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angie_21
post Aug 12 2009, 08:44 PM
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It's like a body part is missing. I definitely think I've had body dysmorphic disorder for many years due to my obsessing about this problem, but the main definition is worrying about a defect that is "slight or imagined" and I'm pretty sure my defect is real. Whenever I've talked to a bf about this before they say "no its all in your head" but how can it be? Is it all in my head that I can't fill out a bra?? Is it all in my head that my chest never developed?? I mean bra sizes don't lie and maybe I would have BDD if I was a nice full B cup and felt this way- but at a AA arent I a little justified to think that something is missing?


I haven't read anything else up to this point, and probably won't have time until later, but this just needs to be talked about. NO. No, you are not justified. Stop hurting yourself like that. Unless your band and boobie measurements are exactly the same you DO freakin have something there. It may not be what you want, but they are indeed breasts. You're beating yourself up about being "defective" when your body is 100% normal (again, maybe it's not what you want, but it's healthy, and it's even a common chest size - MANY OTHER PEOPLE ARE THE SAME SIZE AS YOU).

It's not your chest size that's all in your head, it's thinking that there's something wrong with your chest size that's all in your head.
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post Aug 12 2009, 12:57 PM
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Sexual abuse will definitely contribute to the problems you're experiencing now. Counseling is your best friend. You shouldn't be ashamed to seek help no matter what the source of your insecurity is. It obviously affects your life greatly. Would you rather say that your anxiety over your small breasts is not important enough to get help? Would you rather live in fear and embarassment your whole life? Or, you could get some professional help who will give you the tools you need to break free of your self-imposed prison.

Culture is what it is. The collective CAN change the culture. But, as a part of the collective, you have to do your part. You have to stop buying into its BS and giving it fuel. You need to stop demonizing everything around you. Forget about the injustice of seeing breasts everywhere and not seeing male nudity. It's not IMPORTANT. And, may I remind you to remember that breasts are not only sexual objects and thinking so harms breast-feeding women everywhere.

Men are not horrible. They like the whole variety of breasts and don't lie to yourself and say that they only like the big ones. Did you read the comments below the lil diddies video that lightchested posted? They are ALL postitive words for small breasts. One man posted a comment on YOUR SIZE: "And as for the the real men of the world we love ALL breasts regardless of frontiers, size, colour, shape.... YAY for AA - Adorable Adornments". Read them every single day. Thinking all those men are lying or that it's some massive joke or conspiracy is just plain silly. I think you should also read this page and this page and take a look at all the positive words from men!

I admit, I've had my serious downs with thinking all men suck, they only want perfect barbies, blah blah blah. But then I snap out of it and slap myself upside the head for my stupidity.

Slap yourself upside the head. After all, you could've had a V8!! Lol....sorry really bad joke.
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post Aug 12 2009, 12:22 PM
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Aithinne youre right about all of those things and that is like the slap in the face that i need and I know I should appreciate my body because its healthy and I do try to put it in that perspective a lot- but unfortunately it can't stop me from thinking about it and worrying about it. I've tried and tried and tried and I am thankful that I'm healthy but that can't take my true thoughts about myself away. And you're right I am most definitely dooming my relationship and I have done the exact same thing before, but this hatred of my breasts has somehow made me hate men too in this weird way. It's like I hate them because their desire for boobs makes me hate myself so much because I can't live up to this expectation. I hate men's magazines and how tv shows ALWAYS show boobs but you never see dick and how its so acceptable for women to be naked everywhere but not for men. Even today I was watching my new favorite show True Blood and in this episode there were boobs everywhere but not one naked male full frontal- i mean what the hell! Why is it ok for men to get to oogle something while we're left with nothing- not to mention the fact that the women were all well-endowed. I hate how the world is run by men's exploitation of us and how I can't get away from this image they ( or someone ) has created and how women feed into it and contribute to it even more by posing for Playboy and Hustler and Maxim and god knows what else. I can't stand porn bc its a bunch of big fake tits and as much as there is porn out there that focuses on smallies ive only ever seen guys watching girls with boobs bigger than my head. I guess I just can't stand living in this man's world and yes, it is because of my insecurities. Is it wrong for me to feel that i hate men- of course it is! And it def impacts my relationships bc I just can't make any guy understand and I also lash out at them and blame them for my hatred. If I had boobs and fit into this world would I hate it as much- honestly I doubt it. Every girl I know who has a chest can watch all those shows and porn and everything and they don't seem to shrivel up and die inside like I do. I wish I didn't feel these feelings towards men and I know its bad of me, but I can't help it. A part of me blames them for why things are the way they are and why I feel this way.

Lightchested wow, you are my soul sister! I have read the Broken Mirror and it did help me a little- especially the part about how some women who have BDD feel masculine - which is exactly how my small breasts make me feel. You definitely answered the exact questions I have- it makes sense that its the obsession, not the physical problem, that defines BDD. I definitely definitely have the horrible obsession. I wached your video ( it made me laugh) and I couldn't tell if it was a joke or if those guys really do like smallies, but thanks that was cute. Its really interesting about the ego-dystonia and I do agree that my actual body does not coincide with how I pictured I should be. When you went for therapy for BDD did you talk about your breasts specifically? I'm really embarrassed to get help for this bc it is such an embarrassing topic. I'll feel so stupid going to a psychologist and saying "my lack of boobies is ruining my life!". how did you do it? were you embarrassed? I've tried talkign to a few people in my life about this that i trust the most, but they either don't get it or think i'm being vain or something. I don't think anyone in my life really understands how debilitating this can be for me and how much it impacts my relationships. Ugh Lightchested I relate to you so much when you said sometimes you think you're over it and then something will trigger you- that is how I am exactly! I go for awhile being fine and not caring so much ( putting a lot of effort into not caring mind you) and then boom! something will trigger me and I'm a total mess. I've found for me a trigger is usually a stupid movie like Beerfest that I'm forced to watch in a group or being around guy friends who talk about boobs or seeing a naked chick on tv with my bf. Or sometimes I will have suppressed the feeling for so long that I just erupt and lash out and go through a terrible night of hating my body. Then the next day I wake up and I'm all right again. I'm scared to get therapy bc I'm so embarrassed. I wish there was something else I could do.

God am I full of rants or what? sorry to anyone who may have become offended by my man-bashing. There are plenty of men in my life that I love, but I would be lying to say deep down inside I don't have this dislike for men boiling inside me. I've also experienced some sexual abuse in my life that may have contributed to this and im sure many of my other issues- but I can't use this as a full excuse. Men get to live with a freedom that I don't have and for that they make me so angry. But if they ever start putting male full frontal in my HBO show then maybe i'll feel justice has been served haha.
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post Aug 12 2009, 11:06 AM
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Buttercups,

OH girl. We must be soul sisters. I guess we all are on this board, though!

But here's the thing. I can speak to your BDD questions because I've been treated for it. The treatment did not eradicate my concerns about the blobular area, but it did help in some ways. I want to share with you what I learned. Because I had all the same questions as you!!!

First off, reading The Broken Mirror may give you a weird solace. It did me. There were people even worse off than me, in terms of their obsession. I know it's negative to derive solace from that, but I was so down that it was a relief to me to see there was even further to fall, and I knew I'd not fall that far. Strange solace, I know.

Anyway, here we go:

1.) I was constantly asking, "Is this BDD? Because sizes don't lie." Here was the response: if you think about The Area three or more hours per day, it IS BDD. Because you know what? There are people who are missing limbs who think about that less than three hours per day! Or at least, they don't think about it the same way we do. They aren't thinking in terms of aesthetics, but rather in terms of practicalities. (e.g. "I wish I could hold on to my baby in one arm and feed her this lovely green Gerber's gruel with the other" etc.) But we aren't thinking in terms like that, right? We're interested in our aesthetics, and the ramifications/consequences of those aesthetics. Three hours a day! I blew that away. I was easily every waking minute for about a year and a half thinking about it.

2.) But it's a "real" defect, we think, "Three hours, twenty hours, whatever, per day...the defect is real!" Please again watch this video:
Lil Diddies
I know our boobs are NOT about men or what they think of them!!! But stay with me here because I do have a point. There are many many men for whom small breasts are not only not a defect, but the PREFERRED size. This proves that small boobs, in and of themselves, are not a "defect" in objective terms. That judgment is SUBJECTIVE. You and I may consider them a defect, but it is not a "pure and simple fact" to all who wander the earth that small boobs are a defect.

I maybe should be ashamed to admit this but I'm not...I've done plenty of Internet research...enough to learn that there are many, many porn websites devoted to women with small boobs- some even specifically want flat only- because there are men who just don't like them any bigger than small! So although our boobs are about US and not about men, what this proves is that small boobs is not a "defect", or it would be so to everyone. It might be something WE DON'T WANT. (I have ALWAYS wanted big ones and always felt like I'd get them and it was just a matter of time. I'm still waiting!) But our not wanting smallies, or our finding larger ones more aesthetically pleasing to us, or our thinking we would be more confident or our life would be different, does not make our small ones a defect. It makes them something we have trouble dealing with, that's all. And that's BDD. (when it's an obsession, which by your posts, I can easily see that it is. It is for me too.)

The reason this is all so important is because I understand your concerns about "Is it really BDD when my defect is 'real'?" Yes, it's BDD, and the very fact that we think we have a defect because our breasts are small is actually proof that we are dealing with the Dysmorphia monster!

3.) I have a friend who is a shrink. (She calls herself a "psychiatrist".) She told me that I am ego-dystonic. She said it happens when someone's reality is not in line with their sense of self, either how they think they should be or how they feel that they actually are. This shrink friend always felt like she "should" be rich. But she's not. So she has constant issues with being ego-dystonic...not fitting her image of herself. And she said for me, it sounds like I'm ego-dystonic in terms of my boobs. I am not what I pictured that I'd be, or what I picture that I should be. And I can't make the reality fit my mind's image of myself because they are disjointed. She said that's why I am obsessed. My mind is trying to make the two fit together: my reality and my true self, and it's not working. She said being ego-dystonic is why I am in this hole, while other small-boobed women live happily. Unfortunately, she said the only way to fix such a situation is to bring things in line, either by changing the mind's-eye image, or by changing the reality to conform to that image. (e.g. BDD therapy/ otherwise alter our minds to deal with our reality, or surgery) I guess on some level I'd finally realized that those are the only two ways out of this, but it hurt to hear that. I want a third option! if you're like me, you keep waiting for 'something to happen' that fixes it somehow. I've even tried hypnotherapy!!!

I feel for you so because I'm right there with you. Sometimes I think I'm "over it" but then some trigger will set me off again.

I know my life would have been different if I'd had bigger ones, but I honestly feel that 99% of the reason for that would be that I'd have acted differently, made different choices, and allowed myself to live more. Knowing that doesn't free me.


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post Aug 12 2009, 10:49 AM
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QUOTE(buttercups @ Aug 12 2009, 08:31 AM) *
I'm pretty sure he could tell what I was thinking and I think that made him not so happy with himself either for making me feel that way.

NO. YOU are making yourself feel this way. HE has nothing to do with it. Take the responsibility for your own negative thoughts and don't blame him for making you feel insecure. Ultimately, no one can MAKE you insecure. Think about this quote from Eleanor Roosevelt: "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."

QUOTE(buttercups @ Aug 12 2009, 08:31 AM) *
I definitely think I've had body dysmorphic disorder for many years due to my obsessing about this problem, but the main definition is worrying about a defect that is "slight or imagined" and I'm pretty sure my defect is real.

Your problem is in considering it a defect in the first place and then obsessing about it. THAT is what makes it BDD.

QUOTE(buttercups @ Aug 12 2009, 08:31 AM) *
Whenever I've talked to a bf about this before they say "no its all in your head" but how can it be? Is it all in my head that I can't fill out a bra?? Is it all in my head that my chest never developed??

That you can't fill out a bra is genetic happenstance. That it affects you in such a crippling negative way really is "all in your head". Buttercups, you DON'T HAVE to live this way!!! And the solution is not to fix your body, it's to fix your destructive thought processes!

QUOTE(buttercups @ Aug 12 2009, 08:31 AM) *
I mean bra sizes don't lie and maybe I would have BDD if I was a nice full B cup and felt this way- but at a AA arent I a little justified to think that something is missing?

No. You are not justified to think something is missing because nothing is missing but your self-esteem. Confidence is NOT dependent on what's written on your bra tag. You must separate the two.

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Haha just got sooo off track but I guess my main point is yes I do wonder all the time how different my life would be with a decent set of breasts.

Repeat after me: "I have perfectly normal, perfectly wonderful and beautiful breasts. They have the amazing capability of providing nourishment for my future children that I can amazingly grow in my body. My body can work miracles!" BRAINWASH yourself with positive words as much as you destroy yourself with negative words.

Another thing to be insanely happy about- They are HEALTHY. I just found out a few weeks ago that one of my friends from college has VERY aggressive breast cancer and she's only a few months older than me at 24! She's already had a masectomy and can't even wait to heal from the surgery to start chemo, it's so aggressive. Trust me, when someone you know who is young and smart and kind of heart gets this disease, you love your own and are more grateful for life than ever. People many times cannot comprehend that breast cancer means DEATH in many cases. Be thankful for LIFE, buttercups. A life you're shortchanging yourself out of because of lies you spoon feed yourself!

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I know it wouldn't take away all my problems, but I would just have the luxury of not being able to worry about how feminine I look and if my small barely A's are not enough to turn my bf on - even when he insists thats not the truth.

You'll probably be able to help your bf if you gain confidence. If you didn't turn him on, what is the point of being in a relationship? I'm sure no guy looks at a woman and thinks, "Wow, I'm so turned off by her, she has no sexual appeal to me whatsoever. I think I'll try to date her." YEAH! That makes A LOT of sense. And he would feel much less pressure to perform if he didn't have to worry about satisfying you AND filling the gaping holes in your confidence that you are blaming HIM for.

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Somewhere in my sick mind I need an explanation and I don't so much as want him to say that he thinks my boobs are too small for him to get it up, but that I'm just not his type or something. I feel like maybe it's something he doesn't want to admit but that kind of confession would put things together so much better in my mind and then I could at least get angry- "you don't like small breasts? Oh yeah well F**k off!" -something like that!

If you don't stop this thinking now, this relationship and EVERY relationship in the future is DOOMED for failure because you feel so insecure and scapegoat the poor guy for your problems and think all his problems have to do with your breasts. Think about that. You are dooming yourself to a life of unhappiness and failed relationships, not because your breasts happen to be small, but because you cannot love your body and have the high level of self-esteem that successful relationships require.
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post Aug 12 2009, 09:31 AM
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That is a great point strongirl. I don't know why whenever a problem like this happens I always take it like its about me being inadequate (mainly in the chest area). Even last night I went over his house and once again he was having "performance" issues and the idea popped back into my head that I had no breasts to arouse him and that was the problem. I tried my hardest to push it out but its so hard to back down once that thought is in there. I didn't bring it up this time but I'm pretty sure he could tell what I was thinking and I think that made him not so happy with himself either for making me feel that way.

Lightchested that's exactly how I feel- like what would happen if I had boobs- I don't even mean big boobs I just mean an A cup for chrissake! I'm not greedy I'm not asking for much just a little something so I can get out of this 10 year old body. If I had nice full A's or a small B I wonder if things would be different... When I was younger and in high school I used to tell myself that if I just stopped looking at my chest and obsessing then one day I would look down and they would have grown ( so silly). So I spent years being this kind of superstitious and forcing myself to not look down at my bare chest and guess what- no change. I guess I find it strange that I could just skip over this developmental step and be perfectly healthy. I also wonder what it must be like to be just a regular girl with average breasts and not have to worry about this ever. I'm sure I would have some other worry about my body, but for some reason that seems like it would be more of a normal concern. Like maybe I wouldn't like my thighs- but at least I have thighs to not like. It's like a body part is missing. I definitely think I've had body dysmorphic disorder for many years due to my obsessing about this problem, but the main definition is worrying about a defect that is "slight or imagined" and I'm pretty sure my defect is real. Whenever I've talked to a bf about this before they say "no its all in your head" but how can it be? Is it all in my head that I can't fill out a bra?? Is it all in my head that my chest never developed?? I mean bra sizes don't lie and maybe I would have BDD if I was a nice full B cup and felt this way- but at a AA arent I a little justified to think that something is missing? Haha just got sooo off track but I guess my main point is yes I do wonder all the time how different my life would be with a decent set of breasts. I know it wouldn't take away all my problems, but I would just have the luxury of not being able to worry about how feminine I look and if my small barely A's are not enough to turn my bf on - even when he insists thats not the truth. Somewhere in my sick mind I need an explanation and I don't so much as want him to say that he thinks my boobs are too small for him to get it up, but that I'm just not his type or something. I feel like maybe it's something he doesn't want to admit but that kind of confession would put things together so much better in my mind and then I could at least get angry- "you don't like small breasts? Oh yeah well F**k off!" -something like that!
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post Aug 12 2009, 03:51 AM
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"When I reacted from that insecure place, he had no room to be down, grumpy, un-sexual or angry without triggering me to have a self-esteem crash, which felt to him like he had to suppress his problems. That wasn't fair to him."

VERY good point strongirl... We should all think very long and hard on those words of wisdom. Surely no guy would want to be emotionally intimate with you if he felt like he couldn't express himself without opening up a can of worms that really has nothing to do with his problem.
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post Aug 11 2009, 09:50 PM
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Buttercups, in the earlier years of our relationship my bf and I had fights where I reacted like that. Not so much thinking it was my tits per se but having the suspicion that he was picking a fight with me so we'd break up and he could be with someone younger, hotter, cuter, prettier, thinner, bustier...I have a whole laundry list of things that my "insecure self" thinks compare badly to other chicks. After voicing that to him a couple times, with his patience and excellent ability to communicate. he was finally able to get across to me that that viewpoint was really quite self-centered and immature on my part. After that I'd remind myself to really listen when he was upset and try to see it from his point of view and to tell myself "Everything is NOT about your looks, silly girl!" When I reacted from that insecure place, he had no room to be down, grumpy, un-sexual or angry without triggering me to have a self-esteem crash, which felt to him like he had to suppress his problems. That wasn't fair to him. Now we've gotten pretty good about letting conflicts really be what they're about.

Of course it's harder to do when you're drunk (been there, too). You'll get there. You're further along than I was at your age, by a long shot. Sending you positive energy and hoping this is just a minor bump in the road for you.

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post Aug 11 2009, 09:43 PM
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Buttercups-

I have been in your position so many times!!! Not EXACTLY your position...it wasn't always due to being in a fight because I don't generally get in any arguments, but I can't count how many times I've thought that men would not be able to resist me if I were armed with the full arsenal of woman parts.

I feel for you. I've been there so many times.\ I HATE THAT FEELING!

I don't know what to tell you because I'm still not above having that happen to me. It just happens to not be happening right now. My sister has hugees and from what she tells me, they do live a charmed life, the boobed. If they are the boobed, what are we? The unboobed? Sometimes I get so negative.

Okay, this surely isn't helping.

You and I both know he was mad. He was probably shocked that you 'turned it into' (as he'll call it) a boob thing. But I so see how you did! I would too. It's such a horrible feeling to have your womanhood rejected. And that's what it feels like, doesn't it? But surely he'll say that's NOT what he was rejecting!!!

We are sensitive. We make connections they don't make.

Still I can't help but wonder how would it be if we had big ones? Would that have gone differently? Sometimes I just don't know. I'm sure guys have the best of intentions when they tell us "it has nothing to do with that!" and they might even think they mean it, but honestly, do they really know how they'd have reacted if we had big ones?

Who knows.

But here's the good news: he loves something about you because he's with you. He probably loves a lot of things about you! He may even love THEM. It is very possible. I do see how small ones can be great.

In fact, here is a song for you:
Lil Diddies

click on it


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post Aug 10 2009, 11:12 PM
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Thanks so much ladies, ugh I was feeling so good but then again I do experience setbacks like you say edie52. I went out tonight and got a little tipsy and I'm a pretty happy drunk, but somehow me and my bf got in a fight. I stupidly tried to use my feminine wiles to win him back and have passionate hot makeup sex- but he was having no part in it. I was all dressed up and feeling pretty decent about myself, but anytime I would try to come-on to him he would just push me away, nothing worked. I know that he was mad at me and maybe I should just take this to mean that he's not a sleaze-bag who just wants to have sex, but instead I had to make it all about my body and my breasts most of all. My playful mood was soon turned after being pushed away for the 50th time and I got really angry and started yelling at him that he must not be attracted to me. Then I went on some crazy girl rant about how if I had big boobs I'm sure he'd be all over me and because I have none of that good stuff to force in his face I must be easy to reject. I demanded he bring me home and was almost in tears- it must have been a mix of the alcohol and everything but part of me really does believe that if I only had at least something more than these AA's I could get him to want me even if hes in his most pissed-off mood. He dropped me off at my house and I stormed out of the car even though he was calling me to stop and talk and so here I am now. ugh i hate how insecure i can be at times. I just wanted him to be unable to resist me I guess, even if he was mad. I just want to be like every other woman who easily has the upper hand and can properly seduce a man. I'm sure once I fully sober up I'll have a different take on this, but when I get rejected I instantly blame it on the boobs (though i should blame it on the booze like the jamie foxx song...). anyways, im gonna try to go to bed and not talk to him til tomorrow. I still want to keep it positive and I'm trying so hard not to hate my body- so no one think I gave up! I hope someday I can be as inspiring to someone as you all have been to me. And I can already say those pics of Milla are cheerin me up a little bit already. Bet she can woo any man without shoving anything in his face...
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post Aug 10 2009, 10:12 PM
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Oh, and congrats, buttercups! You're really coming into your own very quickly! Even if you do experience setbacks, you've made so much headway that you'll be able to get through it. I hope your relatives are getting the message that it's NOT OKAY to make comments like that, because they're generally hurtful to women and specifically to you.
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post Aug 10 2009, 10:08 PM
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I love Milla Jovovich's look and her confidence. She already appeared/posed nude a bunch of times. NSFW!

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post Aug 10 2009, 06:46 PM
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All the guys I know are going nuts because the GORGEOUS Milla Jovovich supposedly gets naked in The Perfect Getaway. Now, I'm not saying you should go out and see the movie, because it looks terrible, but let's add another one to the small-hotties list.
http://wallpaperbase.com/wallpapers/celebs...jovovich_10.jpg
http://chud.com/articles/content_images/5/millajovovich.jpg
http://mytakes.files.wordpress.com/2009/07...red-dress-2.jpg
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that's awesome, buttercups! It's good to see you be so positive!!

I went to the beach recently with a group of friends and all of us were A or AA cups. I kept looking around and thinking how beautiful the other girls looked in their bikinis (I'm still sticking to my one piece though lols). We definitely caught some male attention too (not that that's the point, but it was nice to be appreciated). My boyfriend kept saying how happy he was to "show me off". It was nice to see small breasts on all different body types too.

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post Aug 10 2009, 07:34 AM
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((buttercups)) super-awesome! good for you, and I hope you had lots of fun!

It could have been one of us in that bikini that you guys defended, lol (not me, sadly I was working all last week *sigh*)
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post Aug 9 2009, 09:58 PM
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Yippee, Buttercups! I can't tell you how beautiful and inspirational it is to read of your beach vacation and freshly pumped up self-esteem and small-booby appreciation! That is just truly awesome!!! I am doing the happy dance for you. That you can see those other hot girls with small breasts and appreciate them, and that you can resonate with that and appreciate your own lovely body, is just...beautiful!

It's late and I'm tired but a quick story to share that sort of connects with your beach experience and the recent comments in here re. implants. I was running on the beach and passed a couple walking hand in hand. She was very dolled up and had very large implants. And her freakin' bf was gawking at me! To the point that it was totally obvious and obnoxious and as I passed them, I saw her give him a hurt and upset look. I wanted to just smack the shit out of him. I felt like saying "Look what this girl has done to herself to keep your eyes on her and you can't even give her the courtesy of not ogling other girls on the beach. Asshole!" And at the same time I felt like geez, thank heaven I've never gone for the implants cuz if I did and then my bf was ogling a small-breasted girl looking like I used to look like, I'd just be totally demoralized and bummed out.

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post Aug 9 2009, 02:52 PM
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Hey ladies, I just got back from the beach and I have a couple stories. I went in prepared for the worst and I guess that was the way to go because it went pretty damn well. We first got to our rented house and there was a scale in the bathroom. I havent weighed myself in ages and I've been running a lot lately so I thought what the hell and jumped on the scale. It read 95 lbs. At first I was pretty shocked bc who the hell weighs 95 lbs at 25?? It seemed kind of disturbing. But then I thought to myself "well how big do you expect my boobs to be at 95 lbs?!" and I sort of dropped the usual blame on myself that I carry for having such tiny AA cups. I mean if i'm smaller than everyone else at the beach they cant expect my boobs to be as big as theirs right? I felt a little better about myself.

Then I put on my padded VS bikini and hit the beach. You girls would be happy to hear what I saw there- there were more hot small-boobed chicks than I've ever seen before! There were more sexy women with A cups or smaller walking around than even more average C or B cups! They made me want to tear out my padding and flaunt these AAs with pride. There was even one instance where there was a girl whose breasts were at least as teeny as mine and she was wearing this gorgeous bandeau halter bikini- and she looked goooood! We were all sitting on the beach and I commented that I liked her bathing suit. My mom and sister were like "no, it only draws attention to the fact that shes flat" and with everyone and my bf right there I said , " well i think she looks hot and having small breasts is NOT a flaw!"- everyone shut up then : )

I did not feel inadequate most of the time. I felt cute and I'm lovin my new fitter body -even if my chest is small. I still wore padding around my family all week, but I didnt let everyones big boobs rattle my confidence. Im a tiny girl, i got tiny breasts, what more do people want or expect from me? I guess seeing my weight was kind of like a reality check that I desperately needed. But I did see girls of all shapes and sizes rockin small boobs of A cups or less- and they all looked freakin hot as hell! I thought about all of you when I saw them, it was great! love to all <3
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post Aug 9 2009, 12:27 PM
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QUOTE(Persephone3 @ Aug 7 2009, 08:34 PM) *
I also hear a lot of men asign a lot of really negative characteristics to women with breast implants (i.e. shallow and insecure). It's almost as if you are exchanging one problem with another. Then again, there are so many men who complain abouth the problems of women with large breasts (i.e. sagging and strectch marks).


Persephone, I think you need some new male friends! lol When guys I'm with start up that kind of conversation, I either ask them how they think we feel about their penis shape/size, or if they're not worth trying to rehabilitate, I just leave.

But anyways... some women get implants, it's their choice, but I think it's sad as a social phenomenon in general becuase it shows that people are so strongly affected by a single physical aspect of themselves that they are willing to have expensive and often deforming surgeries performed just to feel like they look better. Even without scarring and hardening problems, a lot of women look like they've have large tennis balls implanted under their nipples. I mean, as soon as the clothes are off, it's not usually a pretty sight, unless they had moderately sized-boobs to begin with and only asked for a moderate size increase. I don't judge the women who get this done, they either have some emotional problems or maybe they are just shallow, but whose fault is it that so many women feel like getting implants will make them happier? I feel lucky that I found the strength not to want to do this to myself, but when I was 15 I had already planned to get implants by the time I was 22, if they didn't grow before then. I don't know what changed and why, maybe I just saw enough of how bad implants really look as well as gaining a lot of self-esteem, but thankfully I changed my mind by the time I had the money.
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post Aug 8 2009, 12:41 AM
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I found this gem of a quote here while searching the net:



"PHENOMENAL COSMIC POWERS!!!!

...itty bitty living space!"



HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH!!!!!!!! LOVE IT. ROTFLMAO. Seriously, this is my new mantra. Oh how I love Aladdin.. For buttercups or anyone having a bad boobie day, please think of Genie and repeat the above quote. I swear it will make you feel better. I don't think I've ever found anything that can lighten a dark boobie mood than this quote I just found. OMG. Small titty high two to that person!
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post Aug 7 2009, 10:18 PM
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QUOTE(Persephone3 @ Aug 7 2009, 08:51 PM) *
Oh! and by the way (I just can't stop posting!). I was at Lord and Taylor the other day and I found a whole rack of AA bras. The most impressive thing about them was that they had a bit of push-up without being too padded. And they were SOO pretty!!


Yay! Victory for smallies! It makes me so happy to hear you found a whole rack of non-super padded bras. Aaaaah, I'm in bliss at the thought..... Two thumbs up Lord and Taylor.
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