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post May 26 2008, 02:47 PM
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V - It certainly sounds to me like this guy doesn't deserve you.
I have a (beautiful and intelligent) friend who recently had to finally leave the guy she loved because she realized that the verbal abuse was not going to stop. It was hard, but it was the healthy decision. He said thoughtless things like your boyfriend does, and generally treated her like she was inferior both physically and intellectually. This was a guy who is 50 pounds overweight and dropped out of community college. My friend is gorgeous and a biology major at a University.
I think this may go beyond simple insensitivity to being a way to make you feel inferior. I've known "men" who feel that the only way to keep a wonderful female by their side is to make her feel like she isn't good enough for him, when usually the opposite is true.

I want you to know that there are PLENTY of men (real men, not boys) who are perfectly willing and able to love and cherish you just the way you are. There is no need to debase and change yourself for an insensitive jerk who isn't good enough for you.

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honeybunch
post May 26 2008, 02:38 PM
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QUOTE(neurotic.nelly @ May 26 2008, 02:31 PM) *
I say dump him! He doesn't have a preference, he has an obsession or fetish for large breasts.

I wouldn't blame her if she did. I've dated guys who had preferences for large breasts, but none of them were ever so rude to me.

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post May 26 2008, 01:14 PM
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I say dump him! He doesn't have a preference, he has an obsession or fetish for large breasts.


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post May 26 2008, 01:14 PM
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i wrote really good things earlier but they got erased...oh well...


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post May 26 2008, 12:13 PM
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QUOTE(Vendetta @ May 26 2008, 11:08 AM) *
I know and we all know that these breast issues don't make sense. Of course I shouldn't have them because I'm the one he loves and I'm the one he has chosen to stay with and bla bla. He can't say he's a man to whom breast size doesn't matter because he has been attracted only to bigger before he met me. He once said small breasts didn't attract him. So, he's obsessed with breasts, as he has once said too, how come he's not obsessed with mine? I am a big turn on to him, no doubt about it, but breasts are not included? He can point out at a porn star and say that those huge saggy breasts are his type of breasts and I have to be alright with that? He can drool over beyonce's side-boob-bounce at "a beautiful liar" videoclip and say "shakira's fine but doesn't have boobs" and I have to be alright with that. He can tell me to take 5 boxes of bc pill for my boobs to grow or make fun of me "you're so happy you've gained side-boob" when I wasn't even thinking that I already had "side-boob". He can say that if I'm a headache being this good-looking, I would be a nightmare with boobs. Is that supposed to be a compliement? He doesn't get why I freaked out, after 9 or 10 months living these kind of situations? He doesn't get why I can't get undressed now in front of him. This was the way my head found to self-protect itself, if I feel like shit when having sex with him, then I don't want to. I lost my libido. Shit, I'm sick.

Well, that doesn't sound very considerate. Like a lot of guys, maybe he needs some Sensitivity Training 101. I'm sorry hun, but he sounds a bit dense. Why does he think you'll want to get undressed in front of him after he insults you? dry.gif
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Vendetta
post May 26 2008, 10:58 AM
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So, he has got a preference. I'm not like that. But he loves me. Why is it so hard to accept?
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post May 26 2008, 09:51 AM
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I know and we all know that these breast issues don't make sense. Of course I shouldn't have them because I'm the one he loves and I'm the one he has chosen to stay with and bla bla. He can't say he's a man to whom breast size doesn't matter because he has been attracted only to bigger before he met me. He once said small breasts didn't attract him. So, he's obsessed with breasts, as he has once said too, how come he's not obsessed with mine? I am a big turn on to him, no doubt about it, but breasts are not included? He can point out at a porn star and say that those huge saggy breasts are his type of breasts and I have to be alright with that? He can drool over beyonce's side-boob-bounce at "a beautiful liar" videoclip and say "shakira's fine but doesn't have boobs" and I have to be alright with that. He can tell me to take 5 boxes of bc pill for my boobs to grow or make fun of me "you're so happy you've gained side-boob" when I wasn't even thinking that I already had "side-boob". He can say that if I'm a headache being this good-looking, I would be a nightmare with boobs. Is that supposed to be a compliement? He doesn't get why I freaked out, after 9 or 10 months living these kind of situations? He doesn't get why I can't get undressed now in front of him. This was the way my head found to self-protect itself, if I feel like shit when having sex with him, then I don't want to. I lost my libido. Shit, I'm sick.
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honeybunch
post May 25 2008, 08:14 PM
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My boyfriend doesn't like how I feel about my breasts either. He hates when we even get on that subject. He swears they are fine, but he doesn't pay much attention to them. He says I have a self-esteem problem. I admitted that I do have body image issues. He once threatened to start askin random people what they think about my breasts since according to him I care so much about what people think. We haven't had much sex lately, and I'm sure he doesn't think how I feel about my breasts is a turn on.

What really gets me is that he just doesn't seem to get why I would feel self-conscious. This is a guy who occasionally reads Maxim and Playboy and who has hung around porn stars with very big boobs and VIP rooms. Hmmmm... Can you say dense?
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post May 24 2008, 07:04 PM
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Vendetta, relationships are just so hard to begin with. Do you really love him?? He shouldn't have said those things to you in the first place! Sounds like your in a rock and a hard place.


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post May 24 2008, 05:42 PM
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I know. I have been a "sex queen" my whole sex life, without the boobs. But now I can't, I'm obsessed. We didn't have sex that night and had only on the next morning with me feeling terrible, as it has been the last few times. We argued and almost broke up. I can't forgive and forget and that is costing me my relationship. Shit.
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post May 23 2008, 05:33 PM
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Vendetta, have a good sexy time tonight with your bf!!! you deserve it!!! remember, sexy is a state of mind, it doesn't come from the boobs. Once you've got this in your consciousness, it'll exude from you like an irresistible aroma, that no man can resist.


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post May 23 2008, 05:12 PM
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So here I am getting dressed up for a hot night with the boyfriend, since the relationship has been so bad that we have got to plan that... and I pick up my favorite bra that I bought when was a 5-months-A-cup and stopped using since deflation... And I look into the mirror, terrified. There's air all over the place. I look like a 12-year-old. Well, I tried, but I have to give that bra away... I know I have other good assets but geez... getting sexy without the boobs is plain hard...
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post May 23 2008, 09:01 AM
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karategrrl, that tiger striped bra and thong - hot!

ditto on the sales lady being a straight bee-atch! *rolls eyes*

Back to what I was saying earlier, "small breasts are all too often fetishized with preteen or barely legal material".

This can kinda work in my favor, as I like to dress in a preppy punk school girl look or (no prep or punk) regular school girl look that accentuates my more womanly curves of my legs and bottom or the sexy tomboy. Think skirt with knee high socks and mary-jane shoes with any kind of top you like that match the socks. Or japanese school girl look or the gothic lolita look.

If you have something that is considered a "negative" (not really, but you know what I mean - lil boobies rule!!) then turn it into a sexy positive. You can play with your looks! I do not dress like this all the time, but sometimes. Its fun and sexy!


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post May 23 2008, 07:06 AM
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QUOTE(Vendetta @ May 23 2008, 10:42 AM) *


OMG, that quiz--and especially the short film right after--were incredible. WOW. Thanks for sharing!!
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post May 23 2008, 04:25 AM
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http://www.campaignforrealbeauty.com/dsef07/t5.aspx?id=7380
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post May 22 2008, 08:48 PM
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QUOTE(neurotic.nelly @ May 22 2008, 10:39 AM) *
this morning i teased my bf that he was probably watching (porn) girls with big tits, and he probably was, which is why he got mad at me. the amount of porn out there is astounding. small breasts are all too frequently fetishized (sp?) with preteen or barely legal material. *more later on this i have to get ready for work!!!*


That must be why everyone thinks I'm 16. Hmmm...

I do hate how some people equate bigger breasts with being more womanly. Grrrrrrrr!
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post May 22 2008, 06:44 PM
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woah i've missed alot

you all rock. boobies or not
*gets reading*...
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post May 22 2008, 01:49 PM
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QUOTE(edie52 @ May 22 2008, 05:56 PM) *
Your hubby sounds super-sweet! What brand was the bra you found?


He has his moments. wink.gif

It was a Candie's bra, and it was in what looked like the teen-to 20-something section.

No, that sales lady was definetely not cool! "Bee-atch" is more like it!! And, like, seriously, SO many bras out there say "A cup" or "AA cup" or whatever but they just are NOT for that size breast, case closed. WTF??!!
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post May 22 2008, 11:39 AM
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Great, karategrrl. Your hubby sounds super-sweet! What brand was the bra you found?

When I get a bit more money I'm going to go down to the big dep't store here and look at the Calvin Klein bras, and also ask the saleslady if they carry any AA bras, or if she knows which brands make smaller-cut A cups. And I will stress that I DO NOT want to be pointed toward the teen section (not that there's anything wrong with shopping there... but I've had a bra lady smirk and tell me to go there and look at training bras, not cool).
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post May 22 2008, 11:12 AM
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QUOTE(neurotic.nelly @ May 22 2008, 03:39 PM) *
the amount of porn out there is astounding. small breasts are all too frequently fetishized (sp?) with preteen or barely legal material.


True on both counts! The only women I've seen w/body types similar to mine (besides Lou Dillion) are on those "teen fetish" sites. When I actually was a teen, I was harassed like crazy on the street by men. Ugh.


Cute story: I went bra shopping yesterday at a dept. store (to try and find "grown up" bras rather than my usual teen bras). I actually found a cool tiger-striped bra and thong set that ohmy.gif FIT ME!! (Even more shocking is that I also managed to NOT fall into any negative thinking like I usually do when looking at my torso in the dressing room mirror. I am proud of myself for that. I credit my "positive thinking" of late.)

But I digress...Anyway, I got home and showed hubby my find. I said, "I actually found something sexy in my size!" To which he replied, "Your size IS the sexiest size!"

He got a big kiss for that!!!!!!
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