[repletewithyou]

So, there's this boy. He is a very dear friend and I've known him for years and years and last summer we fell in love. He goes to school about a thousand miles away and he didn't want to try a long distance relationship. We got back together over winter break and had sex (both of our first time); he is one of the most genuine and gentle and smart and adoring people I have ever known. BUT we talked the other day and he says he "doesn't tend to think about people much when he can't see them." I think about him all the time and it makes me sad to think he doesn't think about me.

We talked tentatively about getting back together this summer. I hate it when girls care more about their guys than their guys care about them. I don't know whether he really doesn't care about me anymore or if he is just a dumb boy with a bad memory. I'll be seeing him soon and I don't know what to do.

[jazmyn13]

hey all...

sweetnlow, and ladies, I think that it is never ever a good idea to lie about how you are feeling. When you tell your bf that everything is "fine" that you're not mad, when you are - you're lying to him! If you tell him that everything is fine, he's going to think okay, everything is fine. Which will make it even more frustrating and confusing for him when you finally blow up at him, hours or days later.

communicate communicate. it's not fair to him or to yourself to do anything else. He's not a mind reader, you didn't say you wanted to hang out longer. You could have gone out with them, but you chose not to ask if that was an option. I used to do all this to my ex-bf and it drove him crazy (rightfully). I found that the best thing to say when he asks if you're alright and you're trying to figure out if you should really be upset about something is "I'm not sure, I'm trying to figure out how I'm feeling". That's at least honest.