[repletewithyou]

So, there's this boy. He is a very dear friend and I've known him for years and years and last summer we fell in love. He goes to school about a thousand miles away and he didn't want to try a long distance relationship. We got back together over winter break and had sex (both of our first time); he is one of the most genuine and gentle and smart and adoring people I have ever known. BUT we talked the other day and he says he "doesn't tend to think about people much when he can't see them." I think about him all the time and it makes me sad to think he doesn't think about me.

We talked tentatively about getting back together this summer. I hate it when girls care more about their guys than their guys care about them. I don't know whether he really doesn't care about me anymore or if he is just a dumb boy with a bad memory. I'll be seeing him soon and I don't know what to do.

[john]

Lucizoe,
Thank you for telling me that. Intro posted.

Jazmyn,
It will freak some guys out. Those men who do not accept your requirements are not ones who want a committed relationship, anyway. You are both protecting your health and weeding out those men who do not meet your relationship requirements. Good job!

Pow, Pepper, Maddy 29, Katiebelle2882,
I really did not mean to offend with that comment about “an open receptacle . . .” but was trying to illustrate the point that anyone on the receiving end of penis in any orifice is more likely to contract a virus or bacteria than the person the penis is attached to. Since Jazmyn is talking about vaginal intercourse and HIV transmission, I was trying to point out, and obviously did so inelegantly, that the vaginal wall is thin enough to allow absorption into the bloodstream of viruses or bacteria present in his semen, and the surface area is great enough to allow ample opportunity. This is without any breaks or tears in the skin in either partner, no matter how miniscule. While viruses and bacteria are present in vaginal secretions, the penile opening presents less opportunity for absorption, though it certainly and obviously happens.

No, there is no way I was advocating sex without condoms, especially with a new partner. Condoms break however, even with proper use. Both partners need to be sexually responsible and get tested every six months to protect themselves.

And Pow, “I hear your open receptacles and raise you a penile disease vector,” that’s hysterically funny! Yes, the penis is a vector, that's what I was trying to point out.