[starkitty]

I could use a bit of advice. My boyfriend and I are trying to have sex for the first time (we're both virgins), and the key word there would be trying. It hasn't quite worked so far. The first time we couldn't get the condom on until it was too late, and the second, well. It just didn't work out logistically, so to speak. You wouldn't think it would be so hard to find the right opening on my own body, but clearly it was. We're waiting a bit now before trying again, as per his request, but I'd really, really like the whole thing to work out next time, so I would appreciate any helpful advice you all have to offer.

[smarttart]

I really think it's just cause he's sweaty. Because a couple of the times were fine- but them a few were so NOT. I should just say something cause he's very, very open to talking about everything. thanks guys.

[candycane_girl]

Eeep, I've been with like, one smelly guy. Even my current guy, if he's a bit sweaty, it smells. I mean, it only makes sense but I can understand how it's a turn off. But like everyone else said, is it always smelly or just when he's sweaty? All I could suggest is taking a sexy shower with him.

[p_176]

scent is a huge part of attraction....is it smelly because he's sweaty or because it's smelly?

[hellotampon]

I don't see why you can't say something abut the smelly penis. Especially since there's a reason for it. Saying it smells because he just got out of his sweaty job is better than saying it just smells, period.

[LustfullyPink]

You could always take a shower together as foreplay. I know that's not practical every time for every situation, but It's a quick fix for every now and then. As for a permanent solution, I think you should talk about it. Men are kind of stupid in the way of hints (as i'm sure you know) so the best way would be to just approach it head on. (Haha, no pun intended)

[smarttart]

"Okay, anyone here successfully dated a guy with a very small penis? How do you make that work? I like him a lot, but man..."

I actually had a GREAT experience with a really small penised man. But he was all about the foreplay and he just moved really well. And I came in an instant just cause we had such great chemistry. I never was a believer before that- but it was actually the best sex I ever had. I think it all comes down to what does it for you and what turns you on.

So, question for everyone: what do you do if your guys penis smells really bad? do you say something? I haven't experienced this in a long time, it just kinda makes me want to vomit! And I love, love love giving oral normally. He is really sweaty so I think that might have something to do with it.

[dani837]

Mouse, tips on being slutty: just get drunk and everything will be easier
wine does it for me. it gets me drunk and horny!

[kelkello]

Edie, I'm just going to take the attitude of whatever happens is what is supposed to happen. The universe is protecting me and knows what is best for me. I will be fine no matter how this pans out.

[edie52]

Hrm, Kel, that doesn't sound too promising. That said, the guy I'm with now, who I like a lot, was bad the first time. Maybe it wasn't him that was bad, maybe IT was just bad, or both of us. But either way, the next day I went to my friend's place, demanded she pour me a stiff drink, and then wailed "It was BAD!" I thought everything was bad- his moves, rhythm, repertoire. I guess we were both pretty shy so there was barely any touching and no oral. And he actually has a really big penis but there was no lube, and instead of using saliva he was just like "I'll go slow," and I was too shy to say anything. It hurt. And the rhythm was off. I was just like "what is he DOING?"

So, fast forward a few weeks. Almost everything is better. Naturally we've both become less shy and reserved and we've also gotten used to each others' rhythm. He's gone down on me for extended periods of time, finally. It's still not wild, kinky sex, but it's good. But there are still problems... sometimes he comes really fast, other times the penis flops when the condom comes round... but those things can be dealt with. I find it's best not to make a big deal out of either of those things, lest the problem get bigger in his mind.

But the smallness thing, yeah, I dunno. You'd think in that case he'd be used to, or at least open to, different positions and clit stimulation!

[kelkello]

You know, the more I think about it, the more I'm just not sure this will work. I'm going to give it another go if the opportunity presents itself, but I'm just not feeling it. He's not adventurous at all. He asked me, "So do you usually not come from intercourse?" and I replied, "Never...unless I help myself along." He was almost shocked by that. I don't know what women he dates who could have orgasms from just intercourse with a tiny penis, but maybe they a) fake it really well, or b. he found a miracle woman and never should have let her go.

I asked him before the whole sex thing about what he's into, fantasies and such. He doesn't seem very creative. And I think he likes to be dominated, which is sooo not my thing unless I'm going down on him. I'd much rather be dominated. The first thing he tried to do was pull me on top of him, which I don't even like with a guy with a huge cock, let alone his tiny thing. I hate being on top...have never been able to move properly and it hurts my knees. Trust me, I *want* to like it, but I don't. When I told him I like the leg over the shoulder thing, his question was, "Why?" Erm...because it feels good?

And I'm with you Octi...I can only come from hands, sometimes mouth. He's okay in that area, it's just that the intercourse was incredibly awful and awkward. Like I said, I might give it another go, but I can't imagine this working.

[_octinoxate]

hm. as for me, i can't come from anything BUT hands/mouth, so less-than-physically-satisfying intercourse wouldn't be a deal breaker. however, it would be (or rather, it IS) pretty boring to me to be with someone super quiet/shy/conservative/awkward. i guess i look at vaginal sex not as something to make me come, but rather something to be exciting, and fun, and maybe meaningful. a good-sized dick isn't important for making that happen, but the right attitude is.

that said, first times can be awkward. maybe he'll be more comfortable soon and come out of his shell.

aren't there positions that make it feel bigger? like maybe you lying face down, legs together, with him entering from behind/top? or that preztel-y modified missionary one where you cross one leg over his opposite shoulder?

[shinyx3]

oh kel, i think you must really like this guy to even be asking. i have been with one man that was about 5in and personally i was not impressed. never came from intercourse with him. learned to fake it. don't think anyone should do that. he had other issues as well with function but that is neither here nor there. so, unless he is super fantastic in other was that would be a deal breaker for me.

good luck

[kelkello]

Pretty damned small. 4 inches at BEST. Not huge in girth either. I could barely feel him. And he doesn't seem very adventurous. And it was soooooooooo quiet. Like having sex with a mime. I don't expect screams and moans, but, hell, I had to ASK if he came. I couldn't even tell. The whole experience was just awkward and bad. He's good with his hands and mouth, but everything else was just...ugh. I know it's not fair to compare, but man.

[_octinoxate]

Hm, how small are we talking, kel?

I once dated a guy with a small one and the sex was indeed really lame, but it was not really due to the size-- it was more about him being really unadventurous and really sort of ashamed about sex. and having no rhythm. i think all those things matter more than size does... but yeah, again, how small are we talking?

[kelkello]

Okay, anyone here successfully dated a guy with a very small penis? How do you make that work? I like him a lot, but man...

[_octinoxate]

thanks for the input on laser, everyone! it's really helpful to have each of your perspectives! i just got back from the consultation and i'm going to go ahead with it. (like you said, syb, the real question is what i am or am not comfortable with-- not anyone else's opinion about it.) so, tomorrow morning at 10 AM i will have a lot less hair and a lot less money than i do now

gt, can you recommend a topical to use? when i got the patch test today it was bearable but definitely uncomfortable, and i'd love to have something to help out with that.

bust is so cool

[starpiste]

Wanting to chime in on the laser, you should be prepared to have 6-8 treatments, 6-8 weeks apart to get about 80-90% permanent removal. A lot of the time short-term results make the hair grow in like velous hair (the invisible hair on most of your body) and not completely disappear. Make sure you're not getting IPL (it's pulsed light, not laser, and will take more treatments and more time at each one because it's not as precise). Also, ask if they do free test patches at your consultation. That way you can see how your skin reacts to the laser over the next few days. It's also a test for the tech to find the level to get the best results without side effects (hyperpigmentation - this can also be caused by medication interactions, but is usually temporary) and be prepared to wear extra sunscreen for the week after. Laser makes you extra sensitive to the sun and you will burn much easier.

(I work in a spa (reception) where we've recently introduced laser hair removal as an option to our clients, this was all the stuff we were told during our training.)

[girltrouble]

day glow is somewhat right on the laser info. it's more or less permenant, dispite what the electrolysis people tell you. esp. if your hair isn't course. i have had way more laser than anyone should have to, and eventually went to electrolysis because my hair is EXTREMELY thick and course. does it hurt? oh my yes. it's like having a rubber band snapped on whatever part is being zapped, but that can be lessened by topical cremes. some places will charge you extra for it. there are different kind of machines for different hair/skin types, but most work on fair/pale skin w/ dark hair best. and go with a doctor as opposed to the place in a mall. i've been to both, the doctors are much better. there was a case of reported death years ago, but that was because of an OD on the topical cream. the girl went to a mall instead of a doctor. i would also take an aleve before hand as well. if you are more patient, or only have a small area, you may want to consider electrolysis. it's slower, but w/ small areas, or tough hair, you will save money in the long run, and i say long run because it is usually much slower. either case you will more than likely make multiple visits.

[lux]

drinking, beeing generally in desperate need for sex, feeling like your looking good. those seem to work for me. maybe a bit too well at the moment. so regretting not sleeping with the guy i was flirting on thursday. but that's what you get from trying to be monogamous. if the other person is reseptive and you know they're there for sex, shouldn't be a problem moving from flirting to fucking quickly.

hopefully the new bc will kill my sex drive.