[Stacy Wayne Gacy]

Learn to love your little boobs! The only time I regret mine is when I've been drinking too much beer and I gain a hip size (suddenly everything goes bam! out of proportion). It's a myth that all menfolks (or womenfolks, I'm guessin) like big boobs. If reading "Savage Love" has taught me anything, it's that there's at least someone out there who likes-- nay, obsesses-- over what we regard as our flaws.

From the Dept. of Practical Solutions: twist-front tops make great camouflage. Handy when bathing suit season arrives.

[ginger_kitty]

I like going strapless, but it's all about the right fit. It seems easier to keep strapless stuff up without big boobs, I never have to pull at anything or readjust constantly.

lux, do what is right for you sweetie. But carefully consider your options. Women with tiny boobs are still smoking hot, keep that in mind.

[lux]

i'm not sure who can wear a strapless dresses. i guess you have to be super-proportioned to pul them of. i can't imagine wearing them, because i have this ridicilous fear of the dress/top falling of:) i'm sure they don't do that.

i was going to write about surgery. i'm not a huge fan of cosmetic surgery, but last year i started thinking if it would be a good idea to get implants. i thought that then my body would look better and i'd feel sexier. this was a bit odd for me, since most of my life i've been pretty happy not having big breasts. but thanks to my now ex-girlfriend, i started to feel like i'm not good enough because i don't look womanly enough. i'm not sure if i'd ever really go through with it, though a b-cup would be nice. i'm just not comfortable with the surgery part it self and the possible infections that you might get on the scars. i don't think there anything "wrong" with cosmetic surgery, i just think it's usually an unnecessary health risk.

more about my quest for bigger boobs:) i resently stared on hormonal bc, and i was looking forward to the side effects part. but no, my breasts are the same and everything else is the same, appart from pms. all in all i think it's better not to get side effects, but i was still kind of hoping.

i guess i should focus on positive reinforcement. and reading this thread, it seems like there's plenty of people out there who think that small busted busties are hot:)

[dj-bizmonkey]

i love milla too! everything about her is so striking.

ahh, i'm so glad i don't have to go through the horror or prom dress shopping anymore. my senior year in high school i bought this gorgeous, pink silk cowl neck dress with spaghetti straps. cowl necks can work for any shape up top, but only if they are structured properly. mine came with a string with a weight on it hidden in the middle to keep from flashing people constantly. unfortunately for me, the weight fell of the string during some heavy dancing and i was all over the place for the rest of the night! the icing on the cake, in my formal, professional prom pictures, the dress is dipped down so low on one side that my entire left breast is exposed. you'd think that creepy ass photographer guy could have said something! or at least he would have refused to print them. talk about mortification. i mean, my breasts hardly move at all and they are falling out of my goddamn dress? give me a break!

i hate that so many people assume that padding is the 'answer' to our 'problem.' and yes, a seamstress should know better, that's their damn job, to make things look good. the last wedding i was in had cute, coffee colored strapless dresses from j-crew. i was nervous at first, because i thought i wouldn't be able to hold the damn thing up. luckily it had adjustable elastic around the top. i felt terrible for one of the other bridesmaids however, since she had the exact opposite fear. she had DDD's and they were spilling out over the top and the sides. we were able to contain them in the end with duct tape, but she was totally uncomfortable. that's the trouble with picking one dress for all of you friends that look nothing alike. i think i'm going to pick a fabric and a color and say, pick a pattern that you like and that you will look good in.

[karategrrl]

i figured the lady could take in the seams around the bust so that it fit me better. well she couldnt. instead she attempted to stuff the dress with two "shoulder pads" per breast. i dunt think she knew what to think of me or what to do with me.

OMG, When I got fitted for my bridesmaid's dress for my brother's wedding, the same thing happened--"Let's just stuff it with pads!" These people are supposed to be seamstresses, you'd think they knew how to deal with all types of bodies. Unfortunately I had to grin and bear it; I could not alter it myself, and I had to keep the dress to match everyone else. Grrr.

[knorl05]

karategrrl: sorry to hear about your experience with the bra catalog gig thingy. i can relate. when i was 17 shopping for my prom dress i found the most perfect dress ever. it was a floor length form fitting halter top dress in turquoise sequins (yeah maybe a bit over the top, but i fell in love with it when i saw it).. anyway. i bought it and then went back for alterations. i figured the lady could take in the seams around the bust so that it fit me better. well she couldnt. instead she attempted to stuff the dress with two "shoulder pads" per breast. i dunt think she knew what to think of me or what to do with me. needless to say i returned the dress. but i remember feeling like a freak reject over the whole experience. boo.

[karategrrl]

Songbird, I forgot to mention--as far as actresses go, I have grown to just luuuv Milla Jovovich. She has very small boobs and has appeared nude, topless, or nearly so in many of her films/pictures, etc. She always seems so confident, and there is never any mention of, "Well, she's got small breasts, but she's kinda sexy anyway..." It's actually a non-issue. Really refreshing!

[karategrrl]

PS:

I should mention that in my shopping spree I actually DID find a bikini from none other than Victoria's Secret that fits well and looks good! Shocking, I know! The top is padded just a tad--just enough to give me a little shape but not so much it looks like I'm trying too hard.

[karategrrl]

you're very lucky to have cleavage though. the skin on my chest will fold over before i can get my breasts to touch. they just aren't destined to do that.

I hear ya!!

Aw shucks, DJ, I heart you too! And thanks for telling me about your experience with the pill. I am one of the lucky few on it who seems to have had no side effects whatsoever. I still wish I'd have gotten B-cups, though...

I have to thank all you fine ladies for being here!!! I admit, the last week or so I did some clothing shopping and it was quite discouraging, as usual--it is annoying as hell to see something that you like, try it on, and see that it makes your chest look practically concave! Grrr! At times like that, I feel like, "Fuck it! I am SO sick of having to deal with this! I'll just cave in and get implants!" But then I do try and remind myself that there are plenty of women out there who--like one of you said--have the huge boobs worthy of reduction to worry about. Given my choice of poison, I'd choose small ones over too-large ones.

Songbird, I can relate about boob jobs in the acting industry. I did some modeling, and I therefore understand the pressures of the industry. I remember one audition for a bra catalog. All the women had to try on a couple of bras from a heap on a table, and then kind of stand there and let the hiring people see how you looked in the bras. It was all female and done very tastefully, but--of course--there was not one bra in the entire pile whose cups did not stand out from my chest in little sad wrinkles. It was embarrassing. I think the hiring women just didn't know what to make of me, like they'd never seen that before! (No, I was not hired...)

I'm very glad you liked the article about the actress. Thanks for letting me know. Sometimes I post stuff and wonder if anyone but me is really getting anything out of it.

I love you guys! Really, you are my anchor in self-image hell!

[dj-bizmonkey]

it's good you've got a supportive man in your life, em! you're very lucky to have cleavage though. the skin on my chest will fold over before i can get my breasts to touch. they just aren't destined to do that. they do look hot in a skin tight, mildy see-through white tube top. oh baby.

[.em.]

I don't know if this is related to this forum, but I noticed that the [training] bras in the little girls (children's clothing!) section of my local Mervyns are padded. Yeah, padded. <BR>There are several things seriously wrong with this.

padded training bras? that's so weird!

Though I wear the smallest size of bra (A), it doesn't bother me at all. I'm happy with my size, and am comfortable with it. And just because my bra is small doesn't mean my chest looks that way. (i still have cleavage-lol)
And my boy is soo nice~he really likes them, says they don't look small at all. ^.^

[knorl05]

ps. i do concur. a c cup is definitely NOT small... maybe compared to a double z or something but not in the real world

[knorl05]

(((djbiz))): thanks for that link it really is great.. and the love is sent right back to you.

[dj-bizmonkey]

hey there songbird, welcome to bust! i got introduced to this fabulous community through this thread, which has helped me soooo very much with my own body issues (thanks ladies!) i went through the same debate in mind, just like knorl and probably countless others who are shaped the way we are. my career has about zero do to with appearance (seriously, you should check out frans de waal's latest hairdo, i mean, if anyone even knows who that is) but it's still something that i considered. acting is fraught with such constant rejection- casting agents know exactly what they are looking for and if you vary even by a 10th of degree you will probably not get the part. it's a harsh world, but it has always been my perception you can get away with being avante garde (sp?) alot more in the live theater world than on the screen. that being said, knorl is right, indie films (and theaters i might add) aren't into the cookie cutter look and provide a space for people of all different types. it sounds like you are in a good place now, and even if you have any more concerns or questions, don't hesitate to post again. i've mentioned this website about a gagillion times in here, but i can't push it enough. www.007b.com. instead of checking out before and after photos from plastic surgeons, you should check out their natural breast gallery, featuring breasts from all walks of life and all shapes and sizes. it helped me feel more comfortable and confident.

and for the record, and think we can all agree that a c cup is definetly not small. too me, a b cup isn't even small (though not everyone will agree with me there) but that's coming from a 34aa.

oh and by the way, lux, karategrrl, knorl, i heart you guys

[knorl05]

songbird. yes it comes down to preference ultimately... your's, your peers, casting directors, etc etc etc. in the world of talent and originality, quality always comes before quantity hands down. but it's your decision. if you are drawn to getting them simply to enhance yourself, then you need to decide if it's worth it. if you're doing it in an attempt to get closer to perfection.. well, i personally think (from dealing with my own perfectionist tendencies) plastic surgery is not the route to take. i think it could become an obsession and that's just not healthy. i used to look at before and after photos too but i stopped because it was contributing to unnecessary thoughts about my boobs, and i've since realized there is much more that needs and deserves my attention. i'm just sayin..

[Songbird]

I think I will still struggle but I really do feel that I am in the process of accepting myself. I've just always wanyed to be "perfect."

As far as the acting thing goes, I actually am not planning to pursue films but live theatre. The thing is that even away from Hollywood, so many women get implants to make themselves more noticeable and it's hard not to want to do that too or risk being unnoticed. But I am trying to focus on the fact that most of the time the real porn star looking chicks (and I think there's at least one in every show) end up getting the parts that are fun but cliche and typecast based on looks not real talent.

And not to be too tacky but do you know what else has helped me recently? Going onto plastic surgery websites and looking at the before and after photos. Especially the breast reduction ones, because then it's easy to see that the grass isn't so green on the other side. A lot of the big boobs out there are just bizarrely huge and floppy! Some don't even look too great after surgery. All that and back ache too - no thanks! LOL Also the pictures of fake ones look good but so very plastic.

[Peggy-in-FL]

Are C cup small?

[knorl05]

Then I did some soul searching and realized that I don't really want implants, i just want to feel good about myself finally and that actually even with implants I would still hate my breasts because then they would just be fake!

that is exactly the same thing i struggled with in my early twenties. i did not want to sell out and go against my beliefs, knowing that getting implants is (IMO) a complete waste of time, energy and money. and it's totally feeding into the misconception that in order for a woman to be considered attractive or desirable she must fit this virtually impossible, unnatural, unrealistic ideal of the female form. i thought the same thing, if i gave into getting them, i would probably hate myself more for being (what i perceived to be) weak.

re: acting. what type of acting do you want to get into? what type of movies? what type of roles? i think that is what you should consider. you'll notice a lot of natural looking women in many foreign or independent films and such because the audience they are entertaining is a much more intelligent/creative/sophisticated/cultured bunch. even still, it depends on what the producer is looking for. if she is looking for a busty woman, well then you wont be chosen for that role.

instead of noticing all the well endowed women in the industry, start to notice ALL the petite women who may be a bit more demure and inconspicuous. they can and are just as successful (see: kate hudson)

[Songbird]

Hello everyone!

I am brand new to this lounge and I knew this would be the group for me. I have been struggling so much with how small my chest is lately, that until yesterday, I was sure that I was going to just get implants. Fortunately, I found this site, read some of the threads and realized there are plenty of other people in the same boat. Then I did some soul searching and realized that I don't really want implants, i just want to feel good about myself finally and that actually even with implants I would still hate my breasts because then they would just be fake!

So now hopefully I can start some dialogue with other women who are so much more than a pair of breasts!

Also I believe it was karategirl who posted the story about the actress who had her implants taken out. I just want to say thank you for that because I too am an actress and have always felt like having bigger breasts would suddenly make me more marketable. But I can see now that it wouldn't actually help me get more positive attention but I'd probably end up with some pretty negative attention and be offered more sleazy roles. Plus, I would hate to go through all that and then decide to just be natural later anyway.

[dj-bizmonkey]

if only we had h&m in the south! it's one of my favorite stores....

karategrrl, when i was 20, i thought i might use the pill to get my tits to grow so i got my nurse practicioner to put me on the highest estrogen dose possible. it only succeeded in making me an INSANE person and my breasts didn't change one bit. i think the girls who grow when they go on bc maybe weren't done developing or their development got interrupted for whatever reason. me? i'm dealing with genetics, plain and simple. my mom always had nice, full C's, and i remember the moment of realization when i looked at my dad's sisters and my grandma (who are little waifs like keira knightley). i was like, oh fuck, those are the genes i inherited. waddya gonna do? i soldier on with the support of my bust sistahs, my friends and my lovahs.

lux, me and sr. monkey are doing just fine, thank for asking, i'm counting down the days until i'm out of the tropics and back in his arms (about six weeks, aargh!)