[bunnyb]

and all mine, don't forget.

yes, definitely hotter without the floppiness and the stuttering (he is so sexy as Daniel Cleaver, he was made to play an arsehole like him.

[mornington]

even I've started to feel the attraction now he's cut that stupid floppy fringe off. the shame...

colin firth, however, is indeed sex on legs

[girlygirlgag]

Hugh Grant still has an unbelievable pull on my heart strings. I just think he is yummers, I get all giggle feeling when I watch movies with him in it.


I am a geek.

[kelkello]

I love that movie. That scene kills me every time. Especially when they stop long enough to sing happy birthday.

[bunnyb]

you can have Hugh Grant or we can square up and reenact some of the funniest fight scenes in the history of movie making (starring those two lovelies).

[kelkello]

Bunnyb, you can't have Colin Firth. He belongs to me.

[wombat]

No! No! It's bunny_b and mornington who are responsible for all the british hotties -- ha ha ha!!

[lilyblue]

shall i resurrect the May-September thread in The Mating Game section? I would love to further this discussion.

bunny_b, I have to agree, the UK has bred a fine lot of men.

mmm David Tennant.

[crazyoldcatlady]

(wombat, i lurrrrved chris cornell throughout high school. mmmm. dirrty rockers.....)

[bunnyb]

*gets in the ring with mornington to work off some pent up frustrations*

He's a journalist on TV so kinda? Michael Parkinson is a celeb so I suppose Jeremy is too.

The Dr Whos (both of 'em, the recent ones) are mine, all mine.

[mornington]

no, gaddamnit, they're MINE. all mine. *clutches*

jeremy paxman. although i don't think he qualifies as a celebrity, does he?

[bunnyb]

well, if you're going to do it you should go full hog and type roflmao .

Colin Firth: how could I forget my Mr Darcy?

eta: omg AND Hugh Laurie! I didn't realise that all of the hotties were OURS!

[mornington]

bunny - i may actually have to say rofl

mm, daniel craaaaig

[bunnyb]

How could I have forgotten Clive Owen and Daniel Craig? . We* have produced some fine specimens of men, including Daniel Radcliffe.

*we as in the British Isles, not we as in mornington and I.

[mornington]

I'm with bunny on the younger male candy being to samey-samey. much like the girls. There's also an air of intelligence about some of the older male candy I find attractive.

I find the Daniel Radcliffe thing a bit weird, even though he's only three years my junior, but like sidecar said, i think it's because i've seen him grow up. it would be like finding one of my younger brother's school-friends attractive. Even then, I'm not sure I find him sexually attractive - I do, but I still wouldn't.

I think there are more important things than age, although I do agree that massive (25-30+) age gaps are a little skeevy. There are always exceptions. I tend to date guys several years older than me, although i don't purposefully look for the age gap - but one of my closest friends is with a guy who's just turned eighteen. *shrug* Relationships and eye-candy are two different things though.

hmm... ioan griffud for mid-thirties candy. ben browder, daniel shanks... you just have to look.

[wombat]

Interesting. Thanks for your list too, sidecar. Fantasy as different from reality -- good point.

One of my teachers joked about getting drafted in the Vietnam War, and he was so skinny they sent him to be an accountant in Germany. He said: "I suppose if they got all the way to Germany I could choke someone with the cord of my adding machine, or something!"

[sidecar]

As for Daniel Radcliffe, I think the reason I felt a bit creepy is because I've watched him go from being a kid to being a very, very attractive young man, all in my own adulthood (which, admittedly, is not that many years, as I'm 28).

But you know, I think a good point of comparison is probably Kirsten Dunst, or to go back a generation, Jodie Foster. They were child stars, definitely precocious children, who are now grown up and qualify as attractive; they are also both pretty good actresses, and I doubt any guy in his, say, early 30s, thinks he's a perv for thinking Kirsten Dunst is good-looking.

I often joke that my type is from the British isles or Australia, approximately 5-15 years older than me, and looks like he could probably kill someone if necessary (Clive Owen, Christopher Eccleston, Christian Bale, Daniel Craig, Ewan McGregor, Hugo Weaving, the star of Life on Mars (uh, big BBC America fan here) Sean Connery in the '60s...) American actors I find attractive tend to be about 5-15 years my senior as well .

I don't know what that says about my own psyche, but I also find that my attractions to celebrities are very different from what I want in real life -- which is the stable, funny, boyish, gentle smart Aerican man that I married -- who definitely does not look like he could kill someone if necessary.

[wombat]

I appreciate bunny_b's list of examples of older men some women sweat over, they don't do anything for me, personally, though.

Rather than "older" as a euphemism for middle-aged, I meant, older than teens, or 20 years old, or whatever "Harry" is. There seems to be a dearth of attractive men in the media sphere that are in their 20s or 30s -- old enough to know what they're doing but young enough to not have the whole dominant or daddy thing going on.

Is it just too threatening to the mostly male powers that be, courting what they assume will be a heterosexual, male, sexually and financially competitive audience? Probably.

Or maybe other people have different taste than I do. I've felt a lack of "crush objects" in the media that are neither teenaged nor gray-haired.

I'll take Viggo Mortenson, but only if he wears his "Aragorn" costume

Chris Cornell is kind of cute, but very "taken" and very crass about sleeping around with "nothings" in his spare time, if you read into his lyrics, so that's a little off-putting.

Sheesh, even the rockers are not attractive these day. To me.

[chachaheels]

"Sexually unformed"....that is, in part, what I meant by the "old saying" I posted earlier. It is so true.

You're absolutely right, Bustygirl, about the age difference making something like "cultural" differences that some people find really hard to overcome. In a couple where an older man pursues a younger woman, for example, it's quite possible he'll have not much in common with the majority of her friends, who are in an age group concerned about very different things just because they're in a different stage of life (though their maturity level could easily be equal). It's tough and I've actually seen a lot of couples in relationships with this age disparity struggle with this and fail. Sometimes no matter how connected two people feel despite age, it's just hard to get along with one another when the frames of reference are just too different.

That being said, that's a pretty good list there, bunny b.

[bustygirl]

Funny, I just posted a photo of an 'older' male in a new thread (don't stone me--I resurrected an old thread!)

Don't anyone feel they have to agree with me on the age thing. It's just my opinion. It's just that for me, most people who are old enough to have conceived their partners tend to have little to nothing in common culturally with them. There is often an element (though not always, just often) of power disparity present, sometimes a 'trophying' of the younger partner.

This, to me at least, is gross. Perhaps, though, I'm speaking more of people who tend to do this as a rule--people who troll for partners over a decade their junior, over and over. I have both male and female friends who do this, and they just seem kind of desperate and sad to me.

My own husband is 6 years my junior, but that's a fluke for me. Most of the guys I date are a couple years older. The sexiest man alive to me outside of my husband is 8 years my senior.

Younger guys just seem kind of...unformed to me. I can have them as friends, but they don't interest me sexually.