[opheliathemuse]

don't you mean a blow-job-by-blow-job account?

oh yay, I know this is a rather late reply, but I thought -I-was the only one that hated clitoral stimulation. Guys are always tapping it, smacking it, licking it, doing things to it. LEAVE it the hell alone! I like penetration better too. I'm with ven, sybarite, and aural.

[bunnyb]

can't wait til tesao returns and we get a blow-by-blow account of her sexploits!

[onyva]

A while back I posted about my seeming inability (or rather, loss of ability) to come with a partner. A couple of things were suggested: Kegels for my sadly out-of-shape vadge, and some mental focus.

Well, I did start doing Kegels more intensely and definitely noticed a difference in my strength in those muscles as well as my pleasure during masturbation... in fact I've been having some of the finest orgasms ever, some of them multiple/extended. Which, you could say, has been nice.

The mental stuff is harder because it means fighting what's already happening in my head, which is something like, "oh... ohh... mmm... how come I'm not there yet... okay, focus. ahh... oh yeah... DAMN IT!!!" But I have definitely been trying.

The results? Well, I've only had sex a couple of times since I posted about the problem. The first time was so incredible, and yet I COULD. NOT. COME. I actually got really mad and threw my vibrator across the room, which weirded out my partner a bit.

Last week I had a little mutual-masturbation session with a guy and it took a while, but goddamn it, I managed to squeak out an orgasm. It was a relief in more than one way -- I felt a little less dysfunctional afterward.

I'm glad that my self-love-life is so fantastic right now, because otherwise I would feel totally broken. I am trying to enjoy that part, at least, and I'm hoping for improvement with partners.

[maimy]

Green, I feel your pain. I've still got five or six weeks to wait, and I will NOT be able to breathe easily until he's purchased a ticket home. On the bright side, when he does finally return, it will be for good this time.

*Sigh*

(Haven't been jackhammered in years by now ...)

[greenbean]

Damn, guys! Reading all this is really making miss my boy!

As some of you know I've been fucked silly for the past two weeks while hes been visiting.
His cock is bigger than I'm used to and I exprerienced the "jackhammer to the cervix" for the
first time. It really hurt at first, like menstrual cramps, and he would go more gently after hearing
my feeble yelps. I have never orgasmed from penetration alone, and only a handful of times when
my clit was stimulated during pen.

Anyway, after many times of the boy not able to control himself and going back into jackhammer
mode, I began to feel less pain and more of chance of penetration orgasm. I think it mostly has to do
with the idea of it, watching the boy go all crazy with pleasure and wanting to come with him. But alas,
hes back in London now, ..just when I was getting close to finding out if I actually could come that way.
Wish I had more time to practice with him. grrr.

[runnergirl]

Dani – Oh man, if I am really close and he finishes before me, my legs get the shakes too! I think part of it is because when I am about to come I tense up my thighs for a prolonged period of time….but once we went to a play right afterward…and I was shaking the whole show! (about 2 hours afterward). I made him rub my legs too!!! Hehe.

Crinoline- Congrats on almost getting there…that is half the battle!!! I definitely know how you feel. When my boyfriend and I started having sex about 10 months ago or so, the only sensation I enjoyed from penetration was hard and fast. I think it was because I felt “dead down there” but after doing some research I learned that many women can’t come through penetration due to fewer nerves deeper in the vag. The more we practiced the more I became accustomed to my body and other not as extreme sensations. I know that I also had some issues that I had to talk to him about….being nervous and the like.

I started getting depressed and felt like something was wrong with me, because he gave me lots of foreplay, tried different positions…and basically every idea I came up with online he had already tried. So I start posting in the Mysterious O and found lots of support and other tips to keep trying. I started masturbating more regularly, and the boy bought me a vibe. Once I figured out how to do it myself, I showed him the way….or at least other ways of touching me. Then I got to the point where I felt I was about to get there…and then I would hear” I’m going to come,”….and just like you girls, I wanted to scream “No, you just can’t!”….but I think we found ways to work around that problem and prolong his orgasm.

My advice to you would be practice, practice, practice! Also have either of you tried switching condoms after he climaxes to keep going?? We found that helps quite a bit when I am in the mood for hard sex, because he can keep going and sometimes that extra minute or two will do it for me. That way he can continue the hard and fast motion for a longer period of time. (I still usually need him to touch my clit for a bit during the action to finally come)


Just recently, for about the last month or so, our sex has been really great and I come almost every time. If we haven’t done the deed in awhile…he tends to come quickly, so we decided that the best way for the first time is either missionary or me on top, going really really slowly. Little did we know that this would unlock the secret to making my orgasms more consistent. In both positions there is grinding on my clit and the slow penetration is a good tease to hold off his orgasm.

We added little variations to these positions that finally helped me past the problem of almost climaxing and then not. I feel like most of my orgasm comes from the penetration, but I just need the extra clit action to finally push over the edge. I also enjoy it more and he lasts longer if we start out slow, until I am about to go over the edge and then we finish fast and hard.

1) Missionary….but the CAT position style. This is the coital alignment technicque…were he positions himself up higher ( elbows by my ears) so his public bone rubs my clit. Then he rocks up and down to start instead of in and out…which excites me and holds off his orgasm longer. When I am ready, he then starts rapid in and outs, but twists his hips side to side with the motion to still hit part of my clit.

2) Woman on Top. Alright I’ve always loved this, but I liked it best in a chair or with him siting up so I get the clit action too, but usually I wouldn’t go over the edge to climax even though I always felt like I would. But, one day it worked! I was slow grinding and getting really excited, while he was flat on his back and wanted to “help.” So I started moving up and down hard and he moved side to side with my rythem. It drove me crazy and we came at the same time, which was really, really powerful to me because it was the first time that has ever happened.

If I don’t come, I make sure he finishes me off with his hand or mouth….he used to not do that after he came….and I know that used to really upset me in the back of my mind and created some underlying problems that we recently discussed and fixed.

I hope this helps!!!

[dani837]

dani- yes that has happened to me, it's really not Crinoboy's fault, either, he always tries to "hold it" but sometimes he just can't.

I was going to post this in "the mysterious O" but it seems to have disappeared.

I can't come from penetration. I would LOVE to. I can barely come from clit stimulation when the boy does it (he gets too rough and he gets very annoyed when I pull his hand away or tell him to stop)
I have felt like I COULD come before from penetration but it is only when we're going really, really hard and fast (I seem to really enjoy the jackhammer to the cervix sensation, it's like I have another G spot back there) G spot stim. alone is good too. The problem is that I get really, extremely close to coming, but just can't seem to push over the edge. Also, Crinoboy just can't maintain really hard and fast without coming himself.
Anyway, I was wondering if anyone has ever experienced or, hopefully, overcome this? I just can't seem to "get" it.

Yep that's me too! It suckss! I feel like slapping him and telling him it's all his fault

[bunnyb]

hey, can anyone help? (I've cross-posted in OBOH to double chance of response). I've just noticed that my nipples (erect or not) look bruised, they're purple/pink like a fresh bruise but they're not sore. I've just finished my period and know that it's not happened during sex. I'm rather freaked out - wtf is wrong?

[theredhead]

re: the "other" G-Spot:

http://www.a-womans-touch.com/article/33/1..._Technique.html

[cami]

(I seem to really enjoy the jackhammer to the cervix sensation, it's like I have another G spot back there)

I enjoy this too when I am on top, but then I am grinding my clit against him, too. It hits near the back of the cervix, the cul de sac I think, and it feels great. It sucks that it has a tendency to make him come too fast too. I slow down, change rhythms. I thought using a cock ring would help with that, but haven't tried this yet. Anyway, it's the easiest way for me to come as my new boy isn't as big as previous ones.

[olhakadirf]

I wonder if p 176 has shone a little light on the subject of penetration and clitoral Orgasms, maybe bigger isn't better, but maybe it's different, and of course all of us lovely ladies are shaped and sized differently, so maybe the size, of both partners makes a difference

I have to say though I think it's all in our emotions and how we feel and think during the act, the one time I had one from penetration it was a really really emotional moment and it was kind of like "it's okay, I am here" kind of sex on his part and before I knew it I had one, but it wasn't nearly as strong as my normal ones are

I would love to have "jackhammer to the cervix" sex and actually get off instead of having to add clit duty in there.

[crinoline]

dani- yes that has happened to me, it's really not Crinoboy's fault, either, he always tries to "hold it" but sometimes he just can't.

I was going to post this in "the mysterious O" but it seems to have disappeared.

I can't come from penetration. I would LOVE to. I can barely come from clit stimulation when the boy does it (he gets too rough and he gets very annoyed when I pull his hand away or tell him to stop)
I have felt like I COULD come before from penetration but it is only when we're going really, really hard and fast (I seem to really enjoy the jackhammer to the cervix sensation, it's like I have another G spot back there) G spot stim. alone is good too. The problem is that I get really, extremely close to coming, but just can't seem to push over the edge. Also, Crinoboy just can't maintain really hard and fast without coming himself.
Anyway, I was wondering if anyone has ever experienced or, hopefully, overcome this? I just can't seem to "get" it.

[dani837]

yeah, finally someone to back me up! i was starting to think i was the freaky one! now that could never be...

Lol me too me too! Last time I ALMOST had an orgasm(with penetration) but he was like "im gonna come!" and i was like "NO WAIT DAMNIT" but he couldn't hold it I was so close my legs were trembling for like 5 minutes after we stopped(has this happened to someone before?)

[pepper]

pro.cras.tin.a.ting.

ah, that's my favourite thing to do, by far!

[tatiana]

Thanks erinjane! VenusEnvy has the cheapest pricest yet (for what I'm looking for). I knew there was a reason I was procrastinating. :-)

[erinjane]

Yikes, re:paying duty. I got a bunch of stuff and this time duty came to $24!! That's never happened. So just a warning.

And Tatiana, to your original question, i just got some sex toy care resources at the women's centre where I work and they also recommend (besides womyn's ware) www.comeasyouare.com, www.goodforher.com, and www.venusenvy.ca.

[p_176]

usually it requires both clit and penetration...but my new guy is large enough that penetration alone is enough....we broke his damn bed;0)
sometimes the clit gets too sensitive so it almost hurts if the guy is touching you and you're about to orgasm....makes sense to me to push his hand away!

[pepper]

yeah, finally someone to back me up! i was starting to think i was the freaky one! now that could never be...

[bunnyb]

dr pepper, as always, I'm with you.

I find my body works in mysterious ways: I was very lucky once to experience female ejaculation and it was amazing, but no matter how hard we try to recreate the moment it just hasn't happened again. However that's slightly o/t.

[sybarite]

Sorry pepper, I too am someone who has repeatedly moved the hand away from the clit. Back in the day, before the longterm mister, people used to be chagrined: they had gone to all the trouble of locating it, and then I push them away!

Penetration has always been my preferred route.