[JessieLaFemme]

Thanks for the advice! I'm going to talk to him...for a while there I was worried I was just overly-horny haha.

[flanker_ji]

Jessie, I encountered the same issue for the first time with my current boyfriend. I just told him one night after we hadn't been intimate for a while that I wasn't sure how high his interest in sex was. He replied that he's totally interested! I told him it didn't feel good to be the one always initating, and could he please show/tell me when he wants to get it started. He said he was trying to be a gentleman, and I said please stop, then! I think fear of rejection played a part too (and I'm always ready to go, so he wasn't looking at his current situation, and focusing too much on his past experiences, I think). Things have gone well since then!

[JessieLaFemme]

I feel like I always have to initiate sex w my boyfriend...any suggestions to get him to start the ball rolling? Our sex life is awesome but sometimes it's nice to have him take control, you know?

[crinoline]

ccg- I get that too, it'll be really really good and then all of a sudden ouchies! It really pisses off the boy, too. He gets all "make up your mind!" on me. No idea how to avoid it, though...

[angie_21]

I don't have a clue either! It happens to me too though. Being on the pill makes it worse, by the way, because your cervix stays lower in your vaginal canal all month since you're not ovulating.

[candycane_girl]

I seriously do not know how to distinguish between the two. Not during sex anyway. It's fine when he's using fingers and I can...feel him moving around in there but during sex it's faster and there's less control over direction.

[edie52]

He probably IS hitting your g-spot, but on the really deep thrusts bumps your cervix, too. Or you could be getting pleasure from cervical stimulation (up until it hurts, that is)- I've heard that some women get off on that.

[candycane_girl]

Hmmm. I thought it was my g-spot because it feels so good. Then again, maybe he's only hitting it when we're doing it doggie style and all the other times it's been my cervix. I am so bad with anatomy. I think I just get frustrated because it goes from pleasure to pain so quickly and then I say "ouch, stop!!" and he freaks out and thinks that he has injured me.

[roseviolet]

Sounds like the cervix to me, too. When that happens to me, we just have to ease off & slow down for a bit. After a few minutes we can increase the intensity. At lest, that's usually the way it is. There was a time when it was a consistent problem, but my endometriosis was giving me a lot of trouble during that time, too, and I'm pretty sure it was all related.

[edie52]

CCG, I've had that, but I always thought it was my cervix being hit. Do you think it's that?

[candycane_girl]

Hi ladies. I was just wondering, have any of you ever been having sex with your g-spot getting stimulated (for me it's basically my bf's penis hitting the spot over and over again) and while it feels pleasurable at first suddenly it turns into horrible pain? Seriously, it's like it goes from "ohh yeah" to "ouch, ouch, stop!" in two seconds. Has anyone else ever experienced this?

[Little_Hobbit]

THanks guys, I dont think he was meaning anything particulary hard core, just a bit of teasing and stuff and I was worried Id kinda run out of ideas for that after a short while! Ill definately go and have a good gander through the BDSM section though, see if i can pick up a few ideas, am still a bit new to this all!

[stargazer]

Hi Little_Hobbit, welcome to the Lounge. We ask all newbies to introduce themselves in the Newbie Thread to avoid being viewed as a troll.

You might want to look through the BDSM about the use of safewords and types of play. Mama GT has schooled us all about the use of safewords and clear communication with one's partner with sex play. So, I would ask my partner to talk with me a little more about what "everything and anything" means for him. Unfortunately, the sadist that I am would only be too happy to do anything, but, your ex might have different ideas. Have fun and be safe!

[tommynomad]

hey, im a bit new to site but have been reading back a bit and thought maybe some of you could give me a few suggestions... basically im going down to visit my sort of exboyfriend on monday (its a bit complicated,but anyway) and when were going out we always wanted to try blindfolding and tying up eachother,but we never got round to it and so weve made a pact to definately try it out this visit...but now im a bit worried what to do when ive got him all blindfolded!any one got any good suggestions theyve tried/think would work? as he put it "anything and everything"
its going to be the first sex ive had in about 4 months so i want to make it as good as possible!
thanks!

He's given you the green light, so just enjoy yourself. Before you do anything, though, agree on a safe word (other than 'Stop,' 'No,' or 'Don't,' because those are fun to say) so that he can signal you when he doesn't like something.

Have fun: ex-sex is hawt.

[Little_Hobbit]

hey, im a bit new to site but have been reading back a bit and thought maybe some of you could give me a few suggestions... basically im going down to visit my sort of exboyfriend on monday (its a bit complicated,but anyway) and when were going out we always wanted to try blindfolding and tying up eachother,but we never got round to it and so weve made a pact to definately try it out this visit...but now im a bit worried what to do when ive got him all blindfolded!any one got any good suggestions theyve tried/think would work? as he put it "anything and everything"
its going to be the first sex ive had in about 4 months so i want to make it as good as possible!
thanks!

[tommynomad]

I also just found this column by my friend Yehuda on sex games:

http://jergames.blogspot.com/2007/11/sex-games.html

[tommynomad]

Congrats, 12%.

Angie, the thought of "rusty vagina" made me shiver. Sounds like a punk band.

[roseviolet]

Congrats, 12%! Glad to hear it was such a positive experience!

[kittenb]

Congratulations 12%!

[twelve_percent]

So, good news. I lost my virginity to a really great guy that I met while visiting my sister. He was so sweet about it too. He held back three times so it wouldn't be too short. I'm happy to say that I had a very good first time!