[sweetn_low]

ok...i *lost my virginity* last thursday nite (and by that i mean penetrative sex involving a penis). and it was fun and enjoyable. it did hurt alittle trying to get past the fleshy outter lips, but now i've figured out how to avoid that. other than that...it was fun, like i said. no fireworks though, no orgasims (i didn't expect any). no big deal.

i almost feel cheated that i didn't bleed all over the bed or suffer the pain of the loss, b/c i was so prepared for all that shit to happen. ok...i *almost* feel cheated. lol. i'm glad of course that i find it comfortable and enjoyable. but i don't feel any different about myself or anything else. why is sex built up so much and carry a stigma? it's just natural...not like the end all be all of existance fun but it's just...nice, i guess.

i wasn't really expecting this...

[erinjane]

Eleanor, just wanted to give another shout out for Scarleteen. When I was in my mid-teens I visited that site every day and was even a mod for a while. I'm really glad I had access to all that info before I had a sex and I don't feel like I had ANY unreal expectations when I did finally start having sex.

I agree with what others said about getting to know your own body. You don't even need to buy toys. Even if you don't find masturbation enjoyable, just exploring your own body can help you answer a lot of questions and will help you figure out what you might like during sex. (FYI, my favourite 'sex toy' is the bathtub fawcet...I just lay underneath and let it do it's job) .