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auralpoison
post Sep 9 2010, 01:10 AM
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Hey! Just A Guy, don't forget to stop by the Newbies thread to introduce yourself!

Dancingqueen, hold my jacket & earrings because I am about to bust out the razor blades & Vaseline on your ex's ass. I won't kill 'im, but I sure will mess 'im up some! What a shitty little insecure punk!



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starship
post Sep 8 2010, 02:05 PM
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Guy's right, they only say things like that because they know it will play on our insecurities and 'hit us where it hurts'. It's common in heated arguments to say something that you know will get to that person, even if you don't necessarily mean it.

Anyway, I was on another website (looking for some sexy lingerie) and noticed a post on their forum about small breasts which I liked & wanted to share with you ladies. Hope the man who posted it wouldn't mind me pasting it here unsure.gif :

"There are theories that small boobs are attractive because they look younger and hence more fertile. Don't argue with science!

Anyway, For small boobs. Some of my opinions below which don't mean I don't like big boobs!

I love how smaller boobs hold their 'shape' and look more rounded.

I love how smaller boobs look perter without support.

I love how smaller boobs (that I've seen) tend to have defined nipples.

I love how smaller boobs just fit in your hand easily. (Isn't it annoying when you want all of something and can't?)

I love how smaller boobs stay perter for longer!

I love how smaller boobs 'mould' to the chest.

I love how smaller boobs 'hang' 'pointy' when in doggy.

I love how smaller boobs make a body look petite and ladylike

etc... There are many many reasons why I prefer smaller boobs! I just find them so feminine.

Pay attention to the advice of people here, especially those who have felt the same. [member1] and [member2] have both felt the same and realised that that those lovely smaller boobs still leave us men as drooling idiots and its what you do with them that counts. Corsets and other lingerie on smaller boobed ladies drive me bloody wild!

Sex is in the head but not just your head, confidence spreads and says to your partner I feel good and because of that so will you! Imperfections (which smaller boobs are NOT!) don't matter if you get over them, getting over them says "I'm uninhibited and ready for a good time and some fun!" and that is very sexy.

We have preferences but I also believe that the more you love someone the more your preferences change to fit the person you love so if your OH loves you, you need not worry. I love [member2] to the core and when I think of any random part she has, it either was or has become the most attractive specimen of its kind! Loving her means any part of her represents much more than a desirable fat deposit in the right place! I'm sure your OH feels the same.

Now I will not repeat much more what these sexy and intelligent ladies have said. I just thought another male who loves small boobs might help a little!"
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lux
post Sep 8 2010, 01:29 AM
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I'm sorry to hear that, DQ. Hope you're feeling a bit better now. I've had a partner say similar things to me in the past. And it hurts so much (kind of still does after 4 years). Even when you know it is not true. I'm glad to read the response here, it reminds me that she was only saying it to hurt me and my size (or anything about me, for that matter) had nothing to do with what happened.

Try not to take it in you, and try to let go of the hurtful comments, DQ. They are not about you. (and listen to the busties smile.gif )
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just_a_guy
post Sep 7 2010, 11:25 PM
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Seriously? What a jack-ass.

I'm know that it might offer little comfort, DQ, but I hope you realize that usually someone only lashes out so cruelly at a known insecurity in utter desperation. It was the only weapon left in his arsenal to try and take control back of a situation where you had the upper hand.

He said it, not because it accurately reflects you, nor because it reflects his true feelings, but because he knew that it would hurt the way that only someone close to you can. The only thing a statement like that can accurately reflect is the weakness of character in the one who spoke it.

If he really held you in such low esteem, he wouldn't care about hurting you. The very fact that he felt he needed to do so betrays his true feelings as well as his own insecurities.


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discowombat
post Sep 7 2010, 08:59 PM
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Dancingqueen,
I'm sorry he hurt you. It makes me want to go open a can of whoopass quite honestly.
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dancingqueen
post Sep 7 2010, 08:31 PM
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Thanks for your great post buttercups! It was really helpful. I can't figure out how to handle it either. I told one guy that when he is forty and having to go to strip clubs I'll still have perky tits and a great sex life.

The BF and I broke up Saturday. He got physical with me and told me to "take my tiny tits and fuck someone else". wow. All I have managed to do with those who say hurtful things about our "tiny tits" is to distance myself from them because a true friend would not say those things.

QUOTE(buttercups @ Sep 4 2010, 09:33 AM) *
Hey dancingqueen, I know exactly how you feel and so do so many of the other great ladies in here. It is a total roller coaster and just when you start to feel ok with yourself it seems like someone is there to make a rude comment about your body. I'll tell you I've heard every flat-chested comment imaginable from assholes all over and haven't quite figured out the best way to handle that yet. It does send you right back down and I have no idea why some people feel its ok to comment about another person's body like that! I would never go up to some girl and be like "wow your ass is big!" so why do others come up to me and say "wow you have no boobs!" The problem is too that we remember the negative comments over all of the positive ones. I'm sure so many people in your life (your boy included of course) have told you how absolutely beautiful you are, but all it takes is one asshole pointing out your small chest to make you forget that. I'm not the best one to give advice on here, because as you may have noticed I'm still struggling myself, but I am here for commiseration and I can tell you that after talking to the ladies in here you will start to feel better about yourself. Of course you are going to have moments where you feel so down, and I wish that there was some way to take that away, but you will definitely have days where you feel really good and don't care what the world thinks- and that is what we can help each other feel like.

Keep us posted about your engagement, you're going to make a beautiful bride!! Tyra Banks even did a show recently about wedding dresses for smaller chested ladies, so I'll try to find out if there is a link to that somewhere. Hope you're feeling better today!

<3 buttercups

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discowombat
post Sep 6 2010, 09:42 PM
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I think I killed the conversation, lol.
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discowombat
post Sep 5 2010, 12:15 AM
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Hey Guy,

I'm glad to hear the bras sound like a quality product. I realize part of the cost is due to the small demographic that require those sizes, but they better hold up for that price! The petite band size won't be an issue. I can't even find my proper size in any brick and mortar stores so even finding a site that carries them it exciting to me.
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just_a_guy
post Sep 4 2010, 11:53 PM
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QUOTE(discowombat @ Sep 4 2010, 09:12 PM) *
Does anyone in here have experience with items from the Little Bra Company ( http://www.thelittlebracompany.com/ ) ? They are a bit on the expensive side but I'm considering it anyways since I want something that will look nice with my wedding dress and can double as honeymoon lingerie. At this point it's either buy something expensive, use a plain ill fitting bra I already own, or frankenstein something together out of a cheap bra & foam bra fillers. If anyone has tried the Lucia style in particular please let me know if you have any sizing tips that would be useful (cups run big/small, etc). Thank you all in advance!


Hey,

I actually have some experience dealing with the little bra company as a vendor from a few years ago (2008 or so). The idea behind it, if I recall correctly was to build attractive bras based on cuts the owner found coming out of Asia, which fit well but weren't terribly attractive design-wise. The cups are closer together and the padding is positioned a little not further to the side, which is intended to address a lot of the issues smaller women have with mainstream bras that come in smaller cup sizes, but aren't cut differently.

The handful of female friends and family that I had give them a shot found them to be a better fit than what they were used to. They are on the pricey side since they are a small boutique manufacturer, and if you have a large rib cage I'm not sure how that would affect the fit, but otherwise I feel pretty confident recommending.

Hope that helps smile.gif


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discowombat
post Sep 4 2010, 11:12 PM
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Does anyone in here have experience with items from the Little Bra Company ( http://www.thelittlebracompany.com/ ) ? They are a bit on the expensive side but I'm considering it anyways since I want something that will look nice with my wedding dress and can double as honeymoon lingerie. At this point it's either buy something expensive, use a plain ill fitting bra I already own, or frankenstein something together out of a cheap bra & foam bra fillers. If anyone has tried the Lucia style in particular please let me know if you have any sizing tips that would be useful (cups run big/small, etc). Thank you all in advance!
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buttercups
post Sep 4 2010, 09:33 AM
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Hey dancingqueen, I know exactly how you feel and so do so many of the other great ladies in here. It is a total roller coaster and just when you start to feel ok with yourself it seems like someone is there to make a rude comment about your body. I'll tell you I've heard every flat-chested comment imaginable from assholes all over and haven't quite figured out the best way to handle that yet. It does send you right back down and I have no idea why some people feel its ok to comment about another person's body like that! I would never go up to some girl and be like "wow your ass is big!" so why do others come up to me and say "wow you have no boobs!" The problem is too that we remember the negative comments over all of the positive ones. I'm sure so many people in your life (your boy included of course) have told you how absolutely beautiful you are, but all it takes is one asshole pointing out your small chest to make you forget that. I'm not the best one to give advice on here, because as you may have noticed I'm still struggling myself, but I am here for commiseration and I can tell you that after talking to the ladies in here you will start to feel better about yourself. Of course you are going to have moments where you feel so down, and I wish that there was some way to take that away, but you will definitely have days where you feel really good and don't care what the world thinks- and that is what we can help each other feel like.

Keep us posted about your engagement, you're going to make a beautiful bride!! Tyra Banks even did a show recently about wedding dresses for smaller chested ladies, so I'll try to find out if there is a link to that somewhere. Hope you're feeling better today!

<3 buttercups



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dancingqueen
post Sep 3 2010, 09:42 PM
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Hi! I'm new, and yes I did introduce myself in the newbies thread wink.gif

I'm 22 and have A cups. Same since I have been 12....yay. I see teenagers who are bigger than me and hate it. A cup bras do not work well and look awkward and leave a huge gap to the point where I cannot bend over in a low cut shirt. I've considered breast implants since I was 14 just to get over this shit.

Any advice/support out there? I'm about to be engaged (keep them crossed ladies!!!) and he loves me for EXACTLY who I am. Great right? Kinda sucks when I don't love myself. It has been a roller coaster of love/hate for these little ones. And every time I start to feel secure about it, some asshole makes a comment and there I go, back to ground zero. Oh, and btw, since when did people get the right to say comments/remarks about my body????

I'm really excited for this group. I think it will be really supportive. THANKS!!
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just_a_guy
post Sep 3 2010, 02:43 PM
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Sorry if I disrespected etiquette by not introducing myself in the newbies thread, or if anyone took offense to my post.

I was being sincere, and don't believe I posted anything troll-like.

Yes, that is my real picture smile.gif

I posted because I thought I could add something positive to the discussion. If any individuals feel like I failed to do so, then I apologize for wasting their time. On the other hand, if anyone has a gripe strictly because I happen to be male and still wanted to offer my support on this issue, then I suppose all I can say is that we must subscribe to different brands of feminism.


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karategrrl
post Sep 3 2010, 11:12 AM
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Well said, Persiflager. just_a_guy, I can speak for myself in that I did find your comments more valuable than, well, just about any other male's comments have been in here. And I especially liked your visual of your penis flagging about for all to see, and to judge its size. smile.gif But yeah, I've learned (through, I admit, some awkward online moments of my own) that it's always best to say hi first and figuratively dip a toe in the water before jumping in.

And the fact that you used what looks like a real picture of yourself also scores a few points, at least with me. But if that's not really you, then I take that back.
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Persiflager
post Sep 3 2010, 05:58 AM
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Dude...

Let's start fresh. Please pop into the newbies thread and introduce yourself. I'd suggest something like:

"Hi! I'm just a guy [insert generic greeting, personal information etc]. I found this forum because a friend forwarded the NY Times article to me, and knows how much I appreciate small-boobed ladies. Would it be creepy or inappropriate if I posted in the small breast support thread? I understand this may be a girls-only safe space and that you might feel uncomfortable if I burst in randomly talking about your breasts. If so, cool, whatevs - I'll just say "Yay for small boobies!" and be on my merry way."

I say this out of love, and a belief that your post below was non-trolly and well-intentioned.

Peace out.

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buttercups
post Sep 3 2010, 04:28 AM
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Wow don't know how I feel about that article, I kinda like this group being our own special place to vent and share experiences with other women who understand. Hope other people who visit this place because of the article can respect that...
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just_a_guy
post Sep 2 2010, 02:54 PM
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Speaking as a man in his late 20s, I much prefer small to large breasts. Always have.

I've been trying to talk female acquaintances out of getting implants since I was 14 (I've only failed once) and, while I used to joke that I ran "a non-profit organization dedicated to preventing the extinction of the small-breasted American female" (and that we pursued our mission through offerings of small breast appreciation seminars and one-on-one hands on workshops) the truth is that I honestly care.

Running a small lingerie etailer a few years back, I was constantly trying to find attractive products that would fit the women I dated. It was certainly not easy.

I think that nearly everyone has body image issues but the fact of the matter is that we live in a culture surrounded by messages that the only value we (and especially women) have is as a sexual object while simultaneously being told that nudity is pornographic, and that sex is dirty. That said, I think women have a really hard time given the prominence (pardon the pun) of your secondary sexual characteristics.

I can only imagine what it would be like to walk around with my penis ostensibly on display in a world surrounded by advertisements that would have you believe anything under ten inches is inadequate. I saw my sister go through it in adolescence, opting to joke about being a member of the IBTC rather than display her feelings of inadequacy, and I've watched those feelings follow her into adulthood. Even during her first pregnancy I cannot enumerate the times she talked about how she looked forward to filling out a bra.

All of this said, I think that it's important to know that there are potential partners out there who will VALUE our assets, not settle for them, as we try to do the same.

If I hear about any support groups in the Los Angeles area, you can bet I'll be there. Partly because I'm currently single, but mostly because I care tongue.gif

FYI - I found this forum because a friend forwarded the NY Times article to me. She knows me too well smile.gif


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lux
post Sep 2 2010, 02:30 PM
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They mentioned, and quote, this thread in NY Times yesterday. I didn't know my tits are actually newsworthy smile.gif

"For the A-Cup Crowd, Minimal Assets Are a Plus"
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koffeewitch
post Aug 30 2010, 11:02 AM
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Ladies, show your tatas some love...here's a great tutorial for making your own bras. I think these look great; the pattern is slightly padded for comfort and made for the small-medium sized gal. Because of the material, the bra could even be worn like a summer top for the more daring amoung you.
http://www.craftster.org/forum/index.php?topic=355718.0


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strongirl
post Aug 25 2010, 08:16 PM
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nbdx, you have my respect and admiration for having a really healthy and strong perspective in spite of getting some pretty f'd up parenting along the way. Living well is the best revenge.

Maybe you should share this article with your dad. I read this total eye-roller of a "news" bit today about Heidi Montag, who is now regretting her size G implants, which are "crushing" her and caused the end of her marriage. When she says it's "heartbreaking" I have to think "No, rape in the Congo is heartbreaking. Childhood leukemia is heartbreaking. Your size G implants ending your marriage to a total jerk are sad, yes, pathetic, yes, a serious error in judgment, yes. Heartbreaking, uh no."

http://www.allvoices.com/s/event-6602631/a...jkzNjcxLmh0bWw=

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