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pepper
post Oct 2 2006, 11:18 PM
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we were making it the other day and he climbed Into my panties with me. sexiest thing EVER.

good thing that thong is made of super stretchy fabric. seriously.
i'm such a fantastically lucky woman.
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cleanoldguy
post Sep 30 2006, 10:50 AM
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Before this thread dies out altogether, I'd just like to suggest that you ladies might encourage your men to wear your panties all day for safety reasons. It will make them EXTREMELY careful drivers.

Think about it. What guy wants to wake up in the Emergency Room, surrounded by nurses and interns, all giggling at his underwear?
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venetia
post Sep 8 2006, 03:55 PM
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Ouch ouch ouch, now that is one type of underwear that really needs to be in the right size! Yikes.

Calvin Klein makes some really good men's cotton ones.
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mr_falljackets
post Sep 8 2006, 12:19 PM
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I wore one of FJ's g-strings around for a day once and enjoyed showing her, not because the thought of wearing panties turns me on per se but because I went on some momentary anti-establishment bender and the idea of showing FJ that I could wear her panties and still be my confident damnself was sort of affirming and funny at the same time. Also thought it was interesting to see how girls go all day with that dental floss riding up their bootygroove. Didn't agree with me much but then it rode differently on me on account of my equipment. That is all.


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cleanoldguy
post Aug 30 2006, 12:17 PM
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"... Sexuality is not set in stone!!"

Amen, Sister Venetia. I just noticed this thread dying away at the bottom of the pile and thought it was worth one more look.

I'm kind of surprised that more people didn't contribute stories on this subject--maybe not necessarily the exact same thing (dressing up for special occasions, so to speak), but variations on the basic theme of erotic playfulness.

Let me recommend a book here: "Talk Dirty To Me: An Intimate Philosophy of Sex" by Sallie Tisdale. In spite of the title, it isn't even remotely pornographic. Instead, it's a very nuanced and extended view of "what makes sex sexy" for different people. Amazon has it for about ten bucks in paperback.

And back to the thread topic: you mean nobody else has put panties on her boyfriend? Or had to make her boyfriend STOP putting them on? And none of the Busters here have ever tried on something frilly?
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venetia
post Aug 5 2006, 05:15 PM
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Tangential but I hate how people, including Dear Abby ("after 30 years of marriage your husband finally trusted you") assume that if someone gets off on something then its set in stone and it somehow means that deep down they ALWAYS liked it - and they ALWAYS will. For all we know he only picked this up three years ago.

When I was younger I felt I could only find true freedom to experiement in casual relationships because if I tried anything with an actual boyfriend it would be really hard to "undo" it again if it wasn't for me. Sexuality is not set in stone!!
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cleanoldguy
post Aug 2 2006, 09:56 AM
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From today's "Dear Abby" column:

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SHARING INTIMATES PUTS SPARK IN COUPLE'S 30-YEAR MARRIAGE

DEAR ABBY: Please tell me if I'm going crazy. My husband of 30 years recently admitted that he enjoys wearing my undergarments! At first I was shocked, but now I am over it. We went shopping together and bought him several pairs of panties and a couple of nightgowns. He was in seventh heaven.

Our sex life has never been better and we really are enjoying each other -- but still I wonder. -- MIXED UP IN FLORIDA

DEAR MIXED UP: You are not the first wife who has helped her husband cross-dress, and you won't be the last. He is a transvestite -- someone who enjoys wearing clothing that is traditionally worn by the opposite sex. Because your sex life has "never been better" and you are "really enjoying each other," my advice is to stop "wondering" and appreciate that after 30 years of marriage your husband finally trusted you enough to show you who he really is.
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This is a little more elaborate than the occasional playful dressing-up reported in this thread, but it tells me that there are a lot more variations on the theme than most people realize. "Dear Abby" ain't exactly "Savage Love." Her column runs on the Comics page of my family newspaper--I wonder how many of my small-town neighbors hid today's paper from the kids....and how many husbands left it open to that page in hopes their wives would see it....

BTW, the headline in our paper was "Wife hot for her cross-dressing hubby." Pretty strong stuff for our Bible-Belt town.
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ironyfetish
post Jul 16 2006, 06:43 AM
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my ex once put on a skirt and women's cut tee shirt of mine when we were chilling in my room, and i painted his nails blue. he actually stole the shirt and never gave it back. i thought he looked cute like that, but after the fact got very defensive about it. i think cross-dressing is totally normal, and it makes me sad when people who do it even just for fun are ashamed of it.
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sheisdeadly
post Jul 6 2006, 01:37 AM
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i love silly boys. i think all my guy friends would put on womans bras and lingerie. i hang out with nerds heehehee... pretty sure that my boyfriend would too. i mean it'd be different if he was STEALING your undies and trying them on haha... now thats embaressing.
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doodlebug
post Jun 25 2006, 09:41 PM
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*delurks*

I have been reading this thread but don't have a lot to contribute. The discussion is very interesting. And...oh, yeah...men in "women's" clothes? Hot. Eddie Izzard, very hot. Much hotter in heels and makeup. Yummy!

But I like it from the gender-bending perspective, which I have also enjoyed in female partners as well as male partners - it's just less noticeable in women, because we've pushed against more of those kind of gender restrictions. Western women were ridiculed when they first came up with the idea of wearing pantaloons on their bicycles! Heavens. A hundred or so years later, you couldn't force me into a skirt.

I love it when people have the courage to mess around with gender "norms," and especially if they are doing it to be more "themselves." It delights me. It's a huge turn on, probably connected to my feminism in all sorts of bizarre and as-yet inexplicable ways.

That is all I probably have to contribute, so I'll go back to lurking.

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katiebelle2882
post Jun 25 2006, 06:27 PM
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When you say it was attractive just bc he was willing to put away his pride for your amusement and how that is attractive, well, that is something I can totally and completely understand. I have had instances where being silly and stupid with a guy has really made me fall for them even harder!


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monht85
post Jun 25 2006, 05:27 PM
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Thanks Katie for the response. I just want to clarify again, that I just kind of fell into this. I am not turned on visualy, its more that its fun to be silly together. We both know we are kind of breaking society rules and that is what is fun. I am just seeing a side to him that
has kind of brought us closer. I have always had positive experiences with men and lingerie. This is just the first time the guy has participated so actively.
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monht85
post Jun 25 2006, 05:27 PM
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Thanks Katie for the response. I just want to clarify again, that I just kind of fell into this. I am not turned on visualy, its more that its fun to be silly together. We both know we are kind of breaking society rules and that is what is fun. I am just seeing a side to him that
has kind of brought us closer. I have always had positive experiences with men and lingerie. This is just the first time the guy has participated so actively.
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battygurl
post Jun 25 2006, 12:49 AM
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katie, I don't think attraction can (or should!) be forced, necessarily, but I definitely think it can change and evolve over time. There are a lot of things that I never used to think of as sexy but instead embarassing and just silly that I think are totally hot now. It just came from experimenting, either in fantasy or with a partner, and more exposure to the kink in question in a sexual situation. For instance, in this case, it might help to look at porn or read erotica featuring men in panties. Seeing them turned on and turning on their partners can make it sexier than just picturing a man in panties which might make you laugh/freak out. You might end up finding it sexy or you might not, you don't know until you try, right? But hey, don't be hard on yourself. There's nothing wrong with saying "not my kink" and leaving it at that.

Edit: I cross-posted with katie. And I have to add that I think it's really important, interesting and fun to question what turns us on. So yay!


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katiebelle2882
post Jun 25 2006, 12:45 AM
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Whoa I leave for a day and it seems i started a fight! Allow me to explain even though the wonderful AP pretty much hit the nail on the head. Moht, I was in no way saying that my man (and I dont have one thanks) is more of a "man" than yours. I was just expressing that this is how I view a certain thing and trying to figure out WHY exactly I feel that way. Also, in no way would it make me view a man as a homo, thats not why it's unnattractive to me. My lingerie comment was, as I thought people might realize, a hyperbole, much like cleanoldguys assertion that it has saved more marriages then therapy. It was toungue in cheek and I am sorry if it came off the wrong way.

And AP's right, I DO want to be more open minded about stuff, and I think for me to abe able to do that includes figuring out why i feel a certain way to begin with. This is especially true with feelings that I personally think are reiterated and enforced by societal norms (like "real" men dont wear panties).

What is even more confusing about this idea for me is that I KNOW about gender identity and how it is fluid, and I also happent o be a very sexual person, so its very surprising to me that i don't find these types of things attractive. It could possibly have something to do with the fact that while i dont look down on people gender bending, it's just something that doesnt personally turn me on. I dont think it's wrong or anything, it just doesnt do it for me.

I think AP is right about how people need time to embrace their inner perv. I did just turn 24, and college (where i would say most of my sexual experiences happened) is not exactly the environment to really try and find yourself sexually. Maybe because hormones are racing and you basically are just wanted to get laid, not necessarily experiment bc everyone is insecure about finding different ways you can enjoy yourself sexually that are out of the mainstream.

who knows, now i am just rambling and its 3am, but, the bottomline is that I wasnt trying to offend anyone (if anything i admire everyone here!) but instead trying to figure out why I feel a certain way, and perhaps try to change my narrow view of things.


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venetia
post Jun 24 2006, 07:38 PM
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tee hee. Yeah I think you're right. Good things take time, all nice things to those who wait, etc. :-)
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auralpoison
post Jun 24 2006, 06:11 PM
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Aaaaaah! Ven, I see, my error! I misinterpreted the gist of your post. A thousand pardons. Like I said, I think she just wants to be more open minded to kink. I say give it time. She'll be just as big as a perv as I am.


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venetia
post Jun 24 2006, 05:57 PM
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Auralpoison, I wasn't wondering why anyone would do some stuff a lover might like! I completely agree with you. Besides, if my partner is turned on by something, that goes some way to make it seem exciting even if it isn't in itself.

I just get the impression Katiebelle isn't being asked to do this particular thing by her partner, so I wondered why she was focussing on it. It also sounds to me like a total five on her scale: "lingerie would entirely ruin my marriage if I was married". Anyway I'll stop conjecturing - she's the one who knows what she means.
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sassygrrl
post Jun 24 2006, 05:10 PM
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I would love my boy to do this. Now his boxer briefs are as sexy as hell, but.... well, shit you all know what a big crush I have on Eddie Izzard... nudge nudge. wink wink.

May have to have him take me lingirie shopping... I did mention that I liked some bras at Target today (as a big hint... in fact I wore one of my new ones today, and the other one I wore on like Thursday, and got free coffee from Starbucks crush. Guess it makes the girls look even bigger....). Hopefully, he'll get the hint.

Then again, have another friend who is now married, who just likes to buy me pretty things, and sees me dress up in them. I love my lingerie fetish friend.
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auralpoison
post Jun 24 2006, 04:50 PM
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WHOA, WHOA, WHOA! I don't think Katie was trying to suggest that your man is anything less than a man, Monht85, I think she was just expressing her own personal discomfort with the idea of a man in women's undergarments as far as her ideas of gender identity go. Her concept of masculine leans more to the John Wayne type, while we lean towards a more fun/fluid/secure type. She wasn't trying to insult you or your baby, she's just trying to wrap her head around an idea that completely contradicts her thoughts on masculinity.


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