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Alain
post Jun 10 2012, 10:32 AM
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I certainly hope it does get better for me as I get older. I have a bf, and he says he loves my boobs. He says it is more about "the whole package." But he also said "I have nothing against big boobs." This phrase pops up in my head every time I feel terrible about the fact that I barely have any boobs.
Are there any particular stores you've discovered that have flattering clothes for members of the itty bitty titty committee?

It does really suck that our society is so obsessed with breasts-- and not just breasts, but big breasts or at least "average" sized.
It surprised me that I would get such comments too, but pretty much because I can't understand why anyone would consciously be so cruel. Surely they must know how hurtful their words are, but they act as though I'm being oversensitive. If I dare get upset, then obviously I'm the crazy one. Sigh.

"Boobs are boobs" is a good mantra. Sadly, since I have less than As, I just don't believe it would apply to me.

Sadly my profile pic is just a particularly good pic of me. I don't look that good in real life. I feel that I am average-looking at best. :/ I look more like this:

http://i.imgur.com/JtkpP.jpg
http://i.imgur.com/jQvNO.jpg


Hey, I don't know if this happens often but I'm a guy! My girlfriend Is constantly on this website (I won't say who in case I'm embarrassing =P) and she showed me your post. What you said describes exactly our relationship! I've even told her many times that I have nothing against big breasts. I often feel as if she wants me to hate big breasts the same way she does, but I just don't. I don't find them particularly attractive, but I can't say I find them hideous either. The thing about the whole package is SO very true!!! It's a combination of all your aspects that determine if you're attractive and not the cup size of your breasts. And even there, being 'attractive' is very subjective. Everyone has different tastes. No guys is gonna say 'OH! I love blonde hair so I'm only attracted to blonds!' The same goes for breasts. Normal/sane guys don't work that way. We might have a few minor preferences, but it's all about proportions and how everything fits together. I'm not saying that individual parts of your body can't be good looking by themselves, it's just that what counts the most is how they all fit together. For example, I find that my girlfriend has the prettiest sparkling brown eyes, the hottest long flowing brown hair and the sexiest breasts that I've ever seen! (Plus, she has the thighs of a goddess!! xD). I think it could be possible that another girl, somewhere on this planet, has similar hair or eyes, but as long as she is not identical to her, she will never be as attractive to me as my girlfriend! There will always be something missing.

What your boyfriend meant by 'I have nothing against big breasts' obviously isn't that he would rather you had them. It just means that if it was your personality in another body with bigger breasts, he would still find you attractive and want to be with you. It's not the breasts that attract him, but the girl that has them. A guy shouldn't let one aspect of a girls appearance decide if she's good looking or not. To me, a chubbier girl with bigger breasts would be more attractive than a skinny girl with big breasts and a small/skinny girls would look more attractive with small breasts than big ones. (I am NOT trying to insult anyone, those are just MY personal preferences).

From the point of view of a guy, I think that it's important to mention that you should be careful how you act around your bf.. Honestly, I think there should be support groups like this one for guys who date small breasted girls lol. If he tells you something about breasts (or any part of an appearance) don't jump to any conclusions, start crying right away or get mad at him.. It's thing like that, that will make him put up walls and be more defensive when he's with you. He'll have trouble telling you how he feels in fear that you overreact and trust will be gone. Just don't worry, if he's with you, it's because he wants to. No one is forcing him. All I'm saying is to at least TRY to believe what he says and to not question his honesty. If he didn't like your breasts, he wouldn't be saying that he loves them all the time. He would just avoid the subject.

That being said, society does encourage the liking of big breasts with all the ads, songs, movies etc. BUT, do you really want to date a guy who can't decide what attracts him in a woman and follows trends like a guinea pig? I LOVE listening to pop, watching Hollywood movies, etc, but I generally find smaller breasts more attractive than bigger ones. If your bf tells you you're pretty, it's because he can talk for himself. I hope you believe him. And never forget that IF he didn't like your breasts, he wouldn't have been attracted to you in the first place. Btw, I saw your pictures and you're beautiful so stop complaining =) I'd like to add that guys will always stare at your chest! It doesn't matter if you have big or small breasts, guys are attracted to that area naturally! The problem is that small breasted women try to cover their breasts up and then complain about no guys flirting with them. Dress 'slutty', go out and be confident for one night and I promise that all the guys will be all over you! Confidence is sexy!

Sorry for the long post, I tend to get carried away when writing thing like this.. Oh and my name is Allen, I am 19 and the size of my breasts isn't worth mentioning =P Have a good day =)
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Outlaw
post Jun 9 2012, 12:56 PM
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It definitely gets better as you get older. Of course, then there are more things to obsess about. Kidding! biggrin.gif Your boyfriend is right that it is about the whole package. I know many guys(but NOT all) are obsessed with boobs but remember they are trained to be by our culture. I want to say again (because I think it is sooo important) that having small breasts in a world that worships them is TOUGH! For me, it helps to acknowledge that because it validates very real feelings that not many other women can relate to. Regarding clothes, up until a few years ago, I had all these rules about what I could and could not wear because of my extra small chest. I would only wear boring loose fitting tops. It was atrocious. Now granted I can't wear tops with fitted cups, etc. and don't even get me started on bathing suits, but I wear what I want now. I can't say there is any particular store where I find more flattering tops but I just look harder and longer now. I try on more things that I used to think I could not wear and I am surprised. I was really limiting myself. Now whenever I go shopping I pull everything I like and always try something outside of my comfort zone. I am no longer afraid to wear more fitted clothing on top. Hey world, they are small ---deal with it!

Thanks for your response.

PS-- I saw your pictures--you are beautiful!
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Outlaw
post Jun 9 2012, 12:25 PM
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QUOTE(earlgreytea @ Jun 7 2012, 11:45 AM) *
I certainly hope it does get better for me as I get older. I have a bf, and he says he loves my boobs. He says it is more about "the whole package." But he also said "I have nothing against big boobs." This phrase pops up in my head every time I feel terrible about the fact that I barely have any boobs.
Are there any particular stores you've discovered that have flattering clothes for members of the itty bitty titty committee?

It does really suck that our society is so obsessed with breasts-- and not just breasts, but big breasts or at least "average" sized.
It surprised me that I would get such comments too, but pretty much because I can't understand why anyone would consciously be so cruel. Surely they must know how hurtful their words are, but they act as though I'm being oversensitive. If I dare get upset, then obviously I'm the crazy one. Sigh.

"Boobs are boobs" is a good mantra. Sadly, since I have less than As, I just don't believe it would apply to me.

Sadly my profile pic is just a particularly good pic of me. I don't look that good in real life. I feel that I am average-looking at best. :/ I look more like this:

http://i.imgur.com/JtkpP.jpg
http://i.imgur.com/jQvNO.jpg

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earlgreytea
post Jun 7 2012, 11:45 AM
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I'm so sorry to hear you had those negative comments. I know how hard it is to simply dismiss them. While I am much older than most or all on this forum(45), I can remember EVERY negative comment I ever got about my breasts when I was young. I will say that things get better as you get older. I found that once I got well into my 20s, no one cared at all what my breasts looked like and all negative comments stopped. I definitely cared more than anyone else. But we live in a breast obsessed society and it's really hard to be a woman who does not have what society says makes us "sexy" and "womanly." That point cannot be minimized. I have enjoyed reading the kind words and and support on this forum. It has helped me. But I do admit that while I am much more accepting of my breasts now, I still wish I had more and it has been an issue for me my entire life. I wonder if it is harder for young women today as there are so many getting fake ones. Oh and keep looking for flattering clothes. They are out there. It's a lot of work but trust me it's possible. I have struggled with that too.


I certainly hope it does get better for me as I get older. I have a bf, and he says he loves my boobs. He says it is more about "the whole package." But he also said "I have nothing against big boobs." This phrase pops up in my head every time I feel terrible about the fact that I barely have any boobs.
Are there any particular stores you've discovered that have flattering clothes for members of the itty bitty titty committee?

It does really suck that our society is so obsessed with breasts-- and not just breasts, but big breasts or at least "average" sized.

QUOTE(DeeRayy @ May 18 2012, 02:02 AM) *
oh wow. i am very sorry that you've had to go through that. i've had a few negative comments but nothing quite as bitter as what you have heard. just know that those comments were probably more about making you feel bad than about your appearance. some people just like to bring others down. my last two sexual partners have repeated the "boobs are boobs, it doesn't matter" phrase multiple times to me. heck, my most recent boyfriend practically tried to hardwire it into my head! it suprises me that you've recieved such comments. and if that is indeed you in your profile picture, let me just say that you are GORGEOUS. if anything the other women were probably just jealous of how thin you are. trust me when i say you have nothing to worry about in the looks department


It surprised me that I would get such comments too, but pretty much because I can't understand why anyone would consciously be so cruel. Surely they must know how hurtful their words are, but they act as though I'm being oversensitive. If I dare get upset, then obviously I'm the crazy one. Sigh.

"Boobs are boobs" is a good mantra. Sadly, since I have less than As, I just don't believe it would apply to me.

Sadly my profile pic is just a particularly good pic of me. I don't look that good in real life. I feel that I am average-looking at best. :/ I look more like this:

http://i.imgur.com/JtkpP.jpg
http://i.imgur.com/jQvNO.jpg
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post May 28 2012, 07:03 AM
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post May 21 2012, 03:05 PM
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QUOTE(DeeRayy @ May 21 2012, 06:06 AM) *
Went on a date with a new guy this weekend and had sex without apologizing for my boobies for the first time ever! i was even able to take off my bra (well i mean, i was able to let him take it off haha). progress progress progress!

if there are any young girls reading this, it gets better with time, it really does! just half a year ago i was contemplating never being naked with a guy, ever. and now i've been able to take it all off with two guys, and both of them reacted positively smile.gif


That's brilliant news! I'm so happy with how far you've come de, you must feel so empowered right now =D remember you are one sexy lady and as long as you think that others will think it too =D
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DeeRayy
post May 21 2012, 01:06 AM
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Went on a date with a new guy this weekend and had sex without apologizing for my boobies for the first time ever! i was even able to take off my bra (well i mean, i was able to let him take it off haha). progress progress progress!

if there are any young girls reading this, it gets better with time, it really does! just half a year ago i was contemplating never being naked with a guy, ever. and now i've been able to take it all off with two guys, and both of them reacted positively smile.gif
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post May 18 2012, 02:02 AM
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QUOTE(earlgreytea @ May 17 2012, 07:06 AM) *
I have had quite a few negative experiences. A guy friend said I have "the figure of a 12 year old boy", a lady friend once compared my boobs to grapes, another lady friend (when we were trying on tops) said "You'll only be able to fit into that if you stuff." Random other strangers on the internet have said things like "Why is there a huge gap where your boobs should be", "implants are better than NOTHING", said that I'm completely unattractive, partially because I have "no boobs" and "am flat", etc.


oh wow. i am very sorry that you've had to go through that. i've had a few negative comments but nothing quite as bitter as what you have heard. just know that those comments were probably more about making you feel bad than about your appearance. some people just like to bring others down. my last two sexual partners have repeated the "boobs are boobs, it doesn't matter" phrase multiple times to me. heck, my most recent boyfriend practically tried to hardwire it into my head! it suprises me that you've recieved such comments. and if that is indeed you in your profile picture, let me just say that you are GORGEOUS. if anything the other women were probably just jealous of how thin you are. trust me when i say you have nothing to worry about in the looks department

and if any of the old busties are around, i have a new dilemma! me and my last boyfriend (the one who practically worshipped my body) just recently broke up. i know, it's a shame but i'm just not in a place where i can be in a healthy relationship with someone right now. first i must work on having a healthy relationship with myself, or else i'm just gonna keep driving my future boyfriends crazy with my insecurity and refusal to be completely intimate. plus it was long distance and those hardly ever work in college.

anywho, it's been a month since we've been broken up and i just got invited to over to a new guy's apartment on monday night. and i'm pretty sure he's expecting to hook up. the thing is, i got kinda used to my ex's super positive reaction to my body, and i'm really afraid this new guy is going to react lukewarm at best. idk what to do. i haven't had sex in a month so i'm not dying or anything but it would be nice (especially since i find him really attractive). but i'm not sure if i'll be able to handle the anxiety, and i'm afraid i'm gonna go back to leaving my bra on during sex again, which would make me really sad since i made so much progress with my last boyfriend.
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post May 17 2012, 05:42 PM
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QUOTE(earlgreytea @ May 17 2012, 09:06 AM) *
I haven't really tried anything in terms of trying to embrace them because I don't even know how to do that. I don't know where to start. I tried to find cute tops that flatter my bust, but while all XS tops fit in the bust area, they are too tight in the rib area, so I can't wear those. And size small tops are too big in the bust area. So all of my tops are unflattering. I've tried just wearing v-neck t-shirts, but someone told me they aren't flattering because they aren't feminine enough on me or something. :/

I have had quite a few negative experiences. A guy friend said I have "the figure of a 12 year old boy", a lady friend once compared my boobs to grapes, another lady friend (when we were trying on tops) said "You'll only be able to fit into that if you stuff." Random other strangers on the internet have said things like "Why is there a huge gap where your boobs should be", "implants are better than NOTHING", said that I'm completely unattractive, partially because I have "no boobs" and "am flat", etc.


I'm so sorry to hear you had those negative comments. I know how hard it is to simply dismiss them. While I am much older than most or all on this forum(45), I can remember EVERY negative comment I ever got about my breasts when I was young. I will say that things get better as you get older. I found that once I got well into my 20s, no one cared at all what my breasts looked like and all negative comments stopped. I definitely cared more than anyone else. But we live in a breast obsessed society and it's really hard to be a woman who does not have what society says makes us "sexy" and "womanly." That point cannot be minimized. I have enjoyed reading the kind words and and support on this forum. It has helped me. But I do admit that while I am much more accepting of my breasts now, I still wish I had more and it has been an issue for me my entire life. I wonder if it is harder for young women today as there are so many getting fake ones. Oh and keep looking for flattering clothes. They are out there. It's a lot of work but trust me it's possible. I have struggled with that too.
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post May 17 2012, 09:06 AM
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QUOTE(DeeRayy @ May 16 2012, 07:47 PM) *
ah, i still feel like that on my bad days. i'm not sure where to start...have you tried anything thus far in terms of trying to embrace them? have you had negative experiences? i know my negative experiences when i was youger were what brought me here in the first place.


I haven't really tried anything in terms of trying to embrace them because I don't even know how to do that. I don't know where to start. I tried to find cute tops that flatter my bust, but while all XS tops fit in the bust area, they are too tight in the rib area, so I can't wear those. And size small tops are too big in the bust area. So all of my tops are unflattering. I've tried just wearing v-neck t-shirts, but someone told me they aren't flattering because they aren't feminine enough on me or something. :/

I have had quite a few negative experiences. A guy friend said I have "the figure of a 12 year old boy", a lady friend once compared my boobs to grapes, another lady friend (when we were trying on tops) said "You'll only be able to fit into that if you stuff." Random other strangers on the internet have said things like "Why is there a huge gap where your boobs should be", "implants are better than NOTHING", said that I'm completely unattractive, partially because I have "no boobs" and "am flat", etc.
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post May 16 2012, 07:47 PM
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Well yeah, in a way I am seeking to actually at least like my boobs (I HATE them), so I could use a 12-step program right about now...


ah, i still feel like that on my bad days. i'm not sure where to start...have you tried anything thus far in terms of trying to embrace them? have you had negative experiences? i know my negative experiences when i was youger were what brought me here in the first place.
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post May 16 2012, 02:27 PM
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And Genevičve here, 19 years old, smallish A cups, learning to live happilly with them in this world tongue.gif
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post May 16 2012, 12:49 PM
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Gisele here 20years old, Less than A's and I love them =]

welcome ladies I really hope you benefit from this blog I did. Love those boobies they're sexy

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ahaha. those sounded like they came from sort of twelve step meeting. so i'll continue. hello ladies, my name is Deerayy, and i have small A cups,
*hello Deerayy*

welcome to you both! if you guys have any topics or questions you'd like to talk about in particular, please tell smile.gif


Well yeah, in a way I am seeking to actually at least like my boobs (I HATE them), so I could use a 12-step program right about now...
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QUOTE(earlgreytea @ May 15 2012, 08:20 AM) *
Hey everyone! I'm new here. I decided to join after reading this thread.

I'm 22 and have less than A cups.



QUOTE(Outlaw @ May 15 2012, 04:25 PM) *
I have been reading for a month or so. Just registered. I am 45 and less than A cups too.


ahaha. those sounded like they came from sort of twelve step meeting. so i'll continue. hello ladies, my name is Deerayy, and i have small A cups,
*hello Deerayy*

welcome to you both! if you guys have any topics or questions you'd like to talk about in particular, please tell smile.gif
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post May 15 2012, 06:25 PM
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I have been reading for a month or so. Just registered. I am 45 and less than A cups too.
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Hey everyone! I'm new here. I decided to join after reading this thread.

I'm 22 and have less than A cups.
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awww, it's been so dead around here
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post May 7 2012, 01:10 PM
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Also Gem I thought these pages might be of help to you when you're having a bad day =]

http://theittybittytittycommittee.tumblr.com/

http://hoorayforsmallboobies.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahsmallboobs.tumblr.com/

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QUOTE(Gen♥ @ May 6 2012, 08:19 PM) *
I'm 19 years old and my breast grew slowly until I was like 14 years old. When looking at the past, I feel a bit stupid because no one ever laughed of me or directly said anything mean about my small breast. I've always been around good and respectful person and I've been lucky for that... I've been the one starting jokes and negatives remarks about my breast but my friends never got to much into it. Still, as being teenage girls, we talked about breast and I was definitely the smallest one. No one ever said something negative but I've always feel like I was being taken in pity, like "having small breast is not the end of the world but... Yeah it sucks for you". I've been thinking about breast implants a long time but I realize it's truly against my values. Now, everything reminds me of my breasts, I'm probably thinking about them 50% of the time, it's an obsession. I need to be careful with the movies I watch because if there's a remark about small breast it makes me incredibly sad, I need to be careful with the music I listen, pop especially. Because of one song where they talk about big breast each pop songs makes me think about my breast, I'm very careful on the internet because of those ads where the breasts implants of some "sexy russian girl" who is "really attracted to eastern men " wants to meet me. Anyway, I feel like it's everywhere and it's very hard but I'm also conscious that it's mostly in my head, that I perceive everything negatively...


Gen I know exactly how you feel, apart from one 'friend' I've not really had negative comments but even my mother used to take pity in me because of my breasts. I've gotten past it though and I hope one day you do as well. Your obsession with breasts is upsetting to hear because you shouldn't compare yourself to others. Maybe instead of concentrating on the big breasts concentrate on all the small ones out there. That's what I do, Instead of looking at to 100+ women in the movies with large breasts I notice the 2 with there small breasts and look at how gorgeous they are and how they carry themselves. Instead of making your breasts something you're ashamed about you should make them something to be proud of. Covering them up with a lot of padding is not going to help your confidence with them, Maybe make them something unusual, show them off. Trust me the men will look and they will not be displeased. The only negative comments breasts get are comments made by other insecure females.
My confidence has improved so much with them since I got them pierced (I'm not suggesting that this should be what you do if you don't want to) but perhaps by gorgeous lacy underwear that makes you feel sexy or wear tight fitting tops with no bra or very little padding. Start of just doing it around the house (this is how I did it) and look at them in the mirror from the side under your tight fitting top. I'll tell you now you're not going to be disappointed.

Think about it this way, How often do you see big breasts (not that they're not gorgeous also) and how often do you see false breasts. And because they're around all the time they become the norm right almost a little bit boring?...well small breasts I find are a lot more intriguing and I think most men think that as well. Sort of like a taboo, something that isn't seen often. Did you know that some beaches in Australia do not permit small breasted women in bikinis because its found to be too sexy?

Honestly, you need to learn to love them because they're part of you and they're going to be around forever, You will love them as you and your friends get a lot older and yours stay perky and small. They may even make you look younger. You need to stop worrying about other people and how you may be perceived, It's all about how you perceive yourself. If you love them, everyone else will. Wear those babies with pride =]

Also you mentioned songs about big breasts so I thought I'd drop this here too
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F2IB_1GuC7k

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