[konphusion26]

AP, that sounds all kinds of creepy. Polly, I thought I was the only one that hated the word "pussy".

cob: **probably not a big deal to anyone** but my partially fried (sporadically straight) afro!! The stylist that straightened my hair has ruined it. I'm soooo pissed. Didn't realize it till I washed it and it didn't curl back up. Now I'm channeling Buckwheat from Li'l Rascals. I want to shave my head. AGAIN.

ETA: major cob, this f***** new Playstation 3 my husband just bought. When I want to go to a nice dinner or go on a trip, "he's broke" or "he's got bills". If I tallied up the console, accessories and new internet router he bought for this thing, we could have taken that money & gone on a nice weekend getaway. Selfish azz. And believe me when I say, he spends more time playing that than anything else.

[pollystyrene]

I'm not a fan of either form of the word, AP. I feel the same way about "pussy". It just has this creepy, pedophile vibe to me, and I didn't even go through a similar experience to you. Creepy.

[auralpoison]

The word "titties". I don't mind "tits" & in fact, use the term frequently. But "titties" is just gross.

I think my loathing of the word stems from an incident when I was twelve & this nasty, creepy, scary, bony, pallid, grey-skinned old man fell in step with me as I was walking my dog. He made me immediately uncomfortable & that feeling grew as he kept repeatedly assuring me he wasn't going to hurt me. He made small talk with me about my dog before he offered me "five dollars to play with [my] titties". His voice was very raspy & I thought he said something about "kitties" & told him I knew nothing of cats. He repeated himself, I got the gist of it that time. I told him he was a nasty man, I knew where he lived & I was going to tell my grandad on him. I never did, though. I felt ashamed.

[girltrouble]

since fucking when does the show "kendra" merit limited commercial interruptions? seriously.

.....then again, if i'm watching kendra, one more commercial might be all that it takes to make me realize it's time to top myself off.

[humanist77]

those paranoid assholes on the bus or train who sit in the aisle seat when there's no one next to them in the wall-seat, just so no one can sit next to them-essentially taking up two seats. Even bigger assholes if they do this during rush hour

[missladyj]

cob: showing up an hour late for an interview, not wearing a tie , then being unable to answer a question about your educational philosophy. I hope you realize that I can say no . The lateness alone disqualified you from being my student teacher.

[lilacwine13]

I am with you all on the fear vibe. I've had several people be amazed that I travel on my own because it isn't safe, they're amazed that I walk around at night alone and they don't understand why I'm not afraid. It's because I know what I'm doing and I know that I'm more likely to be hurt by a friend than a stranger. Also, I have just as much a right to be out on the streets as anyone else, so chill.

Cob: Being broke.

[doodlebug]

cob: 4:20 PM (Four-freakin'-twenty, my lord!!!) on Friday, the boss asks us all to stay late past 5:00, because some computer glitch that got mailed out means we have to telephone 160 customers to alert them about this stupid thing which, honestly, could have waited until Monday morning, for fuck's sake.

I said no, I wouldn't do it. I mean, cripes, I already pledged myself to help my drummer move house at 5:30, but I would have found an excuse anyway. Honest to god.

cob: it's the LOTTERIES. NO ONE IS GOING TO DIE IF SOMETHING LIES DORMANT OVER THE FUCKING WEEKEND!!!!!!! Honest to god, people, stop taking yourselves so fucking seriously!

[grrrlyouwant]

cob: leaving a message on my voicemail does not constitute "having plans". i'm sorry you "drove all the way out here for nothing", but i didn't invite you, and i've got my own plans for the day which do not include you.

[auralpoison]

TESTIFY!

[girl_logic]

Speak it sister, speak! It's not just walking around either, it's like, everything. Type of job you choose to take, people you talk to, what you put in your body, there are danger signs everywhere directed primarily at women. Only children outnumber us when it comes to being dealt cautions and warnings.

[doodlebug]

cob: I am SOOOOO sick of people using the fear vibe to keep women under control. Like, "Oh my god, how can you walk around at that time of night/on that road/in that neighbourhood? It's so unsafe! I would NEVER do that, you should NEVER do that!"

STOP INFLICTING YOUR FEAR VIBE ON ME! I am taking back the fucking night all on my own. I refuse to be afraid, and people who try to MAKE women afraid are using fear as a method of fucking social control. Keep us feeling unsafe, and we will be unsafe. Keep us feeling unsafe, and we will never have equal access to our communities. It shouldn't fucking matter what time of day I'm walking around in, nor what neighbourhood.....I have the right to be safe, to feel safe, and to insist on my safety. To expect ME to be the one to stay shut away indoors.....how does that make my community a safer place for me?

Not to mention that one little fact no one ever wants to admit: a woman has a MUCH greater chance of being attacked by someone she KNOWS, rather than some stranger who might jump her from a damned alley.

And not to mention that it doesn't matter WHAT fucking time of day it is, WHAT road you are on, or WHAT neighbourhood you are in - violence knows no boundaries or borders.

Come on women, stand up with me. Stop being afraid! And stop trying to drag the rest of us down into your little pit of fear!

[girltrouble]

*sigh* i have had a gut full of these politicians who act like the detainees at git'mo are practically the boogie man. dude. it we can handle some asshole who killed 20 people, or charles manson, what makes you think the country will crack at the seams if we let them on our soil. they act like they are some crazed hypnotist who, upon meeting a red blooded american will infect them with the terrorist disease. for fucksake, it's not like they are freddie kruger, and can invade our dreams. they are human beings. THEY DON'T EVEN SPEAK THE LANGUAGE!!!! take your head out of your ass.

and obama you are the worst. as a legal prof, you should know better that to want to detain people without charge indefinitely. i think i'm sick of you most. you talk about the rule of law, but you keep bending it for political expediency. when the shit comes down, it will be on your head, the blood on your hands.

[culturehandy]

HA! AP, I was going to come in here and say how much London Escorts pisses me off.

[auralpoison]

Netochka annoys me. What use do we have for escorts? I've never paid for sex, I'm not gonna start now.

[Christine Nectar...]

COB: being made to listen to David Lee Roth after waiting on hold for 45 minutes. (at least it was only 4 out of the 45, but the other 41 were only slightly less grating!) i hate calling government agencies.

[p_176]

when i used to date the older guy (25 years older), we went to a party once, and one of his friends physically cornered us, like how old are you?? so we lied, and made it like there was only a 15 year difference. how this was better, i'm not sure, but it shut her up. i really wanted to say it was none of her business.

[doodlebug]

Yeah, CH and AP - it's fucking frustrating! And this last one - I went to this coffee house gig Saturday - we were the feature act. Lots of older folks there. Had my arm around the back of Soulman's chair while we waited for the open mike to start. This lady, about Soulman's age, just cut that slit-eyed look, like....staring. And all I could think was, "Fuck you. Whatever assumption you're making is gonna be cut to shreds when I get up and sing."

And sure enough, she was practically slobbering at me afterwards. Like, I had to PROVE that I could be something more than some grey-haired guy's mid-life crisis before she could actually accept me as a human being.

[JennaFabulous!]

cob: women who hate women for being women
i'm at this staged reading of a feminist piece and one of my fellow actors/good friends begins ranting about how much she hates women and the fact that they want equal rights in the workplace. she says that women are built differently from men and are just not capable of the same type of work; therefore, they do not deserve the opportunity to strive for equitable treatment in the workplace. now, i've dealt with her warped logic before and have learned that she can't construct a solid argument. however, another actor leans across me and verbally assaults this girl, giving her the best vocal bitch-slap i've ever heard, which essentially boils down to the idea that her negative assumptions about her sex are the result of shortsighted individuals such as herself who are too afraid to take pride in who and what they are. kudos, ladies of the world, who believe in who you are, not in spite of, but because the sex with which you were born.

[culturehandy]

I'm going to step in and third this. I attract who I attract, I don't go out there thinking I'm going to steal every last available man in his 30's and 40's. If I like someone I like them, not my fault.

But I agree, the poison dart looks you get from some people. Sheesh. Maybe if you didn't walk around looking like you've had sour grapes all the time, you too could have a companion!