able to do most exercises, and the staring and the snide comments from complete strangers and men who think they are entitled to undress you with their eyes or act in other aggressive ways just because you have large breasts thru no fault of your own... I'm shy and sensitive and I dislike any male attention if it's not from my boyfriend. It makes me intensely uncomfortable, but I still don't want to go around looking like total crap all the time either.

I just re-read my post and I hope it doesn't sound argumentative. I just wanted to chime in from the other side of things. I was a late bloomer and always assumed I would take after my very small-breasted grandmother. For most of high school I just wore padded bras and as soon as I accepted my small comfy boobs for what they were, they grew.
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