[periander]

Ok so I need help asap. I have a boy coming over tonight for some well deserved (on my part) portions. My problem is that he does like to try and rub my clitoris like hes buffing floorboards or something. Now I tend to be a very blunt person but I don't want to hurt his feeling by just blurting out "what the hell do you think your doing". What do you thing is a nice and subtle way of getting him to be a bit more gentle with my bits.

[maddy29]

Ok, this is from Cosmo, so yes, totally lame. But, it describes some good positions to try.

The Sit 'n' Spin
# Erotic instructions: With your guy flat on his back, face him, your knees on the floor or mattress, and lower yourself onto his penis. Have him put his hands on your thighs as you place yours on his torso. Gyrate your hips in a circle continuously in one direction, then switch directions.

# Pleasure payoff for you: This easy-to-do pose puts you in the driver's seat so you can control the speed and motion. Moving in circles like a belly dancer makes you feel extra seductive, and you'll get totally tingly with his shaft rubbing against your vaginal walls.

# Pleasure payoff for him: Besides the bodacious view of your breasts, he'll love the soft circling motions. And the unexpected twist in a new direction will keep him in a horny holding pattern, so he won't climax too quickly.

The Passionate Piston
# Erotic instructions: Have your man lie on his back. Lower your body onto his shaft by planting your feet firmly on the mattress or floor and putting your hands on his shoulders. (A wall or headboard will also work.) He can help steady you by placing his hands on either side of your hips. Using your legs for leverage, "piston" straight up and down his shaft as quickly as possible.

# Pleasure payoff for you: While you may not be able to piston like this for very long, the turbo-charged action kicks every sensation up a naughty notch and lets you alternate between ultradeep and more shallow motions. As the reader who created it says, your quads will get a good workout too.

# Pleasure payoff for him: The sight of your set jiggling and bouncing as your legs propel you up and down will drive him wild. This aggressive move is all about that amazing animalistic pleasure guys go gaga for.

Back to the Rodeo
# Erotic instructions: He lies flat on his back. Hop on top of him facing his feet, guide his penis inside you, then carefully lower yourself all the way back so that you are lying on top of him. Extend your legs straight out and slightly apart.

# Pleasure payoff for you: Woman on top has a rep for not producing much body contact, but this position provides that carnal closeness that makes doing the deed so damn steamy. The action is slow and penetration shallow ‑- a major plus if your dude is well-endowed. It'll also allow his penis to tantalize the supercharged nerves of your lower V zone.

# Pleasure payoff for him: He'll love that he can touch your breasts and belly or manually stimulate you while nibbling your neck. You can show him exactly how you get yourself off by guiding his hand with yours ‑- a thrilling lesson most men crave.

The Lusty Lotus
# Erotic instructions: Start with your man in a seated position. Face him and climb into his lap so you're straddling him, guiding his penis inside you. Wrap your legs around his waist while he crosses his legs Indian-style, then put your arms around his neck as he holds you under your hips. Rock back and forth for a long, sensual, big O buildup.

# Pleasure payoff for you: The slow rocking motion lets his penis glide over your G-spot ‑- the bliss button inside you that often gets missed when you bump and grind at top speed.

# Pleasure payoff for him: He'll love the feel of your breasts pressed into his chest as you sway your bodies in rhythm. You can also connect at the eyes and lips, taking your bond to a tantric passion plane.

The Racy Recline
# Erotic instructions: Your guy should be sitting up, with his weight on his palms and his legs stretched out and slightly spread. Facing him, sit between his legs and place his penis inside you. Lean back on your hands for balance, then lift your legs and rest your ankles on his shoulders. Putting a small pillow under your hips will help position you at just the right angle.

# Pleasure payoff for you: Unlike most female superior poses, you won't be taking him for a ride: Your guy will do most of the thrusting. Meanwhile, you can concentrate on how amazing his penis feels stroking your G-spot.

# Pleasure payoff for him: As he pumps and enjoys the action shot, he'll be able to see your face and take in all the bliss he's bringing you. And with your legs straddling his upper bod, he'll be completely surrounded by you...and love every minute of it.

The Hot Seat
# Erotic instructions: Get your man to lie on his back, then lower yourself onto his lap with your legs perpendicular to his pelvis and guide his penis inside you. Place your hands behind you for support and move up and down his shaft (carefully, so you don't bend it and possibly hurt him), as he steadies you under your legs.

# Pleasure payoff for you: The pose lets you thrust deep, then pull back so that just the tip of his penis is inside you. It's a great move if your guy's on the small side or if you crave a tighter fit.

# Pleasure payoff for him: Every inch of your V will move up and down along his member ‑- making him feel like he's penetrating you for the first time with each new thrust. And with your legs close together, you'll feel really snug around his penis.

Hip-to-Hip Hula
# Erotic instructions: Have your guy lie flat on his back, his legs extended and spread a bit. Facing him, position your body on top of his, your pelvises aligned and your legs extended outside of his. Once he's inside you, lean forward and put your body weight on your palms. Your guy holds your hips or butt, helping to support you and control your motions.

# Pleasure payoff for you: With the close alignment of your pelvic areas, your clitoris is in perfect position to rub against his pubic bone, producing superhot stimulation. Plus, because your torso presses against his, you won't feel quite so exposed.

# Pleasure payoff for him: By grabbing your hips and butt, he can pull you close to get really deep. And he'll feel every inch of you while getting a primo view of your pair.

Celestial Cowgirl
# Erotic instructions: While your guy lies back, lower yourself facing his feet with your knees on either side of his torso. Then, lean back, forming an arch. Have him hold your hips to both support you and guide the thrusting.

# Pleasure payoff for you: You'll be piloting your pleasure trip by controlling the speed and depth of his thrusts. Another reason this trick rocks? Arching your back will angle his member so it rubs against your ultrasensitive G.

# Pleasure payoff for him: This sexy slant will allow him to take over the thrusting and gives him a chance to drive you wild as he touches your C-spot and nipples while kissing the back of your neck. And if you've got long hair, he'll love the feeling of it grazing his chest.

The Jasmine



Of all the reader-submitted positions Cosmo's ever received, we crowned this move the most creative. We've named it The Jasmine, in honor of the inventive reader who sent it in.

# Erotic instructions: He lies back, his butt on the edge of the bed. Lower yourself onto his penis in reverse, your legs outside his. After you start bouncing, slowly bend toward the floor.

# Pleasure payoff for you: With your body leaning forward, your man's penis has easy access to your G-spot. The bouncing is softer than in-and-out moves.

# Pleasure payoff for him: The view of you and the deep, tight fit will electrify him from head to toe.