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post Jul 21 2009, 06:27 PM
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Wow a lot of material to read and digest but bottom line good new name you chose buttercups. Much better choice, glad you find us helpful.
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post Jul 21 2009, 04:51 PM
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Thanks girls, you are all so wonderful and soo right! I know I need to change and strongirl your comment about how i need to focus on my own enjoyment rather than measuring up to someone's ideal really changed my perspective. I know that if I could act like I was more turned on then maybe it would make a difference. If I felt like I was sexy at all I think I could do it- and I know that that can come from within I just have to somehow find a way to do it. What do you girls do when you're not feeling particularly sexy? I know that sometimes buying lingerie and stuff can help, but Ive never been able to really find anything "hot" in my size and beyond that I pad (A LOT) so it would be hard to wear something that fits bc it makes me look so..deflated. He's never actually seen me transition from shirt to bra to bare chest because of the inserts. As ridiculous as this sounds I actually make him close his eyes when we have sex so that I can undress on my own and not have to worry about him seeing silcone pads in my bra- I know it sounds so unhot and ridiculous when I say that. I just can't bear the embarrassment of him seeing the pads in my bra even though he knows theyre there. I introduced it to him once when we were on a trip alone and there was no way around it. I made it a joke and was like "I have to put my boobs on now" and even let him play with them, but that was awhile ago and I haven't pointed it out since. Plus it wouldnt exactly be sexy having him take the pads out of my bra and then take my bra off. God if there is anyone younger or thinking about padding their bra this is my advice to you- DONT DO IT! You will not only get addicted to it like I have and feel incomplete without it, but others will get so used to you looking like that that you just can't turn back. I'm currently trying to transition to a regular bra with a little padding built in, but if any of my friends or anyone were to see it they would notice the drastic difference since I'm COMPLETELY flat like this and I look like a B cup with my padding in (im really a small small AA).

on a slightly different note my older sister was over my house today and as much as I love her soo sooooo much it can be sooo incredibly hard to be around her. Her body is just so...perfect. Still doesn't make sense how she can be a DD and I can be a AA and we can be full biological sisters. Whenever I feel my insecurities rise around her I always try to tell myself how happy I am that she looks like that and that she doesn't have to deal with these issues and feel bad about herself. I try to think of it as my secret sacrifice, like I will take this pain and struggle with the low self-esteem so she doesn't have to. It sounds crazy but it makes me feel better in some weird way. It's not even that I'm jealous of her fantastic body (well dont get me wrong I'd LOVE to look like that), but its more of a longing feeling like I'm missing out on something. I don't have to have a perfect skinny body like hers with big breasts, just the imperfect body I have with SOME breasts. One of the few times we talked about it she said I should be happy that I don't get all this 'attention" but like i've mentioned before sometimes that only makes me feel worse like no one should ever notice me. It doesn't help that we also look almost identical in the face and people always say things like "you two look almost exactly alike, except...." we all know what that except is! I dont know why I can be ok with myself one minute and then as soon as she pops over I'm like reminded of what I don't have. I love her to death and I am so glad shes gorgeous and would never ever wish this on her, but I wish sometimes that I could have at least a B cup if shes a DD. I just think of all the problems she doesnt have and cant relate to since our bodies are completely different. She has a wonderful sex life and has never once had to be ashamed of her body when shes in bed with her husband. True I could have that too if I tried hard enough, but she just doesn't have to work at it -the confidence is there much more naturally. In fairness I'm quite a bit tinier than her- Im a size 0 and shes probably a 2-3 (so she's still really tiny) and I know she doesn't think shes perfect, but she doesn't struggle with any body problem on nearly as high a scale as I do. She is proud of her body- and who wouldnt be lookin like that?? She can not relate to me at all on this level and has just told me before to just buy underwear that makes me look sexy -but easier said than done right? Ugh I don't know why this post is so long or why it has gotten to me so much and brought tears to my eyes. Guess that means its time to stop for now or youll all be reading a small novel and I'll be bawling. Sending my love to all of you!
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post Jul 21 2009, 04:02 PM
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That made a helluva lot of sense, angie, well said!
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post Jul 21 2009, 02:18 PM
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To further what strongirl said - you clearly know that it's our society's strange concepts about sexuality that are making you feel this way, which makes me think you hopefully at least know that you do deserve to be sexually satisfied & liberated, you just don't know how. That's something every girl has to struggle with, I think. I think you should take some time to yourself to fantasize, think about what YOU want that would make you more excited to have sex again. Not what you want to look like, but what you want your guy to do to you and for you. Then tell him! It's hard to bring the magic back once it's started to disappear, but building intimacy in ways that don't involve sex, or even taking your clothes off, can be a lot of fun. Flirting, making out, teasing and all those other things that people usually stop doing after they've been in a relationship for a while are still important later on. You can also think of bringing up this subject in this thread.

In the end, like strongirl said, seeing you turned on and having fun (instead of being self conscious and miserable) is probably the #1 thing your guy would like in bed right now. I know that it's not something you can just turn on and off by thinking about it (I wish it was!), but as far as I know, one of guys' favourite things to see is a girl all worked up and turned on. NOT a bored or uninterested girl with big boobs and a flat stomach. It's not just about what someone's body looks like, but about things that are viscerally sexy, and felt instinctively instead of visually and through the filter of our cultral ideas abotu sex. ...Did that make sense?
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post Jul 21 2009, 08:55 AM
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QUOTE(buttercups @ Jul 20 2009, 06:21 PM) *
I guess I'm just so set in the ways of this society that the girl's pleasure doesn't really matter.


OMG, that comment is totally upsetting to me. In a way, it demonstrates that the power of American media and commercialism is as strong and oppressive as any fundamentalist religion that removes girls' clits or shrouds their entire bodies in burqa's...only it's operating strictly through our own minds. Buttercups, I just want to give you a big hug right now. Don't let those assholes steal your orgasms!

Chicaloca, I think stuff like this totally validates your hatred of the media/culture.

Buttercups, your pleasure from sex matters! It matters to me and I don't even know you. You, and all females, deserve every bit as much pleasure and satisfaction from sex as males get. Sex is here for us to enjoy, not for us to "qualify" for by having "perfect" bodies (perfect as defined by the media). Give yourself a break. Start focusing on your own enjoyment, not whether or not you measure up to someone else's sexual ideal. You have a right to pleasure like all other living creatures and it takes nothing away from anyone for you to get that.

As an added bonus, this could actually help a lot with your bf's ED. Guys get aroused by seeing a girl's arousal, and if you're mired in thinking about how you look rather than how you feel inside, your own arousal and enjoyment are going to be impaired. Help yourself and you will most likely help him, too.

I am sending you positive, sex-loving, self-loving energy vibes through the airwaves!

P.S. Recommended reading: anything by Betty Dodson.
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post Jul 20 2009, 09:18 PM
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QUOTE(karategrrl @ Jul 20 2009, 01:01 PM) *
Also, you are both young, in the grand scheme of things. Sex DOES get better with age, trust me on that. wink.gif


Sooooooo true. Buttercups (yay! love it) just remember to take it a day at a time, we all have setbacks but you will get there. The fact that you know you don't have to feel the way you do means you can get there, even if it takes time to de-program your brain.

Hi chicola, good to meet you!

As far as the sex thing goes.. if you look up my posts on other threads you can see that I've been going through some pretty personal problems of my own. after all this time dealing with my outer physical appearance, my inner physical body has started to get all weird on me instead. it's like a never ending battle some days. still, these things can be worked with, I'm a success story so far! But the "ED," it can happen to people for a lot of different reasons. I dated a virgin (who kept it a secret until we broke up) and he absolutely could not get it up the first time we did it, and we tried everything. it was up before, but when it came time for real action... well, another example of too much pressure for the little guy to handle. The next time things were fine. And when he finally fessed up 3 years later, it all made a lot more sense! It is not you physically, but you are both putting a lot of pressure on this. Not only does he embarass himself if he can't get it up, he knows he will hurt your feelings. One of the only things I've learned from daytime TV is that the way to solve sexual problems in a relaitonship is to take ALL the focus away from the actual act of penetration, and concentrate on everything else you can do to eachother. Not just for your pleasure, but his as well (then you don't have to feel like you're asking for anything, it's reciprocal!)
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post Jul 20 2009, 05:41 PM
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QUOTE(buttercups @ Jul 20 2009, 06:21 PM) *
I should try to be more supportive, I'll have to try that next time instead of instantly getting upset and taking it personally like I usually do. "Fuck society and the media"- damn right!! I wish so much I could get their stupid crap out of my head!! Stupid boobs!!


I totally understand. It's really hard sometimes not to be all personal about it. Really hard... its just one of those things that well, it's hard to find a balance about. I really understand, and it's easier said than done, not taking it personally. I really think that strongirl's friend really managed it perfectly. Show him just how good he is at pleasuring you without a penis being involved... really it may work, and if it doesn't then you'll at least have some fun time, heh.

This is just my opinion, but sometimes I feel like guys are also too affected by the media. Like they think that sex is about the penis. That's what's culturally ingrained in their minds, anyway, and that size matters. It's really sad, because sometimes guys get expectations that have no base in reality and that makes them not enjoy sex as much.

I really hate the media, eh? Maybe I should take it less seriously, though. blink.gif


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post Jul 20 2009, 05:21 PM
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Thanks so much again for all of your wonderful responses. Karategrrl, you're right about having him seek some mental health- I know its not really a physical issue because it works when hes on his own..just not when hes with me. I have suggested it before but for whatever reason he just hasn't acted on it yet, probably from embarrassment. But youre right I shouldnt just assume its from me, even though thats been so challenging when he can stay hard until the moment i take my clothes off...

Strongirl that is awesome what your friend did! Haha if only I had the balls to do something like that. I guess I'm just so set in the ways of this society that the girl's pleasure doesn't really matter. Of course I know thats not true, but I guess i value my own self so little that I couldn't have that kind of strength. I have heard that that is one way to get over it though- by not having sex and just making him focus only on you. I guess that scares me because I don't want him to focus only on me..maybe then he'll be even more focused on how flat I am and how much he wishes I looked like someone or anyone else. My mind is so twisted I know. Maybe its something I need to work on.

Chicaloca, thank you so much for your kind words, it means a lot. I should try to be more supportive, I'll have to try that next time instead of instantly getting upset and taking it personally like I usually do. "Fuck society and the media"- damn right!! I wish so much I could get their stupid crap out of my head!! Stupid boobs!!
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post Jul 20 2009, 04:32 PM
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Hey girls, I'm new!

I'm not exactly small chested (small B cup), but I was very touched by buttercups' posts. Especially her last one. It just shows ya how much society can negatively impact us... and what a huge toll it has. So much that sometimes it can prevent us from enjoying the greatest joys in life. Fuck society and the media. Heh, they piss me off with their crap, which can affect anyone in any aspect, really. Ok, rant over.

Buttercups, honey, I'm not a man so I know nothing about ED. But I agree with strongirl and karategrrl, it's usually about anxiety. From what I've heard (or read), some guys get ED issues BECAUSE they're so attracted/in love with the girl that they feel like they may disappoint her. I think what strongirl's friend did was brilliant. Guys can be very sensitive about their performance, so maybe he just needs a little confidence boost. Just try to be supportive, because I really doubt it means he doesn't find you attractive.

As I said, I'm not really that small, but I've also let society affect me sometimes, and I've also taken some stuff personally. Yeah, I know, it's easy to just blame society, but they truly piss me off. Their standards make a lot of people self conscious, insead of promoting self-acceptance. Like some posters from the large breasted forum said, the wonderful thing about this thread is that it promotes body love. Yeah, small breasts rock, as a girl I think AAs are freaking hot! I just think about what my body is capable of doing and making me feel whenever I get down about it, be it because of small breasts (and a lovely top doesn't fit!), cellulite or hairy legs.

Anyway girls, great thread going on here, very positive, made my day smile.gif


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post Jul 20 2009, 04:07 PM
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Buttercups, my bf used to have occasional bouts with ED, most likely due to some inherited cardiovascular issues. In the years before we became monogamous to each other, it was worse with me than with any of his other partners, which made me insecure. We also had a couple awful experiences like yours, where we hadn't seen each other for months, scheduled a big night at a nice hotel with champagne, toys, lingerie etc...and when it came time to get down, it wouldn't get up. Not fun for anyone.

Subsequently as we got closer and more secure with each other, it happened less and less. Now it never happens (or hasn't in several years). We haven't really discussed it, but I think he had more problems with me because he was in love with me and somewhat intimidated by my sex life and other lovers, and it made his performance anxiety go through the roof. He was so worried about pleasing me, and losing me, that he couldn't focus on pleasure. I've always loved that he really tries hard as a lover - he works at it and I like that. But the same mentality can go too far and make sex a test, which is a total erection killer. I bet this is more what your boyfriend is experiencing, not a lack of desire for you or your body.

I have a friend who handled it really well when her new lover lost his erection when she took her clothes off, and confessed he had ED (by the way, she's very large breasted and has since had a major reduction, if that matters to ya). She said "Well, that's no reason why you can't give me pleasure. Your fingers and tongue are still working, right?" They proceeded to have a good time and after a few of these types of episodes, he started getting and keeping erections because hey, the pressure was off. I thought her response was brilliant.


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post Jul 20 2009, 02:01 PM
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buttercups (luv the new name!), don't automatically assume your BF's issue is caused by you. I'm no authority, but I do know that often men give themselves such unbelievable performance anxiety it causes the very thing they fear.

My first BF had a major sex hangup and since he was my 1st I had no other point of reference and couldn't believe how people loved sex so much. A couple of years and a new BF later, I found out BF#1 had what they call retarded ejaculation--it could take him like an hour to come--and he still had the issue after me, so it was NOT me causing it.

Not to say "it's all his fault," but it really may not be what you think. Maybe he should see a urologist or try a few sessions with a mental health counselor, if it is indeed an anxiety thing. Also, you are both young, in the grand scheme of things. Sex DOES get better with age, trust me on that. wink.gif
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post Jul 20 2009, 01:11 PM
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Hey ladies, I took your advice and switched my username from flatgurl to buttercups. you're right it was a self-deprecating name. so ill be posting under this from now on. I guess it wasn't such a failure but it sure felt like one at the time. I'm so sick of wearing these damn inserts but I can't seem to find an alternative that makes me feel like i look decent. yesterday i went out and tried to find padded bras that would help so i didnt have to wear the inserts, but they were all weird and made my chest look pointy- very unattractive so if anyone has any good padded bras to make a AA look like a small B please let me know.

Karategrrl thank you so much it seems like everyone in my life (including me sometimes) tries to minimize this breast issue i have. it does seem so stupid when other people have more serious things to worry about, like breast cancer, but to me it is a deformity and it is so hard to find people who understand. I can't really talk to anyone in my life about it bc they either respond with "well at least you dont get attention" (which, im sorry, doesn't exactly make me feel better abotu myself) or they say there are a lot worse things in life and who cares about boobs (well it would be easy not to if i looked like you and i had them).

Angie_21 and Persephone3, thank you too for your posts, its so nice to have this support and you girls are making me re-think the way i feel about myself, which is something ive really really needed.

As far as the topic on dating boob guys, i don't know how any of you ladies do it. I don't think its something I could ever do. I once found out that a guy i was dating was looking at porn and it crushed me. i guess if youre really secure with yourself you could do it, but i would always feel unwanted. i spend half my time now wondering if my bf is really a boob guy and if hes attracted to me at all. he has erectile dysfunction at 24 and even though most of the time i know its not my fault and hes just nervous, i always seem to take it personally. like if i had boobs maybe i would be able to turn my own bf on. this issue is just wearing on our relationship so much that at this point its like neither of us wants to have sex- he doesnt because hes so nervous and i dont because im so self-conscious and hurt. everytime we talk about it he says its not me, but i cant help but think it is. i mean i know im supposed to think there are other parts about me that can be sexy and everything, but i dont have boobs to shove in his face when he just can't seem to get it up, i have nothing. it makes me feel so much like less of a woman and i guess in my twisted mind ive convinced myself that he just finds my flat chest too ugly to even get turned on by me. i really love him and hes the first person in my life that i could see myself being with, but at this point im so messed up that i just want to get away from every guy on this planet. i want a relationship and i want to be happy, but i cant seem to be happy in this body if i have to show it to another person. alot of times i just think im never going to let him see me naked again, and that makes me feel better for awhile- but it doesnt always last and then i go to get intimate with him and he just cant seem to get interested for me. i mean not to give too much information but one time we went away on vacation and i was excited because we dont have much time alone since we both live at home for school. we were going to have a nice romantic evening with wine and a jacuzzi tub and he was ready to have sex if you know what i mean. but as soon as i took my clothes off and was in front of him it was like an instant buzz kill and he just couldnt get it up. if i had boobs would this reallly happen? i doubt it. i cant blame him he wants to be with a woman and i cant seem to get my body to cooperate with that. sorry i went on for so long, all of these issues are so pent up with no one to really talk to about it. i hate to be the downer on this forum but im not as far along as all of you in feeling comfortable with myself. i hope i can get a lot of my frustrations out on here and some day get to be confident like many of you.
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post Jul 20 2009, 08:52 AM
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karategrrl your post made me smile.

and to Angie's and Persephone's posts, it's true, not all men (or women) are gaga over breasts, and the ones that are i'm just not interested in in that way. too much work. why suffer when there are so many other choices, not only in partners but in areas of one's own body to focus on?


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I was looking for something this morning & stumbled across this, dunno if it's been posted before, but it annoyed the ever-living snot out of me: Your Free Boobs. I haven't seen either the MTV show or the BBC doc, but the article is right in that this kind of thing raises a LOT of questions.

It makes me want to start YourFreeReduction.com to see if I can get strangers to pay for other strangers reduction surgeries.


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post Jul 20 2009, 06:39 AM
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angie_21, I coudlnt' have said it all better myself.

Flatgurl, most people wear certain types of undergarments for one reason or another, for better shape, support, or whatever. Large-busted women usually wear bras to feel "supported," as do many men who wear jockey-style underwear. My ex used to wear a certain pair of bikini briefs when he wanted his pecker to stand out. rolleyes.gif Don't feel pressured--inner change will produce outer action, and all in its own time. Don't force it. Though I MUST say, just your being aware and your deciding to try and go braless, In my opinion, takes MAJOR guts. I admire you for that--whether or not you actually did it doesn't matter. You are going through big changes, gurl.

Soapbox rant of the day:
I used to beat myself up over stuff that bothered me--body issues, relationship issues, personal issues--thinking, "This is stupid, there are people out there with REAL issues--surviving war, rape, disability," etc. then I read something that totally changed my thinking. It was in a book written by a psychologist who had treated lots of people who were survivors of war, etc. Over and over, this psychologist noted that though these people had been through hell, what they wanted to talk about was the same shit we all talk about. It was like, "Well, I met this guy at the internment camp, and I'm afraid I'll never see him again when they ship us out to different places," or "I love this guy, but our families arranged for him to marry my sister," and such. In college, I knew someone with spina bifida, and her biggest concern was that she had a crush on her van driver who brought her to school (she couldn't drive), and she was afraid to tell him b/c she feared his rejecting her.

Though the outside factors may differ, our inner battles are essentially the same. Point being, flatgurl (and though I tend to ramble, I do have a point here), don't battle your self-image and deal with your BF and then beat yourself up again over doing so, thinking it's "stupid." It's not. I am totally NOT minimizing the "bigger" problems in the world--and there are tons of them--but you are dealing with big shit here right inside yourself. THAT'S brave, gurl. Give yourself some credit.

And not to bust your butt, but you really should get a new screen name wink.gif. How about "so hot and sexy I don't even need big tits?" or "tiny and tasty?" wink.gif <<<hugs>>>
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post Jul 19 2009, 11:29 PM
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flaturl, you didn't fail! Going without the extra "support" (even if it is emotional and not actually physical support!) is a big step when you are still learnign to like your body the way it is. It's something I still occasionally have trouble with, just as it can be weird for girls who wear make-up every day to walk out of the door without foundation. We create an image for ourselves of what we feel we look like, and when the person in the mirror doesn't match that, we feel like we haven't met up to the standards we've set for ourselves. Instead, try to focus on things that have absolutely nothing to do with boobs to start out - loving your body by showing off your legs with killer shoes or shorts, or doing something fun and cool and physical like backpacking, rock climbing, canoeing, whatever. Anything to help your brain stop focusing on your chest. If you need the psuh-up bra to help you feel more secure so it's not on your mind, you're not being weak. You must learn to walk before you can run, or however they say it. It will take time to change how your mind sees your body, and once you've become more comfortable with yourself, then you can focus on showing that self to the world.

On the other topic - I dated a boob man once, and never again. Sure you could be emotionally compatible (we weren't anyways), but I actually have noticed there tends to be a certain type that prefers boobs and a certain type that prefers legs or booties, and the boob men just aren't my type at all. In my experience, anyways, they tend to like to be "mothered" and taken care of, and are the more traditional, homebody type. A massive generalization, I know, but it's how I see it. Even if I met a man whole was completely my type for every other reason, if I knew that he really preferred another body type, I'd always be insecure, and I would also know that the physical chemistry would never be quite right. But I also know there's not nearly as many breast men out there as everybody thinks!

on the other hand... brought up the subject with my boyfriend and he said he really doesn't understand the whole "typing" thing in the first place. He said, every girl has a feature (or 2 or 3) that stands out and makes her beautiful, and that is what you appreciate as a man checking out a woman. He loves it all, and he still believes most men out there do too. It's certainly held true in my experiences.
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post Jul 18 2009, 09:54 PM
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QUOTE(anarch @ Jul 13 2009, 11:31 PM) *
Hopefully, now that you've spelled it out for him (often, guys are clueless about these things until we spell it out letter by letter), if that kind of situation happens again, he'll say "Cut that shit out" or otherwise demonstrate that he's sticking up for you. That'll be the test -- will he walk the walk.

Persephone, I've left a guy because the way he talked about me with his friends was like that. Not about my boob size, but if it had been about my boobs I'd have still given him the boot. Yeah, it was all in an old-buddies-bonding-heh-heh kind of way and he didn't really mean it, he was just trying to keep up appearances, but so what. I wanted, was and am worthy of, a partner who honours the great stuff I've got to offer. Honours it in private and among friends. (I mean, "partner" implies supporting and not putting down, right?) I think all women are worthy of that.

I originally came in here to post this. I enjoyed a lot of the answers, the ones about how the total person matters more than one physical trait.


I also wanted to comment on the link that was posted here. I did too enjoy SOME of the responses that were posted, but many of them are exactly what bothers me. I would prefer that the men who would want bigger breasts just avoid me altogether. Who wants to be with someone that is wishing for something else?
I read one women say (not on this link) that she finds out if a man has a big breast preference on the 1st date. If she finds out he does she enjoys the rest of the date then never sees him again. I just wonder how to bring it up without sounding completely insecure?
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ugh ladies i failed. it was just too awful of a sight and too humiliating for me to go out like that. im in such a bad mood now and feel like im going to lash out at my bf just for not understanding, but im going to try really hard to just move on. i cant go out in public the way i am or even close to it. guess im a slave to pounds of padding...


Don't feel like you failed! You didn't. I cannot go out without a bra that at least 'shapes' me. I'm not sure that I would even want to. But I do try and find bras that give me shape without distorting what I have too much. Oddly enough the prettiest bras I found were at Wal-Mart (super cheap too!). I feel as though when I have clothes on (without enhancements) that my chest looks non-existent. Women wear clothes all the time that hide or accentuate what they have (i.e. hip minimizers). What's the difference?
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post Jul 17 2009, 05:31 PM
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ugh ladies i failed. it was just too awful of a sight and too humiliating for me to go out like that. im in such a bad mood now and feel like im going to lash out at my bf just for not understanding, but im going to try really hard to just move on. i cant go out in public the way i am or even close to it. guess im a slave to pounds of padding...
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post Jul 17 2009, 05:11 PM
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Ladies, please send all your strength my way! I'm trying to go out in public without the inserts in my bra tonight. I'm almost about to have a breakdown and I feel so unsexy and unattractive, but god i want to get over this soo bad. I'm going to be the flattest girl out there tonight, but idk i just cant stand feeling this way anymore and i feel like radical exposure therapy might be necessary. i can't believe how utterly flat i am without these inserts in, i mean COMPLETELY flat- no breast tissue to speak of. sometimes i feel like there has to be something medically wrong with me. oh well im gonna try it. wish me luck that i can make it through the night tear-free
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