[opheliathemuse]

plaidmoosetoes, from my experience, you only have to believe the person. Are they naturally a dominant person? A submissive? If you have a sub domming, it will seem off, of course. If you are naturally a dom, then it will feel strange to sub. For example, I only really like a few generalized roles, and not talking during coitus. It makes it more believable for me. It takes practice. If he can carry off verbal play, then fine.
It's all what feels right to you. Don't be afraid of your own fantasies, is what I suppose I'm saying. That way you can access what makes you feel good more quickly and build on it. Maybe you're expecting too much of yourself. Start smaller? Just with a spanking, or a bite?

[LoveMyPugs]

No, no, no! He was mad cause I've been slacking when he's asked me to do things. For example, this morning we were lying in bed and he asked what I was thinking. I told him nothing but I was really worrying over my hand-sketched arcs on my circles in my drafting class. I keep putting off practicing my hand sketching and he knows this so first he spanked me and told me to tell him the truth when he asks what I’m thinking cause he cares and wants to know what’s going on with me then he said he wants to see some practice on paper when he gets home from work this afternoon. He is going to get rid of my procrastination if it kills him. Tonight is what I’m excited about. We are having people staying over and I’m going to have to “stay quiet” during whatever he has planned if he has anything planned at all which I’m sure he does cause he’s a conspirator. I’ll let you know tomorrow! Thanks for being so concerned. That’s very, very sweet.