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genghis cunt
post Dec 19 2010, 07:15 PM
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My breasts are not exactly saggy. They are just weird. I'm a plus size chick, so my breasts are more fat than breast tissue. I have side boob, and my nipples point down and out. I guess I'm ready to feed a baby.

I was always super awkward about it, and that's when I was a little smaller and they looked better. Compared to porn stars and lingerie models, my boobs are ugly. But good news! I don't have to get naked for a living! And you really can't be embarassed about your body when you like to do the crazy stuff I'm into. At some point, you have to say, this is me, take it or leave it.

Good shortcut, though, is to wear a bra during sex. A sheer fabric cup or something lacy will help you feel pretty, and leaving something on is sexy to me. Plus, it's a good handle for your partner.

I grew up hearing how ugly I am. I'm 26 with stretch marks, body hair, rackne, scars, lots of moles, and lots of "smush." But it's me. If the sex is good enough, he shouldn't be noticing anyways.
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sweetcharms
post Dec 19 2010, 04:01 PM
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ok guys i feel a little out of place posting here but maybe someone has some words of wisdom for me ^^

i posted a longer intro in the intros thread so i'll try to keep it shorter here. // i dont exactly have large breasts, actually im real petite with about c cup i guess...

but. when i was pregnant i had to use a breast pump for a long time and my breasts got totally stretched out, like to my belly button. reeeeeeeeally really bad.

so. they are not exactly large they are just, floopy. // VERYYYY floopy. they get in my way continually and i have to hold myself still with my hands if i even want to go faster than a walk and stuff, it drives me nuts.

and, its very new to me... i am used to being kinda petite and i feel all wrong.

so now im in my first real hot sexual relationship in ten years, and boy can i use it. im with a super hottie and super sweetie and really having a good time. BUT MY BREASTS ARE DRIVING ME CRAZY.

and of course, my lover is a total breast man, just by coincidence. im quite surprised what a problem its being, not really for him, he says its no big deal and i think he means it, but....

im having a super hard time being sexual this way.. they flop around and make awkward noises and get it my way and aren't very sensitive, and they are NOT SEXY. they are just not sexy. i want to be sexy with them for him and for me, and do all the stuff im used to doing, and im just not finding myself able to pull it off. //

maybe even if they were just really large, at least i could feel voluptuous, but they are not, they are like empty water balloons!! i do not feel voluptuous! i do not feel delicoius! i do not feel sexy.

and i seriously dont know how to get that back. i try just wearing a bra during sex, but, you know. but there is no skin contact.. i want him to be able to suck on em and all that!! i want him to enjoy me that way, i enjoy that, and i miss that a lot. and its really just not all working very well. i want him to do all that stuff, but i dont feel tempting in those ways and i dont know how to be that anymore.

help.. ANYONE? how do you feel sexy with your breasts if they are on the larger side and stuff to the point where they get in your way? what do you during sex to make yourself feel sexy? how do you keep them out of your way? can you be in all the positions you like? do you wear clothes during sex to hold yourself still? do you have problems with them not being very sensitive, and how do you deal with that?

im talking it through with him right now and can use perspective. i really want to tell him, i want him to want me you know, i want him to want me that way, and enjoy me that way.. i personally like that, it feels physically and emotionally good to me and i want that stuff.. and i can feel he wants it too.. but i can't really blame him for not being turned on, by something that isn't really a turn on....... he might truly love me, but that doesn't make him be turned on by something that, really isn't much of a turn on // what do you guys think of this?

any perspective would be totally great as we are working through this right now. by the way the rest of our sex life is out of this world. he is very turned on by me in other ways and we have great sex. i just want him to do more stuff with my breasts too and i dont feel super tempting there.

im going to also post in the general sex thread too.
thanks all so much.
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bekiboo
post Dec 16 2010, 04:17 PM
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QUOTE(ketto @ Dec 16 2010, 02:44 PM) *
Hey Bekiboo,

I'm 4'11, 115lbs and I wear a 30E. Honestly, if you can find a bit of extra money then shell it out for something that will fit properly and give you real support. I'm in Canada and have only been to a Victoria's Secret once and found they didn't know how to size and none of what they carried had good support. I can't speak for other US stores though.

In my city, I looked up specialty lingerie shops in the yellowpages and now I have one committed place I shop at. It's a very professional shop where women will come into the room to figure out exactly what fit you need. I usually spend at least $100 on a bra, but I usually only buy at most 2 a year unless there's a sale. I have a brand and style of choice and I believe I'm now on my 6th bra in that style. It's sooooo comfortable, sits exactly where it should, and isn't pokey, scratchy, or uncomfortable in any way and it's a nice, smooth, black sexy one too. Over the years I've collected some lacey ones as well, but I usually only wear them for special occasions because they're not as comfortable as my black ones.

I'm 25 but I first started shopping there when I was 19 and I would never go back to the cheap bras they sell at most places in the mall. I now have a lot of back, neck, and shoulder issues so having good support is #1 for me, even if it is a bit pricier.


Thanks for the advise! I'm glad to have advise from someone who understands. laugh.gif
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ketto
post Dec 16 2010, 03:44 PM
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Hey Bekiboo,

I'm 4'11, 115lbs and I wear a 30E. Honestly, if you can find a bit of extra money then shell it out for something that will fit properly and give you real support. I'm in Canada and have only been to a Victoria's Secret once and found they didn't know how to size and none of what they carried had good support. I can't speak for other US stores though.

In my city, I looked up specialty lingerie shops in the yellowpages and now I have one committed place I shop at. It's a very professional shop where women will come into the room to figure out exactly what fit you need. I usually spend at least $100 on a bra, but I usually only buy at most 2 a year unless there's a sale. I have a brand and style of choice and I believe I'm now on my 6th bra in that style. It's sooooo comfortable, sits exactly where it should, and isn't pokey, scratchy, or uncomfortable in any way and it's a nice, smooth, black sexy one too. Over the years I've collected some lacey ones as well, but I usually only wear them for special occasions because they're not as comfortable as my black ones.

I'm 25 but I first started shopping there when I was 19 and I would never go back to the cheap bras they sell at most places in the mall. I now have a lot of back, neck, and shoulder issues so having good support is #1 for me, even if it is a bit pricier.


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bekiboo
post Dec 16 2010, 02:01 PM
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QUOTE(bekiboo @ Dec 16 2010, 11:27 AM) *
Hi girls,
I am a younger women, (but i wouldn't consider myself a teen.) I have a rather annoying bra size (32DD to 32E, depending on the brand, and style.) I recently was at Victoria Secret and found that they only carry one bra in my size, and it looked like something that my grandma would wear. I want to feel beautiful, and i want to have something new for my fiance to see. I also have a limited budget for bras, so i try to keep it under $60 dolars. Any suggestions?

Thanks,
Bekiboo


(P.S.) I am a very small frame, about 120 pounds, and i am only 5'4"
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bekiboo
post Dec 16 2010, 12:27 PM
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Hi girls,
I am a younger women, (but i wouldn't consider myself a teen.) I have a rather annoying bra size (32DD to 32E, depending on the brand, and style.) I recently was at Victoria Secret and found that they only carry one bra in my size, and it looked like something that my grandma would wear. I want to feel beautiful, and i want to have something new for my fiance to see. I also have a limited budget for bras, so i try to keep it under $60 dolars. Any suggestions?

Thanks,
Bekiboo
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auralpoison
post Dec 15 2010, 08:37 PM
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Did you maybe mean *boobie bump*? Hee! biggrin.gif


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genghis cunt
post Dec 12 2010, 03:28 PM
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*booty bump*
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auralpoison
post Dec 12 2010, 12:21 PM
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*bump*


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auralpoison
post Oct 28 2010, 03:20 AM
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That is pretty much my position on the matter.


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genghis cunt
post Oct 27 2010, 05:33 PM
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Thank you for the tips! But now they are sounding like a lot of work. Maybe I will just let my ass jiggle.
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auralpoison
post Oct 27 2010, 04:32 AM
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QUOTE(genghis cunt @ Oct 22 2010, 01:29 PM) *
I got a "body shaper" from Target that was supposed to smoothe out my tummy/hips/inner thighs so my clothes could look a little better. It was a 2X. I couldn't get it past my ass.


Okay, so OT advice.

You probably gave up too soon! If you can get a "body shaper" on properly in under thirty minutes without popping a major blood vessel/taking several five minute breaks, you're a fucking goddess.

Keep in mind that you have to work those things on from the bottom up: When we work them on we tend to pull from the top when all the extra stretch is in the thighs. It's also a good idea to work from the inside as well, placing your hands inside the garment & working them upwards. I would also advise putting on the shaper somewhere where you can lie down & having something nearby that you can put your foot up on like a chair to keep from having the dreaded crotch/thigh gapping.

Also, I am assuming you bought ASSETS by Sara Blakely (the cheaper, uglier sister of SPANX), yes? The sizing on shapers is different than clothing, so while you may wear a 2X clothing-wise, it does not mean you wear a 2X in ASSETS. You may have simply purchased the wrong size.

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post Oct 25 2010, 07:32 AM
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QUOTE(tatiana @ May 14 2006, 12:03 AM) *
Hey dustyrosekisses: go to bravissimo.com. They sell bathing suits and bikinis. They are a UK company but they ship to the US. I'm thinking of ordering from them, if I could figure out what size I am. I've been trying the bra size calculators and they are off by two sizes in either direction. Arrrrgh!


Thanks for the bravissimo.com tip!
I'm ordering as I type!
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genghis cunt
post Oct 22 2010, 12:29 PM
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My body issues have been overwhelming me since last night.

I got a "body shaper" from Target that was supposed to smoothe out my tummy/hips/inner thighs so my clothe could look a little better. It was a 2X. I couldn't get it past my ass.

I laid down to have a little mope but then move on, but my boyfriend sat down to try to make me feel better. He told me I am a "big beautiful woman." I immediately got my dinner out of my stomach. I had to leave work early today because I can't stop crying. I have been in denial over how I look, pretending I am happy with myself. But I am tired of being unable to find clothes and getting treated like I am invisible.

The confusing part is that I think women who are my size are hot. I respect all women, no matter the size, but skinny girls aren't for me. I'm unable to accept my body even though I like thick girls.

I know this has nothing to do with anything, I just needed to get this out.
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post Oct 11 2010, 08:50 AM
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eShakti will work with you, too. Everything I've ever gotten from them has been splendid & cut to my specific boobie needs.

I also like Ureshii. They do beautiful, soft, comfy CLASSY clothes & they will talk measurements with you, it may cost you a few extra bucks if you are also a plus sized gal.

I dunno if this makes me weird or what, but I don't really compare myself to other women nor do I rate my body parts. Sure, I could stand to lose a few, but at the end of the day I like me anyway I am. And anybody that's ever been with me has been with me because they liked me, not just *parts* of me. As many fucked up ideas as my dad put into my head, he also instilled in me a sense of confidence within myself that is innate & goddamn near constant. I guess I don't compare because I'm me, they are them & that ain't gonna change. *shrugs*

Last weekend I sat in a chair at McCarran & people watched for hours. It's amazing to me the remarkable number of shapes, sizes, & body types that we human beings come in. All circles & blobs & lines lumped together to make a person. Amazing.

Also, because it was Las Vegas, I saw more weird looking fake GIANT gazongas than you could shake a stick at. One woman in partick had had enough face work done so that she looked like she was smelling something awful & her poor boobs! She had the hard, round variety of implants & they rode really low on her frame. She wore a bra that was clearly not the right size, she was spilling out of said bra & you could see every bit because she was wearing a sheer turtleneck. And she was probably in her late fifties. I just kept wondering what she was gonna look like when she's seventy.

Saw a couple of wicked hair systems on some men; a guy with cotton candy hair, gold medallion necklace, ID bracelet & pinkie ring watched my bags for me while I got a water. He was wearing a green shirt with a big collar, too. It was awesome!


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post Oct 11 2010, 07:44 AM
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I wanted to share a link to a site that makes clothes specifically for women with larger breasts. This is an issue for me at work where I am not trying to show off my rack. The clothes are a little pricey and I would spend the money on it if I was presenting at a conference or something like that.

http://carissarose.com/

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post Oct 7 2010, 03:19 PM
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Exactly Persi! Why the hell do we women always feel the need to compensate and to make comparisons to other women. I've broken things down just the same way that you described and in the end I always lose. It's just not worth it. I'm trying really hard now to not get jealous of other women for having things that I don't and just to appreciate others' beauty not at the expense of my own. I have to admit that whenever I'm around beautiful, large-breasted women it always makes me feel insecure and like I'm a baby or something. I feel like they look so much more mature compared to me, my bf must be looking at them and wondering what went wrong with his gf, blah blah blah. It is all such bullshit. I wish there was an easy way to remedy this kind of thinking but I don't really think there is. I know that for myself I'm just going to try hard to recognize "ok, that woman has a nice rack or whatever" and leave out the "wow, compared to that woman I look completely pathetic" that I usually follow it up with. We really don't have to compensate for our supposed "inadequacies" and need to stop comparing ourselves to others.

And of course we don't owe men ANYTHING! We shouldn't feel ashamed of our bodies or feel this need to "compensate" for one body part with another because we feel like we owe someone. complete BS!
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post Oct 7 2010, 09:47 AM
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Further to conversation in small-booby thread....

Why do we think that we 'owe' anyone a certain level of physical attractiveness? That we have to tally our features and trade them off to get an acceptable score?

I've often had this train of thought....

Boo, she's so pretty! (+5 for her). Though she's wearing too much make-up (-1 for her). And amazing legs (+3 for her). But I've got much better breasts (+6 for me)... shit, I lose! Better switch to a low-cut top.

And I've often 'comforted' friends with.... "But you've got great boobs/legs/hair!" (if they're fat/large-breasted/I'm really short of other compliments).

Bugger this. My short, pudgy legs aren't compensated for by my boobs - they're fine as they are! I don't owe anyone good legs! And I don't have to get a better haircut to make up for having let my stomach get squishy because the beauty bailiff is not going to break down my door to collect on the debt I owe the world! THE WORLD WILL GET ALONG FINE! THERE WILL NOT BE A BEAUTY DEFICIT!

*goes for a quiet sit-down to calm down*


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post Sep 10 2010, 07:29 PM
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I don't know if anybody else has been watching the Sheyla Hershey debacle, but I've been reading about it since June: World's Largest Implants Removed. Honestly, I've just been waiting to see how long before the complications started to kill this woman because it was inevitable. Seriously. The human body is just not built to sustain that level of physical trauma.



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post Aug 12 2010, 10:48 AM
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It's interesting that you like the molded cups, tampon. I've never been able to wear them. They make me look totally ridiculous and sit in the wrong spot. I keep trying to buy different bras but I'm totally stuck on this plain black Fantasie one. No molded cups, just simple, black, good coverage, amazing support, and oh-so-comfortable.

I'd really like to have a couple of plunge style ones or something a little sexier but I'm still having a lot of trouble finding things that aren't 'full coverage' here and I NEED to try them on before buying.c

Glad to hear things are more managable for you, tampon. I never lose or gain any breast weight. I remember in high school complaining about a sore back once and someone said, "Couldn't you just lose some weight?" Besides being totally insulting it definitely doesn't work that way for everyone.

For those who have back problems related to breast weight, what kind of pain do you get? I go to physio for my back issues but I still have some ongoing problems, mainly in my lower back when I'm standing for more than 40 minutes and my shoulder blades.


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