[jezabelle]

Oh I'm so here! My man is 38, I've been with him for 5 years and we now have two kids. Since I've known him he's been talking about getting a job, I'm talking 5 years! I have now have 4 kids (5 if you include him), and I'm at home on disability as I have Lupus and Fibromyalgia. The topper is he does nothing to help me out around the house, not with the kids the housework nothing! I tell him to leave about once a month, but he won't go! Why can't he just be a man, get and job and provide for his family?!!

[edna]

pinkmartyr, do not marry this dude. Do not get pregnant with his children unless you're ready to keep having this struggle w/him for the next 18 years.

Could be that he's just not mature/settled down about himself just yet. I'm an old lady, so 25 seems pretty damned young to me. If I were you, I'd avoid marriage or children unless he proves, by getting some more education or a better job, that he is willing and able to take care of himself. 'Cause if he can't take care of himself, he'll have a hell of a time owning up to the responsibilities of being a husband and/or father.