[strongirl]

Crazy busy here so limited time for posting but had to get a few quick thoughts out:

Skindeep, that totally rocks re. your piercings! I am so happy for you...and envious in a good way!

On the bikini shapes, I'm partial to unpadded string triangle tops with enough substance in the fabric that I get a bit of "bunching" vertically, which adds a bit of volume and also makes my pencil-eraser nips less visible. I also like that I can adjust the triangles more toward the center or the sides, and that the ties behind the neck and at the back give me more adjustability too. I find bandeau's squish me too much, but maybe that's cuz I've lost a bit of firmness with age.

Re. exercises for BDD - again, Susie Orbach rules. Get her books. Do the mirror work. It probably saved my life from a bad eating disorder when I was in college and I've been healthy around those issues now for 30 years since then. I can't recommend this highly enough.

Karategrrl, I totally get what you're saying re. the Zen thing on not suppressing negative emotions. I try to observe, honor and respect all my feelings but not necessarily act on them. I don't judge myself for having them but I don't think that just because I think something, that it has to be true, real, or even rational. I try not to get too attached. That approach tends to keep my feelings flowing freely but not jerking me around. And once I get what I need to get out of them, they float away.

[skindeep1991]

You know, this is an excellent point!

Another great point is how someone "in person" can be totally different from they way they are when they move, speak, etc. There are a few actresses whom I didn't think were as gorgeous as everyone said until I saw them in movies; conversely, I've met women (like, my stepson's brief GF) after seeing impressive photos and once they opened their mouth or showed their personality, it went rapidly downhill.

Yeah many times i've met girls that look gorgeous in photos and when they open their mouths you're just like o.O.......


I'm going on holiday in a few weeks and I was wondering what shaped bikini would most flatter our small breasticles... I was thinking bandeu bikini top but I don't know...

any suggestions on bikini shapes??

[karategrrl]

When you see someone in person its completely different because you find you dont sit there thinking 'oh I wish I looked like her' every second of every day you see them. where as when you're sat at a computer you have more time to be alone with your thoughts.

You know, this is an excellent point!

Another great point is how someone "in person" can be totally different from they way they are when they move, speak, etc. There are a few actresses whom I didn't think were as gorgeous as everyone said until I saw them in movies; conversely, I've met women (like, my stepson's brief GF) after seeing impressive photos and once they opened their mouth or showed their personality, it went rapidly downhill.

[skindeep1991]

Hey ladies sorry it's taken so long for me to post my laptop has been written off due to water damage (woopsie)

Hey ladies, please send me some small booblet love! I'm on vacation with the fam and literally as soon as we got there, my uncle looks at me and says "hey, did you finally grow a set?" because i was wearing one of the 2-cup sized padded bras. Said it right in front of the whole family as usual so that was a great way to start. And of course I'm the smallest girl in the bikini with my gorgeous DD'd sister (who wears the same bikini as me from VS and looks AMAZING in it) and i could really use some small boobie love sent over here.

You're little breasticles are gorgeous and sexy and you should feel bad about them even if your uncle decides to make you feel bad about them. I have the kind of family that like to pick on you if you let them, not with the intentions to feel bad but just because they genuinly think it wont bother you and its a funny thing to point out...and I know from personal experience that it doesn't work that way. But you know what you gotta think.... you're young and sexy and he's past his sell by date my dear so dont worry about silly things old men say to compensate for there own lack of size because he'll be in an old peoples home with the grandmas and walking sticks way before you and no one is gonna want a saggy old man....you on the other hand will always be perky =D

my question is, has anyone else ever battled with a distorted self image? are there any exercises that help with this?

DeeRayy i've always had issues with my weight so much that I had an eating dissorder to the point of being severely underweight a few years ago... anyways it's not an easy thing to deal with and I still struggle now. As far as what you see in the mirror and what other people see I find an exercise that helped me a lot (I don't know if it will help you as much) but is to take a photo of yourself in underwear.... keep it to yourself but if you were to look at a picture it would look a lot different to how you look in the mirror... another thing is if you look at a photo of you that was taken lets say last month or whatever and compare it to a photo you were to take now... you would deffinately notice a difference.

A thing to avoid I find are the scales because they just depress you the more you're on them. And just try to remain positive. the more time you spend away from pictures of other girls the better aswell. well for me anyways because I'm forever comparing myself to others and I know its not healthy. The time i've had without my laptop means I havent had the same access to the internet as usual so no google or facebook means I dont see pictures of other girls. So the insecurities aren't there for me because I don't compare myself. When you see someone in person its completely different because you find you dont sit there thinking 'oh I wish I looked like her' every second of every day you see them. where as when you're sat at a computer you have more time to be alone with your thoughts.

Just keep busy and be positive and always think how lucky you are to be born so beautiful and perfect and how many people in the world love you so much. becuase you're gorgeous and you shouldn't feel any less or let anyone make you feel any less. Just because someone you see is beautiful doesn't make you any less beautiful...remember that.


Also guys the nipple piercings are fantastic and have done wonders for my boobie confidence!! i'm so happy I have them i've been bra less on my days off now and feel so much more confident about my breasticles =D

[karategrrl]

Oh my. I've been on cloud nine all day because of this! It made my day! This is gonna sound sorta silly, but ... I really needed this. I've really been struggling this week.

oh yeah, and for those of you may have seen the "last post by: KeraBear" next to the pregnancy forum on the main page... it's not what you think! I was just sharing a funny dream i had the other night. ha ha!

Not silly at all! Very glad I could do that for you! Amazing how much words mean...good or bad...

[KeraBear]

How's that? Oh, that was easy!

Oh my. I've been on cloud nine all day because of this! It made my day! This is gonna sound sorta silly, but ... I really needed this. I've really been struggling this week.

oh yeah, and for those of you may have seen the "last post by: KeraBear" next to the pregnancy forum on the main page... it's not what you think! I was just sharing a funny dream i had the other night. ha ha!

[karategrrl]

I'm gonna second KeraBear and say that his comment was totally creepy and gross. karategrrl is right, when he asked you if you had grown a set, you should have replied "i don't know uncle, what about you?".

Yeah, there's still time in this trip to respond to that. I know SO well, though, how hard it is to respond with the perfect comeback when someone broadsides you--like, you just don't see it coming at all! Like someone else here said...Shit. Stirrer.

the problem is not your body, it's the way you see your body that is the problem. and screw people like your uncle, they've got problems of their own.

OMG, perfectly stated.

I love you, karategrrl!! You made Buttercups' breasts sound spectacular (and for good reason. They are!). Can you say a few words about mine?

Aw shucks! You love me, you love me! <3 Well, it's easy to say nice things about your booblets too, Kerabear!! (As I can about everyone's here!) My booblets told me that yours are senstiive, perky, adorable, lovable and sexy as hell! And the best part is they are connected to an intelligent lady who's a kickass fast runner--in no small <snicker> part due to her streamlined, built-for-speed breasticles who hold themselves happily high and tight whilst Kera smokes everyone on the running track. No black eyes for Kerabear!

How's that? Oh, that was easy!

my thirteen year old cousin looks like she's a D cup now and i had to try and ignore my insecurities as she walked around in a bikini top and shorts.

Well, you can't ignore how you feel. It's a challenge for sure--I know!! Allow yourself to feel how you feel. Acknowledge your feelings. I won't get into a whole dissertation (unless anyone wants me to elaborate), but one thng I'm slowly wrapping my head around of late is that idea that the more we try to push something away, ignore it, avoid it, the more it sticks to us. Can you maybe acknowledge how you feel and then let release the feeling? Because, you know, as DeeRayy said, it's not your body that's the problem! You have every right to feel insecure sometimes but if feeling that way clings to you and makes you feel shitty, then that feeling is not serving you well. I KNOW it is not easy, and it also sounds counter-productive, but it's kind of one of those zen riddles--acknolwedging or even welcoming something you don't want can often defuse its power. Does anyone know what I mean or am I just talking out my asshole? I don't know if I'm making any dang sense.

[DeeRayy]

Hey ladies, please send me some small booblet love! I'm on vacation with the fam and literally as soon as we got there, my uncle looks at me and says "hey, did you finally grow a set?" because i was wearing one of the 2-cup sized padded bras. Said it right in front of the whole family as usual so that was a great way to start. And of course I'm the smallest girl in the bikini with my gorgeous DD'd sister (who wears the same bikini as me from VS and looks AMAZING in it) and i could really use some small boobie love sent over here.

Thanks for the link too secretsight, i love that girl whoever she is.

<3 buttercups

I'm gonna second KeraBear and say that his comment was totally creepy and gross. karategrrl is right, when he asked you if you had grown a set, you should have replied "i don't know uncle, what about you?".

And might I also say that I was in the same situation this weekend while at a lake with my cousin's family. my thirteen year old cousin looks like she's a D cup now and i had to try and ignore my insecurities as she walked around in a bikini top and shorts. i felt mighty embarrassed because she's six years my junior for pete's sake. but, my family never makes any comments about it because they know about my "issues" that i have with my body(thanks for telling everyone mom).

p.s.- i recently got diagnosed with bdd. so i know how much it fucking sucks sometimes when all you can do is obsess over your body. but just keep reminding yourself that the problem is not your body, it's the way you see your body that is the problem. and screw people like your uncle, they've got problems of their own. i'm definitely sending you positive boobie vibes. hang in there girl! and try your best to have some fun

So, much like with obesity, involuntary physiological or chemical processes can be as or more influential than "will power" or other factors that really are within one individual's control. What I mean is, I hope you don't beat yourself up or blame yourself for needing to wrestle with this issue.

thanks for the link. very interesting. it definitely does feel like my anxiety over my body is out of my own control sometimes.

[KeraBear]

Ah, family vacations.

Is your uncle otherwise okay, or is this an isolated fuckhead comment? Because, forgive me, that was completely un-fucking acceptable. And I'd tell him so. Even better, embarasss him in front of everyone with a comment of your own. Like, can you say something in regard to his "growing a set," if you know what I mean?

Sending MUCH, Mucho MEGA boobie love to your beeeautiful, perky, gravity-defying, user-friendly booblets and nipplets!! XXXOOO And it's so awesome that you reached out to us instead of allowing Uncle Smalldick to get the best of you. Keep us posted!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He has nnnooooo idea we're talking about him, mWAHAHAHAHAHA!

ECK. Creepy uncle alert!!! Seriously the fact that your uncle is paying attention to your breasts creeps me out sooooooo much.

Ha ha.... i've said it once and I will say it again.... I love you, karategrrl!! You made Buttercups' breasts sound spectacular (and for good reason. They are!). Can you say a few words about mine?

OH and I love how we've added "user friendly" to our group vocab!

[karategrrl]

Hey ladies, please send me some small booblet love! I'm on vacation with the fam and literally as soon as we got there, my uncle looks at me and says "hey, did you finally grow a set?" because i was wearing one of the 2-cup sized padded bras. Said it right in front of the whole family as usual so that was a great way to start. And of course I'm the smallest girl in the bikini with my gorgeous DD'd sister (who wears the same bikini as me from VS and looks AMAZING in it) and i could really use some small boobie love sent over here.

Thanks for the link too secretsight, i love that girl whoever she is.

<3 buttercups

Ah, family vacations.

Is your uncle otherwise okay, or is this an isolated fuckhead comment? Because, forgive me, that was completely un-fucking acceptable. And I'd tell him so. Even better, embarasss him in front of everyone with a comment of your own. Like, can you say something in regard to his "growing a set," if you know what I mean?

Sending MUCH, Mucho MEGA boobie love to your beeeautiful, perky, gravity-defying, user-friendly booblets and nipplets!! XXXOOO And it's so awesome that you reached out to us instead of allowing Uncle Smalldick to get the best of you. Keep us posted!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He has nnnooooo idea we're talking about him, mWAHAHAHAHAHA!

[buttercups]

Hey ladies, please send me some small booblet love! I'm on vacation with the fam and literally as soon as we got there, my uncle looks at me and says "hey, did you finally grow a set?" because i was wearing one of the 2-cup sized padded bras. Said it right in front of the whole family as usual so that was a great way to start. And of course I'm the smallest girl in the bikini with my gorgeous DD'd sister (who wears the same bikini as me from VS and looks AMAZING in it) and i could really use some small boobie love sent over here.

Thanks for the link too secretsight, i love that girl whoever she is.

<3 buttercups

[karategrrl]

Secretsight, great link!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you and everyone here who shares great pieces like this.

[KeraBear]

THAT is amazing. Thank you for sharing!

I agree. This girl rocks so hard! The tumblr girl, I mean. Although Discowombat rocks my face off equally.

Skindeep - yea! Way to dress those girls up!

[anarch]

secretsights, that tumblr is a keeper. Thanks for the link.

DeeRayy, I don't know if this'll help, but I thought it was interesting:

[My dietician] pointed me towards clinical studies showing the vast differences in brain functioning in subjects with body dysmorphia disorder. One study showed a neural pathway that suggested that when subjects with BDD looked in the mirror, parts of the brain associated with anxiety and emotional response became overactive, essentially hijacking the visual stimuli before it could be properly processed. They literally were seeing something different due to the way their brain was attempting to interpret the visual cues.

So, much like with obesity, involuntary physiological or chemical processes can be as or more influential than "will power" or other factors that really are within one individual's control. What I mean is, I hope you don't beat yourself up or blame yourself for needing to wrestle with this issue.

[discowombat]

http://stophatingyourbody.tumblr.com/post/...o-has-called-me

THAT is amazing. Thank you for sharing!

[_Vendetta]

Actually I think that nipple piercings look better on small breasts. I have mine for 10 years now and I still love them. They healed perfectly, never had any kind of problem or lost any sensitivity. I think they're sexy as hell!

[secretsights88]

/delurks

OK, I was browsing the SHYB tumblr, and I admit seeing some posts by girls with perfect bodies saying how much they hate how they look made me feel a bit down...

But then, I came across this:

http://stophatingyourbody.tumblr.com/post/...o-has-called-me

It was very uplifting and made a lot of sense. Sexy pic too, lol.

/relurks

[karategrrl]

About that post...it says she tried to cut open one of her breasts but it hurt so bad she stopped (before she actually succeeded) and she still has the scar from the attempt. So thank god she didn't actually do it but yes, it is very sad. And even more so b/c I agree, she has a beautiful body (and her breasts look bigger than mine)! God, if she only knew how hot she is!!!!!

And now for a bit of comic relief...this has absoutely nothing to do with anything here, except maybe to provide you ladies with a laugh and distraction from boob obsession!
Duck Face! Luuuv those lyrics!

[DeeRayy]

hey all! i read an article today that really made me shake my head.

http://stophatingyourbody.tumblr.com/post/...ybe-a-100lbs-or

in it the girl describes how she literally cut open one of her breasts in attempt to try and permanently "stuff" them. i think that really says something about the pressure girls currently feel to have an ideal body. it really baffles me that she has such a beautiful figure and still has so much hatred towards her body.

this also brings me to another topic that has been bugging me. as you guys know i recently went through a difficult time with my weight due to health issues. i'm past it now. in fact, i've lost fifteen pounds so far this summer (and i did it the healthy way). but even though the scale says i'm fifteen pounds lighter, when i look in the mirror i see no difference. absolutely none. and this isn't the first time this has happened to me. when i did a season of cross country in high school i got comments on how i looked slimmer, but i saw no difference in my eyes. i just feel like it could turn into a viscious cycle where i'm never satisfied and could end up going to unhealthy measures or striving for an unhealthy weight for my frame.

my question is, has anyone else ever battled with a distorted self image? are there any exercises that help with this?

[skindeep1991]

quick question on the nipple piercing! do they affect your nipple sensitivity at all?

At the moment they are quite sore so i cant really tell any difference but when i was researching them it did say that they are more sensitive when aroused. They seem like they are healing well, they did say that small breasts heal faster than bigger breasts so thats another one for the smallies! Yay! I'll keep you all updated x