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 Apr 28 2006, 03:21 AM
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I'm going to a candle lighting ceremony next week for victims of DV. I'm a little scared. Therapy has been better but more difficult. I'm making progress but some days I just want to hide.
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Jul 26 2006, 10:35 AM
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 Tink's Red headed Step Sis Posts: 1,810 From: oklahoma |
I personally think it is harder to be raped or abused by someone you know or love. Especially when it comes to getting people to validate your feelings. Someone on the outside just doesn't see everything that goes on. When I was going through my divorce I had a protective order against my ex. His lawyer made some dismissive comment one day in a meeting about how annoying it was to have to work around the protective order. I said, well it probably isn't half as annoying as being attacked and abused in my own home! Sh eshot back with, you weren't attacked. I looked her dead in the eye, and said, "really? Were you there? I don't remember seeing you as I was wrenching a gun out of his hand!" My lawyer almost keeled over trying not to laugh at the look on her face after that! It sure shut her dumbass up! But she's paid to defend him. A lot of friends thought I was blowing things out of proportion and "he wouldn't really hurt you" I'm sorry, but I wrenched a gun out of his hand, he threatened my life and teh life of someone else I care about to force me into the car to go somewhere. He was very suicidal and I firmly believe that at one point he planned to kill me and then kill himself.
-------------------- ~May the Fleas of one thousand camels infest the crotch of any person who messes up your day, and may their arms be too short to scratch!~
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Is there any type of hypn... Jul 26 2006, 09:57 AM maddy29 um, you were in shock? that's why you didn... Jul 26 2006, 10:06 AM cstars124 We were in an argument at his apartment and for so... Jul 26 2006, 10:28 AM maddy29 also, friends that don't believe you aren... Jul 26 2006, 10:56 AM cstars124 I don't think it's a crazy idea. I've ... Jul 26 2006, 11:09 AM maddy29 now i've got myself all riled up. i happened ... Jul 26 2006, 02:09 PM erinjane cstars, I deal a lot with the 'why didn't ... Jul 26 2006, 02:28 PM maddy29 such a great point EJ! although i imagine a l... Jul 26 2006, 04:22 PM pixiedust Don't ever think yourself crazy maddy. I have... Jul 26 2006, 04:33 PM maddy29 thanks pixie :) it's true, i was like 7 when ... Jul 27 2006, 08:31 AM kittenb A few weeks ago I was speaking in front of several... Jul 31 2006, 07:31 AM maddy29 Ok kittenb, i'll mention it-FMSF :) Yep, I ch... Jul 31 2006, 09:19 AM kittenb The DNA backlog is still a problem. The funding ju... Jul 31 2006, 09:40 AM gumby_cc Sorry to just jump in. I'm a long time lurker ... Aug 1 2006, 09:28 PM maddy29 oh gumby, i'm SO sorry. that's totally su... Aug 2 2006, 09:57 AM kittenb gumby_cc that's a horrible position to be put ... Aug 2 2006, 11:20 AM gumby_cc maddy, i can't even imagine standing in front ... Aug 2 2006, 06:59 PM ananke A very very eeerily similar thing happened to me.
... Aug 3 2006, 04:16 AM maddy29 yeah, the truth is, you're right to be afraid ... Aug 3 2006, 07:10 AM cstars124 gumby, I was raped by someone i was dating too. An... Aug 3 2006, 08:17 AM maddy29 it's interesting how many of us were hurt by p... Aug 3 2006, 08:27 AM cstars124 hey maddy, did you ever go to the police or anythi... Aug 3 2006, 09:42 AM maddy29 there's a statue of limitations, for people wi... Aug 3 2006, 11:37 AM kittenb Having worked at an HMO for 18 months, I can say r... Aug 3 2006, 11:50 AM cstars124 I'm sorry. Unfortunately, I think there's ... Aug 3 2006, 11:51 AM maddy29 yeah, i mean i'm supposed to sit there in cour... Aug 3 2006, 12:13 PM gumby_cc haaha, well, my other therapist thinks I have PTSD... Aug 4 2006, 04:15 AM cstars124 I have a question for everybody.
Has anyone actua... Aug 4 2006, 06:31 AM maddy29 verbally? yikes, that's fucking scary. i did ... Aug 4 2006, 08:11 AM cstars124 I don't think you're a crazy big liar, mad... Aug 4 2006, 08:53 AM maddy29 oh my god cstars. ok, i have a MUCH better underst... Aug 4 2006, 01:50 PM cstars124 Well, i'm sure if I told my parents, they woul... Aug 4 2006, 02:42 PM maddy29 cstars-how old are you? that sucks that your sist... Aug 4 2006, 04:05 PM cstars124 I'm 22.
My parents would definitely help me ... Aug 4 2006, 05:32 PM maddy29 yeah, i kinda know what you mean. if you put it ou... Aug 4 2006, 07:31 PM erinjane I've never confronted my rapist verbally eithe... Aug 4 2006, 09:29 PM gumby_cc Maddy, I can't imagine how difficult it must h... Aug 6 2006, 05:49 AM kittenb I remember when I was in my first group therapy ti... Aug 6 2006, 07:46 AM treehugger Hi. So I'm just popping in. Maybe to introdu... Aug 6 2006, 05:09 PM kittenb Welcome, treehugger! Thanks for the mojitos.
... Aug 7 2006, 08:46 AM ananke I have been insanely furious this week. Just const... Aug 8 2006, 02:00 AM datagirl For the umpteenth time I am so grateful for this t... Aug 8 2006, 08:43 PM catwomyn Oh man. That is so sad what happened to your famil... Aug 9 2006, 09:42 AM
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I hope Treehugger is still here too, and feels l... Aug 15 2006, 03:10 PM datagirl Thankyou Catwomyn,
Hugs to all survivers here.
... Aug 9 2006, 06:07 PM kittenb At the risk of sounding melodramatic, realizing th... Aug 10 2006, 12:09 PM datagirl I have no idea how myself or any of the other surv... Aug 10 2006, 05:36 PM maddy29 omg datagirl-i've been on vacation for the wee... Aug 15 2006, 12:51 PM maddy29 hey datagirl-how are you holding up? just checki... Aug 23 2006, 11:55 AM ananke BREAK THROUGH!
For the first time since I was... Aug 25 2006, 01:59 AM cstars124 Yay, ananke! That's awesome. Congrats... Aug 25 2006, 06:49 AM kittenb cstars124 - at the risk of sounded like a cliched ... Aug 25 2006, 09:58 PM hummingbird I have come to accept that a lot of my feelings do... Aug 27 2006, 05:19 AM erinjane I'm feeling really angry lately. I just did m... Aug 27 2006, 09:41 PM maddy29 wtf? forgive him? why? maybe if he changes his lif... Aug 28 2006, 11:16 AM erinjane I know. On other message boards I've seen peo... Aug 28 2006, 02:21 PM datagirl Hugs to all survivors(((())))))
I've been her... Aug 28 2006, 08:36 PM maddy29 erinjane, that makes me feel so sad. all of us ar... Aug 29 2006, 08:58 AM hummingbird erinjane, I go through periods where I am so ragef... Aug 30 2006, 07:43 AM erinjane I love this thread. :)
Just wanted to say though,... Aug 30 2006, 09:46 AM deschatsrouge delurk:
My rape counselor never told me to forgiv... Aug 30 2006, 10:25 AM kittenb maddy - reporting times will depend on the statute... Sep 3 2006, 12:44 AM kittenb I repeat, my anger is the ONE thing that I get to ... Sep 3 2006, 11:48 AM erinjane Could someone tell me how to ignore? I haven... Sep 3 2006, 12:40 PM kittenb I WANT TO BE ABLE TO IGNORE CERTAIN POSTERS
You ca... Sep 3 2006, 12:51 PM kittenb Okay, it really does work, although I still get no... Sep 3 2006, 12:54 PM |
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