[quietmadness]

Karianne, Lavinia; Thanks so much for asking! :-)
I'm ok.
I'm a recovering addict myself, with over a year clean.
I'm also *extremely* relieved that "Ms. X" hasn't had the jewels about herself to drive that Ply-Dodge Van up into my driveway. That wouldn't be a wise move...but then, when one is stoned out, one rarely has the ability to realize what's wise. I know I never did!
My support and best wishes are with everyone who's got this affliction/disease/decision affecting their lives, either directly OR indirectly.
(((busties)))

[deschatsrouge]

I'm bumping this thread for Konphusion26.

[konphusion26]

I'm bumping this thread for Konphusion26.

Hey I didnt know this thread existed. But yeah.. my dad is an alcoholic. Its not been an easy road. I've heard that addicts can only recover if they really want to. I guess he doesn't want to because every attempt to get him help, he refuses. Oh well, what can ya do??

[tatiana]

Hey I didnt know this thread existed. But yeah.. my dad is an alcoholic. Its not been an easy road. I've heard that addicts can only recover if they really want to. I guess he doesn't want to because every attempt to get him help, he refuses. Oh well, what can ya do??

konphusion26, have you found a way to deal with this? My dad is an alcoholic (actively planning to die within 2 years). He doesn't think he has a problem ('natch). The reason I ask is that I thought I would try Al-Anon, but since it is heavily reliant on a spiritual belief system I'm finding it extremely off-putting. I've been looking for other options, but haven't found any.

[konphusion26]

konphusion26, have you found a way to deal with this? My dad is an alcoholic (actively planning to die within 2 years). He doesn't think he has a problem ('natch). The reason I ask is that I thought I would try Al-Anon, but since it is heavily reliant on a spiritual belief system I'm finding it extremely off-putting. I've been looking for other options, but haven't found any.

Hi Tatiana. No I haven't tried al-anon as of yet; i've heard its spiritually based. I am a spiritual person. I am a Christian, and that helps me alot in dealing with my own issues about my father. It's hard to talk to him still because he's usually drunk. I refuse to talk to him when he's drinking. Point blank. If that's considered not dealing with it, then I dont know what else to do. I'm sorry to hear about your dad sweetie. My fear is that my father will be gone in a few years from his body shutting down or getting in an accident. It makes me sad but I can't keep living my life worried about if he's gonna croak. He's not in control of himself anymore, his addiction is - and its impossible talking to him even when he's sober. Im not sure what your belief system is, but I do wish you the best in finding a way to cope. You can PM me if you'd like to talk further about how you're feeling. Maybe we can help each other.

~smooches~

[tatiana]

Sounds like my Dad exactly and I deal with it the same way. Unfortunately since I grew up with his alcoholism, I'm still the typical "child of an alcoholic." I'm an atheist so Al-Anon doesn't seem to be the right fit for me, but I need to do something--I'm just not sure what.

[Christine Nectar...]

I'm an atheist so Al-Anon doesn't seem to be the right fit for me, but I need to do something--I'm just not sure what.

Tatiana: This is a little out of date, but i see that you are in Canada, so thought this may be helpful (depending on where in Canada you are)
the Centre for Addictions and Mental Health offers supports for families of those with addictions. they are not religious or spiritually based as far as i am aware. if they do not serve your area, they could likely provide you with some alternate resources. hope this helps!