[renastarlight9]

IM wondering about the look of my vagina...can it be okay to have lots of labia minora

[strongirl]

Both labiaplasty and circumcision make me unspeakably depressed. Why we as humans cannot revere the organs we came from in their pure and unadulterated form is beyond me.

For those of you with large labia (like me), there are tons of guys out there who love that. Don't let some immature wankers who have more experience with porn than the real thing tell you otherwise. One of my bf's favorite things to do is pull my labia and stretch them out with his teeth or lips. The first time I thought "OMG, don't do that, you'll stretch them out even worse". But I wisely kept my mouth shut. Now I enjoy it...and he still does it and loves it. One of the many things I have to thank him for.

When I was pregnant and learned it was a boy, I researched circumcision. I implore any of you who are considering having kids to do likewise. Those of you familiar with my posts know I can see both sides of most issues, and believe me, the sides are very polarized and passionate on this one. But no way can I see it. I am strongly convinced that it is very wrong, it is mutilation, and it damages men's sexuality. I've actually wondered how much of men's rage and sexual violence stems from this early abuse. I'm so glad we did not circumcise my son! The doctor who circumsized my bf did not believe in it (this was 50 years ago, mind you). So he took just a tiny bit off the tip and bf does not look circumsized. He's grateful to that guy to this day! And so am I! I love the way it looks and feels.

Karategrrl, don't feel bad about your reaction. I think we accept and come to prefer what we are exposed to. But I do think it is a profound lesson for all of us in that dynamic - it is the exact same dynamic that causes guys to expect and like labialess, airbrushed, implanted women. They are fed it by media, sure...but they're not tracking on that when they're like 13, 14 and sneaking peeks at porn. They get trained to like that stuff just like you (and many American women) are trained to like foreskinless dick. It is on us all to step back and question our assumptions and preferences and ask how they might be harmful. Good for you for doing just that.

[pepper]

Both labiaplasty and circumcision make me unspeakably depressed. Why we as humans cannot revere the organs we came from in their pure and unadulterated form is beyond me.

Oh, well, for the same reason that we are so strongly discouraged from seeing pregnancy, childbirth, nursing and childrearing as a natural and healthy extention of our sexuality and from experiencing our sexuality as an intergral part of being a balanced and content human being. If we own it ourselves, what money is there to be made by big business at our expense, eh? There is one reason and one reason only to make people, women and men, dissatisfied with themselves and each other, it is for profit. Seeing through that doesn't change much but there is a certainly liberty to knowing the truth.

[enfermera]

There is one reason and one reason only to make people, women and men, dissatisfied with themselves and each other, it is for profit.

just thought that bore emphatic repeating. thanks, pepper.