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post Mar 12 2011, 10:17 AM
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Nickclick, we started around 5 months. And we didn't feed him every day. Just once in a while. Around six months we started bananas, squash, sweet potatoes, etc. We used organic Gerber brown rice cereal.

I have a question for moms regarding feeding, actually.

Elliott LOVES all baby food...we can spoon peas, apples, carrots, etc. etc. etc. into his mouth. He LOVES the pureed stuff, including the "dinners" with meat blended in.

But he really refuses all finger food. He's never been the kind of baby who puts stuff in his mouth...and that has transferred to food, too. He has great hand eye coordination and is very good at handling things with his fingers and hands, but he prefers to play with the finger food and then throw it on the floor for the dog.

When I mentioned this to our pediatrician at our 9 month check up last week, he said it wasn't too serious, but it wasn't typical. He asked us to feed him some chunkier baby food and make sure he can chew and swallow. He said if he could do that, it is probably just a behavioral thing, and he just plain prefers to have us feed him stuff. (Our pediatrician joked he was a "typical male" and wants us to do it for him...heh heh.) But he said if this didn't go well, he might need to see a specialist.

He said the fact that he doesn't feed his bottle himself is also a clue it's behavioral and nothing serious.

But of course I am worried. I ordered some chunky baby food online and I guess I'll try it when it arrives, but I'm scared he won't eat it. :-(

I also think the fact that he doesn't have teeth is one of the reasons he doesn't put stuff in his mouth.

What do y'all think?




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post Mar 12 2011, 04:18 AM
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"mr.period"... love it! aunt flo's asshole cousin.

so the pediatrician suggested we start with the rice cereal. 4 months! too early? she's growing up so fast......
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julie124
post Mar 2 2011, 11:55 PM
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Yes, nick, seconding the link love. And aphelendra, I was the same - no stretch marks on my tummy, but plenty on my thighs (mostly upper thighs, kind of interesting). Honestly, I wasn't super-worried about the stretch marks because I got my first stretch marks decades ago when I hit puberty - my hips appeared overnight and my skin apparently had to stretch to keep up.

Earlier on, before the nursing had really done its magic (best.diet.ever) I had quite a little tummy for awhile. Since it was near the holidays, I fondly referred to it as my bowl full of jelly (it was jiggly too). But mostly I took to reminding myself to be kind by calling it "Henry's house". Now it's gone down mostly, though I still have the slightly wrinkly skin (which I'm noticing I have on my chest as well). aphelendra, you're absolutely right, we're SUPPOSED to change.

So, Mr. Period (as I used to refer to it) finally returned last week. I was kind of enjoying my sabbatical (9 months off during pregnancy, 6 weeks of lochia, then another 14 months off) but I'm okay with it returning. If I can just get us off the financial edge and to a slightly more comfortable place financially, I think we could start thinking about doing this whole adventure again. I could, anyway.

My milk supply is definitely dwindling a bit. I'm only halfheartedly trying to build it up...I had hoped to have weaned already, but I think Henry's going to want to keep nursing for awhile. The pumping is really sad, though - 20 minutes and I have hardly anything to show for it.
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aphelendra
post Feb 17 2011, 07:49 PM
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Excellent link nick, thanks! I'm still reeling over my MASSIVE UNGODLY UNBELIEVABLE weight gain. Though I only have 12 pounds left to lose (as of this morning, not as if I'm keeping track), I think the stretchmarks are with me for good. Or at least a while. I actually didn't get any stretch marks on my stomach. They're all on my ass and thighs. And the sad, wrinkly old skin that now covers my bum? With me, probably for life. Gah . . . . But galldurnit, I'm supposed to look different, right? Right?

So I'm half heartedly awaiting the arrival of my own special pregnancy prevention frisbee. I wish we could use condoms. We just don't. I wish we could use withdrawal. That doesn't usually end as intended . . . . I swear, we were such careful people before all this. Infertility really does change the game, huh fookie?

Our RE has given us a pretty firm 2 year maximum before we try to conceive again, or risk the return of the dreaded endometriosis (he's eastern european, so please picture him saying this word kind of like I imagine Dracula would. HILARIOUS ladies, fucking hilarious). Meanwhile, I have already postponed school twice to deal with all of this, once for treatment/surgery and once for the babe herself. So, I pretty much refuse to take time off. And if I'm already in clinical rotations when/if we get preggo again, I'll lose my place in the program if I withdraw, even for a semester. So either Miss Sarah is going to be it, or I'm going to be waddling into school within days of delivery.

On one hand, I can't imagine doing anything to prevent another pregnancy, since we don't even know if we could get pregnant again if we tried, or at least maybe not easily. On the other hand, I.NEED.TO.BE.NURSE. NOW.

Clearly, I've been needing to vent about this. Thanks for the space to do so . . . . I love busties.
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post Feb 17 2011, 10:13 AM
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post Feb 17 2011, 07:16 AM
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yep, back on the condoms. we got pregnant within one month of trying, so we didn't get all that much rubber-free fun sad.gif .

i hear ya, julie, about being too tired. i've never been a fan of scheduling nookie time, but that seems to be the trend lately. like - after i give Lily a bottle tomorrow and before we have to go to (wherever), um, don't take a nap, OK?
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julie124
post Feb 17 2011, 12:35 AM
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Yeah, we're all about the condoms, too. Not the most fun solution, but I actually decided a long while back that I was tired of the pill - I think it might have been adversely affecting my sex drive, in fact, but mainly just felt like it was time to get off the hormones. Before we had Henry I wasn't too worried about condom failure (I admit, was kind of hoping for it when mr. julie was hemming and hawing about trying a few years ago) but afterwards I was like, shit, I don't want to have another baby right away. My doc wrote me a scrip for a pill that's supposed to be OK while breastfeeding, but I never filled the prescription; we've just done the condom thing.

I should note that I STILL haven't gotten my period back. So sometimes I worry that I'm going to be one of the crazy ladies on TV who doesn't know she's pregnant until delivery, but mostly I kind of enjoy it. One of the side benefits of not having weaned quite yet. That said, this week I've been getting some of my telltale period-about-to-come signs: random pimples, super tired inexplicably, craving sweets. So maybe it's on its way, who knows. I'm not sure if I'm a little dehydrated or what, but I've also noticed that I don't seem to be producing as much when I pump these days either. It's definitely going to be bittersweet when the nursing finally ends for good - part of me can't wait, part of me knows I'm going to miss it.

As for drive...that varies. On the weeks when Henry's sleeping has been especially shitty, I'm like the walking dead and the last thing I want is sex. But other times, I'm good to go several times a week. The kind of amazing thing is that mr. julie's drive seems to have gone up since we had Henry. We still have our dry spells, but I used to always be the one to initiate things and sometimes it was REALLY few and far between. Now sometimes we have quite the fun little week. It definitely helps the ego!

Okay, must go sleep now....love to all!
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post Feb 16 2011, 08:44 PM
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Guess this is where "unexplained infertility" comes in handy wink.gif

Actually the "unexplained" part of that diagnosis does kind of keep us on our feet. We're very committed to Fookie Jr. being an only child ... and social workers in these parts frown quite harshly upon adoptions where another child in the house will be less than 18 months older/younger ... so when Fookie Jr. first came home we tried to get back into condom mode.

I've never done well with the pill so we had always used condoms ... but going back to them was not easy/fun ... so our determination to use them slowly waned.

Now, I'm embarrassed to say we're using a combination of "cross our fingers" and listening to my body. I did get pretty familiar with my cycles and ovulation signs (let's her it for egg-white CM!) and kind of avoid sex in that window. Of course ... I must say that sex has kind of been on the back-burner since Fookie Jr. came home. ...

For some reason I've set "once/week" as the "goal" to keep the "spark" in our marriage, but I'd say we only achieve that 3/4 of the time ... and half of those times I'm working very hard to even be remotely near "in the mood." Am I alone here? I have nooooooooo drive. Zero.
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post Feb 16 2011, 12:13 PM
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So, just throwing this out there . . . . What are we all doing for birth control?

We've been relying on breastfeeding thus far, but I did just get fitted for a diaphragm this morning. Um, nothing like a slippery, sloshy, sloopy frisbee in your vahina to say "Come and get me honey!". Ay.
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post Feb 4 2011, 01:20 PM
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Funny, I'm so glad that AB is doing okay with his treatments, and that you guys are making the most of everything and enjoying the extra time that he's at home with you guys. So sorry though, to hear about the hospital. We're all pulling for you guys . . . .

I haven't been around too much lately, life seems to have kicked into high gear the last few months. I'm back in school part time, though taking a course in microbiology, so you know . . . . not too part time. Plus I get the added worry of traipsing back in after a lab and covering my dear little girl in streptococcus pneumoniae. Yipes.

We are also now planning our wedding, a small backyard affair to which the guest list is now exceeding 140. Whoops.

So in review, I am raising an infant, planning a wedding, and attempting to (finally) finish my nursing degree. Plus, Mr. A is still working for himself, so there is a small (very very wee) business to run. I'm starting to see why most people approach these things in a specific order. In my next life, these very important events are going to occur ONE AT A TIME. With months and years separating them.

In addition, we were hit with a blizzard this week (20 inches in 24 hours). And then Mr. and I got The Big Flu. Luckily, Sarah had gotten her first flu shot exactly one week before we got hit. Next year, the whole fam is getting the shot, good grief.

I appear to be out of nap time . . . . gotta run! Miss you ladies, I'll try and check back later, we're also having some food issues in this here neck o' the woods . . . . gah.
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post Feb 4 2011, 02:41 AM
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Hello everyone! Wow, it's been a long time since I last posted! Even now I'll only have time for a quick update - Babybird is happy in his baby gym for the moment but his mood can change within seconds. For now I can here him panting and whooping and can see his little feet pedalling madly, so I know all is well...

He's just emerged from a 12-week growth spurt, where he would consent to being held by me only, wanted to feed non-stop and refused to sleep. Thank goodness that's over! He's getting so big - part of me wants to freeze time and the other part wants to fast forward so I can see what he does next.

Architect Boy is 3/4 of the way through his treatment. It's been rough at times, but generally not as bad as we expected. His hair hasn't fallen out and he only feels nauseous for a few days after each dose rather than all time. The worst side effect of the drug he's being given is that it decimates his white blood cells, leaving him extremely vulnerable to infection - he's ended up in hospital twice - once with a cold and the second time with a stomach bug. It means that even when he's feeling okay he can't really go out and socialise.

The silver lining is that he's at home with me and Babybird all the time, so has been able to spend lots of time bonding and helping me out.

I can hear grizzling from the direction of the baby gym, so I must go. Will be back later...


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post Jan 29 2011, 09:06 PM
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Thanks for all the support on the sleeping (or lack therof) thing. Despite talking a good game in my earlier post, I was at the library the other day and found yet another sleep book (The Lull-a-Baby Sleep Plan) and after paging through went, "Aw, what the hell, I can at least read it to see what they say." I didn't read the whole thing (there is a whole section going over how bad sleep deprivation is for kids, yeah, feeling bad enough about that already, thanks) but am trying some things from it. Most of it is geared toward preventing sleep problems, but they have a section on how to help older babies who already are used to sleeping a certain way learn a new way. I think it's too early to say whether it has made a difference (and frankly, doing any kind of strategy consistently is a challenge for me, especially since sometimes I feel like bedtime turns into Showdown at the OK Corral) but I will say that last night Henry slept from about midnight to about 4 a.m., which is the longest stretch he's had in a long time. (Now, at 4 a.m. it took me almost an hour and a half to get him to go back to sleep for another hour, but trying to focus on the positive here.) So, we'll see.

Jenny, it is SO HARD not to focus on the milestones, isn't it? I'm like zelda - had to quit reading all that milestone stuff after awhile, because I couldn't stop myself from overanalysing it: "Oh no, you're not babbling yet! Omigod why aren't you babbling?" I still have my moments - especially at the one year mark, since you see a lot of kids running around and talking, and my kid still wants to hold your finger as he runs around the house and just recently started saying anything recognizable, and not all the time - but it got better after I quit reading about it all the time.

My sister told me a funny story about one of her friends. Her friend was worried because her son wasn't really walking on his own at home yet and they were coming close to the well-child visit for the period where that's a big developmental milestone. So she talks to the people at day care, thinking, maybe there's something else he needs from us to support him reaching this milestone, we should be working on this as a team, blah blah blah. The daycare teacher is like, "What are you talking about? He's been running around the classroom on his own for months!" Yep, you've been played by a toddler.

zelda, how scary for you! Glad to hear that E is doing OK. Henry is always making these sudden moves when we're holding him, so we've just been lucky so far not to have had a similar experience. He ran into the side of our recliner the other week and ended up with a big bruise on his cheek, so mr. julie was embarrassed to take him in public for awhile lest people think he was a big ol' child abuser.
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post Jan 27 2011, 08:43 PM
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Fookie, just read your other post.....SO thrilled my article helped you. That really touches me...and makes me smile.
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post Jan 27 2011, 08:38 PM
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So great to hear everyone's news! Fookie, I'm sorry I don't have any eczema advice! I have heard of those lotions...skin issues can be so tricky. One of the reasons I'm trying to wean myself is that I have psoriasis on my scalp, and I can't take the steroid meds while BFing. I'm nursing once to twice a day right now and I still have milk...I think another month and I will have weaned him completely.

Your day care situation sounds marvelous....right now we have a great thing going with Mr. Z and my MIL taking care of him in the day...we're hoping at 18 months (in a year or so) to find a 3 day a week program and have Mr. Z and my MIL each take one of the other days so Mr. Z can go back to 32 hours a week and qualify for his own health care. It will be hard for me tho....love having him at his own house! But it has been ideal for this first year, and I feel so fortunate we have been able to do this.

Julie, don't do the Ferber thing if you don't want to. I do think it works for some babies, but if you are not on board, it's very stressful...and it certainly hasn't helped E sleep thru the night...just make it so that he doesn't wake every hour on the hour (literally!)...what are you gonna do...also, I totally break Ferber's rules in that in my mind 4:30 is the morning, so if E wakes up after that, he joins me in bed for some cuddly co-sleeping and we all get an extra 2 hours of sleep that way. Whatever works for you!!!!! :-)

Jenny, my BFF's daughter has had similar food issues, but you are right, all kiddos develop at different stages and I think Archie will work out his food things...personally, I threw out all the milestones books. (And Julie, I, too, had a million sleep books!!!)...but I decided I am only going to use the baby reference books for specific medical concerns. The milestones were stressing me out. I figure E will advance when he's good and ready, and if there's a problem, the pediatrician will let us know.

Speaking of, we had to make an emergency visit to our pediatrician this AM when E accidentally took a forehead-first tumble out of Mr. Z's arms and hit our hardwood floors. I heard the sound of his head hitting the floor (and Mr. Z screaming) from the other side of the house and raced to them so panicked.

The doctor checked him out and he is AOK....just a swollen left eye that makes him look like a prizefighter. Our first big health scare as parents, and it wasn't any fun! Poor little pumpkin!! Well, it gave us an extra reason to spoil him.

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post Jan 26 2011, 08:47 PM
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so many cool moms around here! terrific!

wow jenny, you are lucky.... you were home from work for Archie's first year? i'm sadly approaching the end of my 3-month maternity leave... Archie sounds like a sweetie. I have this book that lists milestones but at each one spells out the disclaimer that all babies develop and different rates. it's hard not to worry though when he's surely hitting other milestones on target.

speaking of milestones, Lillian has been rolling over, which i think is on target at almost 3 months. but now she's rolling over in her crib and falling asleep on her side or stomach. mostly she cries when she finds herself on her stomach, but once i came in to a soundly sleeping baby on her tummy and her face pointing to the side. the pediatrician says if she's strong enough to roll onto her tummy, and lifting her head during tummy time (she is), then she's strong enough to avoid sleeping face down. but i'm still worried.
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post Jan 26 2011, 03:27 PM
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Oh Julie! Archie says 'dada' and 'da-tee' and also 'deet' at birds, but he only says 'mama' when he's grizzling! I say 'mummy' and 'mama' to him so often, but mainly he replies with 'da-tee' and a big smile. I'm trying not to take it personally.

I've been back at work for two weeks and two days, and so far things are going well. I'm working from home on a Friday and I'm working 8 till 4 as my main hours so I'm home at a reasonable time. My Mr D is doing great as a stay-at-home Dad and is running the household and looking after the little fellow brilliantly.

Archie is now walking some of the time and crawling the rest of the time. It's crazy looking at my little newborn and see that he's growing in independence. My NCT friend said that when her son started walking she just saw all the steps he was going to take away from her. I know my job as a parent is to fit my child for independence, but I see what she means.

Our big thing is eating. Archie has pretty much refused to wean. He's 13 months and has only just started opening his mouth for Weetabix. Up until a week ago he refused anything on a spoon and would only gum rice cakes. We've been seeing a nutritionist and a behavioural therapist and he has made loads of progress in the last month, but it has been stressful. I have to keep reminding myself that all children develop at their own rates and that the NHS milestones are just averages rather than absolutes. Archie is happily chewing on bits of fruit and veg now, but he's still really hungry for milk and as a result wakes up a couple of times each night. We're pretty used to it now.

Archie is a joy and I love watching him learn new things. Right now his favourite games are put the thing inside the other thing. He is fascinated by putting his shapes in the shape sorter, plus anything and everything in the bin. He also loves standing up in the bath and throwing his ducks out of the bath and then trying to fetch them back in.

Love to all, I'm delighted this thread is set up, and really look forward to (and have already enjoyed) all your tales of mama-dom.
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post Jan 24 2011, 09:53 PM
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Hooray moms thread! nickclick, thanks for setting us up.

Henry is 14 months old now - man, it's like time is speeding up - and lots of fun. He can walk little bits on his own, but much prefers holding on to one parent's finger as he leads you around the house. He says "Dad" consistently (and I think maybe "Elmo" but I'm not quite sure) and says "Mama" sometimes, but mostly when he's unhappy or super-tired. He definitely understands a lot more than he says. He does great with solids, loves broccoli and peas and mostly eats big-people food cut up into smaller bits now. (zelda, he also loves the Earth's Best food - that stuff is actually quite good and we keep a couple jars on hand for emergencies.) Oh, and toast. I swear the kiddo is going to turn into a piece of toast, he eats so much of that. He loves books and is able to sit still for some of the longer picture books, which is great.

As for daycare, mr. julie stays home with Henry most of the time, as he has since kiddo was about 3 months old. I work 30-hour weeks, which still leaves me a good amount of time at home with Henry too. I could work some from home but find it much harder to get anything done from the home office than to just go to work.

Sleep. Yeah, not so much. He naps pretty well, but still wants to be nursed to sleep and wakes up about every two hours during the night. Yes, you read that right. My fellow parents are horrified (and I admit to being jealous about their glorious 6 hours of sleep per night). I periodically consider doing the Ferber thing but can't quite bring myself to do it - not because I think it's wrong or anything, theoretically it makes total sense, but it just feels wrong for me. That said, getting irritated because I have to nurse AGAIN is probably doing me no favors either. One thing is, he's working on his molars, so I don't feel like it's fair to try Ferber when he's in a kind of high-need place....Right now, I'm trying to kind of go with the flow a little bit. I'm trying gradual weaning and had hoped to be mostly weaned by now, but I've kind of accepted that it's going to take more time. One thing I try to remember is how hard it was when I was trying to get into a rhythm with the nursing at the beginning...and that I eventually got there. For awhile I was studying sleep books like crazy, but again it's kind of like the initial nursing thing - at some point I had to just say "screw it" to the books and come up with something that worked for us. (When I had trouble nursing at the beginning, I found that reading the books just kind of made me feel like a big failure who had done a bunch of things wrong. Not that they were written that way, it was just my frame of mind, I think. Though I had definitely done things different than they recommend - supplemented with formula at first, etc.) Not that I've quite come up with something that works, but I'm trying some stuff and just trying to remind myself that it will take time.

Fookie, Baby F's daycare situation sounds so wonderful! How great to get to be in your loving family and then spend the day with another loving family.

Eczema is weird. Henry has had a mild case occasionally, but nothing lately thankfully. I'd bet that you're right - that it's the dryness of winter combined with crawling. We're in a dry climate, so lots of kids get eczema during the winter here. One thing our doc recommended was limiting how often he gets a bath (2 to 3 times a week max, rather than every day). Bathing with a mild cleanser like Cetaphil rather than soap also helps because it's less drying. And just be liberal with the lotion. Sounds like you've had good results with the candula. Henry actually has really chapped thumbs right now because he keeps chewing on them (molars coming in). We've been putting petroleum jelly on them when he sleeps which seems to help.
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post Jan 24 2011, 08:01 PM
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Hi,
I posted a slightly massive update in the other thread, so won't repeat myself (too much), just wanted to share my happy daycare experience with you Nicklick.

Baby F has been in daycare 4 days/week since first week of january. Mr. F was very sad to go back to work and give up his daddy-time, but everyone has adjusted beautifully. BAby F had started attending this home daycare once per week last september to give Mr. F time finish some renovations and so Baby F could get used to the environment. So it wasn't as much a shock to BAby F as it was to Mr. F (or to me). The setting is a stay at home mom, spanish-speaking (we wanted a third language), with a three year old daughter. She also has a nine year old son. Baby F thinks they are his siblings! He gets so insanely excited when he sees them that I can't be sad at all when I drop him off. There are now two other boys who come before and after school and they are also mush when it comes to Baby F. Basically I feel like I'm bringing him to his "more exciting" family every morning and I"m happy to provide him with such a "family." He won't be getting siblings from us, and we don't have a lot of friends with kids so I'm so happy he has kids in his life who adore him. And while I don't understand much Spanish, my French helps me communicate with the caregiver, and also allows me to hear her constantly call Baby F "mi amor" ... I love Baby F's daycare situation so much that I actually spend a silly amount of time worrying that she'll move away smile.gif

Here's a question for you ladies ... eczema ... I think Baby F had his first bought of it on his legs. The "rash" was angry and red. I put some Weleda Diaper CAre cream on it (it was calendula in it - and we've never had to use it b/c Baby F has never had diaper rash) and the angry looking aspect of the eczema disappeared within 12 hours. I've since bought the same brand Calendula lotion and it seems to be keeping it at bay. But his legs still feel so dry and I sense that if I stopped using it the eczema would come right back. Anyone have any tips? And do you think the outbreak is due to the dryness of winter combined with crawling ... or what?



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post Jan 23 2011, 08:12 PM
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Thanks for starting this thread, Nick!

Aphelendra, this IS the place to whine...or I'm not going to post! ;-)

Seriously...feel free to vent anytime. I was just the same way the first day I went back to work and E was home with Mr. Z all day...he, too, had trouble with the bottle and I was so scared I would come home to a nightmare, but all was well. He now takes the bottle like a pro. I'm sure you're sick of bottle advice, but E rejected everything and we finally had luck with the Playtex nursers with the drop in liner. I think because the nipples are smaller. I know Dr. Browns and all those claim to have a nipple "like moms" but so sorry, my nipples are not huge gigantic protruding things!

Anyway, hear you on the sleep thing. E's sleep is pretty crappy. 8 months old and still not sleeping through the night. We have been horribly inconsistent and sending all sorts of terrible mixed messages to him for which I feel awful, but it's so hard to be consistent when you're dog tired. We did the Ferber thing after much resistance on my part, but it worked and he never seemed any worse for wear and was still the same charming, delightful little guy he was before we "Ferberized" him...but then we traveled for Christmas and stayed at my parents for two weeks and we just co-slept...and I was nursing him to sleep each time he woke up. Which he then started to expect and he was waking up every hour (literally) and I had to nurse him back to sleep.

I love the feeling of co-sleeping, but I don't want to get stuck in a position where I have to break a 5 year old of the habit, so we are back to Ferberizing PLUS E really needs to get sleep! He is not well rested when he wakes up every hour on the hour and screams out of frustration because he is so tired. :-(

Gawd...so hard.

But other than the sleep drama, he is a wonderful, cheerful, lovely little guy who loves new people and new surroundings. We love taking him out to eat. He loves to flirt with the waitresses, play with his toys and smile at everyone as Mr. Z and I enjoy a nice meal. I have several friends who cannot take their kiddos to restaurants, but I feel like Mr. Z and I deserve this treat from him after the three months of colic craziness! ;-)

I had lunch with a friend who is 37 weeks today and found myself talking about the birth and I started crying! Did not know I would do that...I never stop looking at E and thinking of him as a total miracle. Which he is!
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post Jan 22 2011, 08:23 PM
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Sarah isn't in daycare, but I did go back to school last week. Mr. A is home with her while I'm gone. I'm only gone for 4 hours twice a week (yep, it's going to take me several decades at this rate). But, I will say this - I think it was a way bigger deal for me than it was for her. I had a horrible panic attack, complete with crying and wheezy noises, the night before. I raced home from school the next day to find Sarah and Mr. playing flying baby on the floor and having a grand ol' time.

Of course, part of my worry has to do with the fact that Sarah isn't currently taking a bottle. We never introduced one due to her AWFUL CRAPPY HORRIBLE SHALLOW latch, and now she has no idea what to do with the thing. So in order to feed her, Mr. has to spoon feed her or let her drink from a cup, neither of which are particularly efficient ways to get milk in a baby. And messy, veeeeerrrrry messy. But alas, the wee tot did not starve in my absence.

I think I'm going to stop here - Sarah's sleep has been way off lately (as in nonexistant). I don't want to bum up the beginnings of this faboo new thread with my whining:lol:

Excited to hear from everyone! I've missed you guys . . . .
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