[ketto]

Hey Bekiboo,

I'm 4'11, 115lbs and I wear a 30E. Honestly, if you can find a bit of extra money then shell it out for something that will fit properly and give you real support. I'm in Canada and have only been to a Victoria's Secret once and found they didn't know how to size and none of what they carried had good support. I can't speak for other US stores though.

In my city, I looked up specialty lingerie shops in the yellowpages and now I have one committed place I shop at. It's a very professional shop where women will come into the room to figure out exactly what fit you need. I usually spend at least $100 on a bra, but I usually only buy at most 2 a year unless there's a sale. I have a brand and style of choice and I believe I'm now on my 6th bra in that style. It's sooooo comfortable, sits exactly where it should, and isn't pokey, scratchy, or uncomfortable in any way and it's a nice, smooth, black sexy one too. Over the years I've collected some lacey ones as well, but I usually only wear them for special occasions because they're not as comfortable as my black ones.

I'm 25 but I first started shopping there when I was 19 and I would never go back to the cheap bras they sell at most places in the mall. I now have a lot of back, neck, and shoulder issues so having good support is #1 for me, even if it is a bit pricier.

[bekiboo]

Hi girls,
I am a younger women, (but i wouldn't consider myself a teen.) I have a rather annoying bra size (32DD to 32E, depending on the brand, and style.) I recently was at Victoria Secret and found that they only carry one bra in my size, and it looked like something that my grandma would wear. I want to feel beautiful, and i want to have something new for my fiance to see. I also have a limited budget for bras, so i try to keep it under $60 dolars. Any suggestions?

Thanks,
Bekiboo

(P.S.) I am a very small frame, about 120 pounds, and i am only 5'4"

[bekiboo]

Hi girls,
I am a younger women, (but i wouldn't consider myself a teen.) I have a rather annoying bra size (32DD to 32E, depending on the brand, and style.) I recently was at Victoria Secret and found that they only carry one bra in my size, and it looked like something that my grandma would wear. I want to feel beautiful, and i want to have something new for my fiance to see. I also have a limited budget for bras, so i try to keep it under $60 dolars. Any suggestions?

Thanks,
Bekiboo

[auralpoison]

Did you maybe mean *boobie bump*? Hee!

[genghis cunt]

*booty bump*

[auralpoison]

*bump*

[auralpoison]

That is pretty much my position on the matter.

[genghis cunt]

Thank you for the tips! But now they are sounding like a lot of work. Maybe I will just let my ass jiggle.

[auralpoison]

I got a "body shaper" from Target that was supposed to smoothe out my tummy/hips/inner thighs so my clothes could look a little better. It was a 2X. I couldn't get it past my ass.

Okay, so OT advice.

You probably gave up too soon! If you can get a "body shaper" on properly in under thirty minutes without popping a major blood vessel/taking several five minute breaks, you're a fucking goddess.

Keep in mind that you have to work those things on from the bottom up: When we work them on we tend to pull from the top when all the extra stretch is in the thighs. It's also a good idea to work from the inside as well, placing your hands inside the garment & working them upwards. I would also advise putting on the shaper somewhere where you can lie down & having something nearby that you can put your foot up on like a chair to keep from having the dreaded crotch/thigh gapping.

Also, I am assuming you bought ASSETS by Sara Blakely (the cheaper, uglier sister of SPANX), yes? The sizing on shapers is different than clothing, so while you may wear a 2X clothing-wise, it does not mean you wear a 2X in ASSETS. You may have simply purchased the wrong size.

/derail

[DistrictLady]

Hey dustyrosekisses: go to bravissimo.com. They sell bathing suits and bikinis. They are a UK company but they ship to the US. I'm thinking of ordering from them, if I could figure out what size I am. I've been trying the bra size calculators and they are off by two sizes in either direction. Arrrrgh!

Thanks for the bravissimo.com tip!
I'm ordering as I type!

[genghis cunt]

My body issues have been overwhelming me since last night.

I got a "body shaper" from Target that was supposed to smoothe out my tummy/hips/inner thighs so my clothe could look a little better. It was a 2X. I couldn't get it past my ass.

I laid down to have a little mope but then move on, but my boyfriend sat down to try to make me feel better. He told me I am a "big beautiful woman." I immediately got my dinner out of my stomach. I had to leave work early today because I can't stop crying. I have been in denial over how I look, pretending I am happy with myself. But I am tired of being unable to find clothes and getting treated like I am invisible.

The confusing part is that I think women who are my size are hot. I respect all women, no matter the size, but skinny girls aren't for me. I'm unable to accept my body even though I like thick girls.

I know this has nothing to do with anything, I just needed to get this out.

[auralpoison]

eShakti will work with you, too. Everything I've ever gotten from them has been splendid & cut to my specific boobie needs.

I also like Ureshii. They do beautiful, soft, comfy CLASSY clothes & they will talk measurements with you, it may cost you a few extra bucks if you are also a plus sized gal.

I dunno if this makes me weird or what, but I don't really compare myself to other women nor do I rate my body parts. Sure, I could stand to lose a few, but at the end of the day I like me anyway I am. And anybody that's ever been with me has been with me because they liked me, not just *parts* of me. As many fucked up ideas as my dad put into my head, he also instilled in me a sense of confidence within myself that is innate & goddamn near constant. I guess I don't compare because I'm me, they are them & that ain't gonna change. *shrugs*

Last weekend I sat in a chair at McCarran & people watched for hours. It's amazing to me the remarkable number of shapes, sizes, & body types that we human beings come in. All circles & blobs & lines lumped together to make a person. Amazing.

Also, because it was Las Vegas, I saw more weird looking fake GIANT gazongas than you could shake a stick at. One woman in partick had had enough face work done so that she looked like she was smelling something awful & her poor boobs! She had the hard, round variety of implants & they rode really low on her frame. She wore a bra that was clearly not the right size, she was spilling out of said bra & you could see every bit because she was wearing a sheer turtleneck. And she was probably in her late fifties. I just kept wondering what she was gonna look like when she's seventy.

Saw a couple of wicked hair systems on some men; a guy with cotton candy hair, gold medallion necklace, ID bracelet & pinkie ring watched my bags for me while I got a water. He was wearing a green shirt with a big collar, too. It was awesome!

[missladyj]

I wanted to share a link to a site that makes clothes specifically for women with larger breasts. This is an issue for me at work where I am not trying to show off my rack. The clothes are a little pricey and I would spend the money on it if I was presenting at a conference or something like that.

http://carissarose.com/

[buttercups]

Exactly Persi! Why the hell do we women always feel the need to compensate and to make comparisons to other women. I've broken things down just the same way that you described and in the end I always lose. It's just not worth it. I'm trying really hard now to not get jealous of other women for having things that I don't and just to appreciate others' beauty not at the expense of my own. I have to admit that whenever I'm around beautiful, large-breasted women it always makes me feel insecure and like I'm a baby or something. I feel like they look so much more mature compared to me, my bf must be looking at them and wondering what went wrong with his gf, blah blah blah. It is all such bullshit. I wish there was an easy way to remedy this kind of thinking but I don't really think there is. I know that for myself I'm just going to try hard to recognize "ok, that woman has a nice rack or whatever" and leave out the "wow, compared to that woman I look completely pathetic" that I usually follow it up with. We really don't have to compensate for our supposed "inadequacies" and need to stop comparing ourselves to others.

And of course we don't owe men ANYTHING! We shouldn't feel ashamed of our bodies or feel this need to "compensate" for one body part with another because we feel like we owe someone. complete BS!

[Persiflager]

Further to conversation in small-booby thread....

Why do we think that we 'owe' anyone a certain level of physical attractiveness? That we have to tally our features and trade them off to get an acceptable score?

I've often had this train of thought....

Boo, she's so pretty! (+5 for her). Though she's wearing too much make-up (-1 for her). And amazing legs (+3 for her). But I've got much better breasts (+6 for me)... shit, I lose! Better switch to a low-cut top.

And I've often 'comforted' friends with.... "But you've got great boobs/legs/hair!" (if they're fat/large-breasted/I'm really short of other compliments).

Bugger this. My short, pudgy legs aren't compensated for by my boobs - they're fine as they are! I don't owe anyone good legs! And I don't have to get a better haircut to make up for having let my stomach get squishy because the beauty bailiff is not going to break down my door to collect on the debt I owe the world! THE WORLD WILL GET ALONG FINE! THERE WILL NOT BE A BEAUTY DEFICIT!

*goes for a quiet sit-down to calm down*

[auralpoison]

I don't know if anybody else has been watching the Sheyla Hershey debacle, but I've been reading about it since June: World's Largest Implants Removed. Honestly, I've just been waiting to see how long before the complications started to kill this woman because it was inevitable. Seriously. The human body is just not built to sustain that level of physical trauma.

[ketto]

It's interesting that you like the molded cups, tampon. I've never been able to wear them. They make me look totally ridiculous and sit in the wrong spot. I keep trying to buy different bras but I'm totally stuck on this plain black Fantasie one. No molded cups, just simple, black, good coverage, amazing support, and oh-so-comfortable.

I'd really like to have a couple of plunge style ones or something a little sexier but I'm still having a lot of trouble finding things that aren't 'full coverage' here and I NEED to try them on before buying.c

Glad to hear things are more managable for you, tampon. I never lose or gain any breast weight. I remember in high school complaining about a sore back once and someone said, "Couldn't you just lose some weight?" Besides being totally insulting it definitely doesn't work that way for everyone.

For those who have back problems related to breast weight, what kind of pain do you get? I go to physio for my back issues but I still have some ongoing problems, mainly in my lower back when I'm standing for more than 40 minutes and my shoulder blades.

[enfermera]

I know that people gain and lose weight in predetermined patterns, but the body continues to change throughout the early 20s right? So perhaps this isn't actually all in my head.

my sister went up a full cup size in her early-to-mid 20's, without any other weight re-distribution, so yeah, i think so. i think that's when i started getting actual hips, too.

[hellotampon]

Hmmm. I was actually thinking of getting a plunge bra up until now. I don't understand the padding either. I like molded cup bras- they're more supportive and they last waaaaay longer than the ones with just thin material.

I lost a couple pounds in the beginning of the summer, from being more active, i guess, and it all came off my boobs. I went from a 32DDD to a 32D. I feel so much more comfortable now. And as I gain the weight back it seems to be appearing on my thighs. I'm not fond of the cellulite but at the same time i don't want to complain. I feel much more proportional and I've always admired pear shapes. I know that people gain and lose weight in predetermined patterns, but the body continues to change throughout the early 20s right? So perhaps this isn't actually all in my head.

[Persiflager]

I often see that with plunge bras - I think it's easier for the manufacturers than properly engineering a bra to hoist heavy boobies into the desired front-and-central position. Fools!

On a slightly different note, I've recently bought a non-underwired bra for the first time in ..... ooh, about 12 years? I wear it around the house and it is spectacularly comfortable!