[strongirl]

What a beautiful reply you wrote to Spot-on, Buttercups. We should all strive to be and have the kind of friend you are, to offer support with the perfect balance that you just demonstrated.

[buttercups]

I agree with Strongirl, you have been like a role model to me! Your positivity has always helped me to keep going on my bad days. I understand completely why you feel the need to have surgery, and of course it is not my decision, my life, nor my business to tell you what to do, but I just want you to know that you are an inspiration to me, and not just to me but to lots of other women like us. I don't want to tell you not to get implants if you really feel it will improve your life- I go back and forth on this all the time, and of course you're entitled to your bad days too, but I have to admit that a part of me would be saddened if you did decide to change yourself. You are a beautiful person and 100% natural and you've worked so hard to have the body that you have. It is your body and you can do what you want with it, and as a fellow smallie I will also support you in whatever you chose, but just know that I am rooting for you to remain just as you are, because that is absolutely perfect.

[strongirl]

Hi Spot-on,

Here's a suggestion: go back and re-read all your awesome, positive posts from the past 6 months or so. You helped a lot of other people when you posted them...now maybe your past self can give your present self a gift!

Hugs to you!

[spot-on]

Yep I need more yoga for sure.

Not completely got surgery out of my brain but at least my man and I talked about it which helps a lot. He's supporting me in whatever decision *I* make either way. I just feel like this has been such a recurrent issue in my life that I am nearly 40 and wonder if I can continue another 30+ years feeling like this with the flip flops of emotions. Would having bigger boobs improve my quality of life? Probably yes because my self confidence would improve. However part of me feels a hypocrite for endorsing a health & Fitness lifestyle when I'd have implants/surgery - but then as a friend said "you're an expert at making bodies smaller, not bigger - there is no natural way to make boobs bigger but there are natural ways to make bodies smaller and that's your job". The point for me is I know I have a good general body due to my job (good weight for height and 'athletic' on the body fat-muscle ratio) and it doesn't look proportionate right now cos of the lack of fullness in my boobs and that lowers my confidence.

So yeah I don't know... I am still on the fence about it all as you can see from reading my post it's all jumbled in my head. I don't know if this is just one of those down periods of my life or a turning point. Either way I have a supportive husband who is supportive in my decision and that helps a TON!

thoughts?

[karategrrl]

Hey Fellow Smallies!
Well I feel a little better since my last post, but not completely out the woods yet regarding my breast size issues. I hate feeling like this. The problem for me has been that since I workout a lot (my job and training for 1/2 marathon) and have lost 30lbs in 2009 my boob fullness has gone. Not been helped by the fact that teenagers are doing summer camps at the park I run at and 98% have bigger boobs than me and they are like 15 years old!!!

I talked to my man about it all on Monday and he's made me feel a bit better about it (he's against surgery and loves me the way I am), I am called his "hot wife" at work so I kinda feel like some of this is all in my own head, but the idea of surgery hasn't left my mind completely... yet... Swings and roundabouts on the emotion train! I will say that yoga is helping me a lot, I've been practicing a few times a week and as one of my Yogi's says "if you think positive and turn all negatives into positives, eventually negativity will no longer be able to penetrate your aura" I need to do more yoga and positive thinking practice!

Yep Vanessa Paradis was big in the 80's too, she had a hit song in the UK with a French song "joe le taxi" it was huge at the time and all the school boys fancied her like crazy!

spot-on, amen to ALL you said!!!! Yes, the yoga is a BIG help for me too. Thank you for the positive reminder about the negatives/positives. I'm not a pro at it yet, but thinking positively and looking for positives rather than griping about negatives REALLY helps.

[spot-on]

Hey Fellow Smallies!
Well I feel a little better since my last post, but not completely out the woods yet regarding my breast size issues. I hate feeling like this. The problem for me has been that since I workout a lot (my job and training for 1/2 marathon) and have lost 30lbs in 2009 my boob fullness has gone. Not been helped by the fact that teenagers are doing summer camps at the park I run at and 98% have bigger boobs than me and they are like 15 years old!!!

I talked to my man about it all on Monday and he's made me feel a bit better about it (he's against surgery and loves me the way I am), I am called his "hot wife" at work so I kinda feel like some of this is all in my own head, but the idea of surgery hasn't left my mind completely... yet... Swings and roundabouts on the emotion train! I will say that yoga is helping me a lot, I've been practicing a few times a week and as one of my Yogi's says "if you think positive and turn all negatives into positives, eventually negativity will no longer be able to penetrate your aura" I need to do more yoga and positive thinking practice!

Yep Vanessa Paradis was big in the 80's too, she had a hit song in the UK with a French song "joe le taxi" it was huge at the time and all the school boys fancied her like crazy!

[karategrrl]

I googled to see if there was a medical writeup about it and couldn't find much, but did come across an article on boob augmentation that mentioned the risk of losing nipple sensation entirely. Yikes.

I don't think larger (natural) breasts necessarily means less sensitivity, but it has been well-documented that partial or total loss of nipple sensitivity is a common side effect of augmentation. On an anecdotal note, a former acquaintance's wife had got implants. He swore she no longer had the sensitivity she once did. I would never want to risk losing that!

I think Paradis looks amazing, especially for having had two kids! I don't care for that bandeau, though--not flattering at all, in my opinion.

[anarch]

Love Paradis's bandeau.

Can't remember if it's come up in here before (probably), but I read somewhere, and bfs have mentioned, that small breasts often seem to be particularly sensitive especially the nipples. My sweetie's been going to town on mine in the past couple of weeks so, damn, I'm glad I've got the boobs I do.

I googled to see if there was a medical writeup about it and couldn't find much, but did come across an article on boob augmentation that mentioned the risk of losing nipple sensation entirely. Yikes.

Stereotypes of what's "normal" and "desirable" can fuck us up badly if we focus on them and not what real, caring, loving, respectful people find normal and desirable, is what I'm thinking.

[discowombat]

May I point out that Johnny Depp could have his pick of pretty much any big-boobed woman in the world he wants?
May I point out that if your boyfriends would rather be with a big-boobed girl than you, they would be?

That is the most useful thing I've heard in awhile. Good points and thank you!

[strongirl]

Smokin' hot photos of Johnny Depp (I love him!) and Vanessa Paradis. They sell her short tho - she more than "plays the guitar", she's a very successful pop singer and musician in Europe. And yeah, they're both gorgeous and talented. And she's got very lovely very small breasts.

May I point out that Johnny Depp could have his pick of pretty much any big-boobed woman in the world he wants?

May I point out that if your boyfriends would rather be with a big-boobed girl than you, they would be?

[starship]

I don't know if she's been mentioned here before but omg I dunno how Johnny Depp's partner slipped under my radar for so long...

Look

Sorry if this is old news to you guys but I had to head straight over here after making this discovery lol. Her body and colouring reminds me a bit of myself

[karategrrl]

I feel terrible that I even brought it up.

Oh, don't be. We've all been there. It's reassuring not to feel so alone.

We're not disappointing others because we have small breasts. We're disappointing others because we fail to see our bodies like those who love us. We're missing out on our true potential. That's something that can't be measured in a cup size.

OMG, well said!!!

[nbdx0645]

Everybody sounds so down on themselves. (Hug)

It's hard not to compare ourselves to other women, but we really ought to stop it. You're rarely going to win a comparison against someone else. If you do feel that you 'win' the comparison, you start to feel shallow and vain. You might even see a woman who is your size, and you might become unhappy with her appearance, because you're projecting yourself on to her. You might pity her because you pity yourself. This is why comparison is bad. Comparison should be avoided.

Teens also run from AAA to K, so it would be good to keep that in mind too. I feel terrible that I even brought it up. Some girls might be delighted that you feel really down on yourself; others might get really depressed knowing that they're making other women feel inadequate and ashamed. For me, I don't really feel 'outbreasted.' I don't feel like they are competing with me. They are young girls who have different needs and interests. It's just...I want to know what it feels like to have a heaviness in my chest. I wonder if I would have had a better youth if I didn't get teased about my breasts.

It's really hard for me to come to terms with "this is all you get." I'm working really hard to accept that. Getting over the sadness is a life-long exercise regimen -- some days it's easy; you feel good and you're happy. Other days, it's a bitch to drag yourself out of bed and train. You feel so much resistance from the media, or from friends and family, or yourself...but you have to lift that weight off yourself and refocus those feelings. Think about why you might feel this way. Think about who is telling you to feel this way. Remind yourself that you want to get away from these feelings. Think about all the things people have complimented you on. Think about those who will go to war for your small breasts!

We're not disappointing others because we have small breasts. We're disappointing others because we fail to see our bodies like those who love us. We're missing out on our true potential. That's something that can't be measured in a cup size.

[starship]

I just spent the weekend with two of my best friends from out of town who have huge boobs and flaunt them more often then not. One of them is especially fit with huge ones that cannot go unnoticed. I secretly don't want them to meet my boyfriend. I know they will meet one day and I just dread that day. Has anybody else ever felt this? Part of it is jealousy, and a lot of it is feeling inadequate, like he will totally notice their chests and it just serves as a reminder of how small mine are.

definitely. I don't even have a boyfriend right now but I still worry about the thought of introducing him to my family when i do get one- crazy. My cousins are literally gorgeous. And they actually have nice personalities too. I doubt (hope) that anything would actually happen between a guy I'd date and a relative of mine, but it still really upsets me to know(trust me, i know) that he'd be gawping at and probably lusting after them.
Its not just that they have big boobs btw. They all have amazing hair, pretty faces, perfect teeth etc etc too. sucks to be the 'flawed' one in virtually every department.

[karategrrl]

OMG, I just found this on the internet. Very interesting points:

-Cosmetic surgery rarely provides mental relief from perceived body flaws.
-Some physicians actually refuse to perform procedures rather than take the money and run. Good for them.

http://www.lifespan.org/news/2010/08/11/do...rphic-disorder/

[karategrrl]

Miscellaneous thaoughts:

-I forgot who posted about the movie "The Runaways." Saw it last night and it was awesome. Small tits and all!

-Another movie I saw recently: the documentary Good Hair." Okay, it's about African-American hair, not breasts, but I really learned a lot! African-American women go through serious dilemmas in regard to their hair because straighter, relaxed hair is regarded as "better" in our society. They go to all sorts of crazy efforts and EXPENSE to get it, and all along the way, other people (natural hair "weave" suppliers, hair product manufacturers, salon owners, etc.) are getting rich for the women trying to "fix" this "problem." (Like breast implants? Hmm?)

Women want to men to like their hair, want to feel they can be competitive in the workplace, etc.--and feel they can't compete unless they have "good hair" which, of course, is NOT the hair they were born with. There are so many parallels in this movie to the breast size/implant issue. I highly recommend this film. I came away wanting to run up to every woman with a weave and liberate her and encourage her to embrace her god-given, natural, beautiful hair. I remember the '70s, and people walking around with natural Afros. I haven't seen an Afro in decades! WTF!! Afros are natural, as are small breasts. Nowadays people get weaves (other people's hair woven onto your head--it's really freakish to see) and water bags implanted under their chests to look "good." And this is progress? WTF is wrong with all of us? Okay, enough on that topic!

-Limousine, we've all benefited from your post. Thanks for de-lurking! It really opened my eyes to what goes on inside when you have BDD. I really like your positive affirmations--it's very good for everyone to think good thoughts, whether they have BDD or not.

-Yes, it is infuriating and frustrating beyond belief to see TEENS with big tits. I admit it drives me nuts, especially when you see a bit of pretty bra peeking out--the type which I either can't find in my size or I feel looks dumb on me anyway.

-I also feel insecure when it comes to my man meeting my great-looking or well-endowed friends, especially since his staring his been an issue with us--not just with women with big breasts but just in general. He has that staring affliction that affects so many men ( I call it MSS--Male Staring Syndrome) though I must say he's improved, at least in my presence.

Funny story on the above, though--I recently made a friend who's a total cutie and who has good-sized breasts. A bunch of us went out to see a band this weekend. This friend was there. Before the set, she told me she had a thing for the lead singer. She proceeded to dance around in front of the stage all night. Of course, I was concerned about my hubby being a little too interested in her bouncing tits, but I decided not to let it ruin my evening. The next day he commented and I realized that he'd noticed, but not in the way I thought he might: He said it was totally obvious the way she was trying to get the singer's attention (I had not told him this so he totally picked up on it himself) and he noticed because she was like, (his words): "Tits! Tits! Look at my tits!!" Bwahahahaha!

-One final thought: Ladies, don't assume that men ONLY stare at large breasts. On more than one occasion in my life, I've caught men staring at my chest, especially while I was in a sports top. Seems that many men like nipples/breasts in general, independent of size. One of these times the guy staring was my friend's fiance. She has larger breasts than I, and was right there when he was doing it. Another time, a guy in the gym I barely knew commented on how great I looked when I was working out my chest. I mumbled something about how "Well, when you don't have big boobs, you have to do other things" and he looked at me like I was nuts and said, "I wouldn't change a thing!"

The rare times it's happened, I've been like "Whaaa??" but it is interesting.

[buttercups]

I just spent the weekend with two of my best friends from out of town who have huge boobs and flaunt them more often then not. One of them is especially fit with huge ones that cannot go unnoticed. I secretly don't want them to meet my boyfriend. I know they will meet one day and I just dread that day. Has anybody else ever felt this? Part of it is jealousy, and a lot of it is feeling inadequate, like he will totally notice their chests and it just serves as a reminder of how small mine are.

Yes I've definitely felt like this- story of my life! My bf's friends' gfs all have really big boobs and I'm terrified that it emphasizes my inadequacies even more. Every time we hang out with them it makes me feel insecure and like he is thinking that he would rather be with someone like that. Or I wonder if when I'm not around the topic ever comes up with his friends and he's the one who's stuck with the really small boobed girl. Though I can't even watch TV/ movies with him without feeling this way a lot of the time. Anytime a topless woman is shown in a movie we're watching together- which let's face it is all the time- I always think he's thinking -" what happened to her" when he sees a normal-sized chest. It definitely hurts and causes problems in our relationship. I convince myself that there is no way he could be attracted to someone like me over a girl with breasts that are at least an A cup. And if you go by that standard then I feel that he is more attracted to every other woman besides me, because just about every woman has reached at least an A it seems. *sigh *

And yes I hate getting outbreasted by teenagers. Since I started wearing padded bras though at least I'm the only one who really notices it now. I used to be so embarrassed if people saw me next to a 13 year old who had bigger boobs than me when I was in my twenties!

[limousine]

Definitely, being outboobed by teenagers is upsetting. It just gets that script running in my mind about being 25 and a 15 year old having a more womanly body then me.

I just spent the weekend with two of my best friends from out of town who have huge boobs and flaunt them more often then not. One of them is especially fit with huge ones that cannot go unnoticed. I secretly don't want them to meet my boyfriend. I know they will meet one day and I just dread that day. Has anybody else ever felt this? Part of it is jealousy, and a lot of it is feeling inadequate, like he will totally notice their chests and it just serves as a reminder of how small mine are.

[starship]

I think is a huge factor for me. Sick and tired of being outbreasted by teenagers when I am nearly 40 for heavens sake!!!

don't even get me started on this! I just had a family holiday with two of my cousins. One is older and never shuts up about her big boobs but the other is 14 and seriously has a perfect body already. Every Single part of her is flawless, it's insane. Including her boobs obviously, which is the worst part for me. She already looks older than me (as someone pointed out). We both bought the same bikini, which was on offer somewhere, but there's no way I would ever wear it within 100meters of her, it would be so embarassing.
Why couldn't I be born into a family of normal looking women with average(not even small!) boobs. It just exacerbates my problems and makes me feel like crap. the runt of the litter.

loved reading your post limousine. part of it for me is definitely wanting the ability to make a man's draw drop like you said. I want that unique sexual power that comes with breasts.

[buttercups]

awww spot-on i havent seen you feel this way since you started posting i dont think. im sorry that these feelings have hit you all of a sudden - is there something else going on in your life that you are taking out on your breasts? I find that whenever im really stressed out i tend to get worse and worse about my chest and feel even more horrible about it. could it be something like that? in any event, sending small boobie strength your way and hope you are feeling better today. : (