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Aithinne
post Dec 22 2009, 01:40 PM
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Oh I hear ya about the jnr highers etc. I find myself looking at other women and thinking "why can't I have XYZ like her?" etc etc.


I think I've gotten over the boobies for the time being, now my 'XYZ' is my face... on bad days I'm moping and thinking, why can't I have a '24-year old sexy face' instead of '12-year old cute face'? Blah... I got my hair cut the other day with a new stylist, and the man called me cute twice and thought I was in high school. I of course said thank you, but inside I was cringing and I left with a confusing mixture of feeling confident because my hair looked great, and insecure, because I still can't graduate to the level of an adult female. Gah.. so frustrating.
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Aithinne
post Dec 22 2009, 01:34 PM
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Yes, happy holidays to everyone, no matter how or if you celebrate them. And a happy early New Year. I don't know if I'll be on between Christmas and New Year's... so have someone kiss those boobies for New Year's!!
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post Dec 22 2009, 07:57 AM
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Thanks for the holiday wishes, Karategrrl and Spot-on - adding mine in hopes that all of you will have a fun and enjoyable holiday season and that the new year brings you and your hot little titties boatloads of love, appreciation, sexual pleasure, and excellent health.
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post Dec 21 2009, 01:23 PM
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Oh I hear ya about the jnr highers etc. I find myself looking at other women and thinking "why can't I have XYZ like her?" etc etc. But that's when I usually feel worse about myself. Rather than thinking that, I now tend to think "good for her rock your body and be confident in the body you have whatever it's shape". I've been feeling quite a bit happier with my boobies lately smile.gif I've been going braless a lot around the house, and even to the mailbox (after checking the coast was clear, lol). I went through a funk and am coming out of it stronger than ever.

As for something in water there may be an element of truth in that, due to the hormones that are in the majority of our foods these days!

Happy holidays everyone!

QUOTE(KeraBear @ Dec 14 2009, 09:05 AM) *
For the most part, i feel like i've been able to keep up a positive self image, mostly since coming here. But every now and then I feel ... BLAH. Yea there is bra shopping, but it is mostly when i am at a beach and hanging around annoying junior highers who are rocking the breasts and hips and everything else and seem further in puberty than i am. Junior highers! Is it something in the water? It feels like a cosmic joke sometimes! unsure.gif Oh well...

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karategrrl
post Dec 21 2009, 07:58 AM
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Hey everyone, I know we've probably all been quiet due to the holidays.

Thinking of you all and wishing you lots of self-love this holiday season and in the new year!
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KeraBear
post Dec 14 2009, 12:05 PM
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QUOTE(spot-on @ Dec 9 2009, 09:45 AM) *
I've said before that for the most part I am completely happy with my breasts, but it's that small % of time that just bugs the shit outta me. Usually when bra shopping, and I can't find anything to fit.


I feel that. For the most part, i feel like i've been able to keep up a positive self image, mostly since coming here. But every now and then I feel ... BLAH. Yea there is bra shopping, but it is mostly when i am at a beach and hanging around annoying junior highers who are rocking the breasts and hips and everything else and seem further in puberty than i am. Junior highers! Is it something in the water? It feels like a cosmic joke sometimes! unsure.gif Oh well...
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nbdx0645
post Dec 13 2009, 10:39 AM
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QUOTE(Aithinne @ Dec 11 2009, 10:15 PM) *
Easier said than done, but like I said, I'm getting sick and tired of feeling bad about myself. I'm getting on my own nerves...lol!!!


I'm right there with you. I had to go to two holiday parties (one for my work, one for my bf's) and I hate seeing at the great-looking cleavage. I was complaining the entire ride to my boyfriend's party, since my shoulder was killing me (when I wear a bra that doesn't fit, I try to push my shoulder down-and-out to have the breast fit the cup, which causes my shoulder to ache.) In a moment of anger, I ripped out the bra on the way to the party. I looked disproportionate but my shoulder needed a rest. I was a bit awkward at the party, but I got through it.

I don't really feel like I can get to the "Yaay, I love my breasts" paradise. Right now, I just want to glower at them dubiously, instead of scowl at them. We're at war with each other.
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Aithinne
post Dec 11 2009, 11:15 PM
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QUOTE(buttercups @ Dec 8 2009, 08:34 PM) *
I'm not trying to offend anyone or make anyone feel unwelcome, bc you are all great, wonderful people and I love hearing all of your input. I'm only saying that it is sometimes hard to read someone being upset about something you could only wish to have and it also makes you feel like maybe no one understands you, bc if you look like me you really have a little bump under a nipple- which is a big difference from someone with an actual breast under a nipple.

Anyways, to Allison-Shine and all you other B cup ladies out there, once again just know that there are girls like me who would seriously kill to be your size, and hopefully that will help you feel better about yourself.


I agree, it is hard to hear someone ragging on something about themselves that you wish you had. I get somewhat irritated inside when a woman is down on herself for being curvy. Damn, I wish I was curvy! I think I would feel so much more of a woman instead of a 12 year old. I certainly haven't enjoyed being a premature boy stick figure for most of my life. But, then I realize that those other women are the ones thinking I'm crazy for something they wish they had! *sigh* It's sad we take ourselves for granted and wish we had something other than what we have.

I'm a cute 12 year old stick of a woman, but I'd rather look like a sexy, alluring, curvaceous adult female. But I think it's getting to the point where I'm just going to have to give up on the whole depressing thing. I am the way I am and angsting about my outside not matching my inside just drives me absolutely bonkers and I can't stand it anymore. Hopefully I can just forget about all my insecurities by deeming them insignificant in the grand scheme of things. If I can't change my size, pubescent face, or puppy-cuteness, then I think my best bet is to forget about it. Easier said than done, but like I said, I'm getting sick and tired of feeling bad about myself. I'm getting on my own nerves...lol!!!

Anyway Buttercups, I can guarantee you many women want something you have, and I think the whole world would be better if we all gave ourselves a kick in the ass and took our self-blinders off. We are all special and beautiful and shouldn't let any asshat motherfucker tell us otherwise and if they do, I say diddle your nipples, spit in their face and go on your merry way.
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Allison-Shine
post Dec 9 2009, 05:05 PM
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QUOTE(issy @ Dec 8 2009, 11:06 PM) *
As much as I like to adopt a live and let live policy I have to respectfully disagree with the first part of this quote. I think simply cutting people out of your life if they express what on the surface seems to be criticism isn't allowing for basic human nature, or even unintended hurts. It has been my experience that someone who may sound insulting doesn't usually mean it. The negative aspect is hidden from them by good intentions or their own hurts.

And speaking from a personal perspective, implying that quotes, analogies, or stories isn't "speaking straight from the heart" seems like sort of a put-down, as if those who do are not speaking from THEIR heart.

I am not pointing that out to pick a fight or make you feel bad, merely illustrate that perfectly decent people make unassuming human errors that may come across as callous unintentionally, just as some of those who have hurt us for our small chests have.


How about "using my own words" in place of "speaking straight from the heart", I really meant the former anyway.

But good luck to you all, I hope each of you can find peace of mind in your situations and become more content with who you are physically. You're all better than I in discussing this type of situation ultimately, I think you all will be able to help each other pretty well down the line as you have have been doing already.
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KeraBear
post Dec 9 2009, 01:29 PM
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Geeeez, so much convos going on here that I do not even know where to even begin. I guess I will just choose one and roll with it. I can really identify with being given a really hard time being the tiny and thin type. Other girls at my school are ALWAYS giving me a hard time about it and teasing me. I try to tell them that it's not so much fun being amongst the shortest in your grade. Or having to shop in the kids section sometimes (including bras!), and being mistaken for a junior higher. I would much rather have some meat on my bones! But they never listen or understand. I guess i could respond by poking fun at their "big" breasts or whatever, but i am not that mean, although sometimes i really want to! and second how would that really make things any better? Cuz as one of you sorta pointed out in an earlier post, it is not so much an issue with me they are picking at but issues with themselves i guess. Pretty much EVERY girl probably hates her body. The covers of all the magazines are full of airbrushed beauties with perfect measurements that most of us cannot possibly meet. I am sure this has been talked about many times before on here, so i am not exactly giving out new info. It is not easy being a teenager these days! But then again has it ever been easy being a teenager? dry.gif

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karategrrl
post Dec 9 2009, 12:11 PM
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QUOTE(spot-on @ Dec 8 2009, 11:48 PM) *
That was the previous movie F&F3, this is F&F4 I think?
I just googled and the only one I can see in the cast that's small is jordanna brewser who played Mia, is this her KarateGirl?

http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0108287/


Nope. I finally found her name. It's Devon Aoki. Small busty!

Issy, HOLY CRAP on that post about marketing/media, etc. I am going to save it for a little pick-me -up whenever I need it. Totally fucking insightful.

buttercups, I feel ya on the B's and C's complaining about their size.
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post Dec 9 2009, 09:45 AM
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Strongirl, you posted everything I thought in my head, only you used some powerful wording that I couldn't seem to work out when I wanted to post last night. Thank you! You're posts (like Issys and a few others) always make me feel good about myself and strong & powerful as a woman.

re: sizing. Yep. I don't classify myself as a size anymore because which would I choose? Right now in my closet I have bra's sizes: 34A, 34B and 32C. According to the "standardized bra measurements" (booby measurement - underbust measurement+4-5") I should fit a 34A or a 36AA, but that doesn't fit in the band or cup! Honestly it sometimes feels like their isn't a bra out there right now that does fit. The one that fit yesterday was the 32C today it could be different. I find my boob cupage really depends on my cycle and how much exercise I'm doing on any given day (I sometimes do a lot of press-ups), plus I just changed BC and that seems to affect size for some. I'd love to be able to walk into a store, pick up a bra in 'my size' and buy it without trying it on cos I just know it'll fit. That'd take so much crazy hassle and shit outta my bra buying experience.

Treehugger, I feel ya girl! Fat always comes off my boobs first. Right now I am 18% body fat and I lost all the fat on the upper boob area first making my boobs look kinda saggy. Unfortunately it's NOT where the fat goes when I put weight on. But your guy said what a lot of people think (look at the 'mother' in the link that was posted by nbdx - previous page). I think it was Issy that wrote something that was so the most profound thing I've seen on this board and really made me stop and think
"YOU DO NOT HAVE THE RIGHT TO TELL ME HOW MY BODY SHOULD LOOK"

Allison-shine, you sound like you've reached a kind of epiphany with your breast image and for that I wish you the best! Like you I sometimes feel bad posting because I realize I have more breast that others on this board but that doesn't make my self esteem issue any less than anyone else's. I too have a mother who is supportive of my breasts and wouldn't want me to get implants, a husband that loves me and my small breasts very much, I'm healthy, I enjoy some great hobbies and have a great life. Do I think that would be better with bigger breasts? No. Would *I* be happier with bigger breasts? I don't know. I'd like to say No, but honestly I think I would be happier with bigger breasts. Am I going to go under the knife to get them? Not on your life! I've said before that for the most part I am completely happy with my breasts, but it's that small % of time that just bugs the shit outta me. Usually when bra shopping, and I can't find anything to fit. I hope you manage to conquer the body issues you have left and if you ever want to pop back in you'll be more than welcome! Hugs
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post Dec 9 2009, 08:45 AM
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OK, so I'm gonna try to tie together a few things that have been expressed in here recently.

Re. one's own size varying like Treehugger's (my breasts have varied a lot too), Allison-shine and Buttercups' exchange re. B's and AA's, and the many posts re. finding the "right" bra size: I think the main thing is to regard our breasts as a beloved, sexy part of us and not as who we are. We are not our breasts! It may be good to even avoid expressions like "I'm a 32AA"...no, you're not. You are a person, you have a name. You're breasts might measure 32AA using the standard measurement procedure...but that doesn't make YOU a "32AA". It doesn't even mean all 32AA bra's will fit you! As Spot-on has pointed out, at any given time she can fit into multiple cup sizes depending on the bra...so who is she? Let's try to stop identifying ourselves by our bra sizes. I am not a 34A, even though I usually can fit into 34A bra's.

One thing I think we should all have learned from this forum is that breast size doesn't equate to happiness or confidence or sexuality. Someone with 34C breasts might be wracked with insecurity to the point of getting implants to try to feel better, while someone with 32AA's might be so self-confident and radiate so much sex appeal that she works as a model or a porn star, like some of the chicks we've mentioned in here.

Some of Issy's posts made me think about applying the whole zen, yin-yang, thing to body issues - for almost everything, there's an up and down side. There's nothing wrong with celebrating the up you have at any given moment, while being aware of and coping well with the down. Small breasts are sexy and have many advantages over larger breasts. The converse is also true. When I am heavier, my breasts are fuller which has its fun aspects...but I truly hate having my thighs rub together or feeling my ass squished into my jeans. I feel sexier and healthier overall with smaller breasts and a tighter body and I don't care if other people might think I "look better" with more weight and bigger breasts. And regardless, it's MY body, and not for anyone else to judge, use, or exploit.

Rock on, small busties!
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post Dec 9 2009, 07:37 AM
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Having a little bit of boob-related conflicting emotions lately.

You may have read from my previous posts-I used to be an almost A-cup when I was thinner. But over the last ten-fifteen years I've put on about 30 pounds, and I struggle with those 30 pounds.

But my boobs have increased to a full B-cup now. So, what's the problem? Problem is that NOW I get compliments from my guy, other people about "oh, you have such great boobs", but the only thing those comments do for me is make me think.....does this mean if I am actually SUCCESSFUL in losing this weight, that my boobs will no longer be great boobs? They are still MY boobs, regardless of their size. The SAME BOOBS! So a few pounds of extra FAT in them makes them "hot"???? Screw that.

So I find it offensive when my guy says he loves my boobs...because he never said that before I gained the weight. I told him how those "compliments" made me feel...and he said, "well, you will just have to get a boob job like "----" did."

WTF??? mad.gif Granted, he had a few drinks in him when he said that, but WTF???? HAVE to get a boob job??? Gah.

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post Dec 8 2009, 11:06 PM
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QUOTE(Allison-Shine @ Dec 8 2009, 05:11 PM) *
I think that people who nitpick and attack your very being over things like your body and breast size do not need to be in your life. If that is not possible especially family members or someone that you have to work with, their tactlessness needs to be dealt with head on. Bottom line, you don't have to take anything from anybody, let them know when they are out of line, even if you have to resort to a little "shock value" to scare them straight. That goes for things even more significant that your breast size, including your core values and beliefs, your accomplishments, the people who love and stand by you.

I'm not much on quotes, analogies or stories, I would rather speak straight from the heart, even if the message is less engaging and refined. I hope everyone on this thread continues to keep moving forward and be happier with themselves, I am rooting for you all.


As much as I like to adopt a live and let live policy I have to respectfully disagree with the first part of this quote. I think simply cutting people out of your life if they express what on the surface seems to be criticism isn't allowing for basic human nature, or even unintended hurts. It has been my experience that someone who may sound insulting doesn't usually mean it. The negative aspect is hidden from them by good intentions or their own hurts.

And speaking from a personal perspective, implying that quotes, analogies, or stories isn't "speaking straight from the heart" seems like sort of a put-down, as if those who do are not speaking from THEIR heart.

I am not pointing that out to pick a fight or make you feel bad, merely illustrate that perfectly decent people make unassuming human errors that may come across as callous unintentionally, just as some of those who have hurt us for our small chests have.


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post Dec 8 2009, 10:34 PM
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Hey Allison-Shine, I have to commend you for admitting that. Part of what has deterred me from "small breast" support groups in the past is that a lot of the girls who seem to participate are not small-breasted in my book (I don't really consider a B cup small-breasted even though I know society does bc it's so far away from where I am now). I've been in online groups where the girls would all complain about their breasts and all be B's or C's, something of which I could never dream, and it made it not only hard for me to relate to them, but also made me feel bad about myself bc I was so much smaller, like no one was as small as me. I'm not trying to offend anyone or make anyone feel unwelcome, bc you are all great, wonderful people and I love hearing all of your input. I'm only saying that it is sometimes hard to read someone being upset about something you could only wish to have and it also makes you feel like maybe no one understands you, bc if you look like me you really have a little bump under a nipple- which is a big difference from someone with an actual breast under a nipple. I hope I'm not making people feel like they shouldn't post here, I'm just being blatantly honest from how I've felt in the past and why I've felt "small-breast" support groups weren't for me. It's like when you read those articles about girls with D cups saying they feel like their breasts are so small they have to have implants. I just look down at my chest at those moments and think "really?" Maybe that's why it means so much to me to see other AAs and small A's posting on here, bc I feel like they can understand more of what I'm going through. But a lot of girls will never admit what you did Allison, so really thanks for that.

Anyways, to Allison-Shine and all you other B cup ladies out there, once again just know that there are girls like me who would seriously kill to be your size, and hopefully that will help you feel better about yourself.
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post Dec 8 2009, 08:11 PM
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There is so much to read here lately about everyone's experiences both good and bad, its been hard to keep up. It takes a lot of courage for all of you to share all that you have in an open forum. Reading about many of your experiences has almost to the point make me feel very selfish about how I have felt about myself. I really don't know what I am complaining about, I'm not an AA-Cup (no offense intended to those who are), my mom would never tell be to get implants or say anything negative about me or my body, I have a great guy that loves me for who I am and I am healthy and have a pretty decent life.

Yes, I still have body issues, but it would probably be better if I faced them on my own and continue to find healthy diversions to help get me past some of the remaining issues that I have. Maybe I just need to grow up more, mentally I mean obviously, I can get carried away with being silly and even flirtatious at times in here but these are serious things that some are facing here and this is probably not the appropriate place for me to conduct myself like that.

I think that people who nitpick and attack your very being over things like your body and breast size do not need to be in your life. If that is not possible especially family members or someone that you have to work with, their tactlessness needs to be dealt with head on. Bottom line, you don't have to take anything from anybody, let them know when they are out of line, even if you have to resort to a little "shock value" to scare them straight. That goes for things even more significant that your breast size, including your core values and beliefs, your accomplishments, the people who love and stand by you.

I'm not much on quotes, analogies or stories, I would rather speak straight from the heart, even if the message is less engaging and refined. I hope everyone on this thread continues to keep moving forward and be happier with themselves, I am rooting for you all.


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post Dec 8 2009, 06:48 PM
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That was the previous movie F&F3, this is F&F4 I think?
I just googled and the only one I can see in the cast that's small is jordanna brewser who played Mia, is this her KarateGirl?

http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0108287/

QUOTE(nbdx0645 @ Dec 8 2009, 02:44 PM) *
I believe the actress from FatF is Nathalie Kelley:
http://z.about.com/d/movies/1/0/F/Y/D/fast06040622.jpg

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Wow Issy, those posts blew my mind - really insightful and wise words right there. Truly helpful, thanks!


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post Dec 8 2009, 05:44 PM
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I believe the actress from FatF is Nathalie Kelley:
http://z.about.com/d/movies/1/0/F/Y/D/fast06040622.jpg
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