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periander
post Apr 23 2006, 12:05 AM
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Ok so I need help asap. I have a boy coming over tonight for some well deserved (on my part) portions. My problem is that he does like to try and rub my clitoris like hes buffing floorboards or something. Now I tend to be a very blunt person but I don't want to hurt his feeling by just blurting out "what the hell do you think your doing". What do you thing is a nice and subtle way of getting him to be a bit more gentle with my bits.
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maimy
post May 23 2006, 04:44 PM
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Apologies are never bad to give, and they open the door to clear the air. You can just drop an "I'm sorry" quickly without staging an intervention, but the door will be open - and apologies are always better than unspoken frustrations or guilt.

I may not have the specific strategy on what else to say, but there has GOT to be a positive way to spin your joyful astonishment with his prowess and personal appeal. That's not in any way meant to pooh-pooh your guilt, because I know it sucks when you feel "too demanding" for whatever the reason. But the reason being, basically, one of the most positive physical experiences of your life really seems like it ought to mitigate your ... "offense".

Maybe the only way to pose it is to say, "You've given me pleasure like I have never experienced, and I feel like my desire for more is too much in some way or another, at least at this very moment."

Then you can find out if this is a temporary imbalance, if he feels pressured perhaps to live up to something unrealistic, if maybe he's afraid the "friends with benefits" could be more emotional than he's able to give. Or if it's just a matter of his bad back. If it's that last problem, y'all can negotiate physical compensations, and if it's ANY of these problems, surely y'all can find a frequency balance that's acceptable for both of you (possibly augmented by acts other than penetration; ahh, the joy of options!) without asking too much of either one. There's got to be a point on which reassurance or negotiation can relieve both of you ...
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