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mermaidgirl13
post May 23 2006, 10:33 AM
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I've been having weird issues with my best friend from high school. High school was almost a decade ago, but we've kept in touch ever since - definitely in close contact all through college and have been on a few long weekends together during college. But over the last six months, I've called her several times a month but she never calls back. She answered twice. Both times we chatted for a few minutes before she said she had go but would call me back (but never did). I haven't brought it up with her, even though I really want to.

What's weird is that even though she hasn't returned calls, I saw her on New Year's Eve and she seemed really thrilled to be hanging out with me/the old group. And when I got her on the phone a few weeks ago to tell her I was going to be back in town for Memorial Day, she seemed really thrilled again and said I should keep her posted so we can hang out. But she hasn't answered or returned my calls since.

I'm confused. I'd be okay with letting the friendship fade into history if she wasn't sending me mixed messages. I don't want to just drop her if she doesn't actually want to be dropped, but who can tell?

Also, a sidenote, the two times I got her on the phone, after she expressed enthused interested in hanging out, all she talked about was how much money her live-in boyfriend is now making. Annoying.
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mermaidgirl13   "i have a bone to pick with you..." problems with friends   May 23 2006, 10:33 AM
voodoo_princess   "i have a bone to pick with you..." problems with friends   May 24 2006, 10:35 AM
raskel   "i have a bone to pick with you..." problems with friends   May 24 2006, 11:03 AM
voodoo_princess   "i have a bone to pick with you..." problems with friends   May 24 2006, 11:38 AM
ginger_kitty   "i have a bone to pick with you..." problems with friends   May 24 2006, 02:42 PM
mel   "i have a bone to pick with you..." problems with friends   Jun 24 2006, 05:24 PM
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zillahgirl   "i have a bone to pick with you..." problems with friends   Jun 29 2006, 05:50 PM
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zillahgirl   "i have a bone to pick with you..." problems with friends   Jun 30 2006, 11:56 AM
mornington   "i have a bone to pick with you..." problems with friends   Jun 30 2006, 03:46 PM
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mornington   "i have a bone to pick with you..." problems with friends   Jul 2 2006, 12:15 PM
erinjane   "i have a bone to pick with you..." problems with friends   Jul 4 2006, 06:01 PM
laluna   "i have a bone to pick with you..." problems with friends   Jul 5 2006, 06:08 PM
mornington   **sweary rant warning** fucking arsehole of a boy...   Jul 27 2006, 04:15 PM
sillygrrl13   With apologies to mornington & erinjane for ju...   Jul 31 2006, 12:42 PM
ms.gb   thats a tight spot, sillygrrl...i would keep going...   Aug 8 2006, 12:19 PM
wombat   I think it's cool that you didn't change w...   Aug 8 2006, 01:57 PM
mornington   yup, same here. It's who you are, and your per...   Aug 8 2006, 02:05 PM
ms.gb   thanks wombat and mornington... i mean, why shoul...   Aug 8 2006, 02:20 PM
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sillygrrl13   MWAH to ms.gb & mornington. Thanks for your sa...   Aug 16 2006, 07:56 PM
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mornington   sillygrrl, good to know things are looking a littl...   Aug 20 2006, 08:33 AM
dani837   OOMG she said that! Screw her then! When p...   Aug 20 2006, 01:32 PM
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thereshegoes   However, I'm increasingly more inclined to s...   Sep 1 2006, 08:08 AM
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thereshegoes   wombat-i relate-almost everyone i know has some fo...   Sep 13 2006, 10:23 AM
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sybarite   GGG, she's totally being oversensitive. You we...   Sep 14 2006, 06:01 AM
wombat   Word on people controlling their own cravings...   Sep 14 2006, 09:07 AM
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mornington   i now have this wonderful image of sting getting s...   Sep 14 2006, 10:05 AM
wombat   I'm afraid that sounded as pissy as I feel tod...   Sep 14 2006, 01:24 PM
thereshegoes   i've worked many service positions and have no...   Sep 14 2006, 05:17 PM
yummymum   I need a little advice. Long story short- old fr...   Nov 9 2006, 10:32 AM
knorl05   yummymum: i have noticed. many times the only reas...   Nov 12 2006, 01:57 PM
crinoline   I'm sorry to barge in, but I need to vent. My ...   Nov 30 2006, 05:22 PM
Phantom   I've been working a third shift temporary job ...   Dec 14 2006, 07:35 PM
Phantom   I can't believe so many of you have problems w...   Mar 2 2007, 08:33 PM
herculesgirl   Phantom, there are lots of places online where one...   Dec 15 2006, 01:42 PM
Phantom   Phantom, there are lots of places online where on...   Dec 27 2006, 05:09 PM
Sststststutter   crinoline, that was pretty sucky of your friend. ...   Dec 18 2006, 03:16 AM
whitelightning   stutter, i know i'm going to regret admitting...   Jan 4 2007, 09:14 PM
go_kayte   I'm feeling pretty discouraged about one of my...   Jan 4 2007, 10:06 PM
LoveMyPugs   Kayte- I’m in the same boat as you. A friend o...   Jan 4 2007, 11:09 PM
go_kayte   Pugs, I'm thinking now that I'll let it go...   Jan 5 2007, 10:13 AM
mouse   *delurks* i have to say, one of my pet peeves (a...   Jan 5 2007, 01:05 PM
kickitkickitkickit   *delurks* i have to say, one of my pet peeves (...   Jan 21 2007, 10:23 AM
i-am-jan   I am sorry that happened to you... I hear gay men...   Mar 6 2007, 12:34 PM
hellotampon   I know this is long; I just need to vent. I can...   Mar 13 2007, 08:53 PM
LoveMyPugs   hellotampon - I’ve gotten very close with my t...   Mar 14 2007, 07:25 AM
musicfit   I'm having a rough time because my friend just...   Jun 12 2007, 11:23 AM
lux   musicfit - i think it's a good idea to call he...   Jun 13 2007, 08:46 AM
bettieblank   musicfit- i think it is a good idea to talk it all...   Jun 14 2007, 08:46 AM
musicfit   There are some things I neglected to mention. She ...   Jun 14 2007, 11:07 PM
bettieblank   Doing things over e-mail is tough because you some...   Jun 15 2007, 07:50 AM
musicfit   I have the tendency to say things in a certain ton...   Jun 15 2007, 09:19 PM
lux   it's good that you want sort things out, music...   Jun 16 2007, 04:08 AM
erinjane   God, I'm getting so frustrated with one friend...   Jun 16 2007, 09:40 AM
Muffy   erinjane, I'm sorry your friend has put you al...   Jun 22 2007, 08:56 AM
musicfit   Erinjane, it might not be that she doesn't wan...   Jun 26 2007, 11:35 AM
musicfit   Sorry, I was not intending to send another post.   Jun 26 2007, 11:36 AM
erinjane   I talked to her sister, who then talked to her, wh...   Jun 26 2007, 02:08 PM
laurenann   *bump* i need some advice and ideas! i'v...   Jul 22 2007, 03:16 PM
gumby_cc   Laurenann, how about a gift certificate to a reall...   Jul 30 2007, 05:42 PM
samiam   Laurenann -- how about a certificate for a profess...   Aug 15 2007, 01:31 PM
nickclick   laurenann, what did you finally give? and how was...   Sep 4 2007, 09:10 AM
LoveMyPugs   Sorry to interupt but I'm having the most awfu...   Sep 4 2007, 09:43 AM
phobia   Nick -- I'd wait till after, but I'd make ...   Sep 4 2007, 02:04 PM
LoveMyPugs   phobia - this friend has had it coming for a long ...   Sep 4 2007, 08:38 PM
nickclick   pugs, good riddance. as i get older i realize i d...   Sep 5 2007, 07:05 AM
phobia   Nick -- totally! Also, I told her I could onl...   Sep 5 2007, 09:32 AM
nickclick   so do you think you're still going to go? fly...   Sep 6 2007, 01:31 PM
phobia   Oh, yeah, we'll go. Just for a long weekend, ...   Sep 6 2007, 03:38 PM
nickclick   yeah, i guess you're stuck with her, but at th...   Sep 7 2007, 01:01 PM
phobia   As far as the work friend goes, I mean MEAN -- sna...   Sep 8 2007, 08:13 AM
nickclick   phobia, there's no reason for you to be her ve...   Sep 11 2007, 07:34 AM
hellotampon   Okay, so my roommate has had pots and pans sitting...   Sep 12 2007, 06:02 PM
gumby_cc   Ugh, I can commiserate with you, HelloTampon. My l...   Sep 14 2007, 06:11 AM
hellotampon   Well I finally said something about it. I asked h...   Sep 16 2007, 08:36 AM
tankgirl   ive been in a similar situation ht, and all i can ...   Sep 16 2007, 04:49 PM
hellotampon   ive been in a similar situation ht, and all i can ...   Sep 18 2007, 03:44 PM
kittenb   ht - you have my sympathies. I have no good advice...   Sep 17 2007, 01:09 PM
hoosierman78   HT- This is somewhat passive-agressive, but I have...   Sep 18 2007, 01:04 PM
walkingbitch   I don't know how you guys do it, and I give an...   Sep 18 2007, 01:32 PM
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