[repletewithyou]

So, there's this boy. He is a very dear friend and I've known him for years and years and last summer we fell in love. He goes to school about a thousand miles away and he didn't want to try a long distance relationship. We got back together over winter break and had sex (both of our first time); he is one of the most genuine and gentle and smart and adoring people I have ever known. BUT we talked the other day and he says he "doesn't tend to think about people much when he can't see them." I think about him all the time and it makes me sad to think he doesn't think about me.

We talked tentatively about getting back together this summer. I hate it when girls care more about their guys than their guys care about them. I don't know whether he really doesn't care about me anymore or if he is just a dumb boy with a bad memory. I'll be seeing him soon and I don't know what to do.

[karma77]

Saktii, I was recently battling with the same dilemma. My boyfriend of 5 months and I spend an incredible amount of time together at my house (like 5 nights a week on average), yet he has his own apartment. We have both talked about wanting to find roommates lately, but it occured to me that we could live together and forget the idea of roommates.

I was a bit nervous about bringing the idea up this soon, but when I did last week, he told me he had been thinking of the same, but was waiting for me to suggest it (as it is my house we will live in). We both agreed that we feel we know each other very well, and that we are ready for the next step. He is probably moving in within the next month or two, and we are both very happy!

I think the best advice is to gage it according to how you feel about the relationship, and be clear on your intentions and reasons for living together. I was clear with my bf that I don't want to look at this like a temporary roommate situation, but as a deeper committment in our relationship. If it's more of a financial / convenience reason, that's a good reason too, but I think that no matter what, both parties need to be clear. I learned the hard way about that a couple years ago. Good luck!