[jezabelle]

Oh I'm so here! My man is 38, I've been with him for 5 years and we now have two kids. Since I've known him he's been talking about getting a job, I'm talking 5 years! I have now have 4 kids (5 if you include him), and I'm at home on disability as I have Lupus and Fibromyalgia. The topper is he does nothing to help me out around the house, not with the kids the housework nothing! I tell him to leave about once a month, but he won't go! Why can't he just be a man, get and job and provide for his family?!!

[pepper]

mmm. the laziness is what gets me most. i can't respect a man who has absolutely nothing going on. even worse if he fills up his time with meaningless crapola like video games and sports (beer, pot, tv). yah, like those are worthwhile pursuits. uck.
it gets so i have so little respect for them that i can't respect myself anymore for letting them be around me, or respect myself for having sex with them. that's when the attraction dies and our sex life ends. if it's gone on for that long the dead sexlife usually ends it for good.
i'm a sucker for a pretty face and all that jazz but it doesn't go as far as it used to with me.