[geekchickknits]

I wonder if anyone Busties out there have endometreosis? Sex is so painful right now, but apparently birth control might help out with that (sweet baby Jesus, I hope so). Anyone experienced such a thing?

I don't, but a good friend of mine did/does - she told me that cognitive therapy (visualizations, tapes, etc.) really helped to reduce and control her pain.

[juliaolive]

I hate to admit it (given the nature of the last convo) but I totally use KY. Ahaha, sorry to be of no help on the recent lube question. Oh you know, I just remembered we're using something even worse than KY now, this is definitely a case of having a "thrifty" partner and no money to spend yourself on such things

Rudderless, TrashyDiva is so cool! Thanks for that!

I wonder if anyone Busties out there have endometreosis? Sex is so painful right now, but apparently birth control might help out with that (sweet baby Jesus, I hope so). Anyone experienced such a thing?

[girltrouble]

margot, try the empress new clothes thread. it's the on going clothes hunting thread. we've been talking "unmentionables" for a while and i'm sure you'll find something you like, and if you have a specific question, i'm sure the gals there can find it. they look far and wide

back on topic, i used to love gunoil-- mr. trouble used to bring lots of it home from work and the gay boys there seemed to love it, but she was telling me that it's been discontinued or something... i'll check with her and see what she says.

[damona]

hellomargot, i like hipsandcurves.com and if you are looking for a little less mainstream, sub-shop.com has some nice stuff.

[hellomargot]

hate to throw this thread off the lube topic, but have a cry of desperation for help!

i'll be seeing my man for the first time in a month here soon, and have told him i'm going to invest in some sexy lingerie for my visit. however, now i can't find any worthwhile. i've looked on victorias secret, fredericks, spicylegs... help. something with an underwire, preferably.

oh this visit will be fun.

[Miss Deena]

Pugs - I do have a favorite Silicone lube and I would recommend it over and over its Wet Platinum I do so love that stuff! My guy is not fond of sticky or thick formulas even for anal. I have used this lube during both and have not encountered an issue we just really lube up for anal.

The subject of getting tested is one best approached directly and don't try and tip toe around it. You can never be to careful when it comes to your body.

[LoveMyPugs]

i do have a lube question (not relating to previous discussion). our swiss navy lube bottle is almost empty. it was a good brand but a little expensive. i was thinking of switching? those of you who use a silicone lube i was wondering what brand you use and if you are happy with it. i know pur makes one and so does id glide. i was also thinking of getting maximus for anal. i hear that's a thick brand and stays where you put it. any other suggestions?

i can't really input on the sexual history conversation because mr. pugs is my sexual history and i am his. i like what everyone is saying. sounds like what i would do if i just met someone knew.

-pugs

[culturehandy]

Geekchick, straight up, this is your sexuality, I'd ask new potential partner the last time they were tested, and if it hasn't been recent, then have the discussion.

[dirtyprettything]

OK! I think that this lube conversation is pretty dead, as well as any side topics that are branching from it.

My suggestion of a new topic:

When and how do you broach the dreaded subject of STI/sexual history with a new partner? How and when do you think it should be done? How and when do you actually do it?

It's kind of a tough one, you know? I tend to bring it up before anything get serious. For WC and I, we were talking before anything was even slightly sexual or romantic, and he asked what my preference for BC was. I told him that I'm on the pill and get tested yearly, whether or not I'm in a monogamous relationship, however, if he hadn't been given the full work-up recently, it would be condoms for sure. We also discussed if I was going to get the HPV vaccination and we talked about our individual histories. I know in my case I'm really lucky because he's so open about talking about this stuff in a really matter-of-fact kind of way. Helps that he works in a sex shop

[geekchickknits]

OK! I think that this lube conversation is pretty dead, as well as any side topics that are branching from it.

My suggestion of a new topic:

When and how do you broach the dreaded subject of STI/sexual history with a new partner? How and when do you think it should be done? How and when do you actually do it?

[auralpoison]

Jesus fucking . . .

Look, now, I've made the point NUMEROUS times that things don't always come across on the intarwebs. Somehow, that just doesn't seem to apply to me. I don't get the benefit of the doubt. Somebody always gets all huffy & princess-y. I wasn't trying to hurt anybody's feelings, I just got no useful information for the question I asked. I got, "KY bad!" No shit! And somebody got their knickers in a twist over it. THEY ADDRESSED SOMETHING I WASN'T ASKING ABOUT AS THOUGH IT WAS INFORMATIVE. Whatever, I don't have time for somebody's bitchcakes.

I wasn't offerning "venom" & again, I resent the implication. I was simply tired of getting answers to a question I didn't post. I wasn't asking about reg KY, but all the imput I got was on reg KY. I KNOW REG KY IS SHIT.

And LMP, you just reiterated what I already said. I AGREED with CH. And again, my drugstore carries quality lube.

[LoveMyPugs]

I suppose we were all saying that based on the shittiness of previous KY experiences, why would this differ from this other product?

Any lube you can buy from a drug store, including the new KY, probably isn't the best of quality. IMHO.

Same here...

[pollystyrene]

*delurks, knowing the risk of getting my head bitten off*

Can we just agree and acknowledge the fact that the tone that we intend things to come across in doesn't always come across on the internet?

Obviously people have strong feelings about lubes...is it really worth the venom towards your fellow busties?

*relurks with nothing to contribute to the lube debate...well, other than, I'd be leery of anything KY...I use Astroglide, which they do sell at Target and I'm not even sure how happy I am with it. Slippery Stuff was recommended to me awhile back by a former bustie who worked in a sex shop. Haven't tried it yet.*

[auralpoison]

Way to take it to a whole other place, Obelix. *long slow clap for a bag of dicks*

When you're finished pouting, we'll still be here.

[obelix2]

Wow, thanks for the spit in the eye. I didn't think I was treating you like "some kind of newbie". I read your post and didn't have experience with the exact lube you were asking about, but I did have very strong feelings about KY in general. So now when I post, I should only write exactly answers a question? I'll go back in my hole now.

[vegdumpling]

Has this ever happened to anyone?

My boyfriend and I always have incredible, mind (andotherthings) blowing sex...well the other night, afterwards, I was still incredibly horny! I don't know why...he almost always makes me orgasm, and if he doesn't, its still incredible, but this has happened a few times, and it makes my boyfriend feel inadequate, maybe I m just a freak?

you are not a freak, i'm the same way sometimes. it doesn't seem to make much sense but there it is.

[vegdumpling]

I debated putting this in the frustration thread...but I don't just want to vent- I want help. I am in a casual relationship with a very nice man. It is pretty much a "friend's with benefits" type thing. <BR>It seems like the benefit part of this relation is becoming less frequent...or rather it has stayed constant but we hang out more. The time frequency is off. I'm starting to feel guilty over my high sex drive- there are some contributing factors. He is older than I am and he has a bad back (3 fractures) that often interferes. Either his back is in a lot of pain and he has just found a spot that hurts less than other spots or he has taken his meds which tend to make his stomach upset. <BR>He turns me on so much that I want to jump him all the time. He feels bad for denying me, I catch myself looking pouty and then we both feel a lil shitty. I get so frustrated...in my head I'm going "you can just lay there just let me get on top!" or "does your hand hurt?". <BR>I think even w/o the bad back it'd still be a bit of a problem. I don't know how to not be such a horndog. I know it is super silly...but each time we don't have sex when I've wanted to I feel rejected. Stupid, but I can't help it.

i understand your sex drive woes, i too suffer *sigh* from a very high libido. my boyfriend is content with sex once or twice a week and it's taken me almost 5 years to get to place where i think i understand that him not wanting sex isn't the same as him not wanting me.

i honestly don't have any good advice because even though i sort of get this, i still occasionally get that rejected feeling even though it isn't anything i'm doing wrong. this year i even tried being "coy" instead of aggressve about my interest because the silly boy thought he would somehow be in the mood more if he was the initiator more often. ummm, yeah... that didn't work at all, turns out my guy likes my agressive tactics much more than the other kind. so i've come to a decision, us ladies have to be who we are and if that means being agressive and lusty then so be it. at least my guy was attracted to me for being me, it doesn't help anything to bend over backwards and try to be something you aren't and it might even hurt.

[auralpoison]

Again with the fucking relaxing. I am so sick of being told to stand down when I'm not even standing on my hind legs about something. I do not need to "slow my roll". My roll is just fucking fine. I am simply dry & matter-of-fact. *edit*

I just asked a specific question about a specific product & got answers that had nothing to do with said question or said product. I *know* KY isn't the best lube on the planet, in fact, I've never used it. We only use my specified lube, but that doesn't mean he can't be curious about something new. And I resent the implication that he's treating my vajayjay poorly merely because he's curious about a different type of lube. He's just the curious type even when it comes to getting off.

Thank you, Geekchickknits & Culturehandy. I appreciate the directness of your answers. That's more of what I was looking for.

And my drugstore carries Astroglide, ID, & Swiss Navy. We ran out a few months ago & I had to resort to Astroglide.

[culturehandy]

I suppose we were all saying that based on the shittiness of previous KY experiences, why would this differ from this other product?

Any lube you can buy from a drug store, including the new KY, probably isn't the best of quality. IMHO.

[stargazer]

slow your roll AP. i reread your post. maybe you need to clarify when you ask ask about the difference. is it to use toys, anal sex, vaginal sex...what dude? i've never used either of the KY brands. it just seemed like it would be too thick and not really good feeling. i use this lube i bought at a women owned sex shop in chicago. it is water-based. the water based stuff feels almost as natural as me...but a little bit slippier. i've used it with toys and for vaginal sex.

maybe tell HB to use a higher quality of lube. your vajayjay is worth it!